It Takes Three to Tango: Loving the God of Love

by TOH

Two's company; three's a crowd, the saying goes. So, why is God a being of the number three? Why can't it just be me and my God? Why does it have to be me and the three-in-one God? Isn't "three in one" a bit over-populated?

Well, might a baby ask why does it have to be me and my mom and my dad? Why can't it just be me and mom? Why does he have to be around? Maybe it's because God is that way. God likes company. This is implied by the revelation that God is love.

"Whenever two or more of you are gathered in my name, I am with you". Jesus did not say, whenever one person is living in my name, I am with him. He said, two or more. Jesus did not say the Kingdom is inside of you; he said it is "in the midst of you", and there must be more than one person there in order to create a "midst".

Love defines purpose and love is the purpose. The purpose of entities is to enter into relationships of love. Thus the purpose of love is to create relationship. Any kind of relationships? No; relationships according to nature, that is, the nature of true love, which is life for the benefit of others in the context of the whole.

By nature a cat does not love a hot tin roof. A cat loves her kittens; a cat loves cream; a cat loves mice, as in chasing them. We're talking natural theology here. Like natural foods, natural high, natural skin cream-what's good for you. Unadulterated, in other words. No adultery involved at all. Doing what your original nature tells you, your conscience.

Thus it is of vital importance to understand the nature of things and how they naturally fit together. Now, the so-called natural order of cats, mice, cream and hot roofs have their definition controlled by God, but human beings are of a different category; we participate in our self-definition within the context of God's definition.

That is, God defines us in such a way that we can put the finishing touches on our own definition. We speak words in the context of the Word. We name ourselves and the things around us. We invent languages for the purpose of communication, which is essential to relationship, and we articulate our own rules and stories. Does this mean there are no absolutes? Not at all. True love is the absolute, centering on God.

There are archetypal stories and rules, plots which are common to all cultures and societies. Social scientists can ascertain that by observation. Whence the archetypes; whence the fundamental patterns? No particular people or culture or civilization could have devised or manipulated archetypal stories and rules into existence. Yet there they are, lying across cultures like a big wet blanket.

For instance, the taboos against parricide, against incest, against thievery and adultery. The strictures and structures of religious faith, of belief, of ideals of good and bad, beauty and deformity. The story of the origin of things, of the fall, of restitution, of progression to the end of things, toward paradise, toward the alleviation of troubles and woes, toward the experience of never- ending bliss.

Going beyond that, every culture entertains hope, and sees itself at the center of the world and cosmos. Whence the hope? Whence the gravity? As does everything else, it must come from a relationship. In this case, it must be a relationship which all people and peoples have with some one thing. That some one thing has to do with love; and God is love.

The realization that God is love tells us that God comes into being in relationship itself. Yet is not God an entity, a person? Well, yes: God is a person of such perfect love that God comes into being, which is the same thing as to say God comes into relationship, within and through perfect relationships--i.e., perfect love. That is, whenever two are in perfect oneness, a third party is there: God, the personification, the origination, the perfection of love itself. God is the perfect fit. That God is love means that God is the One who is loving perfectly. There can be no other origin of things or persons.


The assertion that "God is love" means that love is the basis of everything, and that everthing exists in relationship with everything else. As Albert Einstein discovered, everything is relative, which is to say, in relationship to everything else. This idea leads to the dreaded relativism only because science and scientists confine their hypotheses to the material order. Newton's billiard balls bouncing off each other in mathematically predictable chains of events became "dancing Wu-li masters" dancing off each other in way scientists soon found equally predictable.

But I digress: the point is that relativity is a problem only when relationships are bereft of the absolute value--that of true love. The nature of things, then, is to be relative, to relate with, to participate with, other things in many patterns.

Let us enumerate a few characteristics (or, for the philosophically- minded, "postulates") of relationship: 1. A common base. In order for two things to relate, they must share something in common: common elements, interests, desires, language. 2. Difference. In order for two things to relate, there must be some difference between them; something to exchange. 3. Complimentarity. The nature of the relationship will be determined by the contrast, indeed, between that which is shared and that which is different. That constrast is what we might call their complimentarity, the way in which they compliment each other.

The Christianity of Jesus

Is Jesus a Christian? If a Christian is one who is saved by the blood of Jesus, then Jesus is not a Christian. But there is one perspective from which Jesus is definitely a Christian: he had trouble with the political order, with worldly powers. Christians have shared this trouble ever since.

Jesus' kingdom is "not of this world". Thus he defined an order of reality separate from this world's, an order centered upon God and the completion of goodness, truth and beauty, in which evil and Satan are not to be found. This, the kingdom of God, has lain in uneasy tension and some would say warfare with the kingdom of this world, the lord of which is Satan.

To translate this into humanistic terms, we would characterize the kingdom of God as the world of true love, and the kingdom of this world as the world of false love, or selfishness. And the divergence and conflict between these two worlds signifies that true love and false love are entirely different principles; they stand in contradiction to each other.

And what more is to be added is that love is the power out of which the world is constructed. False love goes in one direction; true love in another. They construct different worlds.


But after some thought we realize it is more complex than that. The "world" is not a place of continual blatant evil. False love is not rampant violence; false love is imitation true love. In some ways, false love tries very hard to be true, with one constraint: "me first." That one always does it in.

False love is subtle unless or until really pushed: "Don't make any noise and no one gets hurt". In the beginning stages, it is difficult to discern the difference between false love and true love. Thus there are elements of qualified good in the realm of evil, out of which God must construct His kingdom. There is honor among thieves, as they say, and there is some good on Capitol Hill. God always called His champions out of the fallen world, both the den of thieves and the halls of Congress. One and all, they suffered for it.

Jesus, who is the standard of true love, was judged crazy by his mother and brothers. They thought his true love was false love; they thought his good was evil. (Do you deprive them of the right to think for themselves? No one, not even God, would do that, even if they were damning themselves in the process.)

Jesus was judged a blasphemer by the good leaders of Israel who were acting on the basis of the law of God as revealed to them, which was as advanced as it got at the time. There were many Jews, Romans, Egyptians, Greeks, and so forth, who by social standards--our social standards--were superior to Jesus as sons and brothers and citizens and priests. They were helpful people, devout, polite, upstanding. And the Messiah, the son of God, representing God, was indeed crucified on their behalf.

When Good becomes Evil

Of course this calls all our institutions--the state, the church, marriage, family--into serious question. More than that: it judges them as bad to the bone, evil at the root: radically evil. The "good" of this world crucified the Messiah, the "good" rejected God. Thus even "good" became evil, and the only true good was that which died to save others. Thus absolute goodness, absolute love, was revealed, and it has remained suspended in the sky, like a serpent raised upon a staff.

Christians have known this for two millenia now, and thus they are, or at least try to be, "in the world but not of it". But this is nothing new. The people of Israel at the time of Jesus were also "in the world but not of it"; they were a people set apart, with a distinction just as radical as that between devout Christians and secular society. It was to them that Jesus was sent, and it was God-given social code which Jesus offended. Not just their social code; Jesus was a blasphemer, a threat to their God--a threat to the God of the scriptures, a threat to the way of salvation!

What they did not recognize was, as Bob Dylan sang, "the times, they are a changin". God moved forward in Jesus. He "broke into history", as theologians put it. Not to worry; mankind sealed up the rent in the wall of history, for the most part. They sealed it up with habits of thought and association, blind faith left, right and center, and religious correctness. They sealed it up by excusing themselves until the second coming, and acting as if that settles everything. (It could be that it does, except for one thing: the question "what is the second coming?" You would think that would be burning in Christians' minds, but that is rarely the case. This prevents almost everyone from opening themselves to God's plan for Jesus.)

Looking from hindsight we can place ourselves in a complacent position of moral superiority to those who rejected the growth of the revelation of true love from the true God in Jesus. But what will happen when this revelation comes again, in another stage of growth, calling even the institutes and institutions of Christianity into serious question? when he comes, sans fanfare and four horsemen and purple-robed harlots on the waters? when he comes, rejected by the powers-that-save-us? the powers-that-save-us, who had their chance to accept him and didn't? he who was rejected, but kept going anyway? and when he comes not even considerate enough to dress up as a first century hippy? and when he comes not even considerate enough to be repeating glosses on St. Paul? and not even young anymore? and not even single anymore? in fact, with a lot of kids! and claiming to constitute the fulfillment of our tradition! without even asking our permission? Who does he think he is, GOD?


People judge others according to their standard. Thoughtful Christians live in the paradoxical state of knowing that their standards are not God's standards, and hence that they cannot truly render judgment. All they can do is love, and leave the judgment to God. The other will be judged, and so will they in the process, and by the same standard: love. Is that frightening?

No, say the devout of our age: we are saved by faith; as long as we maintain our faith in the Lord, and, for the high church, our communion with the See of Rome, we will surely remain the chosen of God.

The Jews of Jesus' time thought they would be saved by the practice of the law, but it was the absolutization of that very law which paid the silver. Law stood in the way of love. In the final wash, true law is consistent with true love. But the Jewish law was not the full expression of God's law. In the same way, Christian faith can obstruct the life of love. In the final wash, true faith is consistent with true love. But Christian faith is not the full expression of spiritual life. We've known this since Paul's first letter to the Corinthians.

Thus to be saved by faith is no more our ultimate goal than to be saved by the law. To think that we will be saved by faith, or, what is worse, to use a sloganistic faith in Jesus as the litmus test for whatever appears on the spiritual horizon, only confines love within the community of relationships with those who agree with oneself, a tragic limitation only Jesus transcended, and that's why he's God's son, and we are still working at it.

Hunsokdong - The House Where Father Was Born

On February 16 we left at 8:15 a.m. on the school bus for Hunsokdong to go visit the house where True Father lived when he was a high school student. The house is very simple with one floor and had a small courtyard in the middle of it. When we arrived, the caretaker of the house gave us a short speech about what happened when True Father first came here in 1938 when he was eighteen years old. It was the first time Father had ever left his hometown. Of course, Father had already received his mission, so he came here with big dreams.

We then visited the room where Father lived while a student at Kong Song Sang Dong High School. There were pictures of True Father with his friends, students, and his family. Afterwards we walked outside through the streets and climbed to the top of a small hill overlooking Seoul. This is the place that Father would come to pray by himself or with other Christians during his high school days. When we reached the top, we prayed together for several minutes. Every time I go to a heavenly place like Hunsokdong, I always feel some strong emotion inside of me. But, when we first came here, I didn't really feel any strong feeling nor understand the value of this place where Father had lived. Then when we prayed together, I was reminded of what I had once read about Father's life and suddenly and unexpectedly I began to shed tears. Through this experience I could gain a deeper understanding of the importance of this place and it made the trip to Hunsokdong a much more meaningful experience.

Holy Wedding of the True Children

by Dr. Tyler O. Hendricks

With dignity and solemnity, the Reverend and Mrs. Sun Myung Moon entered the wedding hall to officiate the Holy Wedding of their first two American-born children, Kwon Jin Nim and Sun Jin Nim.

It was April 16, 10 a.m. on a bright and beautiful Easter Sunday morning. Behind the True Parents followed two attendants with bowls of Holy Water. Together they processed between ranks of 42 bridesmaids and groomsmen, all children of marriages blessed by the True Parents. Already the Master of Ceremonies, Dr. Bo Hi Pak, had announced the beginning of this Holy Wedding, and Dr. James A. Baughman had offered a heartfelt invocation.

Reverend and Mrs. Moon ascended a high altar, flanked by massive columns and tiers of fine linen drapery, lit with blue and gold. Mr. Hyo Jin Moon, their eldest son, brought a gold extended lighter to his mother, who turned and gave it to her husband. He lit seven candles on each side of the altar, and all was ready for the entrance of the brides and bridegrooms.

Four of the family's grandchildren marched with calm demeanor of children in the public eye, in front of the couples, spreading flowers upon the rainbow-patterned path to the altar. The brides and grooms, heads erect, processed into the wedding hall. The bridegrooms, Kwon Jin Moon, 20, and In Sup Pak, 22, both strongly built men, were handsome and inspiring in their white tuxedos with tails. At their sides were their beautiful brides, Hwa Yun Chun, 17, and Sun Jin Moon, 18.

Every seven steps they paused and bowed before the ideal of true manhood and womanhood which they recognize as substantiated in the True Parents. Three times they took seven steps and bowed, representing their own growing period to reach the point of receiving the blessing of marriage. As they ascended the stairs and stood in front of the Officiators, they gave their final bow, representing their entering the direct dominion of God through the establishment of true matrimony under God's blessing.

The audience of over 1,000 guests, including numerous dignitaries from New York and nationwide, observed in attentive silence as the Officiators sprinkled the Holy Water upon the couples and read the Holy Wedding Vows. Extending their hands, they touched their children's heads, and Reverend Moon gave a powerful prayer of blessing. After an exchange of rings and proclamation of marriage, three congratulatory messages were offered, the combination of which holds special significance in the providence of God.

One was delivered by Dr. Richard Rubenstein, President of the University of Bridgeport. Dr. Rubenstein happens also to be a rabbi, and he assumed an historic, eternal rabbinic role by summoning the presence of God in His Holy Temple, with its root on Mt. Sinai, to the wedding hall, and he invited all the ancestors of Israel to join the wedding celebration.

A second was read in absentia from Dr. Jerry Falwell, also a university president who happens to be a Christian pastor. He noted the significance of the marriage taking place on Easter, and blessed the couples in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

The third was delivered by Reverend Chung Hwan Kwak, President of the Unification Church of Korea, and an early disciple of Reverend Moon, who glorified the blessing of the True Parents upon the couple and upon America, the nation of the birth of Kwon Jin Nim and Sun Jin Nim.

Thus, the Old Testament Age, New Testament Age and Completed Testament Age combined into one moment of time surrounding the holy altar of marriage, centering upon the True Parents and True Children. It brought a spiritual atmosphere which touched the hearts of all present. This atmosphere was climaxed by a powerful rendition of "The Lord's Prayer" by soprano ___.

The gathered audience cheered together with the Officiators, and the newlywed couples bowed to them and processed out under showers of streamers, flower petals and the blowing of noisemakers.

Precarious Photo Op

No sooner had the couples and Officiators departed the hall than they returned for what can only be termed a major photo opportunity. The True Family, which now numbers almost forty covering three generations, the new in-laws and their families, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, in every possible combination and permutation, was assembled, touched up, and photographed in front of an audience of 1,000.

A touch of hilarity was added by photographer Ken Owens, perched upon an aluminum scaffolding straight out of a Charlie Chaplin flick, about to be cast at any moment upon the audience to the right and left, juggling lenses, film cartridges, cameras and batteries. A flock of groomsmen lent a hand to stabilize the scaffolding and all went well. In the process, the photographer became the central figure of the entire occasion, and the solemn wedding became a family fest. The audience ate it up.

The Peh Baek Ceremony

In the meantime, in the North Dining Room of the New Yorker Hotel, another ceremony was in final stages of preparation. Mildew had developed on some of the offering which had been kept under wraps too long. Each piece: cleaned. Toothpicks should not be in the dates-- hundreds of them--each toothpick: removed. This was to be the site of the Peh Baek Ceremony, a Korean tradition by which the newlyweds are welcomed into their new families. Music was playing, as the friends and relatives of the families, some 250 strong, entered the room. The floor was covered with white sheets, save for the multi-colored path of the new couples.

To the center was the great offering table, covered with 40 kinds of fruits, cookies, cakes, fish and fowl, and much more. Most of it was imported from Korea especially for the occasion; the rest was foraged in Chinatown, Korea town, and the Hunts Point market. Beside the table stood two giant wedding cakes, atop small tables, from the floor the multi-layered fruit-filled queens boasted candles reaching over seven feet.

The Officiating Parents, Reverend and Mrs. Moon, were summoned by the Master of Ceremonies, Reverend Chung Hwan Kwak. They entered the room and lit a candelabra of seven candles, and said a prayer. On one side the True Family sat; on the other the Chun and Pak in-laws. The room was filled with guests, men on one side, women on the other.

Clothed in royal Korean attire, the bride and bridegroom entered the room (the ceremony was conducted for each couple separately). They bowed three times to their parents, and this was quite a process, because the bride was dressed so elaborately as to require two elder wives to assist her in bowing. Then there was the sharing of Holy Wine with the parents and between bride and bridegroom, and the exchange of gifts. The bride and bridegroom fed each other rice and noodles, for long life and prosperity.

The parents then took bunches of grapes and dried persimmons from the offering table and tossed them into the outstretched apron of the bride. This was a portent of fertility for the newlywed couple. With dignity and solemnity the couple rose and bowed to their new families. The smallest children of the new families did not receive bows, but instead they themselves bowed to the new bride and bridegroom.

Then came the cutting of the cakes, and a more intimate photography session. All of the relatives and clan members of the families later shared the cake, with all the participants of the wedding. The new families were thus bonded together in a tradition hundreds of generations old. And yet, centering on Reverend and Mrs. Moon and their family, this tradition represents the expansion not of the ancient lineage, a lineage marred by disunity and strife, but of the new lineage, the true original lineage distinguished by unity and harmony, freedom and happiness.

The Banquet And Celebration

All afternoon, as the Peh Baek Ceremony was proceeding, brothers and sisters with febrile intensity, oblivious to the days of 'round the clock work which they had invested during the previous week, disassembled the wedding hall and transformed it into a royal court fit for a monarch's festivity. The altar was broken down and reconstructed as the platform for a Table of Honor holding a setting of twenty-one. Garlands and sprays of flowers were moved hither and thither, lights were moved, the Roman pillars of the morning's altar gave way to the globe floating in a starlit cosmos, surrounded by four doves flying heavenward.

An army of organizers from the number one catering company in the New York area descended upon the room, setting up some fifty-two tables, filling every nook and cranny of the hall with white and gold tablecloth, sparkling china and crystal, lovely peach-brocaded table napkins and gleaming silver. As the banner rose behind the Table of Honor, the stage was set for an evening of joy and celebration.

Guests poured into the hall from around the world: Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, Germans, English, French, Italian, Brazilian, Nigerian, Malaysian, Arabic, Morrocan, and from throughout the United States. Closest to the Table of Honor sat the earliest disciples of Reverend Moon, together with his younger children, grandchildren and relatives. Closest to the stage sat the front-line leaders of the Unification Church: the national leaders from around the world and state leaders from across America.

At 6:00 p.m. the Table of Honor entered the hall and Master of Ceremonies Mr. Peter Kim took the stage. He invited the newlyweds to the stage for the ceremonial cutting of the cakes and receiving of gifts. (Yes--more cakes! Our beloved Angelina Moore made enough to feed 2,000!) Mr. Farley Jones, Esq., President of the Family Federation for Unification and World Peace in the United States, offered a prayer for the evening, and Mr. Kim led the gathered banquet-goers in a sparkling cider toast to the newlyweds and their families.

At that point, with the strings of a harp as accompaniment, one and all set upon what can only be described as an utterly magnificent feast: Mediterranean shellfish stew, wild baby greens salad, tournedos of beef, lemon glazed asparagus spears, candied almond nougatine, exquisite coffee and juices . . . and much more. I heard church leaders comment that it was the best banquet they had ever indulged themselves in. But it was only the physical component of an equally superlative cultural and spiritual culmination of the day.

To the strains of a Strauss waltz six couples glided onto the stage, with their flowing dance leading off the entertainment with a moment of elegance and old world charm. Master of Ceremonies Larry Moffitt cheered them on, and introduced in their wake a surprisingly powerful choir of forty Unification Church youths, which presented two Korean songs and a rendition of the Hallelujah Chorus completely worthy of the day of resurrection. In fact, I felt a multitude of spirits resurrecting on the spot!

The choir's offering completed, Mr. J. C. Sheets, understudy to the role of Jean Valjean in Broadway's Les Miserables, took the stage. He performed a beautiful song from that musical, "Bring Him Home," with brought the audience to the brink of tears. In particular, Kwon Jin Nim was held in rapt attention, as this musical is one of his great loves, and his own sharing of that same song has brightened many a birthday celebration at East Garden.

The famous Russian cellist Misha Quint took the spirit of the occasion a step higher, performing Tchaikovsky and Paganini with such flair and esprit as to bring him the evening's only encore (besides the singing grandsons!). One of Mr. Quint's up-and-coming students happens also to be no one other than bride Sun Jin Moon, who watched him from the head table with appreciative and moist eyes.

One of the family's favorites, Sheila Vaughn, brought out her Manhattan Country Cousins for what Mr. Moffitt termed, in his own inestimable way, some "boot-scootin' music". After all, he said, he himself is from Texas, where the folks like both kinds of music: country and western. Not to be outdone, Ms. Vaughn (a native of Minnesota) definitely got everyone's heels pumpin' under the tables with her own tune, "This Lovin' Dance".

Sheila was followed by Norwegian recording star, Torhild Niger. Ms. Niger, a friend of Manhattan Center for many years, shared with the banquet guests a song written by Mr. In Sup Pak, bridegroom of Ms. Sun Jin Moon. It was a lovely ballad entitled, "The Greatest of These is Love," and dramatized with deep feeling by Ms. Niger.

The next group, Mr. Moffitt informed the audience, could be the next great chartbusters . . . but probably would not be. It was an assembly of college friends of Mr. In Sup Pak's, who drove down from Cornell University for the event. True to Mr. Moffitt's prediction, they do not appear ready for the great white way, but they did delight the audience with terpsichorean flair which can only be described as collegiate, fraternal and perfectly appropriate. Of further note is only the international composition of the harmonious group, which featured congratulations to the new couples in English, Korean, Japanese, Hindi and Chinese.

The Family Festival

Now Mr. Peter Kim again took the podium, and he called up the new in- law couples, who offered their humble bows, words of gratitude and songs to our True Parents.

Mr. and Mrs. In Seung Chun are members of the 1800 couples blessing of 1975, and as such they are the youngest couple to be engrafted with the True Parents' lineage. They both work with the Sae Gae Times, a Korean-language daily newspaper in New York City, and they are noted for their quiet and humble life of faith and service.

Reverend and Mrs. Joong Hyun Pak, on the other hand, are well-known to the readers of the Unification News, and to our membership throughout America. Reverend Pak has served as a church leader for twenty years in America, including service in Seattle, Atlanta, Denver, Boston and, most of all, in New York City.

In particular Rev. Pak has devoted tremendous effort to the development of the fusion of east and west in the cultural world of performing arts. Thus it was no surprise that Reverend and Mrs. Moon personally persuaded Rev. Pak to chair the wedding committee itself, despite the fact that he was the parent of one of those to be wed. And truly the greatest portion of responsibility for the beauty and creativity of the entire occasion belongs to Rev. Pak.

The evening continued the trend from external to internal, as the age of the performers dropped to an average of five years. The first True Family performers were three of True Parents' grandsons: Shin Myung Nim and Shin Kwon Nim (sons of In Jin Nim and Jin Sung Nim) and Shin Won Nim (son of Hyun Jin Nim and Jun Sook Nim). They sang songs in Korean, Japanese and English, and the audience (led by emcee Peter Kim who confessed later that they had demanded it of him) called for an encore.

Collective sighs and aaah's greeted the next performers, a set of four little granddaughters: Shin Ok Nim (daughter of Hyo Jin Nim and Nan Sook Nim), Shin Sun Nim (daughter of In Jin Nim and Jin Sung Nim), Shin Yeon Nim (daughter of Un Jin Nim and Jin Hun Nim) and Shin Eh Nim (daughter of Hyun Jin Nim and Jun Sook Nim). Their singing was a pretty as their white party dresses, and as united as their clasped little hands.

The youngest daughter of Reverend and Mrs. Moon, Jeung Jin Nim, then offered a violin solo, "Meditation from `Thais'", by French composer Jules Massenet, which she performed with feeling and skill far beyond her 12 years. Her older brothers and sisters then took the stage, a phalanx of six couples, who sang altogether the Elvis Presley song, "Love Me Tender," followed by an equally moving Korean ballad. It was a moving moment of eternal value to see these wonderful historical couples on the stage together, singing simple songs with so much heart for their younger siblings. This is beyond religion; this is the future of the world as one family.

Then the couples took the stage, first Sun Jin Nim and In Sup Nim. In Sup Nim spoke in humble, intimate tones to Reverend and Mrs. Moon as to his own parents in a personal setting. He expressed his deep appreciation to True Father, and set his determination to follow the heavenly tradition and be a loyal son, responsible husband, and good example for others. The new couple harmonized beautifully as they sang "The Rose" and one Korean song.

Kwon Jin Nim and Hwa Yun Nim then came to the microphone. Kwon Jin Nim gave a tearful and determined statement of repentance and absolute faith, absolute love, and absolute obedience to his parents. He expressed his sense of concern for his parents' suffering. He then sang a song together with Hwa Yun Nim, a sweet Korean song well-loved by his parents. Then he offered by himself a medieval Christian chant. He brought back the Easter spirit of resurrection and happiness; his offering of heart and his smile lifted everyone.

As the culminating moment, Reverend and Mrs. Moon were welcomed to the focal point of the audience's attention. As they appeared on stage, a veritable cloud of confetti descended upon them. Leai's were placed upon them, together with the newlyweds, and they sang songs and shared in the communal joy.

As they departed the hall, the singing of the wedding party grew stronger and stronger. Through weeks of investment, through prayer and fasting, through many days and nights of sweat and tears and thinking, discussing, phoning and faxing, through the sacrifice of many individuals, families and institutions, the Holy Wedding became a reality, a glowing reality. And another page in the new history has been written: the first Holy Wedding of True Children born and raised in America; the first Holy Wedding of the Completed Testament Age.

Our eternal best wishes to the brides and bridegrooms: Kwon Jin Nim and Hwa Yun Nim; Sun Jin Nim and In Sup Nim!

The March Unification News reported the engagement of Mr. Kwon Jin Moon with Ms. Jin Bong Seo. However, in the two months following the engagement, as a result of discussions and consensus between the two families, that engagement was dissolved.

Heaven Is Sitting Around And Laughing With A Group Of Friends

Once a group of us were sharing what our idea of heaven was. We each had some sort of idealistic vision, but I remember only what a philosophy professor from Germany said: "Heaven is sitting around and laughing with a group of friends." At the time I thought that was rather superficial and even limited. However, more and more I see the in-touch-with-self-and-the-moment-ness behind what he said.

Barry Kaufman (author of Son-Rise and Happiness Is a Choice, Summer '93 HW) wrote another beautiful book called To Love Is to Be Happy With. What a simple way to describe nourishing loving closeness.

But if much of our life experience has taught us to be closed instead of close, we often have to humbly learn how to create true and joyful intimacy with others--and with our own best self. My relationship with my husband improved a quantum leap when I finally began to allow myself to learn from him, to practice what Jon Townsend, an international conflict mediator, calls the "Platinum Rule": Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.

In my work trying to help teens and preteens make healthy choices, a bottom-line issue is the longing for emotional intimacy. We all need it, but it's not easy to achieve. We can learn, though.

Gertrud Yasutake writes: "Here is a good quote I found in the book Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World, by H. Stephen Glenn and Jane Nelsen:

In times of change, learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists. --Eric Hoffer."

Learning is a profound ability and joy. For me, it's the true entertainment, beside which other more passive activities seem like junk food. It's growth. It requires a conscious engaged mind, however, and too often we seem to be on automatic pilot, with controls that may have been set generations ago.

Learning and the change that can result also require courage. Just as in some inner city neighborhoods there is intense peer pressure against kids doing well in school, similarly many of us exist in social and cultural environs that don't encourage us to rise above the mediocrity around us.

I'd like to share some wonderful comments from clinical psychologist, Dr. George Pransky. Though he specifically is advising parents on how to relate with their kids, his insight is universally applicable. His basic assumption is that we all innately have healthy functioning available to us; we can always access what he calls our "commonsense," our inner wisdom and creativity, IF we are in what he calls a higher, responsive state of mind vs. a lower or reactive state, or mood.

He feels that giving children a warm, forgiving, lighthearted emotional environment is essential. In such an environment, the parent and child have a close rapport, the child tends to feel secure and happy, and, like a plant with plenty of light, warmth, and nutrients, the child naturally grows to be healthy and happy.

He says our healthy state of mind often becomes increasingly contaminated as we grow older and we may even lose touch with it. Then we operate on the lower levels of conflict and stress--and devote our time and energy to coping with these, rather than realizing that the healthy state is within our reach if we just relax and let go of our contaminated thinking. When in that higher state, we naturally do things well, and don't need parenting "strategies." Our "heart is in the right place," so to speak.

Kids are often more in touch with this innate wisdom and creativity, and Dr. Pransky says the best way to help our children become self- reliant is to encourage them to connect with and practice this commonsense. He advises us to parent from a deep trust that the child wants to be good, and if s/he is "misbehaving," it is because something needs to be learned--either by the child or by us, or both.

"So when you listen to kids, you can respect their commonsense, even though they don't have the experience you do and aren't the boss. This can lead you to a higher place possibly, or at least to a meeting of the minds with your kids, and out of that can come something better than you've already conceived of.

The wiser people are, the more respect they have for their kids, and in turn, the better is their rapport, the more they learn from their kids, the higher their kids' self-esteem, and the greater the kids' ability to use that commonsense. If you don't listen to them because you 'know better' and you don't let them practice their commonsense and their rapport, then you're leading them away from it and they'll grow farther away from it like you are.

"Inside of everything your kid, or anyone, says, there will be a grain of truth and you have to listen until that grain of truth comes out and you can say, 'Oh yeah, I can relate to that; I don't agree with it, but I can imagine a reasonable person saying that.' That's when you respect it. In every interaction you have, ideally, you get to that point of respect.

"Our state of mind affects the quality of our thinking. The important thing to remember is that if you clear your mind, you will have a healthy state of mind. The reactive state of mind comes from actively contaminating your healthy state of mind."

His description of three levels of parenting relationships apply to all relationships:

"The lowest level is where there's conflict, adversariness between parents and child; everybody's looking out for their own interests, and there's no meeting ground of commonsense or principle, just a tug of war. This reality has a lot of anger, resentment, and bitterness toward each other. Kids who grow up on this level have a chip on their shoulder, problems with authority, and low self-esteem, etc.

"Second is the reality of stress. This isn't conflict. This is families that are basically getting along and improving over time, but it's stressful. . . . Instead of giving others the benefit of the doubt, there's a little suspicion on people's parts. These families tend to try various 'parenting strategies,' but often these just muddle things up."

The highest level, of warm rapport and closeness, sounds something like what the German professor called heaven:

"At this level, there's a certain feeling of understanding and benefit of the doubt in the mentality of all parties, so all are capable of getting a lot out of each interaction. People don't struggle because when they see their mind is filled with a lot of ambivalence, they wait for their mind to clear so they can operate from a higher state of mind. Then people spend their time enjoying and learning from each other, having a good time, kidding, pipe dreaming and laughing, because they don't have to spend time dealing with the fruits of the lower states.

"The best indicator of how you are doing as a parent is how much enjoyment you're getting from being a parent. Enjoying it means you are close to your kids, and they have self-esteem because they see themselves as enjoyable to be around instead of a hassle. When you are laughing, it's easier to have access to your commonsense. That's why a lot of people who are excellent parents will say it's really easy.

This commonsense/wisdom is available in everyone, and when accessed, it's one of the most powerful forces in the human experience." --"The Commonsense Parenting Series," George S. Pransky, MFCC, Ph.D., PO Box 498, La Conner, WA 98257, 206 466-5200.

Learning to be close to others and to our own truest self requires humility and courage. It requires going beyond an adversarial approach--"I'm right/you're wrong"--and recognizing that all of us are innately precious people. Several items in this issue explore these topics. I hope they help you experience commonsense and delight in all your relationships.

THE (not so) WISE MEN

Contributed by Esther Batino, Minneapolis, MN. This thought-provoking poem may challenge us to think more deeply about the reality of Jesus' life, about what God actually wanted to happen then, and about learning a "wiser" way to encounter the Christ in our lives now. --VC

Was it but two thousand years ago
That a tiny star with a warm, bright glow
Cast its soft and wondrous light
To guide three wise men by day, by night
To a place that was "oh so far"
Yes, all depended on that little bright star.
The sky was not like that of any night
Three wise men held captive by a little bright light
Mile per mile, step by step
Onward and onwards they went
Never a moment to rest or set up a tent.
A vision they had, a vision they'd seen
A mission from God, an incredible dream
Far in a far off land
Which to soon they would come
Was going to be born, the most Glorious of Sons.
A king, a champion, a leader of men
Oh yes, these three wise kings
From the East
Were most certainly invited to God's banquet and feast.
So mile upon mile, and step by step
Onwards and forwards with never a rest
Went these kings with a vision, a mission, a quest.
The time it passed as time is ought
Until the desert sea became a port
Of a city that was filled with many a man
The city of King Herod, called Jerusalem
And here they stayed and took their fill
Of hospitality from that king and city on a hill.
Their spirits warm, their tongues were loose
To King Herod they told the good news,
"Rejoice, rejoice, may your heart feel glad
We bring you good news, the best you've ever had
For soon to be born, now hear us sing
A savior, a saint, most worthy to be king."
Yes, these three men I told you are wise
Their tongues spoke truth with no disguise
And no, not even the tiniest of tiny white lies.
That little bright star with its wondrous bright light
If you looked very carefully and with all of your might
Seemed to quiver and flicker and sputter a bit,
And then another just as quickly and quick
Resumed its constant and unchanging job
Of guiding these wise men to meet the Son of God.
And onwards and forwards and step by step
Closer and closer they were to get
To their vision, their mission, their wondrous job
Of meeting and greeting the Son of God.
And finally with a most joyous cry
These three wise men did utter a sigh
"Here's the place, the hallowed ground of all men
Little bright star you shine more gloriously over Bethlehem."
"But where is the palace, the castle of the king?
Our savior, our master of everything?"
And twinkle and twinkle with all her might
Until finally no doubt she gave off her brightest light
And with all that she could and was truly able
The little bright star shone brightly over a stable.
The wise men, abashed and a little abent
Went into the humblest of places tired and spent
And there they saw in an old wooden manger
Not a prince, not a king, but to them "a stranger"
"Oh littlest one," (perhaps that's what they said)
"Art thou for what we have come?
Or have we misread, perhaps another place we should be instead?"
And so these wise men
To make their load light
(and darn it just darn it, maybe another star
Out there was bright)
Left frankincense and myrrh and gifts
For a king, yet left nothing, no nothing that
Wisdom could bring.
And the little bright star
Like a tear in the sky
Was heard, if you listened with all of your might,
To let out oh the smallest of small, little sighs
And then like the blinking of a twinkling of an eye
The little bright star fell down from the sky

--Peggy B. Weller

Healthy Love: Questions And Answers on Abstinence, Part Three

By Teri Lester

(This is the third in our series of extracts from Healthy Love: 36 Questions and Answers on Practicing Abstinence)

The argument most often raised in the public debate about abstinence education is that, while abstinence is certainly preferable and does work for some, it is hopelessly naive to expect that the vast majority of teen-agers can be persuaded to practice an abstinent life style in today's society.

Our teen-agers' minds are saturated with sexually charged messages from virtually all aspects of contemporary culture. Moreover, accessibility to numerous contraceptive options, including as a last resort abortion-on-demand, have enabled the most obvious adverse consequence of promiscuity-the birth of unwanted babies-to be eliminated at will. We have entered a downward spiral of depravity in which the very permissiveness of our society increases the pressure on individuals to engage in promiscuous activity.

In order for abstinence to be effective in such a situation, programs need to be implemented that give teenagers both convincing reasons why they should want to practice abstinence and effective techniques that will enable them to practice abstinence successfully within an environment that is at best indifferent and at worst hostile to abstinence as a life-style choice. Healthy Love seeks to fill this need.

The following questions are from the booklet Healthy Love: 36 Questions and Answers on Practicing Abstinence. This booklet and other Healthy Love materials are available for purchase; ordering information is at the end.

1. Doesn't abstinence mean just saying no?

Absolutely not! You don't teach someone to play football by tossing them a ball and saying "Just do it." You give them equipment, instructions, a coach, and lots of friends who are doing the same thing, so that they have tools, instruction and reinforcement. Abstinence works the same way.

2. Isn't abstinence just for religious fanatics?

No, it's not. You don't have to be religious to abstain from sex, you just have to be sensible. It's about health and it's about relationships. Abstinence is simply the healthiest way to go, and we want to give everyone the opportunity, regardless of their beliefs or cultural background. In fact, all major religions - Hinduism, Judaism, Buddhism, Confucianism, Christianity, Islam, Sikhism, Jainism, Taoism - have supported the ideal of abstinence prior to marriage. Even communist societies have actively discouraged premarital sex.

3. How do we learn to practice abstinence?

When you want to encourage someone to play the flute, do you say, "Wouldn't you like to spend the next several years practicing scales alone every day, and having your friends laugh at you because you sound funny?" Do you then proceed to hand them a flute and wish them luck? No, you would say, "Wouldn't you like to learn to play this beautiful instrument and have fun making music with your friends in the band?" Then you would give them the flute, a fingering chart, an exercise book, weekly lessons, and have them join a lot of other people who are doing the same thing. You would do this because experience has shown that this is the best way for someone to successfully learn to play the flute. This is also the best way to teach abstinence. Provide tools, instruction and reinforcement. In the context of a thoughtful, structured, supported program, abstinence is completely practical, normal, and reliable.

4. Are most young people sexually active?

It's human nature to want to be part of the crowd, and these days, unfortunately, healthy love and high ideals are under attack. The popular cliche is that most young people frequently engage in sexual activity. However, a 1992 report from the Centers for Disease Control indicates that 46% of all high school students have never had premarital intercourse. The same survey indicates that only 21% of high school students are currently "sexually active." The other 33%, although not virgins, were abstinent - sexually inactive - during the three months before the interview. That means that 79% - a clear majority - were practicing abstinence. It's just not true that "Everybody's doing it."

5. Is abstinence difficult?

It depends on your approach. If you only rely on saying no, then you may frequently be confronted with uncomfortable situations, where there is a conflict between your physical desire and your long-term goals and aspirations. However, with Healthy Love, you develop a clear understanding of why you choose to abstain from inappropriate sexual activity. You learn to recognize the steps that lead to sexual activity, and you learn how to adjust your habits in ways that maintain your decision to practice abstinence. Because you choose to bypass situations where sexual activity occurs, abstinence becomes normal for you, and therefore, no more difficult than any other routine you practice - brushing your teeth, getting dressed, or eating dinner.

6. What are the challenges to people who want to abstain?

Peer pressure is a common challenge to people who want to be abstinent. People always want to be around others who they have something in common with. That's why we join groups, why we like to visit relatives and family reunions, why we look for a mate who is "compatible." If many people do the same things we do, then we feel like it must be okay - everyone's doing it. We can either find people who are already like us, or we can try to encourage them to become like us. This can be positive, if we try to encourage people to become better than they are, by getting them to recycle, volunteer, or work harder at home or at school.

Peer pressure becomes negative when we try to get someone to stop a good behavior. Negative peer pressure is what happens when someone tries to get you to steal, take drugs, or have sex. So, use positive peer pressure: hang out with friends who support your decision to be abstinent and friends who have made the same decision.

Confusion of values is another serious problem. Some people say that, since there is disagreement over value systems, we shouldn't teach them. Unfortunately, as a result, instead of freedom we have anarchy. How do we know what to believe anymore? All cultures, however, agree on basic values and standards for behavior; it's mostly in the details that we differ. All agree, for instance, that you shouldn't murder people, you shouldn't steal things, and you should take care of children. All cultures have rules and customs governing the ways that people relate to each other. Emotional Desires can make it difficult to abstain. We all have a desire for closeness, for intimacy. It's important to realize, though, that sex doesn't create closeness; if you weren't close before, you won't be any closer afterwards. Intimacy is a form of trust, which comes from developing a pattern of shared experiences and unselfish love.

Physical sexual urges can be very strong. They're meant to be; that's what ensures the survival of humankind. Media Distortion - The entertainment media (TV, movies, advertising) make money by appealing to the broadest number of people.

7. Why doesn't the media promote a healthy, abstinent lifestyle?

People want love, but it's hard to show true love on TV, because the qualities of true love are mostly internal and invisible; how do you show someone being everlasting? How electrifying is it to watch someone being responsible, dependable, stable and trustworthy? It probably won't happen in a 30-second commercial! Most people are excited to think about sex. Lurid sex stories catch our attention - and that's all the advertisers need! They don't care if you agree with them; they make money by drawing your attention to their product. Even those who would never engage in sex outside of marriage will watch sexual situations or at least tolerate them. There is a lopsided emphasis on physical love. It's up to each of us to be aware of the images we allow into our own heads, and to remember that we're in control - there is an off-button, a different channel, another magazine.

8. Will my boyfriend or girlfriend think I don't love them if I don't have sex?

Love isn't just a question of being physically attracted or having a strong "crush" on someone. Love entails respect for the other person, especially for the internal values that person chooses to live his or her life by. If someone doesn't respect your values, your integrity, your decisions, do they really respect you as a person? Do they really love you? A person who is willing to end a relationship just because you won't have sex with them never loved you in any real, mature sense to begin with. And a person who thinks that your unwillingness to have sex means that you don't care about them is certainly insecure emotionally and should obtain some form of counseling.

9. Is it unhealthy to suppress sexual urges?

Well, have you ever heard of anyone dying from lack of sex? Did you ever hear of someone's sexual organs exploding because they didn't have sex? When someone says it's unhealthy to suppress sexual urges, they're usually talking about a psychological condition, and they mean people who want to pretend that they don't have urges. Usually you hear that you must express these urges, or you'll get sick from suppressing them. But it's not only a choice between expressing or suppressing. What if you felt like killing someone? That would be an urge, and you can't express it by killing the person, or you'd be in a lot of trouble yourself. If you suppress the urge, pretend you don't have it, you might have some kind of psychological problem later on.

What's the healthy thing to do? Do something to relieve the urge without acting on it directly. Kick a can. Use the energy of your anger to build something. Take a walk and think about why you're angry; often you'll decide it wasn't so important after all. What you're doing is taking that urge to kill someone and directing it into a healthy activity. You can, and should, do the same thing with sexual urges. Direct all that energy into something creative. Learn to play an instrument. Make a sculpture. Build things. Sew things. Find a hobby you like, and pour all your creative nature into it. You'll be growing, maturing, and learning about yourself. It's the healthy thing to do.

If you want to order Healthy Love materials, the Question/Answer booklets are $1.00 each, or .80 for 10-20 copies, or .75 each for 21 or more copies. The 86-page manual is $8.00, and the original student booklets are $2.00 each, or $1.25 each for 10-20 copies, or $1.00 each for 21 or more copies. There is no extra charge for shipping within the US (if you live in Kansas, please add sales tax). Overseas orders please add 50% for airmail shipping. Mail your order with check payable to RUC Publications, 12736 West 110th Terrace, Overland Park, KS 66210. Or call me, Teri Lester, at (816) 241-1931.

Funding Your Sunday School

by Vicki Henry - Minnesota Sunday School Director for HSA-UWC

(First in an occasional series of article dealing with Sunday School)

My article in the November issue offering the "How to Start a Sunday School" guide and other manuals prompted many replies. Of these, at least half were from brothers and sisters who have just recently been given the mission to start a Sunday School. I also received four inquiries from outside the US. (One sister even called from Australia!) Clearly Sunday School is an important issue at this time. There are 4,500 blessed children in the US alone. If our blessed families are to have a true victory the education of our children is crucial to that victory.

But as with all new activities, money plays a key role in getting started. Just how does one get the funds necessary to start a Sunday School? One way that seems the most obvious is to take it out of the Il Jeung Fund or Blessed Family Fund in your state. Budgeting from the monthly tithing is another option. However, in some locales there are so few members that this is not a feasible route. In other places there may be so much debt that nothing can be spared for Sunday School. This leads to many Sunday School teachers funding their efforts with their own money. (I have personally gone this route. But when our phone bills alone started reaching $80-$100 a month from calls made to all my teachers, my husband said there needs to be a Sunday School budget.)

Another avenue of funding is taking up a collection/offering in your Sunday School classes. The Washington DC church collects a dollar from every student from Pre-K on up for every Sunday School class attended by that student. I will add that we in Minnesota have also initiated this policy but have stipulated the money gathered to go towards certain equipment. At the end of one year we hope to have attained the funds necessary.

Collecting an offering from the children has a two-fold purpose. Not only is it a fundraising idea but it instills the sense of offering/tithe in our children.

From here one must start getting creative in the raising of funds. I organized a church carnival complete with five game booths, face painting (by a sister who dressed as a clown), puppet show, a children's sidewalk art contest (drawing on the sidewalk with colored chalk), and an international food fest (a buffet of one dish each from a variety of countries and ethnic groups.) We also had entertainment provided by a Japanese sisters' choir, various children's talents and a special guest appearance by "Elvis" (my husband singing in the "King's" style.) Individuals were charged $8, families were $15 to attend the entire event lasting from 12-3 pm on a Saturday afternoon. This entitled them to play as many games as they wanted (winning tokens they could exchange for prizes), see all the entertainment and eat all they wanted. We raised over $300.

One side not to this is, if you really want to raise a lot of money doing a carnival, open it up to the public so you are not just relying on our members. Make up flyers on the event and pass them out at other churches. Invite your extended families. even putting an announcement in the local newspaper is not unreasonable. You can not only use the carnival as a fundraising tool, but also as an event to bring guests to. Make it a community event.

Speaking about the community, many area businesses offer money to no- profit organizations such as schools and churches through various means. Some offer a certain percentage on the store's receipts that are collected over a certain period of time. Others, such as Burger King or Dominoes, will set aside one evening where a percentage of their sales, from anyone who says they are from that particular organization, will be donated to it. Campbell's soup has another type of fundraising available. Look around. I'm sure you will find many people, businesses and clubs that have various programs for non-profit organizations to use. And it's a good way to meet people and get involved.

Other ideas for a fundraising include; a children's art auction, a raffle, bake sales, a rendition of a play, a concert, etc. Maybe it doesn't seem like the "big" money like going out on the "old fundraising team," but remember-the purpose is not just the money, but having fun doing it and letting other people offer their own unique talents and be recognized for it. For some this may be the only way they can contribute. How many instances are there for a clown or an "Elvis" to perform at a conference? What of all the artists, cooks, seamstresses, actors, in short, everyone in our church who has a talent that has yet to be tapped? To be creating takes a mind that has no concepts and is big enough to embrace everything and everyone. To raise funds takes the same.

 

From Young Me Hwang's Kitchen - Three Side Dishes

Spinach

20-24 oz. fresh spinach (2 cello bags) or 2 bunches Korean.

Wash thoroughly, remove touch stems, discolored leaves. Divide into 3 parts, then immerse one part into large pot of salty boiling water. Cook for 30 seconds only. Remove quickly with strainer, allow water to boil again, then repeat with remaining leaves.

Rinse spinach in cold water, until completely cool. Use hands to squeeze out all excess water. Properly squeezed spinach looks like 3 green snowballs..

In a large bowl, separate leaves gently with fingers.

Add: 1/2 tsp. salt, mix with fingers till grains disappear.
Add: 1/4 tsp. dashida )beef-flavor soup base powder)
Black pepper to taste
1 tsp. crushed garlic

Mix with fingers, and add:
3 tsp. sesame oil
2 tsp. roasted sesame seeds
2 green onions, thinly sliced

Mix thoroughly, taste. Adjust seasonings, if necessary.

If too salty, add 1/4 tsp. sugar, mixing well.

Serve at room temperature, or chilled.

Fried Tofu Stew

Serves 4-6

4 bricks soft tofu, drained thoroughly

Slice each brick into 5 slices, pat dry with paper towel.

In large skillet, heat enough vegetable oil to fry all slices on both sides, until golden brown.

Prepare mixture:
3 tsp. soy sauce
3 tsp. water
2 tsp. sesame oil
1 tsp. crushed garlic
1 1/2 tsp. sugar
1 tsp. beef-flavor dashida
2 tsp. roasted sesame seeds
black pepper to taste
3 green onions, thin sliced
1 tsp Ko Ju Jang*
I/2 tsp. crushed red pepper

Mix well.

Arrange all tofu slices in skillet, flat. Spoon mixture onto each slice, allowing juice to run to bottom of pan. Use all mixture, Cook about 10 minutes, over low fire. Continuously spoon bubbling liquid onto each slice. Sauce will redden tofu, and flavors will blend as sauce thickens. Lift slices gently onto serving platter, arranging artfully. Add all sauce to the platter, spooning onto slices as before. Garnish with green onion or parsley.

This dish is good served hot, room-temperature, or cold. Serve with hot steamy rice.

* Ko Ju Jang is Korean-style hot pepper paste.

Crunchy Bean Sprouts

1 bag yellow bean sprouts (about 2 pounds)*

Remove all small roots, discolored or mushy sprouts, and bean skins. Wash thoroughly.

In a large pot of salty boiling water, immerse and cook 5 minutes, boiling rapidly.

Do not overcook. Sprouts should remain crunchy.

Remove with mesh strainer, plunge into cold water. Cool and drain thoroughly.

In a large bowl, sprinkle 1/2 tsp. salt, mix with fingers until grains disappear.
Add: 1-2 tsp. crushed garlic
Black pepper to taste
3 thin-sliced green onions
1 1/2 tsp. sesame oil
1 1/2 tsp roast sesame seeds

Use fingers to combine all ingredients. Taste. Adjust seasonings, if necessary.

This recipe is for white (non-spicy) bean sprouts. For red (spicy), add 1 to 3 tsp. crushed red pepper. Serve both white and red to satisfy everyone's taste.

*Yellow bean sprouts are from soy beans. They are larger, have distinctive flavor. Most American grocery stores sell only mung bean sprouts, with milder taste, used in Chinese dishes. In oriental food stores, look for sprouts with bright yellow heads.

Food Table Produces Witnessing Bonanza

by Tom and Elaine Cox--Halifax, Canada

Street witnessing to people we have never met can be challenging and often disheartening. We have discovered a successful method, however. At lunch time we go downtown with a pot of beef stew and a sign that says, "Yes, there is a free lunch--Youth Service Project of Ocean Challenge, sponsored by the Unification Church."

The first day at the food table we served several meals to street people. Without asking for donations, people gave over $45 that day. A local television station shot a news story that aired that night on the evening news.

The following week, an interview appeared in the Halifax Herald with a large photograph on page 2.

Many people, young and old, are curious and supportive, often offering a small donation. One college student has volunteered to help by bringing food and serving. We set up the table around 11 a.m. and stayed through the lunch hour. The ones we serve food to are usually street people, but we are there to serve anyone who is hungry.

The newspaper article happened to mention that we financed the food table by selling flowers, and to my surprise, several people stopped at the flower stand to give donations for the food table. In all, we have been given about twice as much as we spent on food.

We would like to encourage other members to try this very simple method to serve others and help people understand that the Unification Church is actively addressing the problem of hunger.