Section 1. The View of True Love Between Man and Woman
1) God's Motivation for Creating Everything
What does God need? God does not need money, or knowledge. If you go in front of God and say, "I have a Ph.D. in Natural History because of my abundant knowledge," do you think that God will say to you, "You are great," or "You are arrogant"? Which one would He say? We don't have anything worth showing off. God is the King of knowledge, and even if you say, "I have been president of a country," He will say to you, "You fool!" You may ask God to recognize your authority as president of a country, but God already has such. What He needs is not money or knowledge or power, what He needs is love. (187-44)
What is God's motivation for creating the whole creation? It is now a fundamental question. He is the King of all beings. Yet He lacks one thing. He has it but He cannot use it. What is it then? It is Love. Love is in His mind but has not been able to be expressed. He wants to touch, bite, swear, shock, and to do more, but He cannot do so. Is it not the same for you? For example, when you have a nice physical object, you look at it from the front, the back and the sides and want to open it up to be able to see more. You want to know more about it. But in terms of Love, God cannot do it by Himself. This is the problem.
God feels bored. Think about God. For many billions of years, He has been alone. "Oh, I am very happy sitting upon this throne, Lord of all creation! " Do you think that is what He said? There is nothing more pitiful than to be alone. There is nothing harder than that. You probably feel lonely just when your friends are not around. Isn't that so? (188-122)
2) The Reason God Created the Universe as a Pair-System
If you want to enjoy the universe with God's love, what should the universe be like? Not only should God be able to enjoy, but also the universe should be joyful. Therefore, God created the universe as a pair-system. This is the correct theory. Even the mineral world exists as a pair-system. You cannot deny this. How does a crystal form? Do you know? It begins as a small particle and then it becomes larger as other particles join in. Using this concept of the pair-system, the crystal is able to expand and continue to grow. You cannot see this process, but it is happening everywhere.
You ask, "How did the universe come about?" It came out of the standard of the concept of love. That is why everything exists as subject and object partners, to bring about harmony. You cannot love by yourself. That is why the entire universe must exist as a pair-system. Do you think this is correct? (Yes) The mineral world exists as a pair-system. The animal world also exists as a pair-system within each species. Then, even though God may try to put two different species together, saying, "You, go and join with another species," they will not listen. Why? It is the principle that He has set up. He can not change it.
The ideal of love must follow the principle of harmony, so that internal nature and external form can come together and participate in give-and-take action. Without this principle, any exchange between the two is a loss. That is why the whole universe follows this pair system. So Teacher's theory is right. The creation of the universe was accomplished with the theme of love. Everything is like that. That is very theoretical. Do you understand or not? (Yes, we understand.) We must make this clear to others. (182-123)
It is the same with animals. The season is now fall; the frost has yet to come. When you go up the hill and try to have a nap, you can hear many insects singing. It is like an orchestra; you can hear many different kinds of insects. One says "bik" and another "zak, zak;" all are in harmony. The quality of man's orchestra cannot be compared to nature's orchestra, not even our New York Symphony orchestra. The sounds of insects are so harmonious. What do you think it is all for? They are all seeking partners. Their foreheads are close together, and they rub each other's faces with arms and legs. Just as when parakeets are in love. This is how it is.
Why are they like that? All creation was created centered on the theme of love. If all things were made different, then it would cause a big problem. They would wonder, "Why are we different, while man can love each other as pairs?" God knew that this could happen, and being the King of wisdom, He knew that the universe must be created as a pair-system. From the smallest being on up, all can live their lives joyfully, singing for eternity, in this universe. (182-127)
3) The Reason Man and Woman Were Born
You should know yourself. Who am I? I was born as the fruit of the vertical love of God and the horizontal love of True Parents. We all should be like this, mind and body united at right angles. But due to the fall, we are born through Satan's blood lineage, so this has not been possible.
If we ask, what is Satan, he is the one who destroyed the ideal partnership of Adam and Eve, instead of protecting it. He was against them. Do you understand? He invaded and raped what was supposed to be protected by the universal power. So, as we succeed to the fallen blood lineage of Satan, we stand in the position of being against love, which is God's original nature. We also stand in the position as another plus, and therefore our mind and body have been in conflict as eternal enemies.
It is the responsibility of religions to eliminate this conflict. If religions do not know this truth, then there is no liberation. When you know this theory, then you are able to change the substantial social realities. If your theory is not correct, you cannot survive long. Do you understand? (Yes)
So you now know that man should follow the path of love. Then what is woman born for? For whom is she born? What are humans? When we talk about humans, there is man and there is woman. So, what is man and what is woman. Why were you born? You women, do you ever regret that you were born a woman? "Why was I born as a woman, not as a man?" Didn't you regret in this way? Please, do not worry.
When man goes out and hunts many different kinds of things, who will be proud of it? Horizontally, he only has his wife to show off to. You should think like this. Man gives everything that he has gained from going north, south, east and west, working in the four season of spring, summer, fall and winter, to his wife. Do you understand? Woman is the master keeper of all that man harvests. Also his love. He wants to give, while woman wants to receive.
You women, you marry. Why do you marry? When you are asked, you usually answer, "I married to receive love." Have you ever heard any one say, "I marry to give my love"? Why would someone say this? It is because it is the age of action. But women should think of giving love in turn while she receives love. In relation to the spherical form, man should give from the position of Yang, then women should give from the position of Yin. As they revolve, in give and take action, they move toward life centered on that love. So, when a woman cares for her husband's welfare, saying, "Oh, please live eternally and be healthy," she wishes her husband to be strong and healthy. She is even willing to go hungry for her husband's well being. You should support and stand behind your husband for his success. Do you understand what this means? It is very important that you do this. As he encourages you, you should give him a push in return. Husband must be prepared to go a hard course, over the back path of wife. This also applies to women towards her husband. Then the spherical form is created. Then husband and wife through right angles can meet in the center of the sphere. With this in mind, the question of why men and women were born has a simple answer. Men were born for women and women were born for men. It is as simple as that.
So, were you born to fight or to love others? (Born to love others) Then, how much do you like each other? Knowledge and material possession or anything else in your environment are not important. Think about how much you love your wife. You can forgive her anything. If you love your husband, even though he may cause you much anger, you should not become so agitated as to leave the sphere. Do you understand? (Yes) You must remember the first moment of love that drew you together. If you ever leave the realm of this love, the universe will chase you out. (187-76)
4) Flowers Must Give Off a Fragrance First
Should women chase men or should men chase after women? (Men) (Laughter)
Physiologically, do women or men reach maturity first? (Women) Because women reach maturity earlier, men are less enlightened. Due to this, when man and woman fall, the man is insensitive. So, it can be seen that women give off a fragrance earlier than men. Do flowers send forth fragrance first or do butterflies fly there first? (The flowers) (Laughter) As a flower sends forth its fragrance, the butterflies fly to it. This law of nature also applies to women. Women already think, even at the age of fifteen or sixteen, "Oh, where is my partner?" She starts to make a big fuss, doing kokoje (dialect of Father's home town); is this right? In Seoul, we do not use this word do we? Even modest girls climb their fences to look at boys' buttocks in spring. "How rude, that boy, passing by without even noticing me." She looks modest, but she still behaves this way. "He could have at least whistled at me." This is what women are like. You women, do you do this or not? If not, you are not a false woman, right?
Everyone here, when a man and a woman are in love, is there any difference between the love of the man and that of the woman? Or is it the same? (Same) I am researching this, because it has never been tested before. When you hear a thunderstorm, is the loud sound a result of a positive charge and negative charge occurring at the same time or different times? (Same time) That's correct. Is it true that when there is a flash of current, everything suddenly combusts? Even if you touch it slightly with your hand, it will shock your whole body. Even to the tips of your hair, zap! Well, when there is a love current between man and woman, do you think they want to become one or stay separate? (Become one) Perhaps they won't end up as one. (187-80)
5) Love Travels the Shortest Distance
Does God also like love? (Yes) Do you know whether He likes it or not? Have you felt or experienced this? God is of the spirit world, so how do you know that God likes love? For example, is it possible to tell whether or not an electric current is flowing through a cord? Can people know just by looking? (No, they don't know.) What can you do to find out? You can find out very quickly with an electric tester. You can also find out via your physical senses. Although electricity may be invisible, we can feel it when it stimulates our senses. It is the same with love. If you are not fallen, when God feels sad, you should automatically feet sad. When God is happy, you should feel happy also.
Listening to the story of a person who cries in great desire to have love, will your heart suddenly be filled with emotion? (Yes) Why is it filled with emotion? It is because we have the same elements. We are all composed of common elements. So, what would you do if you found God unhappy and crying for all humanity? Would you kick him out or welcome him? Would you kick him out? (No) If God was crying for any other reason, you will probably deny Him, but if He cries with an aching heart because He hasn't accomplished the purpose of love with mankind, all creation would want to give Him sympathy and help. That is the way the world of love works. This is eternally unchanging.
Centered on love, especially centered on greater love, if there was a man who wanted to work more passionately, then people around him, which is the family, nation and world, would be eager to move according to his will. (187-50)
We, mankind should connect vertically to heaven and earth, while horizontally connecting to each nation and then to the world, by doing our part. Then the whole world will be moved. Father should also go this way. If Father climbs up to the world level, then, on his way back, will not even the people who opposed him welcome him? This is the way things revolve. This is the way of heaven and earth. God has moved this way and Teacher also has been moving the same way, vertically and horizontally.
Then where is the place of consummation? The question is where is the point they are bound together? At the 90-degree angle. Why a 90-degree angle? What could the answer be? Love travels the shortest distances. Man and woman are representatives of the horizontal plane. There is only one way they can simultaneously come together. There are not two ways. It is absolute. Why? Because love travels the shortest distance, they cannot help but to meet at the 90-degree angle. Do you agree or not? If not, it is said that it is distorted. Is this right? Centered upon love, the vertical line and the horizontal line travel the shortest distance to meet at the 90-degree angle. Even a 91 -degree angle will mean that you travel a longer distance. Is that right? Therefore, theoretically the 90-degree angle is the most correct way. (187-60)
Perpendicularity is connected to absoluteness. Why is it perpendicular at the place where love abides? There are many questions to be answered on this matter. We will come to them later. Why should it be perpendicular? It is because love travels the shortest distances. It is a simple reason, but it is precious words. Why should it be perpendicular? This is the question. Why should it be horizontal and balanced? Centered on love, to be perpendicular, love should travel the shortest distance. When you go to meet the person you love, do you go slowly, as you would to meet your next-door neighbor, or as straight as a bullet? (Straight)
Have you tried this? (Laughter) No matter if it is day or night, spring, summer, fall or winter, however long human history will be, love wants to travel the shortest distances. Do you understand? (Yes)
So, why is it vertical? What is the shortest distance to the vertical line? It is so that a point in the highest position can be connected to a point in the lowest position through the shortest distance. That is why love travels the shortest distances in this universe. That is why it is a vertical line that connects high and low positions at a perpendicular position. Do you follow? (187-51)
6) Love Grows Bigger in Circular Motion
Do you need love? (Yes) What sees love first? Within your body, what wants to see love first? What wants to touch love first? The point is what is the antenna of love? The antenna of love in man is man's convex. What about woman? When convex and concave come together, it becomes round and then disappears. This is true with everything. What is an example? When a positive electric charge comes together to meet a negative electric charge, they create thunderstorms, but then return to being neutral, to zero. Do you understand? They are going back to what they were.
Next, love proceeds in circular motion. It does not become smaller, but becomes bigger and bigger. In this way, love has the desire to grow into bigger and greater love. Its nature is to seek family-level love rather than individual-level of love. You want the same, don't you? You seek the family level of love rather than individual level of love. You not only need your family, but you need your tribe. Therefore, a spiral action is employed to expand love. This is what we in the Unification Church say, "The individual is for the family." Why? It is to connect up to the bigger world of love. Do you understand? The nation is for the world, the world is for the cosmos, the cosmos is for God, and God is for love. Did God come to existence for the sake of Himself? He is for the sake of love.
That's why all beings that exist on earth want to be absorbed by love.
Does mankind want the same thing? For example, there are two people living together as husband and wife. Even though the husband loves the wife very much, if a greater love comes to the wife, then she will want to go to where there is more love. With greater love you can detach her from the other love. Although husband and wife are married, if one realizes that one can embrace people of your nation and the world, it is all right for him or her to leave the family. This will not be a bad thing to do. No matter how much the wife may cry, grabbing on to her husband, saying, "Please stay with me, the husband may leave his wife and children for the sake of bigger love. The people who move forward for bigger love are the people who are closer to God. That is why we call it goodness. Do you understand? (Yes)
In comparison, which would you rather take? Would you pick the bigger one or the smaller one? (We want to have the bigger one) No one wants to have the smaller one. Also, do you want to have a good one or a bad one? There is no human being that wants to have a bad one. Because of this, this is a common universal concept, the concept of ownership. This concept applies equally to everyone. But centered on what? It can only be love. Is American mothers' love for their children different from that of Korean mothers, or the same? Please answer this. Is it the same or different? The original quality is the same. The concept of unification is hard to conceive without love.
Then, is the love between American husband and wife different from that between oriental husband and wife? Is it different or the same? If a woman sheds tears for her husband in yearning for him, are one person's tears spotted, while the other person's are bright with true heart? They are the same. The tears of the oriental wife and the tears of the Western wife in yearning to see the husband are the same color. If you taste them, they are salty. If you say sweet, then they are both sweet. Isn't this correct? When you say, it is the same color, you mean that it is unchanging. (187-54)
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Section 2. The True View of Marriage and the Ideal Partner
1) The Purpose of the Birth of Man and Woman Is for Marriage
Why was a woman born as woman? Is it for the sake of woman? What has Teacher taught you? What do you think is the reason why woman is born as woman? (For man) What is a man born for? (Born for the sake of woman) That's right. It was not known what a man was born for, but the answer is so simple, so who did not know it. Why did God create Adam and Eve? He wanted to see man's love and woman's love. That is what God is like. You cannot find God's love without looking at man. Can we find it from a monkey? However hard we try, we can only find it in humankind.
Love is not made on your own. It is formed in a mutual relationship. Therefore, the reason why God created heaven and earth was to present the environment as the realm of His reciprocators. Whom did God want to present it to? To us. To humanity. So, all nature around us is the exhibition place for love. Adam and Eve could have been the masters standing in the central position, looking at nature from four different directions, north, south, east and west. This would all be educational to Adam and Eve. What education is presented? It is the educational material of love.
All plants, insects, and animals are in the object position. All are part of the museum for Adam and Eve to learn the ideal way of love. They are the natural museum of love. Who is it for? For Adam and Eve. Because of this, the person who cannot love nature cannot love man. One who does not love man cannot create a family. So, if you ask why God created Adam, it is of course for Himself, but also for his loving daughter, Eve. Isn't this right? So then, why was man born as man? He was born for the sake of woman. If you pursue this further, from the viewpoint of God, He created Adam for the sake of Eve. This means that Adam was born for the sake of Eve.
When you say that A=B, then B=A. With this in mind, why did God create Eve? God needed to have Eve to show his love for Adam. What was woman born for? Because of Adam. Isn't that so? The two are born for each other's needs. So, what Adam loves is owned by Eve, what Eve loves is owned by Adam. Therefore your sexual organ is not for yourself. It is as simple as that. As this Teacher has searched with prayer, the answer is rather simple. The content is simple; that's what I have found. Why does a woman want to marry? For man to find his own master. Do you understand? Why? For man to find his owner. Who is the owner of a woman? Her husband. Why does a man want to marry? So that a woman can find her owner. Because man and woman cannot help but exchange ownership, they should do it by coming together centered on love. (144-93)
2) The True View of Marriage in the Unification Church.
In the fallen world, to love is somewhat dangerous. In the Garden of Eden, the only woman was Eve. But here in this fallen world, there are many women. More than enough. Then, all those women are trying hard to seduce men. So, it is hard for men to keep their own position, isn't it? This is the same with women. Because of that reason, after marriage, men should not meet other women. Do you understand? How do you treat other women? Treat them like barking dogs. Your wife is human, but treat other women as if they are the neighbors' barking dogs. Again, how should you treat other woman? (Like dogs...) That's okay, because if only you think that way, without speaking, then who cares? You just shouldn't tell them, then there is no problem. Also women, you must think of other men as what? As dogs.
So, after marriage, you should go along stuck to each other. The fall came along because of mismanagement. The wife did not have good management over the husband and the husband did not have good management over the wife because he was not able to educate her about the fact that he was the only husband for her. Rather than talking about education, the fact is, they did not love each other enough.
Question: If a person is matured in personality to the level of receiving the blessing, then shouldn't he be able to do so by his own self-discipline?
Answer: Individual perfection, at this time, is not absolute perfection as a whole. It is, in fact, conditional perfection. In the process of restoration, we can achieve only conditional perfection. Do you understand? So, even though they are standing in the position of parents, they do not know God's realm of heart. They haven't yet experienced that a wife is worth more than the universe, and that a husband is also worth more than the whole universe, and that as they love each other, they create great power to hold heaven and earth together.
For this reason, all the families blessed so far remain in conditional perfection until we can all go past this fallen realm. We should know this. Do you understand what this means? We are not in the realm of the completed Kingdom of Heaven in heaven and on earth. We are in the realm of conditional perfection. Since you are in the realm of conditional perfection, when you pass away to spirit world, you should go through another checkpoint. Later, you are perfected and will receive your passport to the Kingdom of Heaven. (143-335)
3) Marriage, and the Right Age of Marriage
Question: As other students are too shy to ask this question, I would like to ask it. When should we marry? Around what age shall we marry? And what qualifications should one have to marry?
Answer: You can marry early. But you may encounter many obstacles. You don't know so much about marriage yet. Once you are married, you may want to study hard. Even though you may be determined to study, it is not possible to do so. If you marry after graduating from high school, studying for university is a hard thing to do. Do you understand? Even after you graduate from university, getting a Ph.D. degree will be very hard. It is much harder to study for a Ph.D. after you marry, than to study before marriage. It may be four or five times harder. That means that if you marry before studying for your Ph.D., then you have a very slim chance of attaining a Ph.D. Do you understand? Marriage takes all your time and effort; therefore, it can be said that it is the fruit of all your work. Once you marry, it is final.
After marriage, if you try and study in a place away from your wife, it will cause a lot of trouble. Your wife will not stay calm. She may say something like this; "Well, loving darling, please come back, I don't need the Ph.D." Furthermore, children are born, and having many children makes things complicated. Men who think of doing something like this are not fulfilling their portion of responsibility. Once you are married to a woman, you should take responsibility.
You should take responsibility for your wife for your whole lifetime, When she gives birth to a baby, you should take responsibility for the baby. This kind of responsibility is expected of you. No one can help you, and you cannot ask anyone to help you either. Is that right? After marriage, can you keep depending on others? Only the two of you should share the responsibility. That is why you don't like having any other responsibilities. You then wouldn't like to study, would you? So, before marriage, you should accomplish everything.
At what age do you graduate from high school? You may be eighteen or nineteen years old. (Nineteen) Nineteen? If you marry at nineteen years of age, no one will employ that kind of person. If you give birth at nineteen years of age, how many babies can you have? You may already feel burdened. In this time and age in Korea, will people view with favor one who has just graduated from high school and says, "I am now married," or see him as a naughty person? "Oh, he must have eloped." If they see this, it will be hard for you even to get a job.
In principle, the age people should marry is over twenty-one years of age. It is okay for women at eighteen years and over, but men should be over twenty-one. So please forget about getting married; rather, think about what you should do, and do it in five years if it normally takes ten years to complete. If you want to have a Ph.D. after graduating from university at the age of twenty-one, you might have to study till the age of twenty-eight. While others do this until they are twenty-eight years old, completing it over five or six years, why don't you finish it in two years time? It is possible if you study twenty-four hours a day. That's the only way to finish it quickly.
So if you want to marry early, study hard from now on. You may not need 6 years to finish middle and high school. With two years of study, you can pass the exam to enter university. Government examinations mean that you can also pass through university very quickly. As you pass the government exam, you can complete university study even in two years time. So you take only four years for middle and high school and for university studies. Next there is the Ph.D. course. If you study and research, you can get a Ph.D. As you study hard like this, you can shorten the time needed, and all things are resolved without much worry. But if you are in school, mucking around wasting time, six years in middle and high school, and four in university, the next two years in graduate school, getting a Ph.D. for two and a half to three years, if not five years, then you can't get it even at thirty years of age. But you cannot marry at that age. Men should determine themselves saying, "I am not going to marry before I accomplish my goal." (100- 141)
4) The Portion of Responsibility and the ideal Partner
You should know that your portion of responsibility is important. If God had explained the portion of responsibility as I am doing to you, Adam would not have fallen. "It's your portion of responsibility! Yours not to eat!" If God had shouted, "Portion of responsibility, responsibility!" to whomever he met, they would not have fallen, do you follow?
_____, you also are the same. As I watch you carefully, you are a great worry because you are still at school, and you think you should get a good husband with a good build, don't you? If I want to be famous because of my husband, then I must have one with a good build, who is tall, not narrow-minded or short. This is how you think, don't you? That's why I think I will get a short husband for you. That is the way of restoration, isn't it? For the sake of restoration through indemnity, a short man should have a tall woman to be liberated from his sorrow. Please keep in mind the short man. Skinny women should have a rotund man to resolve her sorrow, is that right?
East is in the opposite direction from west. Yet they can come together because there is a center. Without the center, there is no eternal togetherness. Father is the center. Centered on Father, north, south, east, and west can come together at any time. Centered on Father, east can come together with west, and south and north can come together. Without Father there, there is no way for us to come together for all eternity. This is the principle. Centered on Teacher, if man is east while woman is west, they should come together, while north and south should come together. "That is not for me." This kind of attitude is not acceptable. The center can determine the east and west. Do you follow?
Do east and west determine the center or does the center determine the east and west? (Center determines the east and west) That is right: east and west is determined by the center. Because of the center, north, south, east, and west appear. Because of the center there is three hundred and sixty degrees. All right? You should know that. West appears not because of east, and a three-hundred-and-sixty-degree angle does not appear because of east and west but because of the center. The principle is to protect the center. We should make it clear. Should we define it clearly? The center is the one and only; that is why I make the decisions.
Who was the center in the Garden of Eden? God was the center. At that time, what would have happened if Eve had made a mistake and became one-eyed? If a sharp stick poked her eye, would she have become a one-eyed cripple or not? Did you think that because of the protection from God, it would not have been possible to be an one-eyed cripple? No. If Eve had, with her own hand, poked her eye, then she surely would have become blind in one eye. If she had poked both eyes, then she would have become completely blind. Then Adam should have said, "God, according to the ideal of creation, it is ideal for her to have both eyes, but she is blind. Please recreate her eyes." Can this be done? That one-eyed woman is his younger sister, isn't she? Then she is his younger sister, but at the same time she is his wife. This also means that Adam is her elder brother and her husband. Is that right? Whether he likes it or not, he should live with the one-eyed sister and become her guide. That is the responsibility of the elder brother and husband. Isn't this right? (133-151)
Men are different from each other, just as there are differences in spring, summer, fall and winter. If it is fall here, it is spring in the Southern Hemisphere. Fall here does not mean that it is the same in the south. It is spring there.
So, there are some that were born in summertime, some in the fall, some during winter and some at springtime. Men who were born in spring must be able to relate to those born in summer and those who are born in winter must adapt to those born in spring. This means that people's set paths are different. As the globe rotates and the seasons change, people should change to have relationships with people of different seasons.
Just as the seasons are in a cycle, one person's destiny is upward and another downward. Do you understand? But if people whose destinies are downward meet someone whose destiny is also downward, they will perish. They may die in a traffic accident or something. If your destiny is downward, you should take an easy ride with someone with an upward destiny, to ensure your survival. So, this kind of man should find a woman who is able to bring him upward.
As you meet in this way, it will be hard to get along well at first. It will be like a mismatch. You have to try for four years in which during that time spring, summer, fall, and winter will interact. If A started from spring and B started from fall, then B should move faster within the cycle to catch up with A, or visa versa. Unless you try to get along with the other person, it is not possible to bring yourselves together. This process is for everybody. Which season was given to you at birth? Am I a person going upward or downward or a transition season, a co-relating type or an opposite type? Everyone is different. We should first try to relate to each other. A few months' time is not enough to do this. At least three years is required. You must both pioneer to have a better destiny together.
Marriage does not mean that everything fits together. For example tragedy can still occur, such as all your children dying. Now, think about animals. Can you mate a wild boar with a lion? This is not possible. A wild boar must marry a wild boar. Wild boars have big noses with which they can dig the ground and find arrowroot. Lions do not search for arrowroot but rather go up mountains and hunt for animals. That is the difference between them. Their way of life is different. But with people it is hard to tell the difference.
Marriage is an important matter. We must have good marriages. Do you understand what this means? If you meet a person on the street, and you marry him because you think it will turn out all right, it will not last long. In your eyes, because it is summer, everything may look green. Because a green tree has beautiful fruit and crows and magpies fly over it, it looks good. But you should know what the tree could have engrafted to it. Without knowing, you can not engraft yourself to it. Pine trees must be engrafted to pine trees. There are different species and there exists boundaries between the different species. (120-317)
5) Responsibility Before Meeting the Ideal Partner
An ideal mate should come after you think of yourself first. The goal of reaching perfection is important. To get an ideal partner is to connect yourself to the object world, so having an ideal partner depends upon whether I can be a perfect subject. So, the precondition you must accomplish is self-perfection. Do you follow? When you reach adolescence, you want to love the other sex, but you before you do you must have set the condition to love your parents more. If you are a pious son or daughter, then you are able to have a relationship with God. This is the principle of heaven. It is the principle of creation. So, before you think of your ideal partner, you yourself must be a filial and pious child to your parents up to the point that you are so connected in heart that your parents can announce this in public. To do so, you must unite with your parents. To be pious, you should be united with your brothers and sisters. In your own family, there must be word that you are a true and good example. With this in mind, we should concentrate on perfecting ourselves first. Then you can begin to think of attaining an ideal partner. (100-149)
You are then in a serious situation, do you understand? Even though you are a grown man, you still chase women's bottoms... There are many women and also many men out there. A man can, without knowing it, fall in love with a girl and be controlled by her, even to death. This kind of man becomes useless, destroyed and finished. In doing this, he later becomes like a trash can. Teacher knows this very well, even though I have never been in such a situation. I have seen many things. To men, women are the enemies. To women, men are the enemies. You should be cool and ruthless, for the sake of your path. You must invest all your energy to have the right foundation; then you can have your wife, and woman can attend her husband. It is a serious matter: you only have one life. It will be a big disaster once you go the wrong way. (120-329)
6) Before Having a Partner, Complete Self-Dominion
As Teacher has been searching for this path, the motto for you is first, "Before dominion over the universe, complete having dominion over yourself." It is not the completion of dominion over an object. The desire to have love is very strong. The desire centered on one's self and the desire to have dominion over the world externally drives you strongly, but it is harder to have dominion over yourself. So, you must have dominion over yourself before the universe. That is why Teacher had set up this motto from a young age. Do you follow? Do you understand the perfection of self-dominion?
Then are you confident to have perfect self-dominion? Even though you say, "I am confident," the most fearful enemy that can destroy man is women. Do you understand? What is women's destructive agent? (Man is) Do you feel this is true? Do you?
You, as you reach the age of fifteen or sixteen years, you don't feel bad when a man comes near you, do you? You don't feel nothingness do you? Do you feet more interested? (No) That's a lie. If you say no, you might be a first-year student. Students in the first or second year of middle school may not be interested, but you, when you become a third-year student in middle school and become first, second and third years in high school, you may feel good. That is expected. So at that age, if you say no, you are probably lying.
Then let me ask you one thing. When a man stares at you, you feel shy, don't you? So, when a man looks at you, do you make a shy expression? When a man stares at you, you heart starts to palpitate. Do you feet this? This is natural. What it means is that you have some interest in men. If you are not interested, why do you blush? That's what happens.
In the process of self dominion, the most difficult thing to do is to not sleep. What else? There is also hunger and the next thing is love. An element that the devil can use is love. You can endure hunger and fatigue, but it is hard to not receive love. That is why in the orient, we have a tradition that male and female are not allowed to sit together from the age of seven. This is a good tradition. Love is the most dangerous thing, just like dynamite. When two people love each other and dynamite is ignited, you will still like each other. And when it explodes, you will be blown to pieces and you will be decapitated. It is seriously dangerous, do you understand what this means?
With respect to women's perfection of individuality, who is the archenemy? Man. Who is the archenemy of man? Why was the man called Adam? Ah-Dahm. (Korean sound), Ah, there is a wall. Man should build a wall, that is why he is called Adam. Why was Eve called Eve? (In Korean it is pronounced Hae-Wa). Because Eve fell first, she should restore herself and bring herself back. In Korean, Hae means "to do," and Wa is "come back and bring things over." Since man's name is Adam, he builds a wall around himself, and therefore Eve cannot reach Adam easily. If she could come over easily, she might whisper for Adam to follow her, wouldn't she? That is why he should have a wall that is high. Do you understand? You women, before you do Hae-Wa (do the work of restoration, and bring it), you should absolutely not act like Eve. Even if heaven and earth are blowing trumpets, saying, "Hey, you! Receive your bridegroom," still you have to say, "No, I won't. No, I won't." Say this up to three times. Still he will tell you, "Do it." Then you should ask, "Are you God?" and he will say, "Of course I am." But, you should say, "I am not convinced. Show me evidence." This is how you should handle the situation. By doing this, you will meet your husband. We say Hae-Wa, because women should restore herself completely. Women have always been the cause of trouble.
So, we should first quickly accomplish self-perfection, remembering that your ideal partner should be the one thing far from your mind. Do you understand the meaning of these words? You girls, you have reached the age of seventeen or eighteen. This means that you have grown to a mature stage. Say you were put into a room and tied back to back to a handsome man you don't know. You should be able to make your back seem frozen. The man will say, "I don't like this coldness." You should be like this. He should not be saying, "Oh dear, it's very hot, and it feels like there is an electric current flowing." You should make it so cold that he asks, "Why it is so cold?" Also, you should be able to have public approval that you have restored yourself from the fallen status. Do you follow? It is hard to go through this process of crossing the line of the fall, but only then can you have an ideal partner. That is the principle.
So, as you go the way of the Will, such things will occur. Even Teacher experienced this a lot. Spiritually, many women have tempted me, I mean, many of the most beautiful women of the world. Even Mother can not be compared with the kind of beauty I am talking about. But I am sorry to talk about this in front of Mother. These kinds of occurrences can happen. Do you understand what I mean?
7) The Way to Discern People
When God sees a man, He sees through to his mind. Next, he sees his past and then he sees his future. Do you understand? You young children and young people, you must think of the important aspects when you see a person. Don't judge them by their face, but look at their mind. Try to imagine their past and what their future may hold. Then you should be able to select the right person. Do you understand?
When seeing your own face, you may ask how come my dad met the kind of woman like my mum, who gave birth to such an ugly man like me? You may be able to point to certain features and say it is ugly because of my mum and other features because of my dad. A woman complains like this. You wonder how you can live with this ugly face and you may be deeply depressed. Please do not be like this. Do you understand?
Faces are like windows. By looking into a face, how many things can you see? You can see four main things. Even though your face is not that good-looking, you should have a good attitude and a giving heart. If God searches the whole world for a person, what kind of person would He like to find? A person as big as the world, how big is he? If his eyes are as big as the world and his hands are as big as the world ... then no one will welcome him at all. When you have a big mind, you are in harmony. You should have a beautiful and giving mind, and live your life centering on the mind rather than your appearance. Do you understand?
Then, in the future, would you like to have a wife with a beautiful face or a beautiful mind? (A beautiful-minded woman) You high school and middle school students. Good mind? Pardon me? A wife of what? (Good mind) Then that is good. In the future you should marry. If you are a man you should marry. That does not mean right away.
You girls, would you rather have a well-built handsome man or an average man with a good mind? It will be good if you could have a husband that is good-looking and also has a good mind. If he has both, it is good isn't it? You can't have it both ways. That kind of man will explode. If you have balloons up on a sunny day, how do you feel? If you have them up on a cloudy day, they inflate well. However, on a sunny day the balloons will pop easily. Do you understand? This is the way. What will become of a man with a handsome face and a good mind? Bang! He will burst. That is why a person with a good mind looks a little squeezed. He looks rather ugly. A good-minded person should have squeezed spots so that he may not be punctured on a sunny day. Rather with sunlight, he will expand like air does. That is normal. Do you understand girls? You should look at people with this in mind. If a person had a good mind and a good-looking face, he will blow up. You will find two things about a beautiful- looking woman, which is different from a man. Beautiful women have short lives and have little blessing. This is true.
Well, let's talk about your eyes. Our eyes only see faces, but what about God's eyes? God's eyes see the mind. What can you find by seeing the mind? (Past) God will see the past, present and future first then He will see your face and decide if your eyes suit your face, then nose and ears. If they fit well there, then he will look at your mouth. Close your mouths and let me have a look. The only differences between mouths are their shape, size and color. That can tell you all about someone's history and tradition and their past, present and future. Because of this, when you see girls passing on the street, at a glance do not see only their beautiful spots. You must know that a good-looking melon is bitter. Say, at a melon garden, you pick ten beautiful melons. All ten melons will taste bitter. Melons, which are squeezed and not well balanced, are very delicious. The principle of the world is like this. So you must see people from this kind of perspective. Do you understand?
So, don't look for people who change clothes every day. These kind of people always cause problems and go everywhere they want to. You should look into the mind of a person. People who are conniving and sly are like dogs of no pedigree. When the mutts have gone away, posh dogs of rich houses come out. This is what a rich house dog is like. Even the dogs are different. So people who wear clothes well, strutting around, being proud of their shoes, speaking cheaply saying, "I went to a place yesterday with somebody, it was good," perhaps disobeying school rules and concentrating on themselves saying, "It will be okay as long as I feel good, even my graduation will have nothing to do with me," these kinds of people will drift away. So you should be able to evaluate people based on these points. Do you understand what this means?
So, don't look at people's faces only. If someone is good-looking, he might be a dangerous person. This is 80% correct! Do you good-looking people feel bad? After saying this, I must tell those with good-looking faces not to cut their faces with razor blades or anything like that, because you are well known for your good looks. It is okay for men to have the mentality that there are no good-looking women who have good faith and are loyal to God. Do you understand?
So what attributes should you see in a person? You should find out the kind of attitude they have. You can learn about a woman by looking at her friends, the way they talk, walk and look. Then you will be able to say, "Oh, she is that kind of woman," and know her values. You, Hyo Jin, must also know this point.
Next, you should see how he speaks, on the way to school and on the way back. How he speaks to his friends. What expressions he uses when he is playing sports. He should be very active and not behave as though he is depressed. You must see all these aspects of a person and know his mind.
So men, you must be aware of flirts that are like dogs that do not have a pedigree. In the Garden of Eden, the fall came about because man did something wrong. At your age, sixteen, girls may seduce you. For example, they may invite you to go and have some peanuts together. But you should disregard them and pretend not to know, being just like a rock.
We call Jesus a "rock." This means that whatever the world may say about you, you walk your own way. You must say, "As I am determined to go this way, I must go as if I am ironclad, or like a solid rock." That is the way of man. Do you understand? Beautiful flirts, 80% will drift away. Even though they marry and give birth to children, there is not much hope for these people. You must go forward to the future silently; every word you speak must be meaningful. If your friend is working for a bigger cause, you should be able to sacrifice yourself for his sake.
Usually in a task such as cleaning a classroom, it is easy to see and discern who someone is. Some try to hide themselves here and there, trying to avoid taking a broom or a mop, saying, "You do it," trying to give the work to others. Just from a glance you know who they are. Treat your classroom as you would treat your own clothes. Treat the cleaning of the school as if it was your own responsibility. The attitude towards cleaning reflects the type of person you are. Do not try to discern people solely by their faces.
Next you can know people by the way they walk. Teacher knows what kind of person a woman is in one glance. Do you understand what I mean? It is possible to know how many men she will marry. Since the internal self is important, you should train hard to be good; even though your past was not good, and your present situation is not good either, it can be overcome. That is why we need education, and our Teacher. When Teacher tells you to do things a certain way, you answer, "Yes, I will do it." Then you should practice it. Whatever path you may have lead you can readjust it. If you are with a great Teacher and have great friends, you can correct your destiny. Do you understand?
All people have a different history from others. Some have a history that flows from North to South, some from South to North. Also there are some that make a mark in history by going around 360 degrees, North, South, East and West. (100-93)
Well, what kind of a person will you marry in the future? (By seeing the attitude of the mind.) What if a person seems to have a good personality and has a public mind to unite heaven and earth, and also has a loving mind and wisdom? You should say, "Yes," even though he is only one-eyed. Do you understand, you girls? It is okay even though he may be one-eyed, or has one false eye, or even if he has an artificial leg. But, what about the son? If his father has a false eye, will the son also have a false eye? (No) If a man has an artificial leg, then is he the son of a man with an artificial leg? (No) Look beyond one generation and see the future with the heart to embrace tens of thousands of years. Ladies, at your adolescent age, you should be able to observe men with this type of heart and mind. With this point of view, you can discern whether or not the person will be able to pass the obstacles that life presents. (100-112)
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Section 3. Marriage and Life
1) The True View of Marriage and the True View of Family
What do we marry for? Let us talk about marriage, now that we know what we were born for. What were we born for? To accomplish God's Will of Love. What do we marry for? To accomplish God's Will of Love, which is to accomplish God's Will of the Standard of the Four Position Foundation by giving birth to good children that God and Adam and Eve had hoped to have. By doing so we can set up the foundation in our family which can be used as a global formula. If a family has no children, husband and wife can set up the horizontal standard, but they cannot set up the vertical standard. Do you follow? That is why most couples want to have children. Why do they wish this? Because, the power of the law of heaven has been working on people.
Isn't it mysterious? Why do women want to give birth to children after they are married, even though it is a very hard thing to do? Even women themselves do not know clearly why they have the urge to give birth. They do not know why it is human nature to give birth to babies, to love their sons, to love their daughters, and to love their husbands. They do not know why they would sacrifice their lives for their husbands, whom they love, or why parents are willing to sacrifice their lives for their children. It is to connect to the love of God, and by doing so, everything becomes victorious and everything falls into place. It is all due to love. We must understand this. It is not something made up by you, even if you wanted it to be, but it is done according to the program of the Principle of Creation, originating from the origin, God, the creator.
Just as a program you put into a computer produces copies, even though you were the one who pressed the button, so no matter how many hundreds of times the history of man changes in tens of thousands of years, the program always works on man's mind. This kind of power is from the action of the original nature, which you must know. Is it correct? (Yes) What were you born for? (God's love) To become an object of love. Why do we marry? To make, with our family, a spherical form. In this spherical form, what kinds of love abide in it? There is parental love, conjugal love, and children's love. Even God does not have parental love, conjugal love and children's love within himself. You must have a spherical form of love to access every direction (four directions), centering on the center. The sphere of love is accessible through the center, which is the ideal core of love. By going through the center, everybody can form the ideal sphere of love. Therefore, the family representing the universe is the headquarters for having dominion. That is the conclusion. Do you understand? That is the universe. That is simple, isn't it? (132-247)
2) Woman's Pride and Special Character
Can you women give birth to children without being married? Can you produce them by yourselves? You must marry. Originally, man can not help but to marry. Women are born to marry. Also, men are born to marry. See, look at women's bodies. Women's breasts are big, and their bottoms are big. This is not for her sake. It is for the sake of giving birth to babies. It grows big to give birth. Also, why do the breasts grow large? Is it for herself? No. It is to feed the baby. That is the way. (100-130)
I see that through this way, women have received the most blessing. Shall we talk about why it is so? Why? When God created the creation, woman was the last. When an artist creates artwork, the masterpiece comes at the end. Considering this, if we compare man and woman, who is more beautiful? Woman is more beautiful. Is it correct or not correct? (Yes, it is correct)
Think about animals, and the birds, male and female, which one is more beautiful? (Male one is) Why is it that the male is the one that is more beautiful? (To show off to women) Then it is the same for man. When a man looks beautiful, it is good to show off to woman. Male animals are more beautiful because of the process of creation. But, woman was created last, and this is why she is more beautiful than the animals. Woman is more beautiful than man. It is the opposite. Because women were the last creation. This is the pride of women. (100-132)
So, when God created, did He love man or woman more? (Woman) Did He love man or woman more? (Man) No. He loved woman more. The reason why is because man is the house of God. So, when man reaches adolescence, the age of maturity, he wants to dominate the cosmos with his command, and wants to be the first in everything. You, Hyo Jin, are also the same, aren't you? You all want to be the best, don't you? (Yes) That's right; man has more of that kind of desire. But, women are not like that. Woman, no matter what, does not think about being first in the world. She has only one direction. She wants to be somewhere where she can sleep comfortably, to lean on somebody. This is the kind of nature she has. At a party, the need to run away, breaking a wall and the nature to have a hard fight is not in a woman. She just wants to live receiving love and leaning on others, to have comfort wherever she goes.
When she goes any place, she wants to live being able to fit in, live relying upon others and to hang on to people. That's their way.
That's why women like to hang things on themselves. They want to live embracing people, just like necklaces do. So they want to hang off people and swing around and also dangle to-and-fro. She has rings on her fingers wanting to live her life fitting in. Why do women like rings, necklaces and earrings? It is because they want to live their lives being hung, being able to fit in and what? To live suspended from a point and to swing freely. They like these things.
What it means, then, is that woman is standing in the position of receiving love and being closer to God. Listen to the laughter of men and women. Men go "Huh, huh, huh," while women go "He, he, he." Look at their gestures when they are laughing. Men lean backward, while women lean forward. No matter how fat a woman is she laughs that way. You can research this subject. As we see this, this is women's nature. Do you understand? So, God may have wanted to love women more than men. Why? A man, like Adam, is the body of God. Women stand in the object position. When Adam reaches maturity, God should enter him. "Oh, this son has now fully grown up." By doing so he loves women. Women stand in the position of future object; that is why God loves women. That is why woman is the masterpiece, made at the end. Woman is therefore in the position to receive more love than man. Then, what is next? She can become a mother. Do you like mother or father? (Mother) Oh yeah? Father or mother? (Mother, Father) We like both. You like both of them. But the children, for example, Sun Jin, my daughter, when we are together in a room, even when I say to come over to me, she goes to mum, who is not doing anything except smiling, not coming to me. She likes Mother more.
Women should give birth to babies. You should. Of course, dad helps in conception, but it is the woman who carries the baby, and gives birth. Is that right? It is precious to conceive, bear, and rear a child. Man only sows. Does that mean he has no regard for the baby? Not more than mum. (100-132)
3) Marriage and Woman's Destiny
Women, no matter how much they have studied, are to follow their husbands. Do you understand? No matter how beautiful you are, how good the university is that you graduated from, it does not matter. This applies at this time and age. If a woman who has graduated from a famous university in Japan marries a man who has only graduated from elementary school in Korea, she should still follow her husband. If the husband is a farmer, then she should go to the farming village. No matter how beautiful you are, you must follow your husband. Can she go away leaving the husband?
When you get married saying, "Uh, I am a university graduate and clever. I think that man is for me," is that the way you would like to select your husband? That is absolutely not possible. It is not to be done according to your own will. That way may get you into trouble and lead to a breakup. In a country like America, beautiful women and handsome men marry each other according to their own love, but they break up in a few months. Do you know why? It is because they do not complement each other's fundamental nature and do not get along well. In other words, this particular plus and minus do not complement each other according their fundamental natures, that is why.
East and West will link up well, but East and South will repel each other. They can never reach the goal. That's why marriage is such a serious matter. When a woman has a husband that is the wrong choice, no matter how beautiful she is, her destiny is affected. A marriage does not work well only because of a handsome face. She should be able to feel what nature and ability he has, what direction he is going, but she can't discern this. That's why she needs to have a Teacher who can tell at a glance what kind of man he is. (120-317)
Woman's destiny, no matter how much she studies, is to follow man. Have you thought about it? If you are a thoughtful woman, you must have known it. You should know about yourself, "I am such a person to go this way. What kind of nature do I have? What kind of man should I meet?" Have you ever thought about it? Even if you studied abroad, it does not make you famous. When you get married, from that time on, centered on husband and wife relationship and on family life your life becomes diversified in many different ways. So man should take full responsibility as man, and woman should also do her responsibility fully. As you both take on responsibility, if one goes the wrong way, the other should take the responsibility of the other half. Father matches people who have this type of ability. (120-319)
This world is ruthless, very ruthless. Even your friend wants to use you for his sake, when he faces difficulties. Is that right? When you are single, you do not mind when such an event occurs. You should know, when you have your wife, you don't like to stay together with the friends that are single. The universe is made to be this way. Bridegroom and the bride are to be one. That's why when you study, do not think you study only for you to be good. You should think that you are going to have a great wife, and together with her help you are going to make your life very successful. You should think to be successful after the two of you meet together. Before the meeting, no matter how big your dreams might be, that dream breaks. Do you know what I mean? So, you must find the path that is in accordance with your fundamental nature. (120-320)
4) Responsibility of Man and Woman
You women, you stay at home, so you do not know how much your husbands must fight hard and struggle. Man is harder than woman. Look! Man should take the responsibility for the entire livelihood. Women, who stay at home, do not know this. When a woman stays at home, if she gets angry about something, then she can have a fight with the neighbors. But the man in the workplace, no matter how angry he is towards his senior whom people know is not good, must have patience and pretend that he has no problem. Do you know how many situations like this he has faced? Also, even though your juniors disregard you, you must have patience and hang in there. Women have internal problems. Women internally are simple. What kind of problems do they have? As they serve their husbands well, all the problems will go away.
Then, in conclusion, are women happy when they give birth to a baby and rear the baby? She is fulfilling her responsibility when she bears a child, and rears the baby as a great son of the world. To become a great mother of the world, she doesn't have to live in a country like America, right at the center of Washington, D.C. Even though she may live in the remote countryside in Korea, as long as she bears a child and rears him with hope and love, then she can become a great mother of the world. (100-138)
5) Women's Artistic Activity After Marriage
Are women's artistic skills finished when they marry? Why are they finished? Because Father is a man, you may say. But once a woman gets married, she cannot then go around and do her own work. The reason is that she should do the work of bearing a baby and feeding the baby. This is her given work. Then what can she do with her artistic activity? What is art? It is what you do to make your name famous throughout the world. You should know that the goal of art is to have an excellent and interesting life. But, what we need in our church is to have human resources for the world, isn't it? "For the world" means that it is good for the world, but also good for the family. (But it depends on how much effort we put in, doesn't it?) Look, for example: with your artistic activities, you can sing, and play the piano as the baby is sleeping, or play the violin while singing a lullaby. How artistic is that? In those circumstances, you can love the baby who is sleeping, while at the same time embrace the whole world. How beautiful art is. (It doesn't mean, though, that it is up to world standards.) Why isn't it up to world standards? As you put the baby to steep, if you compose a world lullaby, and sing it to the baby, then it is of worldwide level. It is not the only way to be of worldwide standard that you stand on a stage and the people of the world congratulate your performance. (Study hard and become famous throughout the world, then you can marry, can't you?) (True Mother: Ah, ah, it should not be like that.) No. To be an internationally famous person, to be known throughout the world, you have got to be sixty, seventy, eighty years old. So, it is not possible. You can become an internationally famous person, yet if you don't know love, then you area sad person. (100- 136)
When you think of art, you may think that if it is worldwide, you can go to the Paris Opera House and be welcomed by the public and all the people of the world will say, "Oh, it is great." It is not right to think like that. Doing something artistic means that you are making life beautiful, and therefore living a beautiful life. It is also the same for studying. You study to live a good life. Think about it this way. Look. Wouldn't you like to be a person like me? Teacher, how tragic am I! Wherever I go, there is fighting. I am ridiculed, chased, and rejected. Do you like it? How about it? Do you like that? Can a woman do this job? You may hear of somebody called Moon, "He is a great man." It does not happen by just sitting in one place. There is a lot of struggle involved. Women would hardly go through such severe fighting even if they were pressed. Women have there own limits. It is a risk to go over the limit too much.
When you do something artistic, you should think that you are making it a part of your life. We should educate children artistically. You should be able to serve and embrace your husband with artistic emotion, That is more excellent art, I think. I believe the value of art is to beautify and enhance family life with love. Women should remain with the family. So, you should marry. (100-139)
6) The Starting Point of Man's Rights and Woman's Rights
Centering on love, man and woman are equal. Is that right? Have you ever thought that it would have been better for you to be born as a man? (Yes) That is not necessary. Woman, as a woman, is like half a moon. You must know this. Centered on love woman are equal. Nowadays, some feminists say, "I heard that Reverend Moon of the Unification Church is against women's rights," but please listen to me. Those feminists should know that they should protect the rights of mothers. Centered upon love, are mother and daughter united? You must be united. Do you have women's rights based upon the foundation of unity with your husband? Do you have women's rights that allow you to love your children? These kinds of women's right should occur first. You bad girls, influenced by politics, you join the women's rights movement, disregarding your mothers, husbands, and children, forgetting the bases from which you should proclaim women's rights. What kind of women's rights movement does this? Stop it, it is not allowed. Woman's rights without the right motives should be thrown away. Do you understand?
What is the first of women's right? The right to receive love from parents, to love their mothers, the right to love their husbands and to receive love from their husbands. These are equal in value. Women's right to love children, and women's right to receive love from their children. When you have these then you can go to the next stage, the world outside of your family. You cannot deviate from this fundamental standard and raise your voice. Look at the women who go around doing the women's right movement. They act however they want to, do whatever they want to, kicking away their mothers and fathers, and disregarding their own children. There are no women's rights there. That kind of women's rights brings confusion, which is a satanic world movement. Our women's rights should correspond with the contents of the Principle.
So, you must listen to the words of your parents. You! You may say, "How come mum and dad keep calling us even though I don't want to go?" But it is to give you your rights as a man. Men should also have men's rights to be able to receive father's love, mother's love, love of brothers and sisters, and it is also men's right to receive wife's love and children's love.
Now, do you love your father? Do you love him? (I love him.) You love him. If you disagree with this, you are being unrighteous. That is the realm of Satan. This realm will be destroyed naturally. The universe will not protect you. But the principled power is absolutely protected by the universe. In ancient oriental times, there were sayings: "Family harmony which can accomplish anything" and "Three Fundamental Principles and Five Moral Disciplines of human relations." Even though history is changing, such principles are unchanging. That is why there has been education teaching the order between elder and younger, and that faith should reign over relations between friends ... and that friends are to be trustworthy.
7) The Attitude We Must Have to Accomplish Woman's Rights and Man's Rights
You bad girls, what have your eyes seen disregarding what your parents think and feel? This kind of country will perish. Teachers encourage students, saying, "why don't you go on a date?" "Why don't you party after school? It is okay to dance." These are Satan's tactics to destroy the ideal of heaven's nation by creating a mess. Do you understand? Who is allowed to touch holy men and women? In the old days, Teacher never showed his skin in public. It used to be that women did not show their skin, and Teacher didn't either. Nowadays, women show all of their body. In America, women wear mini-skirts these days. They let their bottoms and breasts show, walking along the streets with an open attitude, you bad girls. They are promiscuous. Is heaven's law working in them? There are many men who lead their nation to perish by following their promiscuous people. That kind of world will perish. Do you understand?
Well, what is Unification thought? What? (It is for the sake of others) Centered on what? (Centered on God's love) The issue is to accomplish the ideal of love. Without it, the ideal of love cannot be accomplished. A mother should even be able to write such a poem, "Oh my daughter, my eternal loving daughter," glorifying her daughter. You should be able to hear from your mother that you are externally weak like other women, but internally you are strong. How wonderful it would be if you became sons and daughters worthy of receiving such words. So, are you a pious son or daughter? What are you?
You people here, do you want to have this kind of children after you are married? How do you feel? You women, think about it. Do you want children like this or not? It is not important to you to have a good-looking face. Your face may look like a pumpkin on the fence. Like a wrinkled pumpkin. But it will be fine if you have love. Is this correct? Do you understand what this means?
If you are a woman, when you reach adolescence, you enter the realm of God's love. Then, when you come together, it is like a fire, and then God comes. God naturally abides. That is what I wanted to say. When God comes, He brings love with Him. Therefore when man and woman are in love, God loves it. Do you understand? (132-253)
You, when I look at you, I already know you well. With my senses, a glance is all I need to know you. You ... flighty people. Who would eat a radish that has been in the freezing wind, no matter how big it is? The top might have looked very green, yet when he finds that the inside is frozen, no one would eat it. Another radish, the top part might have been quite small, but if it is fresh, it is delicious. Do you understand? When you pick up a radish that has been hit by frost at the market, you will feel bad. Just by touching it, you will feel what it is like. When you lift up a frostbitten radish, it does not weigh very much.
You women, put up your hand if you think you are not a flighty person. I mean those who have not been influenced by America; for example, wanting women to be worshiped and expecting men to come and open the car door for you. This was the trend of the 70's. It was the stage of training to attend Mother. This trend was accepted for a little while, but now it has passed. There are not many days left till the mark of seventy years after the end of World War One, which was the time period for the training to attend women. People did not know the historical reason. God made everything be like this.
Women should know how to attend their husbands. Then what next? They should know how to attend their children. What is next? They should know how to attend their parents. Next? They should know how to attend the nation. It is good to attend God, but you must attend the nation. The nation is there for the sake of the world. Next, you should attend humanity. As you do this, you attend the world. As you attend the nation, you are also attending all humanity. These words have the same meaning. (133-153)
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Section 4. The Blessing of Second Generation and the Attitude to Receive the Blessing
1) Foundation of Blessing and the Blessing of Second Generation
When Jesus was going to the place of death, the disciples were supposed to go together with him. We Unification Church members are to go the way of death. You should not run away. You should be determined to risk your life. Therefore, those that oppose you are even risking their lives. There are so many people against you. The nation is against you. Everyone is against you. Even your parents, your husband or wife, and your children are against you. They try so hard to go against you that they start foaming at the mouth.
So, you must know how pitiful we have been. Your parents have set up the condition of going the way of death, to establish the foundation of the Unification Church following the Teacher. That is how your foundation, as well as your parents, has been laid, with Teacher's qualification. Do you understand?
What we have been doing is to follow the process of restoration through indemnity. To receive the Blessing, you should establish the condition for indemnity on the national level, which Jesus was not able to accomplish. So, because of this we are to go to the worldwide mission field. From 1957, the national level of mobilization began.
During mobilization, they had a condition to eat barley meals. Some even ate dog food. They went out to indemnify the mistake of Israel. The mistake of Israelite people was that they did not attend Judaism. That is why the Unification Church members left everything and set out to indemnify this. They have all gone out for mobilization. What does "precious children" mean? They should be offered for the sake of the nation. For the sake of the nation, mother, father, and children must be offered. You must know that this was the kind of activities that were done by your parents. Understand? It was not to throw away their children. It was not because they didn't like you.
They went along the bloody path because there was no other way to go to heaven. Because the established Christian Churches were not doing what they should have been doing, we, the Unification Church, replaced the Christian Churches and laid the foundation to fight for the sake of the nation, through the Blessing, even when the nation was opposing us. The Blessing was held in public, in front of the Korean population of 30 million people. If you go against the Blessing, you will be in big trouble. The Blessing is now well accepted by the public, isn't it? Japan and other countries of the world accept it. This is the kind of work the Unification Church does. In the future, when you get rich, you will be very eager to be Blessed.
Did Adam and Eve know all the theory on how to love before they loved? From now on, young school students and university students in their twenties will come in masses to receive the Blessing. Then, after 40 days and 120 days of training, they will be Blessed; then they will all become Unification Church members. Do you understand?
That is the bait. What is the attractive point of the Unification Church? Young men and women are saying, "Unification Church families have very good family lives centering on the eternal standard. Secular world families are breaking up, but when you join, there will be no more problems." Saying these kinds of words, people will crowd into the Unification Church. Later, on university campuses we will give out "Application of marriage candidate." Then many will come. You can either be Blessed now or wait until that time. Should you wait? At that time, handsome men of the world, well-built, blue-eyed, and with blonde hair will come. That may be the time of your Blessing. Would you be Blessed at that time? At that time of blessing, most of your partners are likely to be westerners.
You, and your father and mother have suffered a lot, therefore you all look the same. They have given birth to their children while being persecuted and not having enough food. When babies are born in a comfortable environment with good prenatal care, good babies are born. You were born through difficult circumstances; that is why you look like empty husks. But one thing: your origin is good. Were there enough things to eat? Teacher was hungry, so you were not able to eat a lot. You must know what we have been through.
Now that you have experienced fundraising, is not a penny precious? "Dad, please give me money." When you received the money easily, did you think, "My dad is easy to get money from? You should know that there were many people who died. You must know that the money you are spending is like blood. Teacher is fighting so hard. I don't spend money. I do not spend for myself. You know the situation the world is in. You must work hard for your mission from now on.
Korean people in America are going through hardship to pay indemnity because Korea did not fulfill her responsibility. I see that Koreans have been suffering the most in their marital lives. But Koreans should have gone this way anyhow, shouldn't they? According to the Principle, isn't it the right way to go? Abel must go through the hardest course. That is why I have blessed you Koreans, to represent the people of the world. Yet you suffer so much, and your husband does not give you sympathy; but I do. You have been through a lot. So, if you don't have the ability to be self-sufficient, you cannot survive. You never know when you might be kicked out, do you?
Unification Church members don't know of any other place to go, because they are fearful of the Principle. Americans, the ones who had left the church, are coming back, because they don't know where else to go. When you see a person coming back according to his own will) the others will also be stuck here, because they don't have any place to go to. What good things does the Unification Church have? It is difficult here. During wartime, does anyone like the war? After the war is over, there will be a peaceful world that all can enjoy. (133-148)
Why do we Bless the second generation? If their families are under persecution from the world, we should not Bless them. But from the providential view, Unification families have been through the age of persecution, haven't we? Who made it possible? Your fathers and mothers? Who made it possible? (Father) Which father? (True Parents) Who is above True Parents? Heavenly Father! Restoration is complete when you attend three generations of parents. This means, centered on the vertical parents, who are God and True Parents, you should connect to your own parents as the horizontal parents, by attending them. There are to be three generations of parents. (144-70)
2) Providential Time and the Blessing of Second Generation
Now you have become adults. In ancient times, second generations in the course of Canaan's restoration had thirty-six enemy nations of seven generations. But you do not have thirty-six enemy nations. There are seven plus twelve families to overcome, which is less than twenty families. You are to be united with those families' youths. The foundation has now been laid, which means that their parents cannot oppose them. God has made it possible. Therefore, the restoration through indemnity has been achieved substantially. Has it been in accordance with the Principle, that Teacher has been teaching or has it not? We have been fighting in this way.
So, before Teacher Blesses church members, Teacher's family should be Blessed first. Then, the destiny of Korea and the world will be bound to you, the second generation. Therefore, this time my third daughter, Un Jin, was Blessed. You should be horizontally connected to her family, to go beyond the foundation of the family level. Do you understand? Even though you have set up the realm of family blessing, you should go down to rock bottom, where Satan cannot accuse you. Do you understand? This is the last battle, the last battle.
On the tenth, it is Teacher's twenty-sixth year since the Holy Wedding. A full twenty-five years has past. It is now the twenty-sixth year. So this coming Blessing has historical significance. As we complete this Blessing, the satanic world cannot accuse our families. If we cannot have the Blessing of second generations, we will be finished, because of accusation, won't we?
Next, we will see the trend that members of IFVOC (International Federation for Victory Over Communism) and all Koreans come, saying, "Let us ask Reverend Moon to give us the Blessing." People are saying that the Unification Church marriage ceremony is wonderful. Originally, this kind of marriage ceremony should have been called "Liberation Ceremony," to be held in style! 'When this one is over, we may go for an eight thousand couple blessing.
What is this marriage ceremony? At this time of transition, the family should make a solid foundation. The second generation of Satan's world will come over the bridge, which is your foundation. Do you understand? The children of Korean leaders are gradually coming over the bridge, your foundation.
The course of restoration so far has been the restoration through indemnity in Satan's world. You climb up the hill to get redemption and to build a nation. Then, you are to come down to make the foundation, to attend Abel's family. Teacher needs for you to do this. As Teacher has been laying the foundation, it is your turn to restore young men and women through village meetings, so that you can make the path through which everyone can go over the hill. This is the time to do it. Do you understand?
So, you are now at the frontline. This year's motto is "Chon-gukchang-gun" (To build the Kingdom of Heaven on earth), isn't it? You are now building the Kingdom of Heaven. Do you understand? Who will build the Kingdom of Heaven first? You should be the first. Centered upon the Unification family of the Teacher, the second-generation family must be made. By doing this, Abel-type families can be established horizontally throughout the satanic Cain world.
Up until now, people have come up centered on Teacher. Your parents have come up with you, to now stand on the same horizontal level as Teacher. So, Teacher's family is going to make the link of balance, centered on the third daughter, Un Jin. We don't need many: twelve families will be enough. It is okay with just three families for the condition. We don't need much.
When you say, "I marry today," it does not mean, "I marry somebody." The marriage is not centered on yourself. Instead, you are making a historical revolution in the name of the Unification family. Look, you are Un Jin's elder brothers and sisters, aren't you? She is younger than you! She had no idea that she would be participating in this matching until eleven o'clock in the evening three days ago. She did not have any particular person in mind. She received the direction to come and prepare for the Blessing at eleven o'clock that night. There was no process of approval or agreement. We do not need this kind of approval or agreement.
We do this work quickly to make things crystal clear. It is not supposed to include thoughts from a third person. Whatever the decision, it must be done by True Parents, not by any third person. This should be done centering on True Parents. So I don't take your parents advice into account at all. (144-128)
3) Qualifications for Second Generation Blessing
Do you know about the foundation of faith and the foundation of substance mentioned in the Divine Principle? What is the meaning of the foundation for the Messiah? Well, who is supposed to go that course? In the Divine Principle there are details of the paths that central figures have taken. Because of that we are to indemnify all of these in our lifetime. Then you must have firm faith; but I wonder if you are all ready.
Ideally, a conscientious man who has a good personality should do what he thinks is good before he speaks about it. If you have the personality as the subject, to put into practice what you say should not make it possible for others to accuse you. Do you understand? People who are speakers should practice their speeches. In Satan's world, even though you may be involved with fraud, they do not know the law of indemnity. But in heaven's world, the law of indemnity is clearly unavoidable. (144-55)
4) The Attitude for Receiving the Blessing
Fallen man should not marry. That's why there are nuns and priests of Buddhist and Catholic faiths. Why? The first ancestors of mankind were not able to marry, so you, as descendants of thousand's of generation, can you marry? The kind of person who goes against Heaven will perish. There is a saying by Confucius, "The one that attends heaven increases, but those who oppose heaven decrease." Are you qualified to receive the Blessing? Are you? Are you out of Satan's realm of accusation? How are you doing now? Are you not hesitating with how to go the Way of the Will? Those who are like that shouldn't be here, because your conscience will accuse you.
Your eyes: raise your head. Let's see your eyes. In your eyes, how many ways of seeing people do you have? Handsome man, ugly man, plain man, do you see them in such a way? You see people in three standards, don't you? In your eyes, do you see beautiful woman, ugly woman, and plain woman? Do you see like this or not? In the time of Adam and Eve, were there handsome men or ugly women or man and woman in between? Were there, or not? (There were not) Therefore in your eyes, you should be absolute, absolute and unwavering. Handsome men, ugly men and men in between are all the same. You have distorted vision. I can see you people trumpeting to me, "handsome man, handsome man!" According to the Principle, do you approve or not approve? Please answer, do you approve it or not? (We should approve it) Handsome man, not so handsome man, or ugly man, those who view men in three standards like this cannot have a true marriage. That will be a false marriage. Some of you here are closely related to Satan.
Did Adam have the right of choice? Did Eve have the right to choose out of many men, and did Adam have the right to choose out of many women? Did they or not? (No, they did not) There was only one man for Eve to turn to, even when she was crying joyful tears. She could see only one man, Adam. Even if he had broken legs or even worse, there was only one man, Adam. She was not allowed to see two men. Also Adam, wherever he ran around, no one else was there. He could not see two women. Could Adam and Eve select whom they liked? "I don't like Eve. I want another woman," could he behave like this? If he had been stubborn, he would have lived alone for a long time and then died. Humanity would have perished. This means that his race would have ended. If you marry whomever you want to, it is hell; but if you marry not according to your own will, then it is like the Kingdom of Heaven.
Now there is only the Unification world. Even the Communists are talking about it. Try to fight the Communists in the university campuses. Communists will be pushed out, not the Unification Church. Go and fight them. Now the unified world is near. In that world you should be proud of tradition. This means to be proud of the tradition of the Principle.
You come here without lipstick on, fearing Teacher's chastisement. You look into the mirror and say, "How ugly I look! Who would like to have me!" But it will be okay as long as Teacher's mind accepts you. Teacher will choose a good groom or bad groom. If you have a bad mind, no matter how beautiful you are, through my eyes I can see you going over the hill with one eye closed. Then, how can I get a good groom for you? This Teacher is a mysterious person. Did you know that? That's why I know if a country will perish and also the world.
Well, do you want to be matched quickly or not? (Quickly) The way to have a quick matching is to have people line up in two lines, close your eyes and grab one person each! Then how can you complain? The simplest way is to leave it up to your own destiny. Shall we do it that way?
I like that way too. I will pray for God's full guidance. Everybody turn around. You don't know whether the person is a man or woman? Then men should take their watches off and women should keep them on. "Wow, this is my husband, my wife." "Thank you." Then you open your eyes. Next, it is possible that when you look he could be very handsome. The glasses of love are the glasses of harmony of Heaven and Earth. Through that pair of glasses, even an ugly man with a rough and bumpy face looks so handsome. It is a blessing to have even a pock-marked person. You have such a face for the tears of love to fill the pock holes. With that thought in mind, as you feel his face, you may feel good. The taste of first love can digest the whole universe and can do even more. (144-82)
5) Blessing, Originally Parents to Give
What is the better way to choose your partner? Do you think it is good for me to choose or for you to choose? Let us decide. If I say okay, it is all okay. Isn't that right? Do you think that you can make a better choice? Do you want me to do it in a blink of an eye? Which do you want? (I want what Teacher does) I don't have that much energy, because I had a small lunch. You've got to give me a little sympathy. Now American members as well as European members want to be blessed by Teacher. That is their first hope. Therefore, I'd like to match you second generation, too. Originally, your parents should do it for you. With the right tradition of heaven, the marriage ceremony is the ceremony to inherit tradition. Everything is to be inherited centered on love. It means that the former generation is transmitted to the next generation. Have you heard these kinds of words? "People of the old age" and "Age gap." These kinds of words are around because it is the Last Days. You should go through the transition period. (144-92)
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Section 5. Blessed Couples' Way of Love
1) Significance of "All is My Love"
Why did God create this world? It is because of love. What type of love is it? Have you heard about "all is my love"? _____! Have you heard about the words "all is my love"? You may have heard about it, but you do not know that kind love, do you? It is so mysterious and strange. It is sometimes like a circle, and sometimes long and straight, isn't it? But you, woman, can you find this kind of love by yourself? (No) There is no other way but to go with bachelors who have unkempt hair. That is the way. If you say, "all is my love," what is it? If you're receiving your husband's love, yet you hear there is a master of love, what would you feel? "Gee, how small my husband is. I would like to have God's love, all of God's love." You might feel this way. By saying, "all is my love," you may want to include God's love as your own. Everything is included in the saying, "all is my love." You should know that there is husband's love, mother's love, son's love and God's love, and that only love can hold all of this inside. It is not possible to hold everything with a wrapping cloth. Do you agree? As parents love their children they want to give everything of the world to them. They want to give, and give more. So big is their love, isn't it? But in terms of money, you look, Hyo Jin, I want to give you one million dollars, no more. That's about it. But the mind of love is limitless, unlimited, isn't it? It is so big it has boundless value. Do you understand? For this reason, those who have love own the universe. All happiness starts from love. The one who has love is the victor in any circumstances. This is the kind of definition or conclusion we can derive from love. No matter how beautiful a life you may enjoy, if you do not have love, you cannot be a victor, so you are a loser. Well, "All is my love," let's think about it, What is your name? (I am _____) That's a good name. You are well behaved. You are a single girl, so, do you want to have "all is my love" or "half is my love"? (I want "all is my love") Of course "all is my love." Even though you have a small face, you want to have love which is "all is my love." That is the way to think. (132-242)
2) An Aspect of Love
What does it mean to love? Does it mean to touch someone back to back? There is formation-stage love, growth-stage love, and completion-stage love. What do man and woman do first? They kiss? "You should learn," God said, "how to love, from kissing ... from top to bottom." Why do all men want to kiss? What does the mouth do? It provides the food we eat, the origin of life goes through it. So it symbolizes God. Also, what is the Word? It also symbolizes God. The mouth expresses the two meanings. Therefore, people kiss to express their love. You express your love to your children by kissing? Do you give your little baby brothers kisses when they are born, because they are so cute?
That is not sin. No, not a sin. That is from Heaven. (144-94)
3) Life Path of Continuing Path of Love
The reason why man was born is to travel the world of love. He is born to travel the universe of love. Do you understand? Is it a depressing thing or a happy thing? You think about it. When I was receiving the blood lineage from my mother and father, I received it in the midst of my mother and father's love. So, we loved from the time of birth. While you were in your mother's womb, did your mother and father love, or not? They did love. For nine months' time, they touched here and there. After your birth, they still loved, and when you entered elementary school, yes, they loved. How many years until university? Twenty years, twenty-two years? Six years plus three and three make twelve years, university makes sixteen years, plus two years in kindergarten, it is 18 years. In all that time, you grew up within the realm of parent's love.
Even when a father and mother love their children the most, they feel pain when they think about how they have not given them as much love as others. You don't know much about this, do you? When you give birth to your children you will realize how much your parents did for you. If, in spite of how much they loved you, they worked for the church, think about how much their heart hurt. Did they sleep easily and have a comfortable time? They might have had an unstable and uncomfortable feeling. So, you should think that your parents are great people. They were uncomfortable because they loved you.
Do you mature between the age of sixteen to twenty? Is that why people marry at the age of about eighteen or twenty? After you marry, you will love your children, and when they marry, then you can love your grandchildren. Grandfather and grandmother, they love their grandchildren more than their sons and daughters. You received a lot of love from them, didn't you? You receive more love from your grandmother than your own parents, don't you? What is grandmother's hope? To be able to sooth her grandchildren. Throughout your life, you experience childhood, youth, adulthood, marriage and then children. As you become a grandparent, you experience them again. Everything you have experienced in your life seems to reappear around you. Great-grandparents experience all these things as they see their children and grandchildren, in all directions, North, South, East and West. All descendants are intertwined with love. Then the more descendants you have the more blessing you have. What starts from love, flows out via love. Understand? Life itself is to continue the line of love. You cannot deny that you are born to love.
You women, do you fear giving birth? When you ask a woman who has given birth to children, they will say that it was like dying; but after the birth you forget everything, all at once. Also, a person who is seasick, once they have reached land they feel better almost straight away. It is the same. You will have that experience. It will be hard to carry children for 10 months, but after the birth, all discomfort disappears suddenly.
I never forgot what my mother told me. It was when I was young and my sister was about to get married. There were uncles and many in-laws gathered together for the ceremony. She said that the best time she had enjoyed was the time of rearing children after birth, even though it was with suffering. Why is it like that? When a baby is hungry, the mother's breasts swell, understand? All women are like this. As it gets bigger, you feel sick all over. Breasts are the most sensitive part. But it is hard to explain with words the joy of feeding the baby. Only the mother knows what it is like; no one else knows. When the enlarged breasts shrink, what a good feeling you have. Also when you see the baby's hands touching the breasts, mother's love springs up. So, all the emotional feelings of joy, anger, love and happiness that a mother experiences cannot be felt unless you become one yourself. That's why people say that after their eight children have left and gotten married, parents are engulfed with a terrible feeling of loneliness. It is true that they can visit each of them, if they wish to do so; but it is not easy to go many times a day because of the distance, so they always think about them. With the love they used to give, when they cannot go and visit, they pray and pray for the blessing. That is a precious mind. When this occurs, they are getting old. That's why, life starts from love and it finishes with love. This is the kind of principled and adequate way of life. That is to continue on from the physical world to the spirit world. (187-96)
4) The Way of Perfecting Women's Personality
Woman is only one half of a whole. She perfects her personality by loving a man and being able to embrace and digest all difficulties that come up. Do you understand? (Yes) You women, you should not open your mouth, but stay silent. Women have no weapon except for their mouths. Your mouth is your only weapon. Next is your facial expression. Once again, your mouth is a weapon. Do you understand? That is why women perish because of what they say. You will see that even in movies, when a woman endures without speaking a word, she is able to digest all difficulties. But if she says, "Gosh, I am going out," then she packs up and goes; later of course, she cannot return. Children will think that, "My father's persecution of my mother is reasonable." You should not just pack up and leave; things must be worked out. Even though your husband may hit you, don't pack up and leave. Instead, lie in bed and pretend to be sick. It is better to have revenge. Don't eat food for a week, but pretend that you are sick. When he comes back home, say, "Oh, you are back now?" Do it in such a natural way. Then when your husband sees that you are not eating, he will watch you for a week and then will raise the white flag of surrender; then harmony will come. What wonderful revenge. (Laughter) You can get revenge in a way that is for his sake.
If you say, "My husband is bad, he is worse than me," then you are a woman of no value. Even though he is an evil husband, with little ability, have the attitude that this gentleman has come to find me, at this historical time. He has come out, holding a flag through the many struggles that men go through to find a woman like me. You should think like this. You then meet to build the kingdom of peace and the kingdom of love together, holding the flag of peace. This is the way of husband and wife. Love should remain alive. Forgetting the pledge you have made, "Oh, you damn man!" this kind of behavior should not occur. Woman is half a circle, half a circle. Do you understand? Half a globe is what you are. The way women should go is, from the left side to the right, to complete the circle, yet not stepping over the man.
How does a woman go upward? By making the man come down, and getting a piggyback-ride from her husband. So, when the husband goes up, she can go together with him. The people of the village naturally lift a wife who works for her husband. She can even be risen up on the back of her grandfather. In that kind of a good family, because she has a big loving mind, before the three generations pass, she can give birth to a good heir, who can inherit the elder-sonship of the clan. What principle is this? The principle of three generations is working to keep things revolving. Things that revolve can have dominion over the whole. As you go through three revolutions, a new world of hope is found. By doing this, you grow through spiral form and become bigger. (187-85)
A woman has her house of love, a man has his house of love. But the house that the woman has is not for her, the house of love is for a man. The house of love that a man has is not for the man, it is the house of love for a woman. Do you understand! Do you know this or not? If you do not know this, it will be a disaster. Traffic accidents will happen.
Where is the house of love for woman? The woman does not have it. Do you understand? The houses of love are exchanged. Then why are they exchanged? By going through the process of exchange, this universe is connected. To connect this universe, it should go through exchange. It should be bound together. It is only possible by love. It is not possible by any other way. It is not possible by your way. Who do these eyes belong to? (They are mine)
You would say that your body is also yours, but love is not yours. It is your partner's. It is exchanged. Because the possession of love is exchanged, the couples' ideal situation develops. If you enlarge the point of exchanging love, it becomes an ideal spherical form. When you read the Old Testament, are there the Holy of Holies and the Holy Place? What do they mean? The Holy Place symbolizes man, while the Holy of Holies symbolizes the house of love.
Do you understand this meaning? This is the first time you have heard it, isn't it? Everybody has a Holy Place and a Holy of Holies. The Holy Place is the place you can attend God. Then, what is the Holy of Holies? It is the place you can relate with God, because only God has the special dominion over love. Holy of Holies is the place you can connect with God directly. Then where is it in the man? It is in woman's sexual organ. No one can touch this place. There are not two men who can see this Holy of Holies. There is only one, isn't there? The one who keeps the Holy of Holies must be the one to open it, but if it is stained, the one who touched it will die. In ancient times, if a different person touched it, he was put to death. That meant that the place was contaminated. Do you understand! That is why for women (Eve), Adam is the person who has the key. It is only that Eve was keeping the key for Adam. You must know this. Do you understand?
For you to make unity and love with God, you must love while attending God, do you understand? It is not merely the meeting of man and woman. When man and woman come together, representing the heavenly law, you should say, "To accomplish the ideal of creation, we would like to attend God's love. Please come here, and let us have sons and daughters you hope to have through us." Do you understand? (132-246)
5) Husband's Responsibility and Wife's Responsibility
When you become a husband, you are to love your wife, and not show your shortcomings. As a responsible husband, you should become your wife's favorite person and someone that makes your wife proud to say, "My husband is a great person." You should be this kind of person. I wonder if Mother thinks of me in this way? The same thing is applicable to the father. It is not easy to be a father to a person from a different family. In fact, you should think like this, "My son is also from a different family. I am just rearing him; he will go and work for the world." It is a father-son relationship, but in reality, it is as if he is from a different family. Therefore, it is hard to play the role of a father. The roles of the husband and the wife are not easy.
You should want to have a large family to take care of. If you look at a first daughter-in-law of a rich family, you will see that she has adapted well into her situation. No matter what difficulties she may encounter, she can handle any situation well. You need to have a lot of experience, looking after many people. When you marry, which would you choose? A husband with whom you have to stay with parents-in-law, or one with whom you do not? (With parents-in-law) Even though you stay with them, there will not be so much difficulty because of Teacher's education. Even though her father-in-law may admonish the daughter-in-law, the daughter will inherit everything he has when he dies. Do you understand? Even though her feared mother-in-law scolds her, she should overcome it without any complaint; then the mother-in-law will praise her with pleased words. Afterwards, you will receive precious things, such as jewelry, from her. Do you understand? This is the way to be.
A husband who has a bad nature may challenge his wife. Even though you may get upset and many tears fall to your chest, you can suddenly change your emotion and smile... If you are this kind of a woman, then you are a happy woman. How wonderful she is! What a beautiful moment of transition from tragedy to happiness.
When you women are going to marry, do you say, "I am going to receive love"? (To give love) No, women out in the world say, "to receive love." So, you marry to give love; but how do you give when your husband does not want it? How! If you still want to give love, he may reject you, right? Then, what would you do? You should keep on loving him, even crying. You must try to love him, even crying and risking your life for him. If you try to love your husband even to the point of death, he will submit himself to you. That is the way to be. Do not criticize all the cases you hear; each situation is different depending on how it is explained and how you interpret it.
When the husband comes back from work, she is having a nap; what shall we do about this? In the outside world, if the husband is well known, to attend him the wife hardly has any sleep. Doing her best, making her clothes look more beautiful, putting on cosmetics, waiting for her husband the whole night ... She is still not sure that she can keep the marriage going. They go through so much suffering. Do you understand? There are so many prostitutes with precious jewelry and pendants, singing and dancing, waiting to give whatever they can for your husband. Even though you have a great husband, you arrogantly say, "I want to be the only one to receive his love." Do you think he can live with you for your whole life? Look at your face, and think about where a man who can live with you for a lifetime is. How can he be with someone who has such round eyes, flat face, flat nose and lips, for a lifetime ... Till I get old ... ? How difficult will it be for him? So, you must give him your sympathy. (133-172)
6) The Way of Second Generation Blessed Couples
There is a certain way in which both of you are to go within your family. The point is not which one of you did well, or who did not do well, but the point is who loves God more. We are to follow this. Second, you are not to be habitually affected by your environment, but to develop and progress centered on love. A wife should love her husband and the husband should love his wife. By loving each other, a couple is for God and for the way of God's Will. To do his Will, you need to have a tribe, people, nation, and world. There are still things left to do, the liberation of the spirit world and the liberation of the physical world and of God's nation. Because of the fall, this has still been undone. You have to clear it. Man was thrown into the rubbish bin. Who will clear this rubbish bin? Not God, nor True Parents can do it. Because it is your own family, tribe, people, nation and world environment, which is to be connected to True Parents' blood lineage, you should clean your own environment.
In the course of the providence for restoration, who are the responsible people? You are the ones who have to stand as the representatives. You can do it on the family level and enter the realm of the blessing on the family level in God's kingdom. You can do it on the tribal level and enter the realm of the blessing in the tribal level in God's kingdom. You can do it on the level of a people and enter the realm of the blessing on the level of a people in God's kingdom. You can do it on the national level and enter the realm of the blessing on the national level in God's kingdom. You can do it on the worldwide level and enter the realm of the blessing on the worldwide level in God's kingdom.
Your position in the kingdom of heaven will be decided by centering on the content of love. In that case, you should think that for this cause you should love your husband's parents more than your husband, love your husband's brothers and sisters more than your husband, love your nation more than you love your family, love the world more than you love your nation, love heaven more than you love the world, and love God more than you love Heaven. There is no path connected without love; love is the answer.
God's love should drip into your mind and on your life. When God's love drips onto you, you have hope; but if God's love does not drip at all, you may perish. Your name will then be blotted out of the citizenship list of the nation of love. You will be eliminated because you have been disobedient to the traditional world of love. (144-131)
Once you marry, you cannot follow your own will. Which direction should you go? You must go to meet the love of God. Why was man born as man, and woman born as woman? It is because of love. Why love? Why do husband and wife come together? Man and woman are divided natures of God's dual characteristics. When they come together, they will receive God's love. So, our life is to find and to receive God's love. To meet God's love, man and woman should come together in oneness. Without it you cannot meet the love of God. Why do we need to meet God's love? By meeting his love, we can stand on the same position with God. We can stand beside God. Doesn't this sound the same to you? Centered on what do man and woman come together? It is not centered on your faces, but love. You are here for the sake of the love between husband and wife.
Why did God ask Adam and Eve to love like this? It was because God can be one with them centered on that love. If there is no horizontal line, you cannot draw a vertical line. The purpose of the love between husband and wife is to connect to the love of God.
Why do we desire God's love? Because when we receive God's love, we can go on to the same position as God. Even though you have only met for the first time, you can stand proudly together as husband and wife, centered on love. Is that right? When you are in love, two are one. You cannot run away. Both have collective responsibility. When husband and wife become completely one centered on God, they go forward to the same position as God. Not only do you reach the same position as God, but all the possessions he has, comes into the realm of your ownership. Love is amazing. It is of great value since it is able to reach the same level as God and to have ownership of everything.
What does this mean? If God loved Adam and Eve, He would give himself to them. Not only Himself, but also his love. Thereby, all the, universe belonging to God, is automatically bestowed to us. We need, the right of succession.
Man has the desire to be the best; with what can man accomplish it? It is only by love. Is it possible with money? By power? It is only possible by love. Only the love God set up makes it possible. We want to be the best because we have the original nature to be united with God in oneness centered on his love.
What is the best thing in the world? God is the best. If we reach that level, then what can we do there? You should make the whole universe yours, centered on God's love. Do you all have this desire? That desire and ambition cannot be accomplished with money, or with knowledge, or with power. It can be accomplished only by love. This is the essence of the Unification Church Principle and the origin of the philosophy of human life. People did not know this up until now. This content is simple. (44-133)
7) The Attitude Toward Life to Establish the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth
Will you marry? Will you marry or not? What about you men? Will you marry? (Yes) Do you think you need children? (Yes) Why? You need to know God's love, parents' love, and know how to attend parents. You also need to know husband's love and know how to attend your husband, know children's love and know how to attend children. Not only to give orders to your children, but you should also how to attend your children. That means you have to know how to live for the sake of others. By doing so, you will understand God's love. This is educational material. Without having children, it is imperfection. That means you don't understand God's love, that is, how much God has loved man, his children. Without becoming a husband, you cannot know wife's love. Without becoming a wife, you cannot know husband's love. If you do not become parents, you do not know parental love. God created all of these for educational purposes. Not having children means that you cannot be true parents. Is this right or not?
So, to be the best qualifier, according to the original principle, you need parents, wife and what next? You should have children for you to be accepted by the universe, being labeled, "the most worthy to feel God's love substantially." With this you can get into the Kingdom of Heaven. Without this seal of approval, it is not possible.
Please expand the love experience in your family. Do not shrink it, but expand it. For that cause, sacrifice your family for the sake of your tribe, and also for your nation. It is good to sacrifice yourself for the bigger cause. Once you have set up a good condition of greater love by sacrificing, you can be connected to everything, with the ideal realm of love. Even though you did not complete everything, you can be a qualified person to enter the heavenly nation in the spirit world. Even though you loved within a certain boundary or within a village, you can participate in the same privileges as people who loved the nation, world, and Heaven and Earth. This is because the person would certainly be able to achieve the greater love with sacrifice if there was a situation in which he was required to show his ability to do so. You should know this clearly.
You should not be arrogant or proud of being the children of blessed families. You have got to stand on a higher level than your parents. When you see men of your husband's age, you should respect them more than your husband, and think they will be loyal people to accomplish the will for your nation. Expanding more, remember that you should love all people of an age similar to your grandparents' more than your own grandparents. Love the people of an age similar to your parents' more than your own parents. Love the people of an age similar to your husband's or wife's more than your own spouse. Love the people of an age similar to your children's more than your own children.
Even if he didn't do much in the family, a man can return to the family from the level of society to be a greater person. In other words, even if the man was not capable of much in the family level, going out and working in the society made him a greater person. That is what parents want, isn't it? You must think like this. How come things become like this? Our Unification Church ideology states that the individual sacrifices for the family and lives for the sake of others all the while living with love. Then, since it states that the family lives for the tribe and so on to larger causes, you should live for the sake of others while keeping in mind that you are representing Cain's world. Everyone should have this kind of mind. Parents, grandparents, husbands, wives and children alike. We can then enter the place where the loyal people of the heavenly world abide without hesitation! Do you understand? Clearly? What is the Kingdom on Earth like? The Kingdom of Heaven on Earth is the place in which we do live in this manner. (133-138)