Sun Myung Moon
2009
True Families: Gateway to Heaven: Chapter Three, Section 4 (page 61-63)
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Love cannot be realized by oneself. Where does love come from? Love does not come from me but from my spouse. Since love comes from my spouse, I must bow my head and serve her. This is where the heavenly principle of living for the sake of others originates. We must practice the philosophy which teaches that when something highly noble comes to me, I must honor and serve it in order to receive it.
Human beings have love. However, when we are alone, love cannot manifest itself. Love does not appear when man is alone, but only when woman is there as his object partner in love. Only when an object partner in love appears, does love finally spring forth.
We say that parental love is good and conjugal love is good, because genuine love is not something selfcentered. Love does not start from me; it starts from my partner. It is important for you to know this. Love comes from your husband and from your wife, and from your sons and daughters and from your brothers and sisters. Love does not start from your own self but from your spouse. Therefore, who is the owner of love? Your spouse is the owner of love.
Where did we say love comes from? It comes from your partner. If your partner is homely or ugly, love recedes; if your partner is pretty and lovely, love advances more quickly. The way love functions is determined according to your partner's attributes: her speech, her beauty, her scent, and her taste.
Where is the base of love? The base of love is not me. The word love must be used in reciprocal terms. No matter how handsome a man may be, he cannot love if he loses his partner and is alone.
"Love comes from me" are words that Satan has been exploring. I am not the base of love. You may think that you are the base of love, but there will be no progress in the future unless such a mindset is totally dismantled and transformed.
Until now, wives have put themselves at the center, and husbands have put themselves at the center, with both wanting to be served. This has been destroying relationships. Since the basis of love does not come from me, but from my spouse, then if I am to possess that love, I must sacrifice myself for its sake.
Love always demands sacrifice. Also, love requires that we overcome. From this perspective, this is the only place in all heaven and earth where we can find the content to overcome the satanic world. God is holding tightly onto love, because it can be found only in accordance with the principle of love that places God at the center. The word "compassion" (jabi) cannot be expressed in the absence of love. The word "benevolence" (in) also cannot stand on its own. The words "jabi" and "in" are all used only in reciprocal terms.