Section 1. The Reason for Sons and Daughters
1. The Most Valuable Being
The problems of teenagers are a worldwide topic today. They are discussed based on ethical considerations, but why do they happen so often? If they stood in the position where they were intoxicated by their parents' love and by love between brothers so that they would die if they didn't see each other, what would happen? If they stood in such a position and still if it happened, let it happen. Does the problem occur or not?
These problems occur because we cannot approach the basic standard of noble values. In other words, it happens because they cannot find the value of the object world. The most valuable thing in the world of human beings is children. Second is husband and wife, and then parents. If you think of the fact that the world of man is full of sorrow, that is a simple riddle. You cannot find it anywhere other than in materialistic and emotional conditions. Seek for it, and you would not find it anywhere else. If you start saying, "Oh, my feelings are hurt, oh, I am so poor," that would violate it.
The last position you can love someone is nowhere other than the position of children, the position of husband and wife, and the position of parents. If so, who should exist first in the heart of parents as the most beloved? Who should be the first one? If you look at the matter centering upon the mother, should the child be first or should the husband be first? How is it in the society? If a loving mother exists, who should be the first one in her mind? Who is it, the child or the husband? This is the problem.
The reason I'm asking you this is, I have decided to talk about it after I've asked the question. The child or the husband? Please answer. [The child] Answer clearly. These matrons may think the child comes first. Those kind of women are those who are despised, abused and treated badly by their husbands. Who should come first? Should you love your husband as you love your child or should you love your child as you love your husband? Ladies and gentlemen please answer this question: if someone were to... The parents must come first. If there are parents and if they bear and raise children, then there would be an object of love. Because of this, if a mother with a child is forced to choose one to die between her husband and child, if she loves her child sincerely, she would choose the husband to die rather than the child. (1971.9.19 at the former headquarters.)
2. Parents as Objective Absolute Beings
If we think of how love was created in the world of human beings, we say, "The ancestors of human beings, Adam and Eve, were a couple, so love must have originated from husband and wife." This can be said about the world of human beings, but how is it about the relationship between man and his ideals? It cannot be other than the father-son relationship. Isn't that true? If you seek love it would lead you to the father-son relationship. So where does love start? It starts from the parents.
God created human beings. God did not create us to play around with. What did he create us for? As an absolute objective being before an ideal absolute being, this is a difficult concept.
A being that can be loved as an objective absolute being, a being that was designed to stand as an object absolute being before the parents is the child. The child appears, that succeeding your (the parents) own life. Next, there is the issue of how much God loved us human beings.
How much did God love humankind? God is an everlasting subject of life; He can't help loving, investing all His life. It would sound strange to say He would love even for His precious life, but he cannot stop loving, investing all his love.
So if God were put in a position where He must die for His own child, what must He do? Should the Supreme Being give up so easily? Would He just walk off, or endure the test? Please answer. What should He do? The absolute God who is the subject of love at last found an absolute son, but if He was put in a position to die for him, would He say, "Oh, I hate to do this, I'll go away" or would He die instead of his son? (Die instead) For what? For us human beings. Human love originates from God's love. God would even die for us human beings. He would go that far. Because of that, how much should we love God? We should love Him even more than our own bodies. (1971.9.19 former headquarters)
Children growing up are a God, a living God. They are trying to connect to the love of a living God through their fathers and mothers. So if you cannot do the same job you have no power to connect to true love. Even I have such times. I give True Mother an explanation and advice in the position of a teacher.
My language and attitudes change at such times. But when the children come home, we must go back to the original state, just as it was. You must not let the children see their parents quarrel. Children without prudence fight all the time, but as they grow older they should learn naturally to know that they should not fight and follow the tradition of their parents. (134-224)
The God of love has created a masterpiece called humankind, so would He leave it and go off somewhere to make and meet a new object? As these mothers here should know, when babies are born, not long after that they start to smile, don't they? They start to smile after 3 months or so. So if the baby smiles its first smile, a women even forgets to eat and she would surely announce it to her husband. Isn't that true? She would say joyfully, "Honey, our baby smiled."
That is the sort of thing you tell to someone closest to you. And after the husband has heard it, would he be happy or upset? (He would be happy.) That it how it is.
The more God saw Adam and Eve the more He adored them, so how would He feel, happy or not? He must have been happy, right? Even if they stood still like a stone when God was angry, still God was happy with them. Even if Adam and Eve looked upset, still they gave God joy.
Having children is like that. When Adam and Eve cried, saying they hated everything, God still loved them. God would even dance around in joy. Why is that? When they talked in a way that drove God crazy, if God nods they would too.
If God puts some thing in their hands they would hold it tight, and seeing all this God will go crazy with delight. If some artist's sculpture receives the president's award, people gather around to see it displayed, don't they?
Even a curved stone is made such fuss of by crowds, so if your work of art talks and even speaks of your own wish, you cannot go anywhere and leave it, can you? You would miss it, and how wonderful it seems.
Ladies, don't your babies seem so wonderful the more you took at them? If it doesn't seem wonderful, you are not doing your job as a mother. When a baby wakes from its sleep and cries for milk, would the mother rush to it feeling glad to see it, or feeling upset? She goes to the baby in contentment to see it. And then she opens her breast and plugs in the "hose of life" for her baby.
Isn't that so? When the baby drinks its mother's milk, would the mother feel glad or not? She feels satisfied. Even we humans are like this, so how would have God felt looking at Adam and Eve? God must have felt a hundred times, a thousand times, ten thousand times, a hundred million times happier than ordinary people raising children.
God loved Adam and Eve more than you can imagine. Did you know this or not? How much would have God have loved Adam and Eve if he loved them so dearly? If God laughs once the whole universe laughs. When God dances the whole universe dances. Must He not do so? Who would speak badly of Him? When the father feels bliss, looking at him would the son cry or be happy just like his father? (Feel happy.) Therefore, the happier the father feels, so does his son, and dancing in joy would not be a problem at all.
When we look at it from this viewpoint, the conclusion is that there is no object for God other than human beings. Do you understand? He would not feet happiness without human beings.
So that is why humans are the objective absolute being before the absolute being. That is the way it is.
3. Children are the Center of Hope
When Adam and Eve reach completion, what is the age of completion? When we become centered upon love, that is completion. I think you understand the meaning of this. When Adam and Eve become one, when they reach the stage where they can love each other, everything is understood. You can go over there and love, come over here and love, you can go between these two and love.
Now then, where is the point that God, Adam and Eve can rejoice the most? In this world of creation, in this ideal world of creation centering upon love, where is the point where you can feel delight, like a fruit being picked? The point which God, Adam and Eve can be happy all together is the children.
If so, what is God's greatest purpose? (Children) Isn't it Adam and Eve? (No) What is it? (It is the children.) So why must it be the children? Why do you love your sons and daughters? How are you going to answer this question? Mothers and fathers fight with each other but they are happy after having a son.
They might find fault with each other, but after having a baby they love each other. Why is that? Why does the couple fight but still love their son? At times they argue. They must come to hate their sons and daughters as well, but why do they still love them? Because they are the center of God's hope and their fathers and mothers. A peak of hope, you must know they are the peak of hope.
The hope of what? The hope of heaven on earth, heaven in heaven, starts from here. That is why God and parents and children all can be happy in this position, every one of them.
So that is why parents cannot help loving their children, forgetting about themselves. Even if the husband and wife really love each other, which couple would be happier, a couple with children or without children? If you have no children that's incomplete work. An incomplete couple, isn't this so?
4. The Greatest Prize in the Universe
You can say the same thing about the children. Maybe you don't understand since you have never fought, even giving your life up for your children, but God has lived thousands of years and sacrificed many ancestors to find one family and your sons and daughters were found like a candle of hope through this one family. If you recognize that sons and daughters bring each family a unification point of divine purpose called the four position foundation, you must appreciate your sons and daughters more as time passes. If parents have that kind of heart, the children would never starve to death. (33-177)
Isn't it wonderful to sleep and awake in the morning, work together your whole life with your dear husband? If you live with that kind of love, then even if you have to live alone that is no problem. The universe never invades such a love. It is in the position to gain common assistance from the universe, so the heaven and earth always protect it. So we must conclude that a person centered upon this love is not a person of misery at all, whether in this world and even in the life after.
Now then, we must give these two people in the universe, who became one in love like this, a prize, but what is that prize? It is the children. Do you understand? What is the biggest award in the whole universe? It is not becoming President. It is not getting a Ph.D. or winning the Nobel Prize. It is sons and daughters who can be born between a loving husband and wife. You should understand that there is no grater prize. That is why sons and daughter are so precious. You want to love them more than yourself, more than your husband. They have such power. (129-56)
5. Children are the Fruit of More than Love and Life
Why do you love? (For your children.) I want to ask you one question. There were God, Adam, Eve and their child, but why was God so eager for the child rather than Adam and Eve? When you hear this kind of story, there are people who think, "Oh, that sounds strange. Your partner must be the best. Why does Rev. Moon speak of children?" Nobody asks this kind of question.
Now if you look at this pattern, parents and children are vertical, and husband and wife are horizontal. But I said children are more important, and why is that? (Writing on the board) Now it is understood. Husband and wife meet through love but for what purpose do they meet? (For the child) Here, when men and women come close, from here sons and daughters of hope come out, and at this time God's wish is granted. That is why God's purpose is children; Adam and Eve's purpose is children. Everything is for this purpose. (118-229)
So, let's take our mother and father for example and talk about it once again. In order to be born through your mother and father, first love between your mother and father must blossom.
An object relationship towards each other must be set up. And then in that environment of love, the harmonizing point of life, life should be connected. The husband and wife should not dislike each other, and they must be ideal. So a couple's love is established, when they become one through love like this. The husband's love is my love, the husband's life 'is my life and the husband's ideal would be my ideal.
On the other hand, it is the same with the wife's love, life, and ideals. So at this point, where all becomes one unified position, is the child. That is why the child is the fruit of the father and mother's establishment and investment. They are the mother and father's extension of life. Also, they are the embodiment of the ideal of their father and mother. Those of you who have loved and borne children would know. You would say to your dear son, "This is the substance of my love, an extension of my life, the embodiment of my ideal. It is the second me." From the start the children are born with love and life and an idealistic base. The more the parents look at them the more lovely they seem, the more they stir life, and appear to be an ideal object. (169-79)
So then why do we need God's love? God and I are in a father-son relationship centered upon God. We must go forward to the position of God's son. We need the deep heart of father-son. The father-son relationship is the greatest secret position in the universe. The greatest secret position. The child is the first base where the love of parents can be connected. In other words, the child comes as a fruit of the beginning of the parents' ideal.
That is why children are the fruit of love, life and ideals, and the second object that can be connected directly to the parent. Other than the father-son relationship, no relationship, not a couple nor brothers, nor any kind of friend is allowed. In the universe, only the father-son relationship exists. If you look at this at this viewpoint, God and I, the father-son relationship is the vertical center, the core content made visible. This is really amazing. If, in any case, this was to be actualized, there would be no problems in the universe. Absolutely no problems. You ought to know this. (69-186)
6. Children are the Object of Parents Delight
Originally the ancestors of human beings should have completely united with God, centering upon God and His heart and love. And because God created heaven and earth to complete the purpose of His heart, he had to transfer, with this object of heart, heaven, earth and all things, to his dear sons and daughters centered upon love. Since God did not create heaven, earth and all things for Himself, but for Adam and Eve, joy could not rise from Himself but from Adam and Eve. Ladies and gentlemen, don't all parents in the world look at their children and rejoice? Delight is only found through an object.
When is God most happy? Please think. To restore the whole world today and when He has completed the restoration, that would be his happiest time. These unmarried men and women here -- those of you who have not been married and raised children would not know, but those people who are parents would surely understand. If parents expect their first baby, they would pour all their love and sincerity into the baby. You will never know the joy of holding a baby in your arms unless you become a parent. Would the mothers and fathers want to show off the baby or not?
Now, when we look at it this way, what is the most valuable thing in the universe? In other words, what would be the most valuable thing for God and Adam and Eve? (The children) Yes, that's the answer. For Adam and Eve, the most precious thing is not money, or any thing else, but their sons and daughters. Their dear sons and daughters. (92-216)
Today, when you look at the mothers and fathers of this fallen human world, even though there is a saying that it is foolish to boast of your children, carrying around a homely looking baby, they would say, "Even his face is so unique." That is no mystery. These parents here with children would know. Even if the parents have scars on their face, and even if they are tough looking and their baby looks more like a gang member, still they would hold their son and would say to him. "Oh, my sweetheart."
Ladies and Gentlemen, what are the most precious things out of all the valuable things in the whole world? Well, when you look at the world today, people don't even know if God exists or not; so leaving God alone for now, what is the rarest thing in the world? Just look for the most precious thing. "The children?" The children. What comes next? Your husband or your wife, your spouse. What comes after that? Parents. There isn't anything more precious. To people who do not recognize the value of this, everything seems meaningless.
7. Children are the Companion of Their Parents for Life
Love is the most important thing to a man, but what is love worth if it changes? It should not change. It must be everlasting, absolute, and unchanging.
When you look at it from this viewpoint, how can mothers and fathers not help loving their children? They cannot help loving. They must go forward to a position where they can recognize their children as their own point of life. Why is that? See for yourselves. You must understand that our sons and daughters are the companions of love. Do you understand what this means? Where do sons and daughters come from? They come from their parents' love. That is why sons and daughters start to accompany us at the point where, in this world of existence, their parents unite in love. Do you understand this? When you say, where is my starting point, where did I come from, you were born at the very place where your parents' love blossoms to the greatest degree. You were born at a place where the flowers bloom with ideal beauty, not only with beauty, but with a fragrance which God, your parents and the whole universe loves.
So who was the one sewed as one oat seed? At the very place of father's and mother's joy, who was born as a man or woman as a synthesizer of the universe? The children. Even though you are an old man or woman, you are the power of life sewn in the fragrance of the blossom of your parents' love. Isn't that great? It's great? So we find a theory that says such a place where among such blossoms of life, the fruit of love is sewn must be a place which the whole universe solemnly watches.
The explanation of this is, if God's love exists, life starts from a place where you can accompany God's love. Also, if there is parents' love or love between husband and wife, life holds a supreme right to accompany that love. That is why man was designed to begin centered upon this love of constancy and unity, having this kind common content and affinity. So can you cut off such a relationship between parents and children? You cannot. How can you? Because they are the subject of your life and love, cutting this relationship off means denying yourself and your love, so you can never deny this first love. So parents can even give their own life up for their children. We found this theory. Is it understood? [Yes.] (83-162)
You have children. What are they? We people are the children of God. Sons and daughters are born from their parents' love. That is love, isn't it? So, you attended the very place of your parents' love. That is why it has value. The value is right there. You are an attendant of love. Do you understand? Your life is an accompaniment of your parents' love.
Can you cut that kind of connection with your own power? [No, you can't.] That is why you must know sons and daughters are proud beings who cherish life within their parents' love. (105-75)
To give an explanation of the child: he is the one who has the right to attend the love, which holds the universe together, like an adhesive. It is like, "I know now what all of mom's and dad's love was." Since you are at the root of father and mother's love, you have the right to pull your parents along where ever you go. Isn't it so? That is what sons and daughters are like. Do you act like this? That is why if there is anything wrong with the daughter, mothers and fathers would say, "Where is she?" and if the son is missing the parents will look for him. Why? Since there is this adhesive agent of heavenly principle, it can never be cut off. It only stretches. Nobody can cut it off. (83-216)
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Section 2. The Reason We Need Children
1. To Take After God
We must solidly know the value that human beings had originally, as if they never had fallen. Originally, God will come into our minds and become the center of it, and become our body, making an internal-external relationship. So even if man stands in a position akin to God, God has created the universe and has the ability of creation, so man would want that ability too.
In order to own God's ability of creation, man must resemble God. If you look at Genesis, Chapter 1, verse 27 it says: "God created in His form." In other words, "God created human beings in His own form, a man and woman.
So when you look at this inductively, God is made up of one man and woman. God is the original being, so the resultant being must resemble its root. That is why any kind of seed has two pieces covered up with one skin. Beans look like that. They resemble God's form. If you sow the bean, two leaves would come out and step into a new stage.
Since God creates with two natures in Himself and since we humans also create, through a position where man and woman vertically unite and, centered on love, have children, we humans also have to stand in a position where we can create such masterpieces. We are talking about creating children. God granted us the ability of creation and at the same time God gave us the love of children to let us experience the joy God felt through creating the universe.
That is why love does not exist without parents, without an object or without children. So only a person who has completely received such love can stand before God, who is the subject of love. Since this is the fundamental rule and heavenly rule, in order to pass this exam, you must have these qualifications.
Without having these qualifications, the universe would not accept you and you will be dismissed from this world of existence, you will taste pain and sorrow. You must understand that God's love is not only the greatest thing a human being can hope for, but also it is the original homeland and origin of happiness. (54-24)
When you have eaten breakfast and when you call your child, who represents the world, in good spirits and when you hold and love him, you must love him with the idea that you have found a child who represents the whole world. You must consider it that way.
Even now I do the same. When I go somewhere, I'd hug and kiss the children I see. That became part of my daily practice. Also when my children greet their father in the morning, they kiss their dad. When they go somewhere they will tell me, and whenever something nice happens they will come to me.... You should develop that kind of thought. If you do so, God will watch you in joy.
You must raise your children for God and the world. Your sons must go that path. Did you have children only for the sake of yourself? It is for the sake of God. What is the reason we raise children? It is for the sake of the world. (47-170)
Why does a couple need children? God's love is made of three stages, but without children it will not be three stages. So in order to keep the balance of the centerline, the standard of children must go down and touch the ground. By doing so, the whole comes together. This is the fundamental rule and principle. Can you understand this? So under these rules, a father standing before his son represents God. Because the father is the substance representing God's internal and masculine figure, he becomes a God of sons and daughters. The mother must become a God to her daughters. (173-207)
2. In Order to Experience Vertical Love
I, Rev. Moon, am the person who wants most in the universe to be born in and swim and live in this kind of love. Since Rev. Moon is in such a position, if I grab someone, I can hold him and take him to the headquarters of love. You can just cross this bridge and go there quickly, so the members of the Unification Church are anxious to make use of me. And that is true.
Why do we like our fathers and mothers? We love them because we want to make use of them and find the love of a higher level. That is good. Mothers and fathers tell their children to love their parents. The reason for loving your parents is to build a bridge of children and to seek the love of the world. This was not known until now.
Why do animals called men need woman and vice versa? They need each other to love. To love means to build a vertical bridge between humankind. To build a bridge! Brothers caring for each other means building a bridge back and forth. And why do we need parents and children? To build a vertical bridge. Isn't it so? Vertical relationship, above and below relationship, back and forth relationship, left and right relationship.
When we make an affinity, with what do we make it? We make it with love. In order for man to make a commitment to the universe, it is impossible in one settled place, so it must be magnified. That is why you want to be a global person. Even those splendid figures would want the best sons and daughters in the world, rather than have below-average children. (136-120)
When you say you live for your spouse, you are not living for the sake of your spouse. You live centered upon God's original, idealistic true love, in the essence of it. You live centering on that kind of love. You are living for and representing God. Isn't that wonderful! You want to live with God but He is invisible so you live with your wife instead of God, and vice versa.
Talking about husband and wife is not enough. Love between a man and a woman is inadequate; this is only horizontal love. You need the love of a mother and a father, parents' love.
You must become a parent. You can never know vertical love unless you become a parent. After experiencing horizontal love, why do we need sons and daughters? In order to experience vertical love. People without children do not understand vertical love. These kinds of people become failures in the human world. That is why we think couples without children are unhappy. Do you get it? (Yes.) Why are they unhappy? In the position of parents, when you go up to a higher level there must be love you can give and take, below your level. By doing so, above and below can be connected.
So as the way you love your husbands and wives, the more you love there are no complaints in the work of living for the sake of others. So in the world of living for the sake of others, even if the husband loves his children more than he loves his wife, the wife cannot complain saying, "Oh, that man only loves his sons and daughters and doesn't care for me day and night. Why does he act like that?" She does not complain. She is happy with it, and says, "Oh, I'm glad. He loves them more than me. That's the way it should be."
3. For the Sake of the Expansion of the Four Sides of a Relationship
Love between parents and children comes from the parent, and the love of parents means the love of a father and a mother. We receive the love of our parents from the moment we are born. And as long as our parents exist, in childhood, in youth and manhood regardless of time, we receive their love. As we grow up with this parents' love, it will lead to each of us expanding the horizontal life of husband and wife. In order to carry on love between husband and wife, you must have children and love them.
When you look at it this way, the first ancestors received God's love and became a couple, and everything consisted of even numbers centered upon love. When we look at it from this viewpoint, people who receive parents' love and people who grant it are all brothers.
Without children, parents cannot know what love is. You can feel true love only with an object. Brothers might grow up without experiencing parents' love, but when they grow up, marry and have children, they would understand parents' love. In other words, when it starts from parents and goes one round and then goes back to parents, then it's understood. So you cannot be called a mature person without having children.
The question is where we should decide the standard of a mature and completed figure.
You may see the parents themselves are mature, but unless they are horizontally and vertically mature, they cannot be called perfect persons. When Adam and Eve receive God's love, mature, and centering on God unite horizontally; in other words, when they enter a realm where they can unite with each other in the opposite position, the love which God has purposed reaches completion.
When Adam and Eve unite centering upon God, a certain "shape" is formed. But to form a plane shape you must definitely have children. So this makes a horizontal relationship, but you must understand it cannot replace the vertical relationship.
The love of a husband and wife is one and the love of parents are vertically more than two. If so, the question is which is more important; even though the love of husband and wife has an object relationship, because it is one, the vertical love must be the center.
A vertical relationship is extending love between parents and children. Parents, husband and wife, and children are the fundamental rules of a vertical relationship. When all of it comes together, it forms one family. When you expand a couple's love, it can be connected to parents' love. If the children become parents after becoming husband and wife, their love also must become the same size, the same length as the love of their parents. If so, what becomes of love between children? With what standard should we love? The brothers love as their parents do. (66-119)
Nowadays, we humans want a greater person, better people, than yourselves... If you ask young women, "What are you going to be?" they will answer, "I will become a beautiful young lady with virtues, and marry a husband even more magnificent." They will think like that. And if you ask young men, these youth here, "What do you want?," they would answer, "I want to become a more valuable and handsome man and marry a more splendid woman as my spouse." These are inevitable and common desires of men, so we see it.
When we look at it this way, if the two can become a couple that can unite perfectly into one, we can say that they are a true and precious husband and wife. If so, this valuable couple should not stop with themselves. To expand a better environment standing on an environmental position, they will need children, wouldn't they? Like you usually see in the movies, when his dear wife becomes pregnant, the husband rejoices without noticing. Well, why is he happy? Because it means the expansion of himself, and the expansion of a base that connects him to a larger extent. Since it is needed, we desire it.
Through having children we connect to four sides. This sphere, where the couple concentrated to love each other, expands bit by bit to a diffusive realm of love.
When you have a family, can you be satisfied with only the family? The family is not sufficient. It will want to expand. Here we need a tribe, a race, a nation, world, and if there is spirit world, we also need the spirit world. And if God exists behind the spirit world, we need God as well. It extends like this.
Anything expanding does not mean the reduction of itself but the expansion of itself, and it does not mean the incompleteness of itself but the perfection of itself. So the more it goes up to a higher position, it will hold a more solid value of the higher level from a "plane" value. Solid value is not a stagnant value but a "circulation" value. When it moves its action is with purpose and has content, its movement is not purposeless, but makes action of purpose. Whatever direction it takes, it has to fit the purpose. Everything has that sort of thought. (110-68)
When God's and our hope and conditions meet, what will God do? He will let us inherit all things. God wants us to become this kind of substance and own all things, and to have sons and daughters in such a position and to let the children inherit everything. Only a person like this can find and restore back and forth, left and right, above and below.
Any person without parents, spouse or children would be sad because centering on these elements, we must hold heaven and earth. We must be able to say, "Heavenly Father is my father. So the whole universe which He created is mine." We must be able to say, "His heart of historical hope, the realistic circumstances are mine, and the future he wants to create is mine." (12-150)
4. Because the Fundamental Rules of the Universe Are That Way
Does everyone, whether they are a man or a women, need children? "Yes." Why? To make historical tradition continue. You must understand that since this is a fundamental rule we follow it by getting married. And love also tends to shrink after two people have met and married. You must know that.
It is a fundamental rule that it gets larger, then smaller. It shrinks. So how will it balance? To make the opposite figure, on the other side, the children grow bigger. You might not like your husband, but you love your sons and daughters, don't you? Yes, when children are born through parents' love and centering upon them, would they say, "I like only my mother?" They would say, "I love my father." They would say, "Father! Father!" The reason we need husbands and sons is to harmonize. Only with them does everything rotate centering upon parents. We are saying that by doing so we must go back to a place where our parents await. So for this reason, it will lead to the conclusion that we definitely need children.
So, human love reaches its climax like this, and next it goes down. It will fall down. From here the children climb up through love. That is why we should have children. Do you understand? That is why this is plus and this is minus.
We cannot say, "Let's go!" heading for plus, true love. Also, if this doesn't exist here, we have no energy to say, "Let's slide down, looking at minus."
Here we love mother, but we loved father more.... They would say, "We loved father, so now let us go down and love mother!" So the children can be happy by holding both mother's and father's hand. Why can they be happy in that way? Because the fundamental rule of the universe is like that. (129-127)
5. To Pass the Exam of the Spirit World
There is hope in the future when people of all colors seek true parents. So marriage is also conducted to fit in to that standard. You should understand this. From now on you must be proud of your marriage and family. You should boast about it. They are more than we can hope for.
Everybody should participate in it. Then it spreads to a thousand, ten million and becomes my tribe, race, and nation. According to this principle, it enlarges and race, nation, world are formed.
What did I say the first thing you should be proud of is? First God, and then your heart, your body, your love, and finally your family. There is nothing more than this in the world that you can be proud of. You cannot exchange this with anything else, even for the world. And we own this precious thing.
You should understand that family is a requirement. Through family the vertical and horizontal can be united. It is connected through the family. That is why sons and daughters are a "must." And there also must be parents. There must be an object, this is the principle. Parents, children, and husband and wife are all required. Do you understand? [Yes] So we must all act. If we have these three elements, wherever you may go, even in the spirit world, you can pass! You can pass wherever you go. (162-54)
In order to walk this path, just man and woman will not do. There must be children. Why? When you go to the spirit world, the gates of east, west, south and north are still not open. Only by connecting children. You can create the substance only by marrying and having children like God created Adam and Eve. (181-82)
You must know that your husband, children, your parents and grandparents are the three guiding angels of heaven. Your grandparents, spouse and children are the three angels. They are all couples, so they are the representatives of three angels. So mothers and fathers learn from the grandparents and children. Do you understand? Husbands must learn from their wives and vice versa. This is a fact, and the tradition of a family.
The reason we have sons and daughters is to learn the way of loving the world. Children connect to the world and future. If you have no children you cannot be connected to the future.
God has given us children as a tool of education. And ancestors, grandparents are there for the education of the spirit world. If you are dutiful before your grandfather and grandmother... The spirit world has that system. It is to be educated about the spirit world. Please understand this. (135-120)
6. It is a Blessing to Have Many Children
If you took at the Bible, you see there are lots of stories centering on love. Did you ever see parents and children becoming unhappy the more they love each other? No. Because there is this rule, if you sacrifice love you will gain that love. That is why to sacrifice for God is drinking up God's love. (33-331)
You must live a life of gratitude. How do you appreciate something? When you see someone with many children, you may say that this person has a lot of hardship, but you know this person enjoys the happiness, which a person without children has never tasted. People who have raised children know this. When you compare people who have raised children and someone who has not, people with children enjoy life no matter how their children rise and falls, but people without children cannot do that.
We enjoy life through children. Even if the environment is complicated, you cannot be unhappy. Then you have hope for tomorrow. When you have many children, which other people do not have, they spread out to each field with four sides and you have new hope, so it will be easy to overcome difficult circumstances. (35-283)
Because love is precious, it expands from an individual to a family, to the tribe, race, world and still spreads out further. We enlarge it bit by bit through the generations. So how far will it go? To the world. Do you understand what it means? This is why having many children is no misery. The tribe that has many children will conquer the world. (162-53)
I said having many children is a blessing. Why is it a blessing to have many children, and why is a person with many children fortunate? Since they grow centered on the realm of heart, they can go up to a higher place near a standard of participation in the Kingdom of Heaven. There will be these orders, and it is all public. (171-21)
Is it better to have few children, or many children? (It is better to have many children.) Why do we want many children? It is because by having many children, we can fit in with the characters of all four sides, and we can learn to control it. And by having many children we can come near the ideal shape of the universe and fit into it. So that is why we want many children. (12-1128)
If you ask God, "What is your wish?," He will probably answer. "My wish is to save the world and humankind." And when you ask, "When you have saved them, what will you do?" Will he say, "To make them work like horses and collect taxes"? "No, I am saving them in order to make them live a life of gratitude for thousands of years centering on infinite love; that is my wish." The more sons and daughters parents have, the more the heart of love will expand in them.
Their character enriches 360 degrees in every direction. So the conclusion is, people who have and raise many children must be good people, even if they try not to be.
My mother had lots of children and, while raising them, she had many difficulties and ups and downs. So if anything happens to somebody else, she doesn't think it's their own business. She helps this person, thinking of her own children. When you have a more heartistic expansion, then you become a good person.
Do you like having many children, or less? Let me ask you one thing. Do you like having many children or not? (We like many children?) If so, go ahead and have many. So, even the offspring of the fallen world like having many children, so is it good or not, good to have many sons and children who can receive plenty of God's love? Everywhere you go, you will dance in joy. (82-319)
7. There Cannot Be Birth Control in the Unification Church
1) The Perfect Kingdom of Heaven Starts with Children Centering on God
Adam and Eve connect to a vertical center. When you look at it like this, in order for Adam and Eve to be connected vertically, they are required to be like this, and they must not stop here.
This must be attached. But if there are no children this does not connect. Do you understand? So when you look at it in this point of view, this is the Four Position Foundation... Now, if you have no son, there will be no vertical standard. This is all lost. Vertical and horizontal standard will no t be connected. This cannot be.
So when you see it, this point becomes Adam and Eve's, and also God's wish. Okay, how about Eve? Adam and Eve could not stand in this position. A vertical person receives God's love and develops it horizontally. They extend it horizontally! And this is what a parent is. This is God's love, and this is parents' love. Vertical parents' love is God's love, and horizontal parents' love is your own parents' love. (Pointing at the writing on the board) So, from God, Adam and Eve, love must be passed down. It must be passed down from God to Adam and Eve, and to the children. Crossing three stages, and the same here. Parents' love, then couple's love, and children's love. It's all the same.
So where is the Kingdom of Heaven? The question is: From where does the Kingdom of Heaven start? Of course it starts from Adam and Eve, but precisely speaking it starts from the sons and daughters of Adam and Eve. So through this, horizontal Kingdom of Heaven and vertical Kingdom of Heaven are completed. We see it this way.
If you were born in the world without the fall, you would surely be born as a son of some parents. Since the vertical Kingdom of Heaven is completed at the generation of the son, the Kingdom of Heaven develops for the first time when we become one with Heavenly Father centering upon our own parents. (92-217)
2) The Purpose of Love Between a Man and a Women Is Their Children
What is the wish of an individual? When you think about it, there must be the wish of a man and the wish of a woman. So what are their wishes? Their traditional way of life and hope would be, while they grow up, to be mature and get married. That is the path of hope that life can go and many people have followed it.
So what is the purpose of two, man and woman, meeting and loving each other. Where does the purpose of love dwell? If a couple loves each other centered upon themselves, where does the purpose lie? Do they hope the result of it will influence only themselves? Do they love each other only planning to leave love for themselves? We don't think so. When we love we are hoping for something where the result can be connected to the whole. Isn't that children? Why do we want to have children? Why are we not satisfied with centering upon a substance that is closest to us, but try to leave children behind? When we talk about having a small number or a large number of children, the more a person stands in a noble or a good position, his desire is to leave behind as many offspring as possible, centered upon his precious position. That is the nature of human beings.
Nowadays, people are talking about birth control. In other words, we can say that even though our original nature wants to spread and expand our offspring centered on family, which is the origin of moral principles of humanity, birth control prevents it.
So in this era of birth control, do they do it because they don't want children? There is nobody who doesn't want children. They must be the same as other people in wanting children.
If they have a son, they should also want more children. In other words, they would want children who can be a leader of other children. Isn't it true?
With any parents, even with evil parents, they have that kind of hope for the children? Isn't that love? When we think about this question, all people want their children to be the best among all children rather than their children following other sons and daughters. (64-167)
3) Children Are the Gift from God
When I look at the children in my family, the younger they are, the smarter they are; they are geniuses. So if there is a gift that God grants to us, should we prepare a big bag or a small bag to put it in? Do you want many presents or not? Wouldn't you receive many? (We want many.) What is that gift? (Sons and daughters.) So, my mother would have had something like 20 or 40 children. (Laughter) God would do so. He wants to give us 100 or 200 children, but there is a limit to the number so in the end He will give sons and daughters that can be worth 40 children.
What happens if you don't have children, if you just cut off what God wanted to give you? If you apply birth control and just cut off children which God planned to send as the sons and daughters that can conquer and rule all of heaven and earth.
God calls, "Rev. Moon, Mrs. Moon, come here," and says, "I will grant you these blessings." That's it. I think Western people cannot understand this stuff. (Laughter) Among those people who appreciate it and those who don't, through which kind of people will God expand the base of love? (111-79)
When you see the children of our Unification Church, the more babies that were born, the second child is better than the first, and the third is better than the fourth... They will have better children, the younger they are. I am sure it is a fact. They will have better children, even their hearts. God has prepared for children that can rule the world and can study how they can see God on TV.
When I go to the spirit world, would humankind and God praise Rev. Moon, or not? If you think about this, can you, or can you not apply birth control? (You cannot.) So even if the satanic world applies birth control, we should not do it. Even if you are very pretty and rich, if there is a husband who receives God's love, you must follow God's will and follow the peaks of the heart. Even if you know you will have hardships and be treated contemptuously, but if you are able to give birth to sons and daughters who can rule the world and love heaven and earth, you must say, "Yes, I agree. I will go that way."
4) Birth Control
I am going to forbid birth control to the women of Unification Church. I will say, "Go ahead and have many children." As I have said, "Have many children" after I came to America; I had to show a good example, so I have said to mother, "Have many sons and daughters." Now how's that? (123-276)
Out of Jacob's twelve sons, Joseph is the eleventh. If Jacob applied birth control, could Joseph become Prime Minister? (Laughter) The more time goes by, the better children you will have. The further you go, they will have more fortune of the Unification Church, the path of fortune in the Unification Church. It is true. After you have gone to the spirit world, and God says, "I was going to send, through your family, men who can control the universe, but you have cut his throat," what will you do? If you bore them, they will feed themselves even if you don't eat. Even having ten babies a day is OK. Have children. (Laughter)
You must not use birth control. In the satanic world they will have more birth control and in the church, we will have lots of children. That also applies to True Mother. We have decided we should have at least twelve children, So we are heading for that goal. Do we have many? We now have eight brothers and sisters, so that is close to twelve. If we quit having daughters and have only sons, we might have fifteen or sixteen. So when I gave Mother this task, she was worried. She even said that she wished she could expect the second baby before giving birth to the first one.
Even mother is doing this, so what right? Do you people have to use birth control? If you were granted seven sons, you must be grateful. They are all grown, and aren't they all strong? If they have nothing to eat they would even eat their own mother's bones to survive. And they should be like that. Recently I have heard reports that people of our church live in a crowded one-room apartment with many children... Yes, I have heard of this. Two rooms or one room? (Three rooms) Well, that's quite a few. Are they all small rooms? I have heard that the room is packed, and so on... But those are the best times. (79-142)
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Section 3. The Foundation of the Universe - The Father-Son Relationship
1. The Root of the Universe is the Relationship of Father and Son
What is the center and the foundation of the universe? A son reached the realm of mystery and prayed to God and asked this question. He answered, it is the relationship between a father and his children, in other words the father-son relationship. People who do not understand might think we are talking about relationship of our fathers and mothers, sons and daughters, but we mean the relationship of God and man. (19-160)
So I have, within my prayers, reached the deep realm and struggled and fought to find out the secret of the universe, the root of the mystery of the universe. What is the foundation of the universe? It is simple. The answer turns out to be the father-son relationship. So what is the father-son relationship? We cannot explain it leaving love out. What are we talking about? We cannot explain the father-son relationship without talking about love. Ordinary people would think it is simply about the father-son of men, but since I knew it was about God and man I have found the answer and the theory. (144-250)
When you enter the land of the deep and pray, man is the center of the creation; but what is the center of the universe. You will find that the answer is the father-son relationship. What is the center of the universe? In one word, the father-son relationship.
But ordinary people think it is about their own parents. They think it is about their own father and mother, centering on moral principles. It is wrong. When we look at it from a solid point of view, the conclusion is that the place where God and man becomes one centering on the deep heart of the father-son relationship is the center of the universe. (48-209)
What is the root of the universe? Parents and children. Parents and I, the father-son relationship, is the foundation of the universe. God is the father and I am the son. Sons and daughters. The last foundation is the father-son relationship, and the last goal is the same. That is why we must find it.
I have even overcome the way of suffering in order to find it. Even when put to Satan's test, the father-son relationship can win over it in seconds. Even when we enter the satanic world and sleep there, we must not forget the father-son relationship. So you must understand the fact that since we lost this relationship we are resentful and furious. (12-258)
You do not know the spirit would, but you must go in to the mysterious realm and really ask God, "What is the truth of the universe? If you have created men to destroy them, you are a cruel and evil God." When you ask him seriously, the answer would be different.
The truth of the universe is, when you ask what is the basic point of the great principle, it is the father-son relationship. That relationship is not about your parents who gave birth to you in the fallen world. When the horizontal love of husband and wife becomes absolutely one with God's ideal love and flourishes, and when heaven and earth shakes with the fragrance of that love and adds up God's love, the position of sons and daughters are completed. Sons and daughters can sing of happiness, and sing of a love which can praise the hope and everything of sons and daughters.
It will not end there but a solid love will be added to a precious gift of love you own, and the whole universe will swell up. You know balloons? Like when you blow up a flat balloon it will grow big. In the same way the universe swells up and even if all things go in it, it will become a universe that all man can be happy with. A power of love emerges that can satisfy all things. When you think about it, doesn't it feel good? (101-34)
2. The Standard of the Original Relationship of Father and Son
If, in our world, God exists in the position of parents... Where is the supreme position where the deep heart of man and heaven can be connected? No matter how high we climb and search, since God is a parent, man must seek the position of the child. That is why Christianity calls heaven Father. And heaven calls us humans, children. It is about the father-son relationship.
So what is the standard of that the father-son relationship? When we ask, is it below or above the line of the fall, it cannot be above or under it. It is in much higher position, the father-son relationship.
Isn't it so when we look at fallen people today? Even when we talk about love lower than the line of the fall, the father-son relationship suffers when children are not dutiful, so imagine how it is when parents who have never fallen had undutiful children, how sad would they be? When we think about this problem of love between the father and son around us in daily life, we can understand the background of it.
So didn't God intend to love his children with love above the line of the fall? So how strong will that love be? We find the conclusion that no one has stood in the position above the line of the fall, so nobody knows about this.
We human beings fell at the completion stage of the growth stage. So didn't we fall in the position where we cannot attain the position of perfection? Aren't we set apart from a position where we can experience God's ideal elements? So when we think how it was when we did not fall and receive these factors, how much higher is the position of relation between God? Isn't it a position we can't even imagine? If so, the so-called dutiful sons and daughters, about whom it is said, "The boy of that family is a dutiful son! The daughter of that house is a dutiful daughter," when we think of those people, is there any one who can stand before the original parent and come close to their heart? Is there anyone who can stand in the position of true children? We know the answer is that there' has been no such person since history began.
If so, when God wanted to give love at the amount of 100, was there anyone who could receive all 100? There was no one. When God loved, there was no one who understood this love. Nobody understood but he couldn't help but love. But we must understand how miserable he must have been. (62-20)
3. The Substance of the Father-Son Relationship
The father-son relationship represents the vertical side. So that is why love between the father and son never changes. Isn't it so in the history of human beings? Love between husband and wife has a nature of four sides since it is a connection of the horizontal side. That is why parents can never abandon their children and children never abandon parents. (145-275)
Where is God's love found? Does it exist between brothers who love each other? No. Also, God's love is not created centered on love between a man and a woman. God's love is found in the love between a father and a son. The flesh and blood must be connected. In order to create a tradition that lasts for eternity, flesh and blood must be connected. That is, a vertical relationship must be formed.
It is the vertical relationship that receives God's love, so it cannot be any other than the love between a father and son. This love has no distance. In this vertical relationship there must be one center. There can only be one center. The center is in the best position. If there were two centers, in this world, there would be a fight. (28-169)
As for the child, the joy of being with the parents must be a joy that represents the world; and as for the parents, the joy of being together with their child must fulfill a desire that represents the world. When we think about the father-son relationship, it must be the foundation of the universe. We can see that the root of joy sprouts from here and if there is sorrow here, there cannot be a more sorrowful position.
Even if they loose everything in the external world, there is still one position where parents can be happy -- with their children. Isn't that the most important thing? The parents' desire is to show off their relationship with their children to the whole world.
So, if this is the case in the relationships of humankind, as we can imagine it, even through the relationships of fallen man, isn't it the same with the relationship of heaven and earth, God and man? We know that, as there are moral principles among men, there exists also a moral principle of heaven. If there is a deep heart among men, there must be a deep heart of heaven. As heaven is above and earth is below, and as parents are above and children below, they are in "above and below" relationships.
So, people on earth are in the children's position and heaven is in the position of parents. The direction of love between the heart of parents and the heart of children is from subject to object. Parents try to love their children and children try to receive love. If not, parents would stand in a position where they can receive love and children must then stand in a position where they can love their parents. If there is a limit to a heart that wants to give and that wants to receive, love cannot exist.
We have experiences in our families and in the life of the heart where, even when there is a giving heart, if something blocks it we cannot receive love even if we want to. That is why heaven is above and earth is below. The parents exist above and the children below and it is the same with God and man. God is in the parents position, so he exists above human beings. That is why God loves man. (62-18)
Centering on the relationship of God and man where God is the father and man is the son of God, when someone says, "He looks more handsome than God," to a man, is God happy or not? (Laughter) If God feels bad, he is no better than man. No better than fallen man. (Laughter) Don't you think God would surely be happy? So that is why we need love.
Do you want to be better than God, or not? Please answer. [We want to be better than God] (Laughter) We are sorry, but to be honest, we want to be better than God. In ancient times, in the Far East, the son greeted his father every morning and evening. But what happens if the son starts to think, "I wish I could be in my father's position and my father in my position"? It is possible that he thinks, "Why should my father always be above me and why should I be in the lower position?" Why not? The above and below relationship is good, but if it is fixed you might not like it. The son would feel better if he knows that he can be in the position of the father, one day. But he feels bad if the father always sits in the upper position and himself in the lower position. Don't you think so? That is possible.
The father-son relationship is an above and below relationship. That is why, when the son says to his father, "Father, give me your position for once. I want to be in your position," the father cannot say, "No son, I can't do that." Because God is absolute, you must consider this as well.
So, it cannot be a problem for God when he thinks, in what position should he place man? God put man in a position where the rank is above and below but, in real life, also in before and after, and in and out relationships exist. You must consider these elements when you think about the answer to the question, "Where should God exist?" So, in order to be in an in and out relationship, where should God exist? God is a shapeless God, but in what position should he be with man? He cannot always be in the above position. He cannot always be in the upper position. That is why we need the father-son relationship.
Centering on the father-son relationship, the father is in the upper position and the son is in the lower position, in other words, an above and below relationship. When the son says, "Father, I want to be in your position," God cannot say, "No, you can't," otherwise it would be a problem. God knows this, so he put us in not only an above and below relationship, but also in an in and out relationship, which is equal, like the mind and body.
First, God creates his son; second, he becomes one with him and third, he even wants to give man his ability of creation. Is that why God wants to own? Everyone here, young or old should have the experience where, if you parents own something nice, you want to have it. You want to make it yours. So, when you look at it this way, what your father owns is yours too. (53-225)
4. Alteration of the Father-Son Relationship
Although there is a strict order in the above and below relationship of parents and children, when you see it centering upon love, it is not difficult even if the vertical order changes to a horizontal order. Isn't it so? The basic rules are that the father should order his son, but when the son calls, "Father, please come here," he cannot but go. Even if a two-year-old daughter calls, "Daddy, come here," he has to go. Even if this position is a crossing point where the vertical standards change horizontally, there would be no contradiction or collision. We can praise this precious standard as the standard of happiness made only by love. (49-54)
Parents only concentrate on raising their children until they grow up. The more children grow, the more they stand in an object position to their parents. Isn't that right? That is normal. If a child grows up, would he still think, "Oh, it is best to stay in my parent's arms and drink my mother's milk"? He must work. The above and below relationship changes to an object-partner relationship. (42-110)
The reason parents are noble is because they live for the sake of their children. That is why the position changes later. Old parents are like young children. When the children were young, the parents are their teachers, but when they become 70, 80, they are like children. Then, the children must stand as the parents. The children must love their parents in exchange, since their parents raised them. That is the principle of heaven and earth.
It is the same in the family, between parents and children. When the parents are wrong, the children must correct them and vice versa. They should complete the common purpose.
When the children are young the parents dominate them, but when the parents grow old, sons and daughters dominate their fathers and mothers. Is this true or not? (It is true.) The principle of heaven and earth is like that.
5. The Relationship of Deep Heart Between Father and Son
You were born of your parents. So, what are the object partners you can speak of? Your parents, aren't they? The first words I spoke when I was a baby were mom and dad. What more could there be? The parents I called were the parents in the original position. That's interesting. Everyone, call your parents a thousand and ten thousand times. Try to find the taste of your parents. The taste is everlasting. If you call your parents, wouldn't they answer? They are meant to answer. This is the nature of the subject-object relationship.
If there is an absolute object, there is also an absolute subject. If this is a basic rule, the parents are meant to answer your calls and that will make both you and your parents happy. If you call your parents a thousand times and there is no answer, would you be happy? The same can be said about seeking God. You must live with God like a young child spending time with his parents. (29-138)
When you think about your family, you cannot judge if it is good by only the good environment or by the nice house. On the contrary, even if the environment is bad and the house is shabby, still if you make it a place for peaceful living and connect your standards and everything in your life to it, that is a good family. The heart of the parents and children is to live for the sake of each other. This becomes the basis to judge happiness in our daily lives because it is the origin and the homeland of... Why is that? Because it is the one and only relationship of love of parents and children which nobody can invade. That is the object of our yearning in our daily lives because it is the motivation for love of parents. (29-17)
The relationship of heart between parents and children never changes or fades even if history goes on and the days go by. It will get stronger day by day and as time goes by; rather than fade, it concentrates.
When a son sends a message to his parents, or vice versa, when they are apart, that message seems to be a stimulus that can fulfill all hope. (51-71)
6. The Distinctive Relationship of Father-Son as One Body
Although there are many parents in the world, my parents are related to me in the absolute age of history. This is a fact. You cannot change that fact even in exchange for the whole of humankind. Can you? And can you change it in exchange for God? Not even for God, and God cannot change it either. (74-18)
So, from what do you judge the father-son relationship? We judge it from the blood lineage. Today Christianity vaguely calls, "Heavenly Father." Why do they say Father instead of God the Master? Within the word "Father," love and blood lineage exist. Isn't that true? To become a direct descendant, you must be one in love. Become one through lineage. Blood consists of life. Isn't that so? You carry life that succeeds the tradition of your parents. For what? For love. (142-267)
Nothing can break the father-son relationship. Even with atomic bombs. This relationship can never break or be set apart or be abandoned. (21-69)
You might think of the husband and wife relationship as a destiny, but the father-son relationship is not a destiny. It is an unchangeable fate. You must understand this. It is difficult to explain the difference. Destiny can be changed. It changes. Fate does not. If you were born as sons and daughters of a particular father, it never changes.
If so, which of these two relationships is more vertical and which is more horizontal? The father-son relationship is vertical and the husband and wife relationships horizontal, since it cannot be changed. That is why people who claim that the husband and wife relationship is primary are a horizontal flock and those claiming that the father-son relationship is primary are a vertical flock. (169-59)
When we say, "Love of heaven does not appear from the start, but appears when a man and woman mature with their love, in their adolescence, and that it is the love of a husband and wife," we say that love starts in the middle. So, who is the object form of the absolute value standard, which could start at the very beginning of creation? The father-son relationship.
So what is the father-son relationship like? What relationship centers on love? What is the father-son relationship? If the love between parents are the cause, the children are the fruit and that is how we see it. The result and cause do not start far apart. The result and cause start from the same position. So what does it mean when we say I am the result of parents' love? I am the one who appeared as a result of the position of present love of my parents. So the child has the equal position of result and cause made one in love.
So who am I? I am the one who appeared as the result of my parents' love and the one who attended the original start of love. This can never be set aside since the cause and result started from one place. The origin of the parents' love, which is the cause and my love of life, which is the result, are one. So, when we look at it from that point of view, we can say, centering on love, father-son are one.
The phrase "one body" cannot exist without love. I have had parents since I was in my mother's womb. From when I first appeared in my mother's womb, as the result of love, the love and attention of my parents has concentrated on me. Why is that? Because I am the fruit of love. So we are born from love and receive life from love, and after growing up with love, we meet our spouse. (127-13)
Is there such a phrase as "father-son" in one body? Is there not? Isn't there such a phrase? There is "father-son" in one body. What comes next? Well, ladies want to come first, so... Wife and husband (Laughter) Husband and wife in one body. Next, brothers in one body. We must know that. Nowadays people only know husband and wife in one body. In the fallen world that is the only purpose. So they only know husband and wife in one body.
Nowadays, father-son in one body is not known to come before husband and wife in one body. That sort of phrase does not normally come out. Husband and wife in one body, father-son in one body, what comes next? Brothers in one body? Brothers in one body. So, if my brother is in a position to die, I must die. Does that sort of thing happen or not? It does. If cutting off your arm will save our brother's life, you should cut it off.
Somebody in our church has said that his son's eyes are disabled. His son is blind. So he went to a famous eye doctor and said, "Doctor, will you do me a favor?" "What is it?" "I have two eyes, they are very good, and I want to have one of them taken out. What do you think?" "Why do you want one taken out?" "I have someone I want to give it to." "To whom are you going to give it?" "I want to trade one of my eyes with one of my son's." Through this story we can be sure that fathers always want to give something good to their sons. That is father-son in one body. When you sleep in a cold room, doesn't your belly hurt? Your belly feels the cold first. [Yes] If so, which part of your body do you cover with a quilt? [The belly] Yes, we cover our belly. And when your feet feel cold, you move your quilt from your belly to your feet. That is one body. One body acts to correct any small fault in it, and in order to do so, it sacrifices one of its parts. That is, it works to put the part back into its original position. (53-30)
7. The Exact Content of the Father-Son Relationship
Once I experienced the mysterious realm and sought what was the foundation of the universe, the answer from God was, "the father-son relationship." That is the conclusion.
Ordinary people would think, "that would mean my mother, father and me." In short, we tend to think it is about our own parents, but we are talking about the relationship between God and man.
What is the exact content of the father-son relationship? Where is the best place that a father and son can meet? The center where love, life and ideals cross, the center is their meeting point. So that means love, life and ideals are all in one place. If you go there, God is love and I am love, God is life and I am life, God is ideal and so am I. So the place of original relationships and unification is the position of father-son. This is a sure fact. (69-78)
When you are born, first your parents should make a relationship of love and establish the subject-object position. Then, life and thought must coincide with that. The ideal must be the same. Where is the point of coincidence, the meeting point of love, life and ideals? Where is this place in the universe where the creator and creation can relate and bond themselves? If that portion is the ideal standard, where would that position be? It cannot be anything other than the father-son relationship. That is why Far-Eastern thought is amazing. It is simply amazing. What I really treasure is love. Then life. Isn't it the same with you? Love is the best thing. Then life. And then ideals. (69-186)
The purpose of will is to find an ideal. Through what would an ideal be accomplished? When you eat all three meals a day, that is not the purpose of an ideal. So what is the purpose of will? You cannot be satisfied with eating three meals a day. And even for people who like to drink very much, that cannot be the purpose. So what is the most important thing? Love. That love is not temporary nor cheap, that can be bought with a little money. That love is substantial. When we analyze this substantial love, we find that there is no revolution. The love parents give their children is true love. That is why the love our ancestors gave their children and the love we give our children is the same. There is no evolution in love, nor an end. Love has no need of revolution; love is pure.
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Section 4. Love of Parents
1. The Heart of Parents' Love
Those of you who have children would know. You want to feel happiness and gain fortune through the children you have raised with such sincerity. If there is a standard whereby they can rejoice and receive good fortune, you want to pass it on to them. So even fallen man has such hopes; they want their children to receive praise from many nations, for generations. Day and night they worry about and protect their children since they might hurt themselves. Even the heart of fallen parents are like that.
It is the heart of a mother feeding her baby that even when the child urinates, excretes and smells, the parents forget it all with love. Even the heart of a fallen parent is like that, so imagine how earnestly God wanted to love Adam and Eve through the original heart. Everyone here, please think about it.
Every parent has this kind of heart, like when you hold a baby in your arms and raise them, you sing for them in their cot and wish every luck for them. If you child has a fault, the heart of the parent aches to the greatest degree. But if this is settled, joy accompanies you. Even a fallen parent's heart is like this, so how would the heart of God be? (20-209)
When a child commits a crime and goes to jail, the parents would not say, "Thank God he went there," but shed tears, forgive him and love him. That is the love of the parents. That is why parents' love is noble. Do you understand? If the son was given the death sentence and it was time for him to die, and if the mother knew all this, she would wail. If there is any way to save her son, she would try it; she would give up her life for him. Since they have this everlasting love, the love of parents is noble. Is there, in the hearts of parents, the heart to forgive the son who is going to be hanged? If that mother's love is true, do you think God's love would be no better than that, or better? We instantly admit that God's love is far better. That is why it is a natural conclusion that God's love surpasses parents' love. (91-148)
If any of you has lost a child, you don't need any explanation to understand how painful it is. Even the dull mind of fallen people is like this, so how painful it must have been for God, whose heart is pure and who is the original body of the substantial world. (127-35)
The heart of parents makes them beat and loose their own body, sacrifice themselves and even die for the sake of their children. (50-282)
Parents feel ashamed of themselves and resent themselves. They would say, "Forgive me for not being able to do much as parents." (69-192)
When parents love their children, do they write down everything they bought for the children and say, "It cost this much." When parents love children, they want to give them more than a prince or princess of the world has, and they are sorry that they cannot give enough. Parents are always thinking, "I want to give more, better things to my children." Do you understand? That is why we are fond of our parents' love. You must know this. Even when they have given, they still feet it was inadequate. Even after they have loved their children, they feel it is not enough and want to love more. Because of this, the nature of parents' love is everlasting love. Do you understand? That is the traditional motivation of the start of love. (60-84)
2. The Heart of Parents Rises Above Time and Space
I think you have seen in the movies, even in this fallen world, when a father and son separate, still, years later, they get to see each other by some chance. So, isn't it the duty of parents to overcome the pain and try to search for their son? The child doesn't understand it, so he doesn't know about it.
So when you think about these things, when the parents finally get to meet their son who is now 50, would they say to him, "Didn't you ever think of me, not even once until now?" Or would they say, "Let's talk about the past days"? History makes you overcome these things. What rises above history? A deep heart. A deep heart makes you overcome your personal problems.
When the son recognizes his father, he forgets about his pride and runs to him calling, "Father." Dignity and appearance we can live without. The parents and children will call each other's name out loud and would hold each other. Isn't that so? Or would the parents say, "Wait a minute, let's think about it first"? Would they say, "Now you must think over the hardships you gave us while we were raising you"? Would the parents say to their child, "Since we have shed many tears while searching for you, you must do the same before seeing us"? They overcome all of this. The thing that makes the parents overcome these things is not the children nor the circumstances. The only thing that makes the parents overcome these problems is the parents' heart, their love towards their children. Only this power of love can rise above history. Nobody can deny this. (6?-28)
Even in this fallen world, when the dear son is abroad, would the parents always think about him or not? (They think about him.) Do they still think of him even if he is not with them? These ideas are very religious. Now I have said the parents think of their son even if the son is not with them. Through this we can see that the mind is not limited by distance. So, how much would they think of him? When the parents love their son, how much would they want to love their son? This much? Would you say, "I married this man and maybe he has a value of ten. The child cannot be better than the father, so maybe I'll love the son for the value of nine"? Or would you think the child will be better than the father? You want to think the child is even better than heaven and earth. This is contradictory. No matter how small this being is, if you have a relationship of true love and want to love it, in your heart this object grows as an object of love. (48-211)
The power of love penetrates everything. Only the power of love makes it possible. The power of love of the parents rises above distance. It overcomes distance and connects. Maybe you have seen such a scene in the movies, when the child has an accident, the parents see it in their dreams and wake up in shock. They make the connection through a thread of love. Through the bond of love, you see a reflection of the actual occurrence. Not only the reflection, but the actual bodily interchanges. That is why you can experience the real body of God, through this thread of love. This is an amazing fact. (162-286)
3. The Flow of the Fathers' Heart
Maybe you have seen this kind of thing in society; if there is a disabled son of some parents and that son could not understand his parents' love, how miserable it must be for the parents. Even if the parents give love at the amount of 100, or even one, the son would not understand it. Still, the parents cannot help loving him and when they see their son not being able to understand and receive what he is given, the parents who loved the son at the amount of 100 feels far more sorrow than the amount of love they have given. When they try to love their child with one love, but if they do not have a child who can attend that love, there would not be such a tragedy as this. It is truly depressing.
When the parents want to give love 100 percent, if there was a son or a daughter who can receive more than that, how happy would the parents be? They will feel more joy than if they had given a thousand. Also, we know that the opposite can happen. So, in this viewpoint, parents with children who cannot receive what their parents have given them are miserable. If that happens not once, but forever, those parents must be sad and miserable parents, really unimaginable (62-19)
When loving parents look at their children, and one of them is sick or disabled, the high and deep love of parents also flows to the disabled child; that is the principle. Is that wrong? The heart of the disabled child is like a glen. The heart of the parents is like a high peak. So the parents' heart flows from the peak to the deep glen. (147-166)
There is nothing bad in the hearts of parents living for the sake of their children. The more worn out the mother's clothes are, the more miserable they are, the love of the mother flows down the valley of tears. (173-263)
Even if the children had some fault, loving parents would not point it out at first. They want their children to inherit only the good points. Even if the parents hit the child on the cheek to scold them, they feel sorry and regret it; that is their heart. They did not hit the child because of the bad incident. If there is any small way in which the child has taken after the parents, the parents appreciate it more than the bad point and on that basis they try to understand the child; that is the heart of parents raising children. (16-172)
Which side would parents take when brothers in one family fight with each other? There are no parents which take the side of a child who raises his fist first for his own desires. That is why, throughout history, the standard of education and moral principle was to be good. (31-235)
So, if there was a son born into a rich family with the largest farm in the world, when he rides a horse every day, that is not enough to make his parents love him. It is not like that.
Parents love children who help the parents when they are doing difficult physical work, even if he has no occupation and hangs around the house all the time. That sort of person is a wise person. It is like the position of Esau and Jacob. (33-324)
God does not want to put us in a low position, even if we are inadequate. Although the child is inadequate, the heart of parents wants to put them in a higher position. In this society, a friend or a teacher might want to put us in a low position if we are inadequate, but God would want to put us in a higher, more noble position. Inadequate people might think God pays less attention to them, but God worries more for inadequate people. You must understand this. (24-161)
4. Parents' Love Is Perpendicular
Parents' love is perpendicular. Love only crosses the shortest distance. So, the perpendicular line where we can meet God is far, but this is a parallel line. This line I'm talking about, this line from parents loving children must be parallel. If this goes wrong, everything breaks up.
Yes, even the universe cannot obstruct parents' love. That is why the same thing can be said with the way of a dutiful son and the way of a dutiful retainer. A dutiful retainer walks on a parallel line centering on the perpendicular, although the position is different. Do you understand? (186-36)
When you see the relationship of a man and a woman as horizontal, the relationship of a father and son is perpendicular, on the perpendicular line. So that is why, in Far Eastern thought, they say the father-son relationship never changes. That relationship is forever; but the object relationship with your mother, that can change. It changes according to the perpendicular; if the perpendicular becomes east west, this relationship with you mother becomes south north.
However, the essential perpendicular never changes. Since the father-son relationship is the one and only, this relationship is an obligation of the heavenly principle. Not one being in the universe will deny this. They will affirm and admit it. There will be a natural affirmation. That is why children must obey their parents' words.
Even if the mother or father was a murderer and burglar, they would never say to their children, "You, be a murderer or a burglar when you grow up." Even if the parents are Mafia, they will say to their children, "You must not become a Mafia." They will try to isolate their children from bad people. Recently I was in prison, but even evil parents would not say, "You must become a bad person like me" to their children. So we say to our children, "Do not be such and such a person like me." Now, all this... Did God create Eve first when He created the universe? A simple question.
When we see from this viewpoint, if God is a father, He must first create a son who is the vertical standard. Only when the vertical standard is created, the horizontal standard can be decided. First the vertical standard and then the horizontal. This, in other words, we can call women. So you might say, "Why did God create men first? That is unfair." But that is wrong. The perpendicular concept must come first. That is where God invested His creative ideas and His ideal purpose.
If so, what is the standard of the origin when God created the universe? That was love.
That is why humankind yearns for the love of their parents from the time they are born. Also, the parents yearn for the love of their children. They cannot leave love. If they do, then pain comes.
That is why, when we are young we follow our fathers and mothers wherever they go. We serve God the most when we are children. God appears to be our parents. The greatest teacher appears to be our parents. We feel happiness from them. Why? Because it is centered on love. When we leave love, there will be a breakdown.
What is parents' love? That becomes the root in the perpendicular relationship. That is why the above and below relationship is always the perpendicular relationship. It is not curled up, but is in a straight line. If it is curled up, a third standard exists. That is not from natural power. If there is a third power, it curls up.
5. The Origin of Parents' Love
Where does the origin and motive of parents loving their children begin? Love between a man and a woman changes, but when we think why love centering on children, who are the result of the love between a man and a woman, does not change, it happens because this relationship is composed of a certain flow of vertical origin. We are sure of that.
If so, who is the subject of that vertical love? We answer, God. We need someone as the absolute, never changing subject of love who can continuously seek the object from an original position. That love is not what husband and wife can do what they want with. That love cannot be cut off even if you want to. Man, as a horizontal being, cannot touch it. That is why, when parents love their children, it is everlasting and unchanging. Could that ever change? (48-155)
Nowadays the idea of individualism overflows in the world. Children say, "Our parents are so old-fashioned and they will not understand us young people." Children change like that, but the heart of parents does not. Even if the children call them old-fashioned that will not make them say, "So, you are acting like that, ha? Then I will do the same thing to you." The love of parents is not like that. That is the same with animals. They rise above their own life when loving their cubs.
So, where does such love come from? If I am a being as a result of some object relationship, it was created from a relationship with the same first force. That is not what we human beings can touch. That is why, well, have you seen anyone shouting, "We must revolutionize parents' love! Let's do that." The history of humankind says, "I am a parent, but I will not love my children." But parents cannot but help loving their children from the moment they are born.
All beings, no matter if they are intelligent or not, cannot help but love their cubs and children. When we see parents loving children by investing their life and wanting to love, we can say that parents' love is unchanging and everlasting. When we seek some absolute nature, it is not absolute itself, but the closest thing to it before man. It can be the one and only foundation. There must not be two of them. It can be that one foundation and when we think about it, the love of parents has been the eternal foundation in history.
Now, where did such parents' love come from? It did not come about from their father's suggestion or learned from an object partner's advice, nor from their own idea. It naturally happens. Love is composed naturally. (48-156)
6. The Specific Nature of the Love of Parents
Parents become the subject and average before their children from all sides, but they are weak before their love. When love plays a central role, we can say there is not authority of parents before love. On the contrary, it becomes upside-down. Even if it become upside-down, the parents do not lose their authority, but they can still have the original attitude in that upside-down position.
This is why we see, even if we go down centering on love, we are not going to be blocked there, but will go forward heading for eternity in that position. (45-149)
When parents love children, they do not love them in a certain, fixed form, asserting themselves, saying, "Parents must be like this," but they do not love children from the authority position. They love their children even to a higher position, from a place that forgets the authority of parents. We can say they truly are parents with such a love, standing before their children.
If parents own love, they do not have it for themselves, but for the children. That love of parents does not exist only for the parents, but for the object of parents. It is the same with children. When children love their parents that love does not exist for the children, but for the parents. The word love is not composed when centering on ourselves, but when we respect the object partner more than ourselves. So that is why when we say we were born for love, it has the same meaning with saying we were born for an object partner.
When we see children saying, "Mother is mine forever," that mother is happy giving the children her own flesh and blood. When we see this, what is the point of it? Sacrificing for the sake of others. When we say we like our friends, it is because we sacrifice for them. We are happy with giving to other people. We are happy because we sacrifice for the sake of others, wanting to give more even after we have given away our most precious possessions. We do not give wanting to have it back again, but we give feeling ashamed that we have given so little. That is parents' love. But the love of children is not like that. That is why the love of parents and the love of children are different. Parents feet sad even when they are giving for not being able to give something better, while the children think, "I am a dutiful son," and feel satisfied. That is why the love of parents and the love of children are different. Children say, "I did this much, but what have mom and dad done while I did it?" There is a limit to the love of children. They cannot overcome this limit themselves, but the love of parents can win over this limit. (36~290)
When we love our children from the position of parents, or between husband and wife, or brothers, the person in the position of subject must always give first. Even if the children do not notice it when the parents give, still that natural love flows with joy. (66-123)
Parents love children, but they do not love to receive love in return. They love to make a tradition of loving the descendants. (130-275)
It is the same with the relationship between a father and son. When sons and daughters are young, they sit their children on their lap and adore them, but when the children grow up, that is not possible. But the love of the parents does not end even if the child grows old. That love appears more solidly. This value of love, which the parents would not even exchange for their own life, has more weight and value as the days go by. If the son discovers such value in parents' love, he is a dutiful son even if he is not called so. (33-86)
Now then, could the heart of parents loving their children change easily? Can it evolve? Can the love of your dear one change? It cannot evolve. And, when you have found such true love, you do not allow it to change, but do you want someone to assist such a love? Do you want that? It cannot be added, nor taken from.
Would you say, "Oh, my parents are so ugly, so I will exchange them with your parents. I will do that today"? [No] That is why it cannot be added to or subtracted from. That is why it is good in and of itself. Only itself. (66-158)
7. The Sphere and Depth of the Love of Parent
Love cannot be accomplished alone. Without life, love cannot exist. When we think about the father-son relationship, we see a relationship of love. So, unless we have life and hope, there cannot be a relationship of love. We cannot have love without the connection to life.
That is why the connection of life must be invested in love. Also, this problem of whether we feel more value of this love or not is decided by how much life was invested in this love.
For example, the parents' love towards their children does not consist of the usual relationships of daily life, but it arises from the bone. The parents have this love, which they cannot forget or cut off. That is why, as long as they live, parents love their children. When they feel they are related to the child with their own life, love arises naturally to the hearts of parents. They do not love thinking "That child is mine so I have to love him," but because their own power of life is connected to the child. They cannot but love him. We feel these facts strongly in our family life. (32-15)
When we ask what sort of character God has, He has a heart of giving, giving for thousands, ten thousand years and still wanting to give more. That is the reason we seek Him. If He was a God who says, "This costs this much," after he has given, we would not want him.
Why must all people follow God in joy? When we think why we must like God, it is because he gives and gives to all people while still feeling ashamed of not being able to give more and promising to give something even better in the future because He has a surplus in His heart.
So when we are with such a person, we are happy even without food or the good life. When you stand in a position where you cannot even eat, the hope for the future becomes more vivid. The meaning of this is that you will have more determination for the future.
When you have parents who feel ashamed of not being able to give more, will the child run to the mother and hold her tight? Will the child hold only her body? How grateful must the child feel? That position is the place where they can shed tears for the future together. In that position you do not feel sad together, but you see the hope for the future as a stimulus of the present and have determination, encouraging each other.
So the reality that appears is not miserable. The position where you can praise the values of daily life and keep the stimulation for tomorrow is attained in this sphere of love. That is why people who live in this sphere are not unhappy. Do you understand what this means? (36-291)
Parents invest everything for their children. They are the same as God on this point. Now, what does that mean? God does not invest for Himself. God does not exist for Himself, but for his object partner. If God says He exists for Himself, that is not true love. When you invest everything in your children and say you want to be with them, then, in that position, love, life and hope will be accomplished. (69-62)
To parents, children are everything. When I was in the Hungnam prison, it took twelve hours to get from Hungnam to Jong-ju by train. In order to get a pass to go there, my mother had to wait before the communists every day. And I was known as the champion of beating the communists, so many of the leftists hated me and I guess many of them bothered her about bringing things to me. But even in these circumstances, my mother went through all sorts of hardship to visit me once a month.
When she came, she prepared all sorts of things like the powder of roasted grain, thinking that I am hungry and suffering. Well, do you think there was plenty of food in North Korea? I know there was not, but in this difficult circumstance, my mother would prepare food and bring it to me. When the prisoners met the visitors, about 30 people met them, and there were prisoners who were often visited by their parents, whereas there were some who were never visited.
Wanting to hear that someone from your home has come to visit you, the world would not understand that. You do not understand it, even if I explain it to you, as long as you do not experience it. How sincerely you yearn for it! I know these facts well. How glad I was when my mother visited me once a month.
When she gave me the powder, she told me to eat it alone and not to give it to anyone else. (Laughter) Now, is she giving me good advice or not? Is she giving me good teachings or not? [She is not giving good advice] No? From her point of view, she is giving good advice. But from my point of view, it is different. I cannot take the powder and walk past my colleagues, fellow prisoners, alone into the room. It is also written so in the book. My feet would not move. I could not eat it alone. So, if I am going to give it away, I would rather give it all and say, "Here, enjoy it." (177-246)
8. The Force of the Love of Parents
Parents hold a bond of love with their children throughout their whole life and have hope in their hearts even if they have shed tears and blood... and their appearance might be miserable.
Even if there are difficulties, they have the power to step over it and overcome. Isn't that so? (Yes, that's right) It is right. (175-209)
So, whether you perish or not, the position you can take is one of responsibility, rising above the conditions of prosperity or perishing. Where is this class of love in human society, where you can remain, taking responsibility and rising above the problems of life and death? Where is that starting point? It is not in the love between a man and a woman, nor in the love between brothers. It is not love for the nation or the world. When we seek for it, we will know that it cannot be but in the parents' love for children. This is the answer.
So when we ask, in this world, is love centering on the father-son relationship absolute, we find problems. The one in the predominant position is parents' love for their children. When we look at the question of love, that love is the origin. We cannot ignore it in our human society. The emotions of human beings are centered on the side of feelings, but the starting point is from there.
If so, is that starting point absolute? This is the problem. How were we born? We consist of men and women of God. So the sons and daughters were born of the love of these men and women.
If so, where this love came from would be the problem. Isn't that so? Mother and Father are a man and a woman, and under their love in an object relationship sons and daughters were born. Centering on those sons and daughters, the relationship between parents and children is formed. If this love is stronger than the love between a husband and wife, then we must affirm the dialectical logic. We must affirm the theory of evolution.
Children are born when the love of a man and a woman comes together, but if that result has a stronger power would that be the subject? Which is the subject? If the children have stronger love, would the parents be pulled towards them, or if not, will the parents pull the children from a subject position? When we took at it, if it consists only of love between a man and a woman, that cannot be. There cannot exist a more strong and principled love. (48-153)
When parents say, "It is all because my love was not enough. It all happened because I could not love you more," shedding tears until the child's bone melts and stands before him with greater love, will that child come back or not? He will come back. The greater love has power to digest and unify weaker love. Does it not? [It does] (48-182)
The heart of parents loving their children is beautiful. When they give children small pieces of food, forgetting about their own hunger, the whole universe bows before that love. The whole universe cooperates with those sons and daughters.
Heaven and earth bows before them. People think that the children prosper because they have ability, but because there is this public morality and the love of the parents, and since that cannot be ignored, the descendants prosper from time to time. It is not because the parents had ability. It is because Heaven and earth bow before the love for the sake of children. Even God has to bow. (148-328)
Parents will never lose by loving their children. They cannot lose. The universe will protect them. You have to know this. The place where loving parents embrace their loving children feeling joy can receive no attack under universal law. There can be no such attack, and the universe will offer protection. You didn't know this. (130-151)
9. The Reason Why Parental Love Is Precious
Why is parental love precious? The parents who truly love their children do so for their whole lives... Even though the mother is over 90 and the son is over 70, the mother who has become a grandmother will say to her son, "Oh! Be careful of the buses when you go out." Even if she has said the same thing for seventy years, she doesn't get tired. That's a long time, isn't it? But even they both go and live together in the spirit world, love is something that, eternally, one would never get tired of. (139-103)
What does the individual human being seek after emotionally? He seeks after his parents' love. If there was a physical unit that could realistically spread parental love to the world, wouldn't that be a family who could form the nation and the world? There is no nation or world that can be established without the family foundation. The important thing is the family.
So what foundation must the family be established on? The element you most need for the family structure is love. And that love is parents' love. A father's love and a mother's love exist within parental love. Why is parental love precious? Because it can raise up the standard of your life. Parental love is a love that can make you forget your life and give up your happiness and hope.
Without parents' love, however happy the children may say they are, it is a happiness limited to themselves. What kind of joy can people who have never experienced parental love have? We can only think of the joy brought about by wearing good clothes and eating well. The heart of an orphan is like that. Deep within the emotions of their heart there can be no joy. (42-343)
When the parents love their children, they don't love the mind and body separately. They love everything with all their heart. It is one. One. That is why it is precious. But when the children love their parents the mind and body have not become one. They are different. In the love between husband and wife also, you love safeguarding yourself. So, it is not one. Only in parental love for their children does the love transcend life itself That is why in the world of human beings, even though it is a fallen world, parental love comes from one emotional root. (61-261)
Why do you respect parental love? Because it doesn't expect any reward; it seeks to overcome. It is a sacrificial love. It doesn't expect any result. It is satisfied with itself. It is happiness itself. You don't get happiness from receiving something. You become happy by giving. You cannot get true happiness from receiving. That is why the person who gives is more blessed than the person who receives. Why is there blessing in giving? Because you stand in the position of being on God's side. That is how it is. (46-36)
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Section 5. The Reason Parents Love Their Children
1. In Order to Inherit the Right of Creation from God
If Adam and Eve had not fallen, where would they have been? They would have been in the place to be able to get God's blessing, namely in the place for God to wish them blessing. The love of God, the blessing of God, is the most valuable one among all the blessings. What is the next blessing to them? It is the blessing for us to inherit the right of creation from God.
After God created Adam and Eve, He felt happiness. Just as God did, so the human beings can inherit the right of creation and be happy at their creations. What makes you love your children? Why can't you help loving your children? It is because we inherited God's great work of creation on the horizontal level of substance. So we feel the same happiness as God does. Thus, we inherit God's right of creation and God's love. (76-45)
2. Because Man is Within the Range of a Vertical Love
Man is destined to be born because of love, to live by love, and to go back to his father for love. Now that man originated from the seed of his father, the seed of love, man has to put forth his branches to the world, making lots of relationships with others, and then harvest the seed of love. This is all that man ought to do on this earth. The seed of love is filled with every element of love for wife, parents, children and Heaven. Man lives as the seed lives.
Man whose life is given by God is to harvest such an outcome on this earth as the seed lives its life. Then, man will be reaped by God. What makes parents love their children in this world? Why should parents sacrificially love their children more than the children do? It is because parents are in the vertical range of love and because both parents and the children are vertically connected to each other. It is natural that even animals should sacrifice their lives for the sake of their young.
What makes them do so? It is for them to establish and connect a vertical relationship of love. Man has to build the vertical relationship of love even at the cost of his life, which is in a horizontal position. In the same manner, those historical functions are working in the world of all things and animals, not to mention of in that of human beings. A husband and wife are in a horizontal relationship with each other. However, because love is originally vertical, they also need to love vertically. In order for them to do so, they are required to love God more than they love their partner. Why should they do so?
Love is vertical, while husband and wife's love is horizontal. So if they keep loving each other, they make the horizontal relationship with each other. In the same way, parents should love their children more than they love their partner. Then, they can make a vertical love. If they don't do so, it's impossible for them to make the vertical love. So it is said that you should "love your sons and daughters as you love God" (speaking while writing). Centering on the parents and God, a family, clan, race, nation and world will be connected to one another. Do you understand? [Yes] (130-163)
3. In Order to Reach a Greater Standard and Goal of Life
Man can't make a relationship by himself. The word, relationship, can make sense, only when there is a condition, which means a relative object. The relative condition means the condition that both subject and object make a mutual relationship with each other. In order for a subject and an object partner to establish a mutual relationship, they should have something in common. Without it, they can't make it.
When you want something, you surely want something better than what you have at the moment. So both a subject and an object are going forward together, pursuing something better in common. We can't speak of a relative condition without speaking of a subject and an object. And they are giving and receiving each other. In giving and receiving, giving is more valuable than receiving. They are doing so for they have some greater purpose. Nobody gives or receives something that damages himself.
The reason that parents love their children is not because parents want some reward for doing so, but because they want to love the children on a higher spiritual level in every way. Then, what is the purpose for parents to love their children? They love their children not because they expect anything in reward for doing so, but because they hope to reach a greater standard and goal of life.
For this reason, parents not only love their children but also they hope that their children will be someone who is needed by the people, the nation, the world and a greater being, as well as by the parents themselves. Parents do not love their children for the sake of the parents themselves but for the sake of something greater. That is parents' love toward their children. (49-180)
4. Because the Children are a Reflection of Parents
Who are son and daughter? They are born and involved in their parents' love so that they are like one body with their parents. It means that your life and your parents' life are mingled with love. Why can't parents help loving their children at the sacrifice of themselves? It is because the children are a reflection of the parents themselves. The children are the resultant substance of their love, the incarnation of their love. The children show themselves as evidence of the parents' substantial union of love. A baby seems to reflect God, his wife... The more often one sees one's baby, the more mysterious the baby seems to be. Mysterious. That is love. So can you dare to be unfilial to your parents? Can you be separated from your parents? [No] (106-80)
Why do children miss their parents? It is because they are the home of love. On the contrary, why do parents miss their children? It is also because they are the home of love. Because of the home of perfect love. (137-141)
5. In Order to Exist
When we look around the world of all things, we can find that plants or animals are composed of relative relationships. It means that they are made up of mate and female elements which look different. So is a tree. There are male and female aspects in all trees. There are male and female aspects in each flower. In the same principle, without any exception, the relative relationship will exist in the world of mammals, birds, animals and even human beings.
Then, why should they have such a relative relationship? [In order for them to give and receive true love] Why do you need it in giving and receiving True Love? Why do you need a partner? Nobody has known such a simple fact yet. People speak of a give-and take action, a principle, a harmony etc. ... but don't know about the most simple and important point. What is that? The point is for them to exist, to survive and to connect history.
But for such a relative relationship, there wouldn't be the worlds of plant, animal and human beings. There would be nothing at all. One ought to leave a seed, especially, a good seed. Then, how can we leave a good seed? We can say that one needs a good seed and a good fiancée. When you ask all men, what will their answer be like? They all will make the same answer, "I want a good fiancée." Why? It is because they want to leave a better seed. That's why one needs a good partner. That's the conclusion. Do you agree with me? Probably you have never thought of it until I told you this. From this point of view, when you are asked what the purpose of God creating Adam and Eve is, what answer can you make? Do you answer, "In order to make them love each other and make them a couple," or do you answer, "In order to leave a good seed"? Which?
For what do you love someone or something? [Happiness] What is the result of love? It is the children. Then, what are the children? The children are the beings to continue to exist. In other words, it is the resultant being that ought to exist. Then, why do you need a fiancée?
You may think in your mind that it is because of love. That may be right. But what is on a higher level than that? It is children. The result of love is children. Parents cannot but love their children. Why is this? It is just because their children are resulted from the love with their fiancée. This is how the theory goes. (118-285)
6. Because Love Is Involved There
What do men like best? That is the most important question in human history. People on the whole most likely want something related to themselves to be the best. They want their family, nation and world to be the best one. Then, what is the most proper way of thinking? It is the way to think in the other's shoes. That's a relative concept. One can't escape from the relative relationship.
From this point of view, what is the best in a family? It is not money, knowledge or power but parents. What is next to your parents? It is your lovely husband and wife, and finally your children. Then, why do you think parents, husband and wife, children are good? It is because love is involved in each part. In other words, there are a parental love which is essential to the children, and a conjugal love which is essential to the husband and wife as well as brotherhood love and children's filial heart to parents. (112-290)
Speaking of iron, just as a type of iron which has more magnetic elements is stronger in a magnetic force, so you feel a different extent of feeling according to the depth of relationship. So, it is natural that the same brethren are inclined to feel more intimate and love. It is because of the historically close relationship by which they are bound together. Why do mothers and fathers love their children? It is because the children originate from their parents. Therefore, if the characters of parents were taken out of their children, there would be nothing of their own characters left. Whether it is a son or daughter, he or she stems from the parents. One is born, taking after the character of one's parents. Without his or her parents' characters, a child will become a being who has neither nature nor relationships. (50-264)
7. Because One Was Born to Testify to Love
Why was I born? Why was I born as a man or a woman? Were you born to eat? [No] If so, how sad it is. Were you born to study in the school? What a headache that would be. However, when you say, "I was born to love," you will surely move everybody. Repeatedly, the question is what made you be born. Love is the motive for your birth. You were born by the motive of love as a resultant being of love. Is that right?
Thus, man is to be born and to be loved by his mother and father. Then, why do your mother and father love you? Why do even birds or animals love their young? It is because they all were born as testifiers to love. In other words, all of them originated from love. To deny one's cause and effect is the same as denying all things in heaven and on earth. Man is not allowed to do so. Namely man is destined to follow the way of love so that man can't help loving his sons and daughters. Do you understand what I am saying? [Yes] That is love for the sake of love itself. That's why a mother and father live while loving each other. It is good thing that your mother and father live, being in ecstasy of love. It will be very happy for children that they live, filled with their parents' love.
But, what about American children? Actually, many of them insist that they do not need their parents. Then, what does that mean? To put it in another way, it means they have lost their family, which is the foundation and nest of love. (104-19)
Why do you think your son and daughter are important? Do you know why you want to love them even at the cost of your life? It is because your son and daughter are the beings who show up in your family on behalf of heaven and earth. For this reason, where is the place that God wishes to go and wants to live in? It is the family. Thus, God has been eager to live in the family together with His sons and daughters. (8-107)
8. Because of God
Moral principles teach people to love their parents, to love their husband and wife, and to love their children. Why do you have to love your parents, husband or wife, and children? Have you ever thought of this? Man has lost the Master who is in charge of love. God talks about an endless love. God also says that love will remain forever. This love is God's love. You should know the reason and purpose why you miss someone or something. You love someone or something because of God, not because of yourself. Look at the one who loves others because of himself! See where he goes, after he dies. (8-105)
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Section 6. Children's Birth and Growth [Part 1]
1. Origin of Life
Originally love had to bloom between Adam and Eve, when they were most joyful, when they experienced life's ultimate and ideal force. So their love would bloom like a power, its fragrance would overflow the whole universe. God hoped that such joy of love between Adam and Eve would intoxicate Him and would bring Him the ultimate happiness. God and humanity can be in total harmony, where the flower of ideal love blossoms. They become inseparable. Love should have resulted only in such a state.
Adam and Eve should have made the fruit of love only in such a holy state. Then what was going to happen to that fruit? Fruit is basically like a seed. A seed. Every seed is made of two different pieces connected by an embryo bud where there is life. The origin of a seed's life is parental love and their life force as well as God's love and life force. The seed is essential for life to grow and develop. (104-45)
A fundamental element that composes a human being is love before anything else. Even life is after love. (177-314)
Love is the ancestor of creation. Do you understand what I mean by that? If it is the ancestor, then naturally we expect to see descendants. Love is a binding force tying ancestors and descendants as one. Love is a son's father, at the same time, a father's son. In love, father and son are one. (118-289)
2. Pregnancy and Morning Sickness
A baby's seed is inside of a mother's womb. A father also has seeds doesn't he? A father's seeds are inside him. Therefore, a baby can be conceived by going through from the father's inside to the mother's. Then how can a baby be created? Through a mother and father. All of you are created by going through your father and mother's insides. History is interesting when you look at it that way. (16-192)
Are you happy or unhappy to be born a woman? Answer me. Are you miserable or happy? (Happy) According to the original plan of creation, you should be thoroughly happy to be women. However, you are unhappy to be women because you were born after the fall of humankind. You are truly miserable. Why is it so? Who was the cause of the fall? (A woman) Woman, a woman was the cause. So what caused the fall? (Love) Love, love caused the fall. As it reads in the Bible, the satanic world bore fruit with Sodom. This kind of society will always be punished. Always. Rome fell because of its citizens' promiscuity and lewdness.
The decline of the United States is also being caused by its people's loose morality. Why does God hate the sin of promiscuity and lewdness the most? Originally, love is a contact line that only God dominates. It is the contact line on which God can build up an ideal world. It is like a chain. Then what is the contact line centered upon? It is centered on love. God wanted to build an ideal world by making that contact line which is a chain of love. But He has not been able to realize His original plan. All were ruined because of Adam and Eve's fault.
God wants to mend his broken chain of love, let a man hold one side and a woman the other and then make that chain one again as a fruit symbolizing the unity of the whole world. He wanted to plant the seed of that fruit of love between a man and a woman and bear thousands and millions of heavenly fruits. The storehouse for those fruits is the Kingdom of Heaven. Women are very important. Why are women happy? Why? Because God's beloved human beings can be born and raised through a woman's body. Do you understand? There is no other way for any human being to be born without going through a woman's body. Do you see?
However big God's hope for humanity is, that world of hope cannot be realized without women. It is impossible. Neither a man nor a woman can conceive babies without each other. The moment a baby is conceived, it starts a deep relationship with the mother. Until the baby is born to this world, it grows inside the mother as part of her flesh and blood. Beloved sons and daughters are undeniably precious. Do you understand? They are God's precious gift. You cannot trade them with any amount of money. You would not trade them with the whole world. They are that precious. They are that precious to God and their parents as well.
Can anyone trade their children for anything in this world? Who embraces and protects in her bosom and make those lives be born as God's priceless gifts to this world? Mothers. What fathers do is limited to giving their seed to mothers-to-be. Don't you agree? Therefore, everyone in the world owes a lot to mothers. In that respect, men cannot reach women's depth in the world of heart and love. No matter how well one describes that world to men, they cannot perceive such depth. (165-100)
Women suffer the pain of childbirth. They carry their babies for nine months... How do you call it? Morning sickness... Morning sickness is a signal. It's a signal to call out for universal sympathy. Calling out for protection. Protect! That is what the signal means. Isn't it interesting? It is also a warning to be careful for mothers. Be careful, be careful! In this respect, morning sickness is not a bad thing. Babies whose mothers had to go through a rough pregnancy (morning sickness etc.) possess a keen sense. You will see. Those babies are very sharp. They usually grow up to be religious people or literary men like poets. If you carry a baby who is dull like an ox, you don't suffer morning sickness that much.
Therefore, when a woman goes through hardship because of morning sickness, she should not complain saying, "Baby, why are you doing this to me?" Instead, the more she suffers, the better heart she should possess. She should even be able to laugh about it. If she can laugh, ha, ha, ha, while she throws up, even God will watch her with curiosity. God immediately knows when something or somebody acts against the universal law. God would say, "Naturally, she should show some kind of agony, but she is laughing so hard. Why is it so?" Wouldn't He come and look at the woman and smile at what He sees or not? He might even ask her why she is laughing. Don't you think that I would give such a special woman a gift? "You are indeed my daughter." I will praise her.
Morning sickness is hard to deal with, but it also can give a woman an opportunity for God's trust and blessing. "Signal, signal! Signal for protection." [You should have told us that before. It would have been much better if you found it out yourselves first. You don't think. That is the problem. That is the principle. Morning sickness is not at all a bad thing. It is a signal to protect mothers-to-be.
Women are very precious. Women's bodies are precious. They should receive love from men. Women embrace babies so they deserve to receive love from men. That is a universal law. Husbands cannot hit their wives who love their children. They must not hit them. It is simple but true. If a wife puts all her heart into her baby, even the most stupid husband cannot hit her. He should embrace his wife with love. Do you understand? God cannot hate such a husband who cares for his wife so much. When God embraces and loves such a family, the entire universe dwells upon that family. Have you ever made tofu, bean curd? Do you know how to make it? You grind beans and put them into a cloth wrapper. Love is like a novel, everything is intertwined. Do you understand what I am saying? So through giving birth, the woman becomes a true woman. She has to be able to feel the mother's heart. (165-101)
Wait and see. The more the couple pray for their baby the better baby will be born. Just wait and see whether I am telling the truth or not. They have a strong character, too. Of the blessed families here, those who think their children have a strong character, put up your hands. Comparing your children with those from other homes, those who think their children have a stronger character, raise your hand. They have a strong character and they are smart. I arranged it that way for you. Whatever way you want to look at it, Unification Church marriages are a hundred times better than marriages in the satanic world. (79-144)
Why are the man and woman so happy when the wife becomes pregnant? God knows that the woman thinks, "I will receive love." He made them like that. And he will say, "Yes, you deserve to receive love." God created women like this. Why? For what reason? He wanted to give everything and so He trained them to give everything. When the baby is born, who nourishes it? Even though the mother gives her bones, her flesh, her everything, she is still happy. She is even happy when she starts to get fat. When she sleeps, she sleeps in this way. She is not able to sleep like this. She lies down and sleeps like this smugly thinking about her baby only. [Laughter] It is really difficult to give birth, isn't it? After birth you have to breast feed. Before birth, the baby feeds from within the womb. After birth, it feeds from the side. The mother makes many sacrifices; that's why the mother says, "I will receive love" The more I look at God, the more I realize He is a wonderful mathematical gentleman. He takes everything into consideration. And in this we can find the logic why God created women last. God created women last! [Laughter] It is like grafting, is it not? You have to put the plus and the minus together. Because God has this kind of nature ... Because through getting pregnant the woman has stood in the position allowed by God, it is possible for her to say, "Love me." Do you understand? It is possible for her to want to receive love. It is the same thing as her saying, "If you love me, you will receive love, too. You will receive love, too. Do you understand?" This is pretty fantastic, isn't it? Why do I receive love? It is in order to love and return love. If you want to go close to God you have no other choice than to love. So this kind of true love ... I have already said it before, but what is the universe? It is the second mother's womb. You are living in you mother's womb, now. Just as the baby takes its mother's flesh and blood, we live, taking all the sap and juice out of the universe. (123-110)
3. The Birth of a Baby
1) The Mystery of the Woman's Body
Dr. Kang, are you here? Would the size of a woman's womb be about like this? It's only this size, but how much it expands; it expands more than rubber, raw rubber. It is mysterious. It expands more than crude rubber.
They say when you are observing a Cesarean section, all of the child in the enlarged womb can be seen. How about that? How mysterious that is. (Applause) Inside, the baby does not stay still even if God spoke to him, saying, "Little boy, don't move! Stay still!" What does he do? The baby kicks and moves just as he pleases; he never thinks what might happen if the womb pops from the inside. If the child knew it was dangerous, would he move about? (Laughter) It is actually quite dangerous. A mystery, isn't it? That is why looking at a baby is such a mystery. If you think about those things, it is fantastic. We almost want to ask him, "Hey, you! How were you born?" Try to think about how mysterious it is. If you were to create human beings like that, how would it be? You wouldn't be able to do it in a thousand years. (1982 June 20, Belvedere Training Center)
When man is born and when he dies, he should try to greet heaven and greet the earth. (1982 Jan. 2, America)
2) Birth Pains
When you were born, do you recall how difficult it was when you were coming out of your mother's stomach? (No) Then how do you teach about that? You'll know if you give birth. (Laughter) Why did God make a child to be born in this way? How easy it would be if it were as simple as talking, or as easy as eating good food, or as the scent of perfume spreads, just feeling good, opening your mouth and saying "Ha ha ha," to give birth? Why isn't giving birth like that, but delivered in a perspiring life-or-death situation?
Why was it made like that? This was to observe brilliant love. In terms of electricity, there is what is called a starting motive current. Motive current. What is that? When you click on a switch, at that moment, a strong current several tens of times the power is discharged at once. In the same way, if man is in a state where everything is cut off so that he feels, "I am tired of everything, there is nothing," and he is suddenly connected, the power of love explodes with tremendous energy. It is the same logic. Do you understand? [Yes]
In such a situation confronting death where eyeballs jump out of the sockets and all things are destroyed, if a child cries its first cry and is born, his eyes open wide. All pain disappears in an instant. Mother knows that well, don't you? You gave birth with such difficulty so you can love more than the hardships experienced. In that way, you clench your teeth, undergo pain and then love the baby. You will say, "Aigoo!" Do you understand what that means? Is the pain of a mother giving birth a happy one or an unhappy one? [A happy one.] A father will never understand no matter how you describe it. A father doesn't know how much the mother went through. The father will never know more than the mother. That is why the mother is the best when it comes to knowing the true taste of love. (1980 Jan. 20, Belvedere Training Center)
Ladies, are you afraid of delivering a child? If you ask women who have given birth, they all say, at the time of birth they thought they would die, but after giving birth, that "feeling of death" disappears in an instant. On a ship, a seasick person will vomit and thinks he will die, but once he sets foot on land again, he is immediately well. This is a similar situation. You should try to experience it. Of course, it isn't easy to spend nine months with a baby in your stomach. (1989 Jan. 6, Hannamdong estate)
3) The Moment of Birth Is Pure Joy
Then, for each one of us, when is our day of glory? [Our spiritual birthday!] (Laughter) Besides your spiritual birthday, the day that you were born is your day of glory. (Laughter) By the way, if you watch a person being born, every single baby cries as soon as he is born. He wails out loud. That is the time of glory. Is that a day of joy? Have you ever thought about it?
Then, why does a newborn cry? If we say he cries because he truly feels joy, that would be a very witty interpretation. Why is that so? Inside the mother's womb, the baby could not see the mother or father's faces no matter how much he thought, "What do they look like?" Then all of his wishes came true, and not knowing what the outside world was like and yearning to see it all, it is a moment in which he jumps out into that world. He can now eat with his mouth rather than from the umbilical cord, and many other rapid changes occur around him. That baby opens his mouth, which used to be closed, to eat. He begins to eat. (Laughter) How happy, how hopeful he is, and how much has he been wishing for this?
Why does that newborn cry? It's nice to think that he is filled with joy and cries. Aren't you that way as well? When people who are truly happy meet each other, tears will flow. Have you seen that before? (Yes) If something joyful happens, if you can experience a time that makes you happier than when you were first born, that indeed would be a new morning of glory. Is there a parent who would cry together when the baby cries? Parents would be happy, watching that baby cry. It is not normal if the baby doesn't cry. All babies cry when they are born. When you were born, you amazed your parents, drew the interest of your relatives and surprised all of your surroundings, isn't that so?
If you were born as the prince of a particular country, all of the people of that country would watch you, and even all things of that country would focus on you. Everyone would be watching that instant when you are born. Then, when that baby cries, the news would spread throughout the nation and the voices of joy would continue even after the baby stopped its first cry. When we human beings were born when the original man was born in this universe, if all of creation had been observing the baby Adam and Eve who are our ancestors, would all creation have been interested or not? [They would have been interested]
That is because man is the master, the master. If all of the beings of this universe had a heart or mind like man and all would have been interested, how fascinated they would have been. It is so in this world on earth, of course, but if there is a God, and if there is a spirit world, regardless of whom, all of the spirit world and God would have focused their attention on this event. It must have been so.
In that moment when Adam and Eve were born, how intensely they would have focused, and what [tremendous] changes would have taken place because Adam and Eve were born. Within God, what changes would have taken place? For God, it became a time to feel the love of parents. It was an occasion when He felt for the first time, love towards children, the love of a father and a mother. Try to think about that. How would it have been for God who was thinking, "What is the love of a parent like?"
When your wives become pregnant, can you feel what the love of parents is like? There is a world of difference between the few minutes before birth and after the birth. When we see this, we ask, can only God experience the heart of joy, the heart of love toward son and daughter? (No, that's not so) God would have created all things, all existing beings, all things created within the love of God and belonging to Him to experience what is joyful to them. (1978 Jan. 22, Belvedere Training Center)
4) Reason For Being Born Head First
When a man is born, why does the head emerge first? What if the feet come first? The feet? When you look at the earth, do you want to see it with the soles of your feet? Would you want to see it from your head first? As man loves the earth, he keeps pace with it and is born from the head first, while the feet are later set down on the earth. This is to greet the earth. Greetings. As you will set your feet on the earth throughout your life time, you have to give greetings. (Laughing) That is true, but don't you have to greet your parents? You must greet your father and mother. Should you greet them well, or greet them poorly? [Greet them well.]
When you were born, you came out upside down, but when a spirit body leaves, it leaves from the soft spot between the bones at the front part of the head. When a spirit body is born, it is born in the opposite way. That is why we speak about "leaving from the soft spot." (Laughing) A spirit body doesn't appear from the lower half of the mother's body. Where does it come from? (Laughing) From the bottom or the top? Think about it. Where is the part that the spirit body leaves from? It is the opposite, the opposite. It is revived, and it rises. To rise up, it has to give a kick to the body to go up. At that time, the head must give the greetings first as well. When you are born, too. You must give greetings, first. Greetings. (1982 Jan. 22, America)
5) Meaning of the First Cry
Consider this. What kind of a face is a natural face? Is it an upset face, or a sleeping face? What kind of face would it be? If we think about the original, the baby giving its first cry when it is born into this world is the original appearance. This cry, why is it such a loud cry? Why doesn't it laugh "Ha ha ha," but give a loud cry? (Laughter) The breathing itself is done with the whole body. The entire body moves, meaning that everything is exercising. There is no better exercise than this. We look at it as the best exercise.
The first cry is a motion and exercise. After birth, there is no exercise that surpasses this. It is the beginning of new activity within the universe. How wonderful this is? The mother would say then, "You were inside for nine months, how hard it must have been! Go ahead and cry, cry. Stretch out your legs and cry!" What a wonderful thing this is. If a baby doesn't do this, but is still, it cannot breathe. It cannot breathe.
Breathing starts because what was like this (is born) stretches its legs, so that air rushes in "phew!" Do you think it's as I say? I don't know how it's written in the medical books, but from a natural point of view, you could see it as all an aspect of truth. Thinking in this way, the baby's cry is indeed a cry of joy, a cry of the explosion of life.
When a person cries and when he laughs, the body and mind can exercise together. When he laughs, if he does so "Ha ha ha" with just his mouth open, how unsightly it would be. Try laughing like that, "Ha ha ha." When you laugh, all things work together. The nose moves, the eyes, the mouth, the ears all move. Your heart moves, the body moves, everything moves. Do you understand what I mean?
When you laugh, tears come out, and when you cry, tears also come out. Although you're feeling the opposite. Are the two far apart or close? Is it good to cry or bad? Is it a good thing to live a life of tears? (No.) From this perspective, one of the two concepts rises, while the other falls. It separates in that way. How about you? What kind of a face do you like best? [A happy face] What kind of a face is a happy face? What is happiness? All things must be harmonious-you cannot be happy without harmony. "Won," means a circle, and "man" means "full." Here is a circle that is full. There cannot be happiness unless things are that way. From that point of view, everything in the universe moves to fill this circle. (1982 Dec. 1, America)
4. During Infancy
1) Nursing Babies
Do you think the babies are in confinement or in freedom during the nine months that they live in the womb? Freedom you say? With all that bent back and constricted leg movements? Your nose is blocked and your mouth is sealed and you say that's freedom? (Laughter) Try it yourself (Laughter) The cord is attached at the navel for air supply. Think how tough it is to breathe. Pretty tough, don't you think? You can't even stretch your legs and you call that living in freedom?
Being born in this world is about the same as that. The fetus gets its nutrition from its mother, and we do that from our universal mother. Listen to me. See if Reverend Moon is correct by knowing what passes through the umbilical cord. What do we need for survival? Food is necessary for survival but it's not the fundamental necessity, which is love. It's love. Even the pigs show this, and it's quite amazing. The baby pigs look for their mother within ten minutes of their birth. How in the world do they know where the nipples are? They rush there and start suckling with all their gusto. (Laughter)
Now, who taught them? It's all automatic, it's the mystery of give and take in collective life. The mother's love is transmitted through her milk and it goes to a place where it is supposed to go, very exactly. Even in sleep, the pigs know what they are doing. What does that mean? It means we all need automatically internalized education. We are born on the umbilical cord but actually it's the cord of love. We are the fruit of love.
Because every birth is the fruit of love, all parents must give love, which comes to fruition through births. This love connects the individuals, families, tribes, nations, the world, and eventually to God himself. No need for formal education there. Have you ever seen children born to ugly parents who refuse to nurse with them because they are ugly? Even the ugly mother is still the mother. Isn't that so? No one complains when suckling from a nipple, not if one is hungry. That's the mystery, a noble mystery right there.
2) The Task of Nursing
Love is invisible. Love is where God is. So, we respond by saying that only in love does God exist. It makes logical sense. God cannot exist without love. Why? Because man is born through love. God commands us to love because existence is based on love. Now, what is the origin of this idea? The same one -- all things began with love. The eye is created by love for love and follows love. So does the nose, or the cell. People touch for love and seek those they love.
Nothing strange about this, it's the origin of all things. It's love that prompts mother and father to cuddle their baby when he is born with a terrific cry. That's love. They never scold the baby for crying at birth. (Laughter) Love takes care of the dirty baby when he soils and goes to the bathroom. Don't you think? Do they charge the baby five dollars an hour and record in their bankbook? [No] Don't the parents just want to give, and give some more, and some more? So what happens when they just give and give? It is all accepted in the same spirit.
Love occupies an absolute place. Because of this, men and women must bind their relationship in love. The husband must be loyal to his wife to reach this absolute place. It's eternal. It's irreversible. We must stand firm on the principle of love. Now, what happens ultimately? It is 360 degrees and zero, it's God, it's alpha and omega. What happens?
It's the seed of all things. That's what the seed is. What's the conclusion, then? All things belong in the pocket of love. (Demonstrating) What happens when a man and a woman marry? They marry to obtain the seed. When they pursue it they get the embryo. What does it suckle from its parents? It suckles love from its parents. It suckles love from its parents, and it suckles life from its parents. It grows by suckling the body of its parents, by suckling their love and body. That's why these unloving parents in America are violating this fundamental universal principle. They must be punished.
3) Attitudes Toward Nursing
Everybody, do you want to be blessed? Do you want eternal life? You must merit it. Don't educate your children just as your children. You must raise your children to become offerings to humanity. When a mother nurses her baby, she must think of herself as a representative of humanity, who is entrusted with the task. You must love not just your own but someone else's children also. Those children raised with such love will become great leaders. If not now, maybe one or two generations later. This is the truth, it must be.
Whenever I see you nursing your babies I want to ask, "What kind of milk are you nursing your baby with?" I want to ask whether your union was blessed by God's love and connected through your love and your children are being nursed through true love.
4) The Joys of Nursing
I can't forget what my mother told me. When she was little all the uncles and cousins gathered at a wedding and the consensus opinion of all present concluded that the greatest joy in the world was that of raising children, in spite of all its attendant hardships. Why? The milk fills up when the baby gets hungry, did you know that? The discomfort is great when the milk really fills up as the breast becomes very sensitive. Only the mother knows the joys of nursing a hungry baby with a breast filled with milk.
A wonderful feeling follows when the full breast is emptied into the baby. The mother is filled with love when the baby suckles with relish. No one else can experience the whole range of emotions that converges on this act of nursing. People experience a tremendous let down when they marry off all their children, now that they cannot see them any time they want. One cannot just visit the married kids all the time. One misses them, can pray for them, pray for their blessings; that's precious, that's love ... People get old. So, we begin our life with love and end it with love. That's the principle we must follow, that stretches from this earth to high heaven.
5) Mothers' Sacrifice in Love
Parents enjoy even the diaper smell of their babies, just thinking about their happy bubbly babies, just thinking about their happy faces. That's parents' love for their children. Do you know mothers actually taste the feces? Have you done that yourself? You don't qualify to be a mother unless you've done that. Have you tasted feces? No? I have seen my mother taste the feces many times whenever one of her babies was sick. That's why I think the whole world of my mother. Okay, all the mothers here, have you done it? You haven't done it! Try it once. Of course, some of you are too old to have babies. (Laughter)
When you love God, to what limit do you love him? Until you love everything about God. Great hardships don't seem like hardships. The deepest valley can be the source of love. It's wonderful to see mothers stop their work to nurse their babies with milk-filled breasts. Women know the joys of this, but since I am not a woman I have not experienced them. Women are superior in this respect and I prostrate myself before them. Women are greater than men in this respect.
No matter how much I say I love babies, it's only on the surface. Can I feel the nipple being suckled away? How can I feed a baby that suckles away my blood and my fat? Everybody, did you ever like the sensation of being bitten by a blood-sucking mosquito? It's like being struck by lightning. Only love can make such a death-like experience enjoyable.
Without love, can a mother enjoy opening of her breast? No, she can't. Only the mother's love can feel the suckling baby, the peace of the world around her, not just her own person, and can forgive everything and urges the baby on to feed to his heart's content. That's how parents love their children.
You know, in some ways the baby can be looked at as the parents' enemy. A blood-sucking enemy that sucks the blood through the cord. But, mothers feel new hope, new feelings toward their husbands, all through their connection to their babies. There is something exchanged there. That's something no one can understand or control.
When the mother nurses, she gives the baby her flesh, but the flesh must lodge on the father's bone. Otherwise, the flesh will whither to nothing. That's why women's emotional depth is much greater than man's. All things being equal, they say women cry three times to men's one time.
People say, let's live well and let's love. But what is to live well? Live well by quarreling every day? [No] We all know that. The answer is simple. We must live well by loving one another for God. How shall we love one another? This is the issue. Do you hate them or love them when you look at your children? You experienced ladies, answer me. [Love them] How much?
I wish I were an experienced woman on this one. I cannot really tell even though I did a lot of research on the subject. How much? When I watch them nurse, the mother wants to feed more and the baby wants to suckle more ... Why do you feed your babies? Is it because you love them or because you hate them? That's not all. They soil themselves big and small and demand attention all night. They don't care if it's two or three in the morning, they demand to be fed. The mother is dog-tired with backaches and in deep sleep, but she wakes up and feeds the crying baby. Is this from love or hate? [From love] That's love.
Love wants to give more love, never satisfied, and wanting to feed the baby even when the baby is full. One never regrets when love is given away. One feels good when the full breast is suckled flat by the baby. You experienced ladies, do you agree? This is what I have been hearing. Am I right or wrong? I bet I am right.
How can we receive love from God? There is only one love. And therefore there is one method of receiving love. I bet you would want to know about the one method. Wouldn't you? [Yes, we would] It is right between parents and children. Would any parent discriminate among her children in giving them her love? Would she love the first born more than the last born? No parents feed their children differently. They supply flesh and blood to their children. They must supply them to all their children.
Mothers enjoy feeding their babies. Babies enjoy hugging their mothers' necks tight as they nurse. Mothers like the feeling of giving milk. There are no mothers who demand payment for this joy of giving milk. Another interesting thing is that love for babies is just the same even if the mother is ugly with her unattractive eyes, nose, mouth, and cheeks. It's all serious business when it comes to love for their babies. No one wants to be second in loving their babies, no one.
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Section 6. Children's Birth and Growth [Part 2]
5. During Early Infancy
The newly born cannot recognize his parents. But the baby can respond to his parents with smiles. Although the baby doesn't recognize anything, the mother is just happy with the response. A psychological cord is being established through which parental love is being passed to the baby.
Everybody, have you seen any baby embarrassed by his accident? The baby feels no embarrassment with his accident and just smiles at his mother who has to clean up the mess. Isn't that sweet? (Laughter) Love makes this all possible. Only love does it, do you understand? Love sees nothing ugly or unsightly, and can conquer everything.
Now, everybody, we started out with infancy. It's the time of pride. Wouldn't you feel proud of the baby that just emerged from the womb? Yes, you would be proud, even of the baby's first cry. The proudest is the mother who has given birth to the baby. Right? The baby kicks, the baby cries, that's all the more reason to be proud of your baby. You are proud of the baby even if the baby can't talk. Just proud.
The mother says to the baby, "Okay, my son, grow up, grow up strong" as she exhorts her baby. Exhorting, how? Even when the mother is dog-tired from her low-paying factory job, even when she has to clean up the baby's mess, she is still proud. The baby is a happy baby if he has a proud mother. Don't you agree? [We do.] Everything, all things ... even the small insects are proud. Even the inorganic things.
All things in the universe are like that. They are all proud.
1) Childhood
Children desire to go back to the comfort of their parents. All of humanity desires this as its basic makeup.
There are stages in child rearing. The tender, precious years are followed by crawling, then walking. Then learning to use the spoon. Then the child recognizes the approvals and disapproval from his mother. Sometimes our baby Kook Jin, when he was about one, would not come to me when coaxed. Then he breaks into a big smile when he recognizes that I am pouting. That's when I knew he was really clever. Children can tell your moods and react to them appropriately.
All of you ought to watch children grow to be school age. They soil diapers, then crawl, then walk, still struggling and stumbling, then fight with their siblings, crying and screaming. That's education. That's growing up.
Then they learn to talk. When they first learn to say "Daddy," they don't know what that means. They don't know what they are saying when they say "Daddy." They keep saying it, eventually realizing what that means by habit. It's amazing to watch them learn to speak, learning things like abstract nouns. It would take an encyclopedia to explain how it takes place but they just learn it.
Children only need parents. Why would they need anything else? Would they need money? Power? Self concept? Only the mother's breast. That's all ... Nothing else. All I care about is my mother's breast. All my education is my mom and dad. The first thing we learn is speech. The first word we learn is to say "Momma." First "Momma" and then "Dadda." That's one's first property. That's how we become one with our parents, through this property connection. All begins here. That's why nothing else can be acceptable.
Today's children grow up differently than yesterday's. Things change. Things change, including speech patterns. Children like toys that spin, move, go up and down fast. They get excited. Get very excited. You know, when they get excited their eyes, minds and spirits all become one with the body. The things children play with, something as fast as a train. What do you call it? Roller-skates? Is that what they are? You know, the ones that slide up the wall and down the cliff -- they seem to like those quite a bit. Don't they? [They do] The principle is the same.
Children today seem to like insects, baby monkeys, small fish, and the like. Why? They like to watch them grow, learn to love them, and like the idea.
You must be as a child. Children's self concept requires a generalized approach. Children want nothing but their mothers. There are no other desires. They only think about their mother. Their whole life, whole sensors, whole cognitive system are centered on their mothers. It's the mother at all times, before and after nursing, all the time. That's why you must be as a child. That's how you can sleep as if you are in the arms of your mother and father even when sleeping alone. That's how it works.
2) Parental Influence Until 20
Parental love prevails until age 20. This is love's preparatory period. One receives parental love until 20. After that, one leaves the parents' love to establish one's own marital love. As marital love gets stronger, their love for their children gets stronger. That's the way it works.
Loved from birth ... Loved by the parents while in the womb. Mother and father love the child. For nine months, touching the baby ... Loving when he is born, then until he goes to school ... Until college, now how many years is that? Twenty years. Or is it 22 years? Six years, then three and three, that's 12, and then college. How many years is it? Sixteen years plus kindergarten, that's 18 years. That's the parental sphere of love ... Parents always feel, even with all their love for them, that they have not done the best, or not as well as someone else's parents, and feel the pain of inadequacy.
You don't understand it until you have your own children. Parents never sleep comfortably when they are separated from their children. You must realize how great your parents have been, with all the tension and stress they lived with because of you. That's love. So, when you are over 20 ... it's moving into a different stage of life.
Can we arrive at the place of our heart's desire all at once? Because we cannot do that we must not rush blindly, but steadily recover the ground we have lost whenever we backslide. There are no two ways about it. Now then, what is our fundamental self, fundamental place? We should have been born as God's direct children.
If we had been born as God's direct, incorruptible children, then our love would have reflected that ancestry. Growing old from childhood to middle age, then decline, our whole life, can we say we have lived within the sphere of God's love? After the fall of man, we cannot say we have been living within the sphere of God's love. That's within God's power to reject and outside God's domain to protect. It's not within God's ideal sphere.
You must establish a connection between the church and your children before they turn 20. In other words, you lose them if you do not anchor them while they are still in middle school and high school. That's straight from our church statistics. They will drift into society if you don't anchor them with the church by the age of 17. This is a serious matter.
6. Need for Family Education
1) Reasons for Correct Child-Rearing
Without the fall, the family should consist of men and women who are God's true sons and daughters. They are one with God. Men and women must become one, whole and complete. Couples do not exist just for themselves. Children need parental education. They must be prepared in all things.
The children wanted by God, who can live in Eden, must be sons and daughters of universal character. They must be qualified enough to have dominion over all creatures.
2) The Fall of Man Requires Education
Education is necessary to save humanity. Education is necessary. Man's ancestors fell because of ignorance. I will be brief since you already know about the Principle. Adam and Eve remained ignorant as they moved to take over the dominion of this world. As they were growing up they had not understood God's teachings. They fell not because they knew what it was, but because they didn't. Our ancestors didn't know the path of righteousness so that their descendants cannot surpass their ancestors in this knowledge.
We have had many great historical figures and religious leaders, but none has been able to provide the correct path that God had taught. No religion, no philosopher, no statesman, has been able to illuminate the path. Because of this, our history continues the heritage of our ignorant ancestors, deviating from God's principles. This is what I see. So, we must educate the ignorant humanity. This is a problem. A good education can restore God's knowledge but a bad education has prevailed. That's our current state.
Because of the fall, we need a messiah. Without the fall, we would not need one. Because of the fall, we lost our God. Because of the fall, we lost our basic human character. Without the fall, we would have retained the basic knowledge of God. But this is not the work of God, not the work of God. That's the condition already established for us. We need no more. If we were one with God, there is no knowledge lacking in our midst. We would not need any education dealing with the fundamentals of man.
What is the basic problem of man? It's food. Then survival. Then, after those two are taken care of, love emerges. Have you learned how to eat since you have been born? We were born with the natural ability to eat. We must eat. When our mouth touches something, we naturally want to eat it. Therefore we naturally seek to fulfill more than eating, surviving, and loving. We should move from these goals, on to the world of solid feelings, then on to the world of solid values in order to avoid the fall. However, because we have fallen, everything is in reverse. We must make right what is in reverse. When a baby is born, he comes head first, his buttocks last. This must be reversed. We look like humans but we are not. It's our dilemma, all because of our fall. Therefore we must struggle against this fall concept. What must we realize in order to reverse this state of being? Controlling the fall concept is more important than wanting a messiah. We must fight the fall concept. Our strength gets stronger as we increase our struggle.
The individual is a product of history, as are the family, the nation, and the world. Among all the products, how large is the product of good? How much good has the world produced altogether? I want to know. In your own environment, what percent consists of good? In your own personal character, what percent consists of good? I want to know. When we consider how much evil and how much good there is, we recognize that good is surrounded by evil. There is no education needed to do evil. It's easy to do evil, no education needed. Our history began with evil so that no one needs to learn to do evil. Do you need to learn to do evil? We need to learn to return to human morality and the dictates of conscience as our standards. What kind of education? Even with one that centers on good and on conscience, how many of us live up to the standards? Anyone can do evil without any learning. Anyone can pass that course.
Do we need an education for evil? Don't we? No need to learn about evil. No need to teach to do evil. If you just leave them alone, they naturally turn evil. Just follow the body and evil takes over. Isn't that so? [Yes] Hey, you grandpa there, if you follow your body, is that good or evil? [We become evil] No, you can't even think about being good. You surely become evil.
3) Family Education through Religion
Did Jesus have a family he could love? Did Jesus love his mother? No, he couldn't. Did he love his father? His father was a stepfather. Did he love his brothers? He couldn't love his brothers. Whom did he love? As the epitome of love, Jesus wanted to love his mother and father but couldn't. Because Adam and Eve did not learn about love, Jesus tried to teach his mother and father how to live in love. But his mother and father did not listen to him.
To teach love, one must transcend Judaism and the Bible. Because Jesus came as the representative of God, for the father, for the bridegroom, for the brother, Mary's household should have treated him as God's representative. Jesus should have addressed Joseph, "Hey, you, Joseph!" as Joseph was not his father. He should have addressed Mary, "Hey you, Mary!" as Mary was not his mother. They should have received education from him. Did they accept the education?
From a human perspective they were father and son, but from heaven's perspective Jesus was Lord, God's representative; they should have followed his education in the ways of love. Jesus should have taught his parents, his brothers, and should have told them about the kind of woman for him. Did Jesus give that kind of education? Does it say so in the Bible? It's all about empty rhetoric on how go to heaven.
Historically, Koreans are similar to the Jews. Koreans are the Jews of the Far East. Korea was the reason for the Sino-Japanese War, as it was for the Russo-Japanese War, and the War of the Pacific. Korea is the thorniest problem of Asia, as it is the most talked about country at all international meetings at the United Nations. Isn't that strange? But through all these trials and tribulations, Korea has not disappeared. The Korean people are excellent as individuals. They are as good as anyone one-on-one. But their parental education was poor. Since our real father failed in educating us, we must be educated by a stepfather to create a great people. That's the task of the Unification Church.
What does religion teach? Does it teach you to eat, drink and be merry as the body dictates? It's getting more and more difficult to teach the young as time passes.
Heaven is made up of heart and soul, not a kingdom of religious theories or religious denominations, just heart and soul. Why is God seeking people and holy persons? It is to make sons and daughters. What kind of sons and daughters? The kind of sons and daughters whom God can take into his confidence and confide His feelings to.
4) The Limits of World Education
We live in a world full of uncertainties about learning and teaching. One can learn evil very easily. Nor can one rest his mind easy. The Communists are everywhere, right next door. One can get into a wrong argument, with a terrible consequence.
People up to now have taught their sons and daughters so that they can have a good family life. That's all in reverse. Our days are all turned upside down. We must achieve a good heaven, a good world, a good nation, and a good society to achieve a good personal life. This principle has been turned upside down because of the fall. People say, "If I can live well, then my family can live well, then our society will live well" -- which is all in reverse. It's all up side down. Heaven looks at this kind of world and wants its humanity to end this upside down way of thinking. "To revert back to restoration, you must beat your bodies," it says. Christianity has been persecuted because of this insistence, as have been the Christian family, the Christian nations, and the Christian world.
What use is there in today's American educational methods? You must cut off everything at the root, must cut off everything, cut off everything completely.
What is it that the American young follow in pursuit of their individualism, their self-interests? It's pragmatism, and this philosophy of profitable life must be completely, 180 degrees, reversed, and turned right side up. What happened to a nation once based on Christianity? This is not the work of God, but of Satan who plays with them. Do you understand what I am saying? [Yes] I also understand that you have been getting an individualistic education in America and have grown accustomed to the self-centered way of life, and all this makes your work very difficult.
As I travel across America I feel revulsion about living in America. I also feel our children should not be educated in America at all.
5) Goodness Is the Purpose of Education
People everywhere want to be good and hope to be good. Don't our teachers stand behind the podium and teach, saying to their pupils, "You must become good Koreans in the future"? In the same way, we teach students in middle school, high school, and in college to be good people as the purpose of education. There are absolutely no good persons who live for their individual self. What kind of education, what kind of moral standards do we have in Asia? For the attainment of good.
Many people don't understand that goodness brings its reward. But, do we understand, however difficult, the importance of moral beliefs as the purpose of our education and the goal of the humanities? No. But, why not? We prefer the higher plateau of perfection to our low, fallen position. Heaven cannot educate us all in one-to-one teachings so that, through education, it teaches us indirectly and symbolically. We must recognize that the teachings tell us to be good and do good.
What is good? It is the locomotive of progress. Therefore we must give. Give what? Not the rejects, not the hand-me-downs, not the leftover foods. We must give our lives. Not only our lives, but also our only true love. This is parental love. For this, we of the Unification Church try to give parental love, working like slaves, sweating for the earth, shedding tears for mankind, and bleeding for heaven.
6) The Most Important Lesson
Why do you like Reverend Moon when you meet him? Why do you feel that way? You feel that way because through him, more than through your husbands, your national leaders, your other teachers, you feel you get closer to the heavenly principles. It's not his human accomplishment; it's just the way of truth. Love must precede education. There was love before the Creation. That is the truth. All things, including the humans made up of all things, want to return to God's love. That's the truth.
All of you are like that too. Which do you prefer, to die in God's love or to die without it? Which do you prefer? [To die in God's love]
You will choose to die in God's love.
So, do you feel confident about dying in God's love? [Yes] Raise your hands if you believe that. If you believe it, your flesh and blood will be the flesh and blood and energy sources of your people. It is the same principle, isn't that so? All good leaders want to die for love.
What is the most important lesson to teach in education? The most important lesson is: "If you have to die, die for love." This lesson is more important than a degree from Harvard University. Do you understand what I am saying? [Yes] What do you think we, the Unification Church, should do? What do you think we should do? "Let's die for the highest love, the love for God and humanity," that's what we should do.
The movement was put into motion, and the direction set, for this purpose. Men and women were created for this purpose, fathers and mothers began everything for this purpose, sons and daughters began everything for this purpose. Everything in the universe was given as a gift of love for this purpose. This is the only lesson there is in our education. There is no more. If you live by this principle, you will stand firm before God without shame. Do you understand this? [Yes]
Now, God is in heaven, an ideal heaven. Who can live in heaven close to God? One who is like God himself. If God says love your enemy, then the person who does everything to love his enemy is the one who sits close to God in heaven. How is it, isn't that so? [Yes, it is so] Don't you like that? How about that? (Laughter)
Looking at it this way, what is the most important lesson in education? What is the most important cultivation of mind? In all education and the cultivation of mind, we must learn and cultivate to love the enemy. That's the only conclusion. Patience in Chinese character consists of a dagger above a heart. Did you know that? That's the meaning. If you want to accomplish a large task, you must endure the dagger hundreds, thousands, and millions of times.
7) Rearing, not Bearing, Is More Important
Parents shouldn't be overjoyed that they have a son. They should worry about how to rear him as a worthy son. Only then can they say they understand heaven's principles. It's wrong just to bear sons without this understanding. One should worry as to how to make the son worthy of and useful to his nation. If one wants a son for his nation, then everything begins from the nation. This is very important. Are you now standing before God as his true sons and daughters? Then you are free to move in any direction, east or west. You are moving horizontally and are progressing on the plane. Then you can reach the goal no matter which direction you take. Then you will do well either in school or at work. It's all right for the person to go to college as long as he keeps his correct bearing. It's all right for him to have a job with his correct bearing. Various styles and directions come to the same goal, although it may appear that one is not moving on a straight line.
You all recognize how tough it is to raise children. Children are your flesh and blood. They shed tears if their mothers shed tears. They lament if their fathers lament, all in one mind. It is tough to raise these children, however. When we look at it, we realize that we are not God's children. We simply look the other way when God sheds tears. We simply shrug when God laments. It's because we have inherited Satan's flesh and blood. Rather, we rejoice when God laments. We laugh when everything is in ruins. Think about the labor that God must endure to guide and reform this humanity. How can God work through human history if he cannot find the hundreds, thousands, ten thousands that would lament along with God?
You think Reverend Moon's way is sure to bring about his ruination. No, his is history's splendid way. I have been persecuted and chased by the world, but who is the successful one? All those who persecuted me are dead now, and all the foundations that I laid are now coming my way. You've seen the movie "The Ten Commandments," where the sea is split to allow the Israelis to cross, and you know it matters not whether you are on this side of the sea or the other, because blessings come across the sea, even across the Pacific Ocean. They come looking for their rightful owner. With this much evidence, do you think your teacher Reverend Moon, the fighter, is on the verge of ruination? "No." You must teach your children well. Why do I say this? Because we must teach the tradition centered on the Abel family.