A Life Of Gratitude

In Jin Moon
November 14, 2010
Lovin' Life Ministries

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On Nov. 14, 2010, Rev. In Jin Moon spoke to the Lovin' Life Ministries congregation on how one will fill in the hyphens between the two numbers (year of birth and death) shown on one's tombstone. After reflecting on the tragedy of the life of President John F. Kennedy, Rev. Moon concluded that "it's not really important how long you live your life but it's how well you live your life in service of others that truly makes you remembered, revered, and adored even after you're gone." After looking at the importance of gratitude in our everyday lives, Rev. Moon ended with a quote from the poet Rumi, "Do not be satisfied with stories of other people accomplishing different things. Unfold your own myth. Unfold your own story. Accomplish your personal destiny."

Good morning, brothers and sisters. How is everyone? It's so good to see you again after two weeks. Have you been all right?

I first would like to thank our brothers and sisters in Los Angeles for giving us such a warm welcome two weeks ago. The Lovin' Life team is still glowing from the love, care, enthusiasm, and inspiration we received from the Los Angeles community. So thank you once again.

Wherever I go with my Lovin' Life team, we always get such a rousing round of applause and appreciation, and we always are trying to figure out how we can make our time together better -- more meaningful and more profound. As we visit different districts -- our brothers and sisters in Los Angeles and different parts of the country -- we're always struck by what a great bunch of brothers and sisters we have, the ones prepared by our True Parents to work together with them to usher in the new millennium with this breaking news.

All of you have an incredible mission, but you have been so blessed. I see this every time I meet a brother or sister from a different part of the world, or a different city in the United States. Each time I come face to face with brothers and sisters of the Second and Third Generations, I'm inspired. I'm grateful that our Heavenly Parent has not only given us life, but he and she have given the greatest gift to all of us, which is each other. So I want to take time this Sunday to give ourselves a round of applause.

In Los Angeles not only did we worship together with Lovin' Life on Sunday, but we also had a Halloween party. I got to see my team in Halloween get-up. We had Reverend Cotter as King Tut, the pharaoh; Joe on guitar as a cute little teddy bear; Billy as the Mad Hatter from Alice in Wonderland; Scott, our bass player, as a gorilla; Omar as a pirate; Ben as a Goth figure, representing the Emo community; and Il Hwa as Little Red Riding Hood.

Easy Rider

I got to see a lot of district leaders in Halloween garb. One in particular, Reverend Krishnek from Seattle, came up to me and said, "Hello, In Jin Nim," and for the life of me I could not figure out who this man was. He looked like someone out of the movie Easy Rider. He had these 1960s' round spectacles and a huge mustache that swept down like this. I don't know how he managed to keep it that way. And with a wig, he looked like a hippie out of the sixties. I was trying to figure out who this person was, and he looked at me and said, "Reverend Krishnek." I said, "Oh, hello, Reverend Krishnek. I just did not recognize you."

It was a wonderful opportunity to see different brothers and sisters that I've known for a long time in different outfits. Laughing and poking fun at each other's costumes was a great deal of fun and excitement. I felt that this is what life is all about: We honor God, love each other; honor each other as a community, and at the same time celebrate our lives by having fun and watching our children participate in fun activity. I thought it was wonderful.

So thank you to all the adults who had the courage to come all dressed up. The children were encouraged to dress up, but the adults were left to their own devices. But the majority of people who came were dressed up and wanted to participate. So I want to thank everybody for participating and making the event such great fun.

The weekend after that we got to spend a wonderful Children's Day with our True Parents in Las Vegas. Again, our True Parents are here with us. One of the things Father likes to do when he comes to America is to meditate and pray for this great country. Father is always trying to find ways to share his breaking news with the men and women of this country and to uplift the country to its providential greatness so it can influence the world in a good way.

This time in Las Vegas Father is continuing in that prayer and meditation. We just heard that our True Parents will be coming to the East Coast and celebrating November 22 with us here at the Hammerstein Ballroom. The event will be celebrating God's liberation.


John and Jackie Kennedy

When I first heard that Father wanted to hold a 3,000-plus-person event in celebration of God's liberation on November 22, it made me remember something that happened 47 years ago in American history. We had a young president who had come into office with a beautiful and sophisticated First Lady; they were symbols of Camelot, the American dream, and all things wonderful, beautiful, and youthful.

When they were elected as president and First Lady, America had a great deal of hope. But, we know that on November 22, 1963, America witnessed a historic tragedy. We saw this glamorous couple, full of youthful vision and dreams, fall prey to an assassin's bullet. It still remains as one of the wounds in the consciousness of the American people.

When I thought about this date and that our True Father wants to declare God's liberation to the world on the same day that symbolizes for the American people a day of loss of the young President Kennedy, it caused me to reflect. Many of us are very adept at our careers, some of us have many children, some of us are grandparents, and we have brothers and sisters and friends -- we come from all different backgrounds and situations. President Kennedy was born into a family of wealth and privilege; he had the best education; he had everything that money could buy; and when he entered the White House, he encapsulated the American dream.

But the way we remember people after they've passed on is the same for everyone. Every tombstone has a series of numbers: with one number symbolizing the beginning point of a person's life; the second number symbolizes the end of a person's life, and in between is a hyphen. Regardless of what your background is, whether you're Jack Kennedy, or Cindy Marshal, or Hiroko Sato of Japan, at the end of your life you are remembered in a series of two numbers connected by a hyphen.

Thinking about that was a wake-up call for me to The Persian poet Rumi once said to his followers, "Do not be satisfied with stories of other people accomplishing different things." He said, "Unfold your own myth. Unfold your own story. Accomplish your personal destiny." in the hyphen between these two numbers so we can be remembered in a certain way after we're gone. I've often thought it's like being at high school with a big exam to prepare for. You get ready, go to school, and wait for the starting bell to let everybody know that the school day has begun. You go through your day, sit through your exams, and what you are listening for is the bell that signals the end of class, the end of your exams.

When I came to America, my parents put me in school, and I started taking exams in English. I was fascinated because in Korea the majority of exams have multiple-choice questions. You study really hard, but you know that there's an answer on that page, and it's a matter of picking the right answer. When I started in the American school system, one of the things that struck me was that only some sections of the tests were multiple choice; others had fill-in-the-blank questions.

I remember as a young girl looking at the exam and being scared out of my wits, thinking, "Where is my answer? I want my answer. What if I don't get it right? There's a chance I won't get it right." The fear of possibly not knowing scared me to no end.

I remember accompanying one of my children on a school trip, and the teacher had the children take a paper and make crayon rubbings of the dates and name of a person on a tombstone. When I saw these papers, I looked at the numbers and the hyphen, and it reminded me of the fearful experience of taking a new kind of exam: Fill in the blank. It was an invitation for me to look at my life. I know the day I was born, and God knows the day that I will go back to him and her. I asked myself, "This hyphen that connects my birth to my death, how am I going to fill it in, and what am I going to fill it in with?"

When you look at President Kennedy's life, for instance, you realize that he was blessed in material wealth; he had an abundance of possessions. The Bible reminds us in Luke 12:15 to beware of all different kinds of greed, for man's life does not consist in the abundance of his or her possessions. The Bible is reminding us that regardless of what possessions and riches one has accrued, it doesn't amount to much if he or she hasn't touched people, if he or she hasn't moved people, if he or she hasn't loved people.

In the afterlife, what you take with you are those memories and wonderful impressions of the time spent with loved ones, of incredible experiences that you've had with somebody. These are the treasures that you take with you to the afterlife. You cannot take your mansion, your Rolls Royce, or your jewelry. All the possessions that lead men and women into a life of temptation are meaningless because we can't take them with us.

If we are to understand that the Good Book is cautioning us not to concentrate on the abundance of possessions, then we need to ask ourselves what we are doing with the opportunity we've been given to enjoy our experience of this wonderful thing called life. How are we going to go about it? How are we going to live our lives?

When we look at the life of someone like President Kennedy, we see that his external achievements represent all you can accomplish in a lifetime -- working hard, doing well in school, having a great career and then being elected as president of the United States. But at the end of the day, if through his presidency he did not touch people, he did not inspire or move or love or serve people, what did it all amount to? What did it all mean?

We realize this point when we ask ourselves how we should live our lives if the end goal is not the accumulation of an abundance of worldly possessions. Such reflection leads us to the simple conclusion that it's not really important how long you live your life. A person can live 20 years, or eight days, or 90-plus years, but it's how well you live your life in service of others that truly makes you remembered, revered, and adored even after you're gone.

It's not what we have in our lives in terms of riches -- a great home, a great car, a great collection of stamps or Pokémon cards -- but it's how we are. It's not what we have; it's how we are. It's not the external riches but how we are in terms of the wealth of God's love and the love that we have for each other that determines whether our life was worthwhile and meaningful or not.

When I think about the hyphen in between the two numbers, it causes me to contemplate the word gratitude. In the course of my life, I have come to understand that in order to maintain a life of gratitude, there are certain things I need to keep in mind. One of those things that I remind myself over and over again is the importance of accepting self-discipline.

The word gratitude implicitly includes the word attitude. Gr-attitude is like "great attitude" equals gratitude. But also audibly in that word gratitude is the word great. Within gratitude, then, there's an invitation to work on, be tenacious in, and show effort in maintaining a great attitude.

I know all of us seek to uphold this attitude toward life. If we are to do that, why does the senior pastor say we need self-discipline? In order to have a great attitude toward life, we are grateful for all the things that we receive. It means that we are busy working on ourselves, that we don't have time to be criticizing our life, our neighbor, our spouse, our sibling. It really is an invitation to take the responsibility to discipline myself to work on myself, and thereby affect my environment with an atmosphere of love.

Let me share with you a story of a beautiful Korean sister who worked for several years at East Garden. She was a quiet sister who went on her way, always trying to help, always trying to smile, always there but never really making a fuss. I remember during this particular time a lot of conditions were being held at East Garden. There was an elder sister who was responsible to carry them out -- seven-day fasting, seven-day prayer, 21-day prayer, 40-day prayer, 120-day prayer, different gatherings and readings, and lots of meetings.

I remember one instance when I happened to walk into the kitchen and there was the elder sister berating the quiet sister, and the elder sister's voice was so loud that we could all hear it. She was getting on the quiet sister's case for being lazy, not being faithful, and not being diligent in doing the conditions. For the last three days, the sister hadn't come to the condition they were doing.

The quiet sister didn't say a word in her defense. She just stood there and bowed her head as the senior sister went on, "You are lazy. You need to work on mind over body. Where is your faith?" -- All the typical things an elder might say to a younger. The elder sister asked, "Do you understand what I am saying? You need to be more diligent. You need to do another seven-day because you messed up the seven-day for all of us."

I wasn't aware of what happened after that. I was in school and moving to Boston, and I lost touch with that sister. Later I was called back to attend that sister's Seunghwa ceremony. It turned out that she had chronic health problems that resulted in her death. She suffered a lot of pain but quietly, secretly. She looked like a lazy bum to her superior, like she was totally faithless, like she didn't care. But she was trying her best to fulfill all the conditions. There was a will, but the body would not follow. She never took the time to explain herself, so she simply bore the criticism and went on. But I remember at the Seunghwa ceremony the person shedding the most tears was this elder sister.

In witnessing that, I realize that in our community, where we need to grow together, to "true rub" each other, to become better people, better spouses, better brothers and sisters, we are so willing to discipline everybody else. But many times we forget to concentrate on our own self-discipline.

When I saw the flood of tears from this elder sister, I knew exactly what she was feeling without her having to say one word. She was realizing that in her attempt to discipline everybody, perhaps she had judged somebody wrongly without understanding where that somebody was or what that somebody was going through. If you don't know what the person is going through, the smart thing to do is to give that person a little room. But when we are zealous about disciplining everybody else except ourselves, we can so easily fall into the same trap that caught the elder sister. In this trap, it's only after you lose the person and realize that the person was fighting an excruciatingly painful illness that you think, "How could I have mistreated this person, when I could have taken the time out to hear why she couldn't attend? In asking her why, maybe I could have been a source of comfort for her."

That lesson stays with me to this day: In this era when we are serving our True Parents and have the opportunity to build ideal families, we have a chance to live a life of gratitude. I am reminded that in maintaining a great attitude, the most important thing is self-discipline, in that we work on ourselves before we try to discipline anybody else.

The second thing I realize when I think about gratitude is its implicit concept of growth. Because we've met our True Parents and feel that we have the ultimate truth, many leaders, friends in our movement, and members tend to say, "You don't understand the true meaning of love. Let me tell you what true love is all about. I will tell you in five minutes, you will see, and you will experience it."

In a community where we seek to live for the sake of others, we must be vigilant to not be so arrogant in our faith. I've been so privileged to spend wonderful summers with my father in Gloucester, Provincetown, and Cape Cod, and one of the greatest things about True Father that you realize when you fish with him day in and day out is that he never stops growing. He never stops learning. When he enters a new arena, such as fishing in Gloucester, he researches everything there is to know about it.

The messiah, the Lord of the Second Advent, does not approach the fishing industry with the arrogant attitude of "I know it all." In fact, he comes in with a heart of humbleness and a desire to learn and grow with his ingenuity and make it better, such as when he developed his own line fishing method for catching tuna. I myself experienced the fruits of my father's labor in inventing this line fishing.

During fishing season, my father invited many blessed children and leaders to fish with him. I remember one weekend when one of the elder Second Generation came to fish with True Parents and True Family. He came with great fanfare, a lot of talk about how he was the son of a 36 Couple and someone who had done great things, done well in school, was well respected. Because he was one of the elders of the blessed children, Father made him captain of his own boat.

This gentleman had never fished before in his life. He didn't know the difference between a steering wheel and a compass. Yet Father made him captain of a five-man crew. You could see the crew's puzzlement over what to do with a captain who had never driven a boat or fished on the open sea. But Father assigned him, so they consented to work together with him.

He came to the boat not knowing anything, but with the mission to be the captain. He had to give orders: "Line up." "Anchors down." "We need to go there." "We need to do this and that." Can you imagine the trepidation of this young man? When you find yourself in this predicament, there are various ways you can approach being a captain. If you don't know anything about the boat, one way is simply to group your crew together and say, "Look, guys, I don't know a thing about the open sea or about operating this boat, but Father wants me to be the captain. So I'm here to do the best I can, but I need your help."

But what he chose to do was to pretend that he was the all-knowing captain. We watched this horror unfold. He got on board and did the obvious: "Haul the anchor up. Lines off. Start the engine." Now this is a small boat, and the captain doesn't have a first mate. The captain has to start the engine. He's the one who has to drive the boat. He said, "Start the engine," and the crew looked at him like, "What is he talking about? He should be starting the engine."

When the fleet went out we were all watching each other, so I was watching this unfold with great interest. I guess he finally was told that he had to start the engine and drive, so he started the engine, but instead of slowly putting in the gear, he jerked it. The first horror of it took him by surprise, and then people on the boat said, "You need to do this; you need to do that." After the initial difficulty he seemed to be listening a little more.

We all noticed there was a person standing next him pointing this way or that way, but whenever one of the crew pointed in one direction, he didn't respond right away. What he did was to continue going straight, and straight, and just when it looked totally wrong then he would start slowly turning the right direction. His strong pride was getting in the way of his being the fantastic captain that he could have been had he been willing to acknowledge and accept the competence of his crew and work together in unity as a team.

Somehow they managed to get out to Northwest Corner, where we usually dropped anchor in preparation for the chumming that starts in the early morning. On beautiful days the ocean is like glass. You feel as though you could step onto it and start walking, like Jesus walking on the water. It's that beautiful, that serene. I guess because it was such a beautiful day he was standing on the rail of the boat, cutting an imposing figure against the sky. He was holding onto one of the poles, waiting for the tuna to arrive, while every couple of minutes we could hear him telling the crew, "Chum, chum."

Then all went quiet. We wondered what was happening. Then there was some ruckus around the boat. While he was cutting this imposing figure and issuing orders left and right, he lost his grip on the pole. All we heard was, "Whoa, whoa. Whoa, whoa!" and then a splash because he fell into the ocean. But because he was the captain, he had to get up quickly. His crew helped him up, but he didn't want any of their help to dry off. He went back to standing on the rail, dripping wet. He was going to be the imposing figure giving orders.

We were watching with binoculars by then, and I said to my crew, "Let's get a closer inspection of what's going on." Though he was dripping wet, because of his pride he could not even come down and dry himself off because the sheer embarrassment filled him with so much fright that he became like a petrified figure. The crew asked if he would like something to eat. "No!" "Would you like. . . ?" "No!" He was going to ride out the embarrassment.

When a boat hooks a tuna then the other boats immediately have to anchor-up and move out of the way so the crew has a chance to fight the fish. So one of the boats got a tuna on the line, and you could hear all this yelling going on, "Tuna! Anchors up!" This imposing figure had to start moving because he had to pull up the anchor and get his crew ready for moving. He was rapping out orders, but maybe he felt he needed a better view of what was going on. The lines were drawn up, they were ready to move, and he started the engine, but for some reason he left the steering wheel and went up on the rail again for a better view.

I really don't know what he was looking for but after awhile I heard, "Whoa! Whoa! Whoa, whoa!" and a splash. He fell in again. The crew helped him back up. This was a double embarrassment. He became more and more petrified in cutting this imposing figure. I could tell it was a rough day for the crew. By the time the boats were to go in, with the assistance of his crew he managed to make it back to port.

One of the most difficult things is learning how to drive out of port and how to drive into port, meaning you have to park the boat in its space. If you've never done it before, it's not recommended that you try it with a fishing boat. But because he was captain, he was going to do it. There he was, trying to back into the berth, but unlike driving a car, where the cars are in contact with the pavement, in the water the boat moves more than you'd expect. If you're not accustomed to it, you're not ready for the movement of the boat and how to steer it. Because he didn't dare ask how to do it, he ended up crashing one side of the boat while trying to park it. Then the fear really hit him. "Father is going to find out! What am I going to do? What will I say?"

One of the crew members said, "Captain, it might be a good idea just to tell Father what happened." The brother really struggled with that. A couple of other crew members said, "You have to tell Father before he finds out. Father has hawk vision. Even though there are 20-some One Hopes, Father will see any dent. You cannot escape his hawk vision. You have to report."

Finally he did apologize to Father. I remember Father just listening to the story. When the other people had gone, Father pulled this person aside and said, "You know, being a leader doesn't mean you have to know all the answers. Being a leader means that you serve your crew -- your brothers and sisters -- so much so that they're inspired to work with you. That's what being a leader is all about."

I'm sure it was an important growing moment for that brother. The whole fishing experience totally demolished his concept of what a captain should be. Our True Father stresses the importance of learning and growing every day because each day will give us a new experience and new knowledge that we can digest and share with members of our community or family.

Not only self-discipline, but also willingness is a very important component of gratitude. The third point included in gratitude is a willingness to seize the moment to love because life is precious. Or as Latin students used to say, "Carpe diem." Seize the day; seize this moment to love.

We believe in a great Heavenly Parent, God, inspiring and empowering all different aspects of our lives. Many times in our faith we can become complacent in thinking that, of course, God will take care of everything. "If I concentrate on my mission, I don't have to worry about anything because God will take care." Many times in our community "God will take care of everything" meant "God will take care of my wife, my husband, my children, my neighbors. If I just concentrate on my mission, then God will take care of everything else."

But when I think about living a life of gratitude, that's not the kind of life I'm thinking of. We're always expecting God to solve it for us, to make it easy for us, to serve it on a silver platter. But what we really need to do, if we understand that we have to live a life of gratitude, is to seize the opportunity before us and to realize that in our actions we're permitting God to let go of some of the burdens that we put on him and her each and every day. If we are truly mature and empowered eternal sons and daughters of God, we would not be waiting for God to take care of it all. In fact, we would be approaching and living each day of our lives with this carpe diem attitude -- let us seize the day, let us seize the moment.

This reminds me of an e-mail I received from an STF participant. I see Tomeo [Tomeo Wise] sitting right here. Not to embarrass him, but he wrote about a fund-raising experience he had. They had set a goal of raising $1,000 a day for God and the providence. He was singularly determined to hit that mark. Any of you who have fund-raised know that's a lot of money to raise in one day. He set himself against a 24-hour clock and tried his best to make that $1,000 mark.

When the 24 hours was almost over, he realized he had only around $850. Then he started to get desperate. He prayed, saying, "I want to do this. I pledged I would raise this money. I want to offer this." In his desperation he decided to seize the moment. Time was ticking away. He saw a young man walking nearby and went up to him. Instead of just talking about, "Could you please donate to the youth ministry and the good work that we're doing here," he was vulnerable and up-front in telling the young man, "I've set this $1,000 condition because I want to dedicate this offering to God and the providence and the good work that our ministry is doing. But I'm $100-some short. Could you please help me?"

Tomeo must have looked pretty desperate, but this young man just turned to him and said, "I don't have that kind of money." When Tomeo lost this opportunity to make his goal, he became despondent, went back to the van, rolled up the windows and started to break down. Waterfalls of tears covered his face. He must have felt pretty devastated.

But the interesting thing is that he heard a knock on the window. Lo and behold, it was the young man. He asked Tomeo, "Where are you from?" Tomeo said, "We're from the Unification Church." The young man said, "There are lots of great young men and women from that church. I've heard good things about it. I've never met somebody so determined, so dedicated to reach his mark. You've inspired me and I want to help you." This person gave Tomio the exact $120 he needed to make his goal.

Now I am not sharing this story so that busloads of STF-ers and Second and Third Generation will be out there on the streets wanting to break Tomeo's record. The story has a very interesting and profound ending after Tomeo had this powerful experience of meeting his mark. Immediately he wanted to share it with his brothers and sisters, with his leaders. He came back all inspired and empowered: "I made it!"

But he didn't expect that the minute he walked in to report the great news that he had completed his mission and now he had a great offering, that he would be met with, "Oh, it's Tomeo. Of course. It's easy for Tomeo. He's our captain." I wouldn't be surprised if some people said, "Did he use some of his own money to make that $1,000 mark?" There were a number of different reactions.

In his e-mail he wrote that he was totally floored. He thought everybody would be, "Way to go, Tomeo! A thousand dollars!" That's what he was expecting, not, "That's easy because it's Tomeo." He wrote, "In that moment I realized that a lot of us kind of look at you that way. 'In Jin Nim did what? That's easy for her.'" He realized that what looks so easy and natural to other people actually took hard work behind the scenes.

When I look at True Mother, she is the essence of simple elegance. Mountains can fall on her, waterfalls can knock her down, but she will be standing up, looking extremely elegant and inspiring at the same time.

That's when Tomeo realized something that all great artists realize. What we seek to do with our lives, with our art, is to make it look effortless, make it look graceful, make it look ever flowing and so natural. That's the epitome of art. That's where we would like to be as dancers, as musicians, as writers. We want to be able to write in simple, profound prose that can bring people to tears. Tomeo realized that many times when we look at great artists, we just see the end result and don't realize how much work was put in behind the scenes.

A life of gratitude is really a work in progress in that in our attempt to accomplish our personal destiny, gratitude is an attitude that will carry us through on our journey and take us to our goal, which is to become great men and women, eternal sons and daughters of God. I believe and I know that every human being on earth has that personal destiny to fulfill. But if we also think that we are living in the time of True Parents, then how much greater can this be?

When it's our time to go back and our tombstone is engraved with two numbers connected by a hyphen, an invitation to fill in the blanks, we need to ask ourselves what story will that hyphen tell our children and their children and their children? What myth will we be leaving behind?

The Persian poet Rumi once said to his followers, "Do not be satisfied with stories of other people accomplishing different things." He said, "Unfold your own myth. Unfold your own story. Accomplish your personal destiny." I believe that the best way we can approach this long walk or journey toward fulfilling our personal destinies, is by maintaining our great attitude with self-discipline, while being willing to grow, open to learning new things, and committed to having the courage and willingness to seize the moment each day. If we seize each day and make something beautiful out of it, before we know it, we will be unfolding our own myth, and that is a beautiful thing.

So, brothers and sisters, on this beautiful Sunday let us go forth with a heart of gratitude. Let us maintain this great attitude by working on ourselves, disciplining ourselves, growing together as a community, and seizing each opportunity that comes our way to make each day worthwhile. And in so doing, when we are long gone, there will be beautiful songbirds praising all of us and our lives, lives well lived and wealthy in God's love and the love of people we love. Thank you, and God bless.

Notes

Luke, chapter 12

1: In the meantime, when so many thousands of the multitude had gathered together that they trod upon one another, he began to say to his disciples first, "Beware of the leaven of the Pharisees, which is hypocrisy.

2: Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known.

3: Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.

4: "I tell you, my friends, do not fear those who kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.

5: But I will warn you whom to fear: fear him who, after he has killed, has power to cast into hell; yes, I tell you, fear him!

6: Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God.

7: Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.

8: "And I tell you, every one who acknowledges me before men, the Son of man also will acknowledge before the angels of God;

9: but he who denies me before men will be denied before the angels of God.

10: And every one who speaks a word against the Son of man will be forgiven; but he who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven.

11: And when they bring you before the synagogues and the rulers and the authorities, do not be anxious how or what you are to answer or what you are to say;

12: for the Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say."

13: One of the multitude said to him, "Teacher, bid my brother divide the inheritance with me."

14: But he said to him, "Man, who made me a judge or divider over you?"

15: And he said to them, "Take heed, and beware of all covetousness; for a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

16: And he told them a parable, saying, "The land of a rich man brought forth plentifully;

17: and he thought to himself, `What shall I do, for I have nowhere to store my crops?'

18: And he said, `I will do this: I will pull down my barns, and build larger ones; and there I will store all my grain and my goods.

19: And I will say to my soul, Soul, you have ample goods laid up for many years; take your ease, eat, drink, be merry.'

20: But God said to him, `Fool! This night your soul is required of you; and the things you have prepared, whose will they be?'

21: So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God."

22: And he said to his disciples, "Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you shall eat, nor about your body, what you shall put on.

23: For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing.

24: Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds!

25: And which of you by being anxious can add a cubit to his span of life?

26: If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest?

27: Consider the lilies, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin; yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

28: But if God so clothes the grass which is alive in the field today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, how much more will he clothe you, O men of little faith!

29: And do not seek what you are to eat and what you are to drink, nor be of anxious mind.

30: For all the nations of the world seek these things; and your Father knows that you need them.

31: Instead, seek his kingdom, and these things shall be yours as well.

32: "Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

33: Sell your possessions, and give alms; provide yourselves with purses that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys.

34: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

35: "Let your loins be girded and your lamps burning,

36: and be like men who are waiting for their master to come home from the marriage feast, so that they may open to him at once when he comes and knocks.

37: Blessed are those servants whom the master finds awake when he comes; truly, I say to you, he will gird himself and have them sit at table, and he will come and serve them.

38: If he comes in the second watch, or in the third, and finds them so, blessed are those servants!

39: But know this, that if the householder had known at what hour the thief was coming, he would not have left his house to be broken into.

40: You also must be ready; for the Son of man is coming at an unexpected hour."

41: Peter said, "Lord, are you telling this parable for us or for all?"

42: And the Lord said, "Who then is the faithful and wise steward, whom his master will set over his household, to give them their portion of food at the proper time?

43: Blessed is that servant whom his master when he comes will find so doing.

44: Truly, I say to you, he will set him over all his possessions.

45: But if that servant says to himself, `My master is delayed in coming,' and begins to beat the menservants and the maidservants, and to eat and drink and get drunk,

46: the master of that servant will come on a day when he does not expect him and at an hour he does not know, and will punish him, and put him with the unfaithful.

47: And that servant who knew his master's will, but did not make ready or act according to his will, shall receive a severe beating.

48: But he who did not know, and did what deserved a beating, shall receive a light beating. Every one to whom much is given, of him will much be required; and of him to whom men commit much they will demand the more.

49: "I came to cast fire upon the earth; and would that it were already kindled!

50: I have a baptism to be baptized with; and how I am constrained until it is accomplished!

51: Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division;

52: for henceforth in one house there will be five divided, three against two and two against three;

53: they will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against her mother, mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law."

54: He also said to the multitudes, "When you see a cloud rising in the west, you say at once, `A shower is coming'; and so it happens.

55: And when you see the south wind blowing, you say, `There will be scorching heat'; and it happens.

56: You hypocrites! You know how to interpret the appearance of earth and sky; but why do you not know how to interpret the present time?

57: "And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right?

58: As you go with your accuser before the magistrate, make an effort to settle with him on the way, lest he drag you to the judge, and the judge hand you over to the officer, and the officer put you in prison.

59: I tell you, you will never get out till you have paid the very last copper."  

A Genuine Desire For Change

In Jin Moon
October 31, 2010
Lovin' Life Ministries
Los Angeles, CA

Good morning, brothers and sisters. How is everyone this morning? Thank you for giving us such a warm welcome and inspiring all of my team here from the East Coast. We’re delighted to be here in this beautiful city of Los Angeles. Thank you once again.

I had a wonderful day yesterday when I had a chance to spend some time with your children. Last night we had a wonderful Halloween party where I got to see a lot of the First Generation dressed up. You guys looked fantastic, covering the whole spectrum of species and creatures. I was so astounded because I thought this was going to be a Halloween party for the Second and Third Generation. We encouraged all the kids to come dressed up, but I didn’t expect so many First Generation to be dressed up as well. I don’t know which generation was using the other as an excuse to be dressed up, but it was fabulous, nonetheless.

Before I get started this morning I want to thank Andy Weiss for bringing hundreds of costumes for all of us. He selected a handful of costumes for me to try on, together with the vice president, Reverend Cotter and his wife, and Sheri Reuter. I must say, Andy, I never had so much fun, and I never laughed so hard watching each other become different characters. Reverend Cotter chose the Egyptian pharaoh. He looked absolutely fabulous, and the great thing is, nobody recognized who he was! Sheri Reuter, in the spirit of Los Angeles, the City of Angels, came with wings to grace all of us with her presence. It was a wonderful evening.

I find it highly significant that this weekend, when all of America is celebrating Halloween, that Lovin’ Life Ministry can have the privilege and honor of celebrating Halloween together with Los Angeles and West Coast community.

To start off Sunday morning on Halloween Day is a great reminder from our Heavenly Parent to wean ourselves from what’s hollow, and start Sunday worship and the beginning of this new week by uniting with our Heavenly Parent and our True Parents. In oneness of spirit and love, we can reaffirm our faith and pride in our community because not only is it beautiful, it’s really hip and happening. After last night, I believe that’s more the case today.

As I was thinking about what I want to share with the Los Angeles community and knowing that the night before everybody was playing dress-up, I was really tickled pink. The kids came with their costumes, we had a contest, and the youngest group was so adorable. The twins that came as the Madeline girls took home the prize. I’m sorry, but I could not keep my eyes off that little dinosaur. He was so cute and so proud of playing dress-up.

When I saw the adults and realized how proud they were, I was thinking that it’s wonderful as a community to be excited about putting on something special because we are going to spend this time together with our families and our community, and we are going to celebrate and truly love our life, which is the aim of this ministry.

It’s always wonderful to have that costume in the closet that you know every year you’re going to wear to a Halloween party. Or maybe it’s something else that has a special significance and meaning in your family. I thought that here we have these special days, but if we are truly the eternal sons and daughters with our Heavenly Parent, isn’t every day special? Isn’t every day that we stand and walk and breathe together with God and our True Parents a precious opportunity to love and to be loved? It’s an opportunity for us to experience life in all the great colors that it affords us and to be grateful we are living at this time, that we’re walking and breathing together with our True Parents.



When I thought about this phrase “every day,” every day is a special day with God. For those of us who have been anointed to live out this time with our True Parents, every day is that special day. It reminded me of a short story by a phenomenal writer, Alice Walker. I’m sure many of you know her as the author of The Color Purple. She wrote a short story called “The Everyday Use.” The story is profound in that it explores the relationship between a mother and two of her daughters. As the story unfolds, it paints the image of a mother living in the South in a very poor area. She’s raising two daughters, trying her best to be a great mother.

The oldest daughter, Dee, is beautiful, vibrant, and smart. She goes on to the big city to become successful -- well educated and a fantastic career woman. She has the big car, the right boyfriend, and the great job. In an external sense, this is what the poor mother from the South wanted for her daughters. Dee symbolizes everything that the mother wishes for in terms of wanting progress for her own children.

The second daughter, Maggie, did not have such a good start in life. She was a burn victim early in her life, and in her disfigurement she approaches life in a different manner. Whereas Dee is vibrant, outgoing, and a go-getter type, Maggie is more an introspective child who approaches life cautiously, always afraid, and more reserved and careful about those around her. Maggie ends up staying at home with her mother.

I thought the choice of names was interesting. Dee’s name is the first sound in the word desire, the beginning of everything that the mother desires for her eldest daughter. Dee symbolizes and becomes the personification of what the parent wants to see in her child. She becomes successful, has the right job, the right boyfriend, the right car.

The fact that Maggie, the second daughter, was a burn victim is almost as if her first incarnation as the second daughter who was going to do great things was suddenly cut short. Her life symbolizes something that survives what she could have been; the dream of what the second daughter could have been has died, been burned to a crisp. Her name sounds like maggot, something you see surviving in a cadaver. Once a person has died, he or she ceases to breathe, the body decays, and what comes out from that decaying body is life, but it’s a maggot, something we do not like to see, something squirming to survive, something not beautiful.

In this family context, the story reveals another layer when Dee, the successful one, comes back to visit. She’s proud of her accomplishments, as she should be. She waltzes in, and the first thing she says to her mother is, “Where is that quilt that my namesake, Grandma Dee, made with her own hands? Mother, could you give that to me? I would like to have that quilt in my possession. I would like to hang it on a wall as a symbol of my heritage.”

The mother has a revelation and expresses to Dee, “Actually that quilt was held in my care because it was to be a dowry for the second daughter. It was to be given to Maggie, not to you.” When the mother makes clear that she is not going to give up the quilt to the elder daughter, Dee gets angry and says, “How can you not give it to me? It’s made by my namesake. I am her granddaughter. You should give me the quilt. Besides, if you give Maggie the quilt, she will not know how to appreciate it, and she will probably use it every day, turning it from a beautiful quilt into rags. She would not know what to do with it.” But the mother holds firm and says, “No, this quilt is for Maggie.” Dee gets really upset and leaves home in a huff.

After Dee leaves, the mother turns to Maggie and gives her the quilt. These two women share an intimate moment together, realizing that a certain amount of justice has been done.

This story is profound in that it addresses many layers in the relationship. It looks at the parental desire for children to be better than us. Just like the First Generation, and me, when we gaze upon our children, we want our children to be better. Many times, surviving in this modern world means getting that education, having that fabulous career, having the external accoutrements. Dee seemingly had all of that.

But at the same time she is so lacking the internal accoutrements necessary to being a wonderful person. She does not understand that she is coming back home to the place where she was given birth, where she was given the opportunity to live and become successful. She was not thankful to her mother. She was ashamed of coming from a poor Southern area because she has moved on to a life in the big city.

The arrogance quotient was rising, and she did not realize that her wanting to claim the quilt as a symbol of heritage to be hung on the wall was actually quite an insult to her mother -- because what every parent wants of a child is to be externally excellent, but also internally excellent. We here, as parents, want our children to realize that they are eternal sons and daughters of God, coming from an honorable tradition. We want them to know they have a parental figure in their lives that they must honor, respect, and cherish. All of these things were lacking.

Here was this girl who was so fully equipped externally, but because she was not equipped internally she could not be the perfect or prepared receptacle that was worthy of holding on to the quilt that represented her heritage.

Hearkening back to the title of the piece, “Everyday Use,” we can understand that the quilt represents a lot of things, but here it represents the family history, the sister–sister relationship, the relationships they had with their mother and with their grandmother or grandfather. All of these relationships are interwoven into this beautiful quilt that represents their family.

What did the older daughter want to do with it? She did not want to make use of that quilt as a part of her life every day, as a blanket that gives her warmth and provides security. She did not want to use it to remind her of the loving heart of her mother or the loving embrace of her sister. She merely wanted the quilt as a symbol of a heritage, to be hung on the wall. She wanted her tradition to be looked at but not to be lived.

Therefore, she could not be in the position to be the proper and right receptacle of something that passes from generation to generation. Her heart was not ready to fully understand where she comes from and to appreciate that if she went on to achieve many great things, she must come back and be grateful. In the Eastern tradition, she should have come back home and bowed a full bow to her mother: “Mother, it’s because of your suffering and sacrifice for me that I was able to get the best education, and it’s because of your sacrifice and love and patience with me that now I have a great job, a great car. Please use it any time. I have a wonderful man I’d like to introduce you to. Please bless us.” There was none of that. She was so self-absorbed in what she had become that nothing else mattered.

She was being a good daughter in her mind because she was singular in her determination to be successful. She was singularly determined that she would pick herself up by her bootstraps and rise above her mother’s economic status -- the poor background she came from -- and achieve all the great success that many men and women have already accomplished.

But in her own sense of accomplishment she forgot where she came from, and she forgot who she was. In the end she could not be grateful in realizing that her mother, her sister, and her life were all gifts from God, her family, and a tradition and heritage that she should honor and not be ashamed of.

This is a wonderful lesson for our community as well. Here we are in the transition phases of our religious life as our movement grows. We have First Generation, Second Generation, and Third Generation. The majority of the First Generation was attending some of the best universities in America, but you gave all of that up because you wanted to follow God, to establish and find your faith, and live your life dedicated and united with God and True Parents. You gave up the externals in order to find internal excellence, and many of you did.

But when we started having children and headed down the path of building families, a lot of us, I think, were not prepared mentally and heartistically. Having been born into the movement, not having gone through the kind of conversion experience that you had, I’m curious what made you decide to follow God and True Parents. I love to ask the elders of our movement what made them decide -- I want to learn and hear from them.

All of you have different stories, but the majority of you like to tell me that you joined because you realized who True Parents are and wanted the opportunity to have an ideal family. Fast-forward a couple of decades, and here we are with a lot of kids who are no longer in that goo-goo stage where all we have to do is change diapers and cuddle them. Now they are teenagers, young adults, with minds of their own. Some kids, just because you are their parents, they will do the opposite of what you say.

I know that many of you, and I myself, have been confounded with these young adults running our lives, wondering, “Where is this ideal family that I so fervently prayed about? That I fasted 7 days for? I begged, prayed, and fasted for an ideal family, and you’ve given me a bunch of little green frogs that want always to do the opposite of what I’m asking them to do.”

We may feel short-changed, but if we really think about it, God has an incredible sense of humor. I feel that God’s humor shines through brilliantly in this wonderful language called English. Here we are thinking God short-changed us, that he now has us in almost a prison cell of a home with all these bees running around. But if we really think about it, God gave us exactly what we asked for. He did give us that ideal husband or wife -- meaning, you have to deal with your husband or wife. Heavenly Parent did give us I-deal children. Lord knows how much all of us parents have to deal with our children. In my situation, not only did I get an ideal husband and ideal children, I got ideal in-laws. I have to deal with my in-laws.

God gave us exactly what we were asking for. He gave us ideal people, different relationships in our lives that we need to work through. As my father, Rev. Sun Myung Moon, so cautiously, and with a smile on his face, loves to tell the children every now and then, “The family is the textbook of true love.”

At Lovin’ Life many times we take an English word and put a slight Japanese pronunciation on it, so “true love” becomes “tlue rub.” When Father says the family is the place of true love, we think oh, wonderful, but it’s actually a place of true rub. You are literally rubbing up against your spouse, against your children, against your in-laws, and in that way hopefully one day you will become that incredible, beautiful pearl from an oyster.

Heavenly Father all the while is up there laughing, “You said you wanted ideal relations. I gave it to you. There you are, an oyster. I sent you a grain of sand. It’s going to annoy you a little bit. But if you keep on rubbing and working, then you will become that beautiful, luminous, brilliant pearl that is in each and every one of you.”

When I gaze out into the audience and think about different relationships that Alice Walker so poignantly portrayed in her short story, “Everyday Use,” and when I think about how our community continues to grow and will rub up against each other as it matures into a bigger and wider community, I realize that what Alice Walker is asking us to do through her story is to be grateful for the things that might seem mundane. The mother in this story is not playing dress-up. The mother is almost like a boring nonentity. Many times we like to approach every day of our lives as if it’s not something special. Every day is not special.

But I think Alice in Wonderland and the Mad Hatter had a point. The Mad Hatter was not celebrating his birthday but was celebrating his un-birthday, which is all the days of the year except the birthday. We need to reframe our thinking. When we realize that God is our Heavenly Parent and that our True Parents are here, then every day is that un-birthday. Every day becomes that special day.

Depending on how we utilize that day, how we take part in the experience of family, or the quilt, that we are creating, hopefully by the end of our lives we will have created a beautiful quilt that we can bequeath to our children before we depart for the embrace of our Heavenly Father in the afterlife. If we can leave something beautiful behind, then Heavenly Father has given us a wonderful gift of a life in which he is inviting all of us to be a divine creative being.

When I was in middle school, my parents sent me to camp, and one of the classes I enrolled in was quilt-making class. A beautiful white-haired German woman taught all of us how to quilt. In order to prepare for that class she told us to prepare the different fabrics, saying, “Please do not come with one type of fabric. Please do not come with one type of a pattern. And please do not bring just beautiful fabric. Please bring fabric that you find absolutely disgusting, like a piece of your father’s pants from the 1960s.” Do you remember that greenish color, chartreuse, that was everywhere in the 1960s? It was severely out of vogue in the 1980s, but in the 1990s it came back stronger than ever.

She was asking us to look at these fabrics and not just take beautiful silky ones, but look for different textures, different patterns, and different colors. She said, “Go and look in the garbage dumpsters. Sometimes you can find the most exquisite and exotic pieces of fabric.”

I remember a couple of friends and I would walk around the building where the camp was. There was a huge cafeteria and huge dumpsters behind the building. We actually rummaged through the garbage and found some different clothing that we cut up in pieces for making the quilts. When we started making the quilt, we realized that the teacher was absolutely right. It’s not the beautiful fabric that brings the greatest character to a quilt. Some of the most beautiful pieces that accentuated the beauty of the design and took the quilt to a whole new level were actually discarded pieces of nasty fabric that no one would look at twice. They seemed just plain ugly, but when they were set in the context of our quilt, they gave it depth, highlights, and texture.

Many times when we are sewing the quilt that is our family, we may be reminded that we don’t choose our families. I certainly didn’t choose my parents. I often watched Hollywood movies and I said, “Why can’t my daddy be like Cary Grant? He seems so elegant and proper.” I just loved him; I don’t know why. Why can’t my father be like that? Sometimes when I looked at my siblings I used to wonder, “Why can’t they be more like this, or like this?” But I also realized that they were looking at me, thinking, “Why can’t she be more like this and this?”

Growing up in a huge family of 14 siblings and with parents who were singularly determined to do their mission was not an easy existence. But it allowed us children to gather all these different types of fabric. Some were beautiful; some were ugly. Some were harsh; some were soft. Some were silky. Some just hurt like there was no tomorrow. But somehow when we wove it together into the quilt we call the True Family, it’s a living quilt that should not be hung up on the wall to be looked at and enjoyed visually. It’s a living quilt, meaning it needs to be used every day.

A family needs to be experienced every day, meaning a child needs to experience life together with the parents every day. The siblings need to experience life together with their siblings every day. As Alice Walker says, a quilt symbolizes everyday use, in that a family is something we live with each and every day. A family is something we might take for granted because it’s something we see and live with each day.

What Alice Walker is asking us to do is to reexamine our perception of what a family really is and what something as beautiful as a quilt really symbolizes to all of us. What she is asking us to do is to understand that the realm of the family, in what is seemingly mundane, ordinary and perfunctory, is actually exquisite, beautiful, and profound.

The Bible tells us in I Peter 4:8, “Above all, love deeply because love covers a multitude of sins.” When we think about our parents, there’s a lot of happiness but there’s a lot of pain. There’s extreme elation but a whole lot of suffering, each having hurt the other. When we think about our siblings, there’s a whole lot of pain there too, as well as great memories.

We’ve hurt each other because we truly love each other. It’s always the closest people who fight the hardest because we’re trying our best to work things out. In the context of the family, sometimes the fighting can get out of control because these are the people we live with each day. But if we realize that the family is the textbook of true love where we have an opportunity to rub up against each other, so that we can help each other cast away the outer layers of dust, corrosion, and all the things that take away from our brilliance as divine human beings, and if we keep on being persistent in knowing that our family is our greatest gift, then we realize that all we need to do is to live our life as if it were a living prayer.

For me, prayer doesn’t always mean kneeling on the floor in front of an altar, in front of a picture of True Parents, in total silence. When you’re walking to work, it can be a prayer. When you’re sitting here listening to the Lovin’ Life Ministry singing, that’s a prayer. I remember when I first started Lovin’ Life Ministry, it was something brand-new to our community and people were used to a certain style of worship. Quite a few gentlemen came up to me and asked, “Why do you not have three prayers?” I answered, “But there are three prayers.” One gentleman said to me, “I only counted the prayer from a representative minister or rabbi because we want to celebrate interfaith. Where are the other prayers?” I turned to him and said, “I’m not sure which service you were attending, but in Lovin’ Life Ministry we always have at least three songs before the sermon. A song is a prayer.”

When we think of our life as a prayer, what it’s asking us to do is to live our lives as if God were right here in front of us. If God is right here in front of us, how should we be to our spouse? Should we be screaming at our spouse while the children are eating their breakfast, if God is right here with us? Or should we be making our brothers and sisters miserable, if God is in our bedroom? We understand that with God in our midst, having God and feeling his presence in our lives is a gift, and it compels us to love and be loved because we’re in the presence of our Heavenly Parent.

The Good Book also says in I Corinthians 12:14, “The body is not composed of one member, but is composed of many.” One body is many different things working in conjunction, in unity together to bring about the kind of movement that will allow us to be capable people in our lives. We have two feet and two hands. If the foot says to the hand, “I’m a foot, not a hand, and therefore I don’t belong to the body,” does that mean the foot does not belong to the body? Of course not. The foot and the hand belong to the body, to one body.

In a family sometimes you might feel like a foot. You might want to be the brain, but you might feel like a foot. Or you might feel like a hand when you want to be the buttocks sitting on a nice cushy chair watching a great season of your favorite TV show. But the whole point is that in a family every member counts, and every member is important.

Think about the character of the elder sister Dee, who is so busy being self-absorbed -- like a foot being self-absorbed in thinking and living and knowing that it only wants to be a foot; it doesn’t want to be part of a body. What Alice Walker and what the Good Book are trying to encourage us to realize is that all of us are incredibly important. At one point or phase or episode in our life, we might be the foot. At another, we might be the hand. We might be the elbow, or the brain, but it’s how we come together as a family that makes us one body. It’s how we come together as a quilt that makes us into a symbol of our tradition and a heritage that we can wear and use every day, symbolizing the home, love, patience, and the laborious process of knitting and sewing.

The great thing about a quilt is that the most beautiful quilts are hand-sewn. In the story, when Dee makes a snide remark, “Well, the only thing Maggie will know how to do is to use that quilt and turn it into a rag; she wouldn’t know how to use it properly,” the mother turns to her and says, “Your grandmother’s quilt was intended for Maggie, and so Maggie shall have it. But I have many other quilts that were machine produced that you can take with you.” In allocating a different type of quilt that she had in her care, the mother was clearly saying that Dee was ready to receive only what seemingly looked like a perfect quilt with its machine-perfect stitches, as opposed to the perhaps inconsistent sewing or the irregularity of hand-made product, seemingly making it imperfect. But that’s what the laborious process of love, care, and patience went into, whereas what seemed externally perfect had no heart in it because it was machine-produced.

When the mother gives that to Dee, it’s in that moment, without saying a word, without her having an epiphany of what exactly happened, Dee feels that she’s not good enough to be in the presence of her mother’s heritage and tradition because Dee was not internally excellent. So she gets up in a huff and leaves.

Maggie, on the other hand, represents something that’s not seemingly beautiful. She’s a burn victim; she’s deformed. But she has a heartistic relationship with her mother. Perhaps she symbolized the internal excellence and heritage that her mother was hoping for or that Grandma Dee herself was hoping for. Maggie becomes the recipient of this authentic, hand-made quilt.

When you look at fake leather and authentic leather, one is seemingly perfect. Authentic leather might have some wrinkles, discoloration, and imperfection, but it’s real, not fabricated. Alice Walker is asking us to look at our lives in this modern age and ask ourselves every day, how are we using our day? What about the people in our lives whom we seemingly take for granted because they’re here with us every day? Are they not the most important treasures?

These are the very poignant questions that we as a family, community, and movement must ask ourselves. One of the things I love to do with my children is to come up with phrases to get my kids going. I know in the earlier days in California, “Choo-choo pow” was the thing, right? What I tell my kids is, “Keep it real and embrace the ideal.”

We have to be honest with ourselves. Yesterday morning I had Hoon Dok Hae with some representatives from our community, and in light of the recent tragic chain of events, I said, “This is a great time for the West Coast community to have a makeover session.” When you truly want a fantastic makeover, one of the things you have to be willing to do is to take a sincere and honest look at yourself in the mirror. We as a community need to look at ourselves sincerely and honestly.

Second, there has to be a genuine desire for change. If you want to make over your father, but he is not your willing victim, you’re not going to get very far. But when he understands, “Yes, I guess I’m still stuck in the hippie generation of the 1960s, or yes, I guess I look like a Grateful Dead fan, perhaps it’s time for me to get a haircut,” that’s an honest look in the mirror. If your father has a sincere desire to change, then we can all participate in this wonderful process of transformation. If we do so, the end result is a sharing of a new butterfly that will come out of your father or your mother or your sister or this community that we want to make over.

Later today the rest of America will be celebrating Halloween, but let us take a moment to wean ourselves from what is hollow, what is empty, and understand that every day with our Heavenly Parent and our True Parents is an incredible blessing and an opportunity to love and be loved. We must approach each day of our lives rejoicing in the Lord, as Luke 1:47 so poignantly says. We must rejoice in the Lord with everything because we are truly blessed.

Think about it, brothers and sisters. Your ancestors in heaven are wondering why that person is there with True Parents now, “I wanted to be sitting with True Parents now.” Or future generations will be looking at you and saying, “Why did my great-great-great grandfather or grandmother have that chance with True Parents?” Understanding what an incredible time this is and understanding that it is an incredible blessing to have them in our lives, what shall we do, brothers and sisters? Love them with all our hearts. Unite with them and honor them, the way they honor us with their love, their presence, and their words of encouragement.

Have a great Halloween week, and God bless you.

Notes:

1 Peter, chapter 4

1: Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves with the same thought, for whoever has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin,

2: so as to live for the rest of the time in the flesh no longer by human passions but by the will of God.

3: Let the time that is past suffice for doing what the Gentiles like to do, living in licentiousness, passions, drunkenness, revels, carousing, and lawless idolatry.

4: They are surprised that you do not now join them in the same wild profligacy, and they abuse you;

5: but they will give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead.

6: For this is why the gospel was preached even to the dead, that though judged in the flesh like men, they might live in the spirit like God.

7: The end of all things is at hand; therefore keep sane and sober for your prayers.

8: Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins.

9: Practice hospitality ungrudgingly to one another.

10: As each has received a gift, employ it for one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace:

11: whoever speaks, as one who utters oracles of God; whoever renders service, as one who renders it by the strength which God supplies; in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.

12: Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal which comes upon you to prove you, as though something strange were happening to you.

13: But rejoice in so far as you share Christ's sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.

14: If you are reproached for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the spirit of glory and of God rests upon you.

15: But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or a thief, or a wrongdoer, or a mischief-maker;

16: yet if one suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but under that name let him glorify God.

17: For the time has come for judgment to begin with the household of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?

18: And "If the righteous man is scarcely saved,
where will the impious and sinner appear?"

19: Therefore let those who suffer according to God's will do right and entrust their souls to a faithful Creator.

1 Corinthians, chapter 12

1: Now concerning spiritual gifts, brethren, I do not want you to be uninformed.

2: You know that when you were heathen, you were led astray to dumb idols, however you may have been moved.

3: Therefore I want you to understand that no one speaking by the Spirit of God ever says "Jesus be cursed!" and no one can say "Jesus is Lord" except by the Holy Spirit.

4: Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit;

5: and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord;

6: and there are varieties of working, but it is the same God who inspires them all in every one.

7: To each is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good.

8: To one is given through the Spirit the utterance of wisdom, and to another the utterance of knowledge according to the same Spirit,

9: to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit,

10: to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another the ability to distinguish between spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues.

11: All these are inspired by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills.

12: For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.

13: For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body -- Jews or Greeks, slaves or free -- and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

14: For the body does not consist of one member but of many.

15: If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," that would not make it any less a part of the body.

16: And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," that would not make it any less a part of the body.

17: If the whole body were an eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell?

18: But as it is, God arranged the organs in the body, each one of them, as he chose.

19: If all were a single organ, where would the body be?

20: As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

21: The eye cannot say to the hand, "I have no need of you," nor again the head to the feet, "I have no need of you."

22: On the contrary, the parts of the body which seem to be weaker are indispensable,

23: and those parts of the body which we think less honorable we invest with the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty,

24: which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving the greater honor to the inferior part,

25: that there may be no discord in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another.

26: If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

27: Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

28: And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then workers of miracles, then healers, helpers, administrators, speakers in various kinds of tongues.

29: Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles?

30: Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret?

31: But earnestly desire the higher gifts. And I will show you a still more excellent way.

Luke, chapter 1

1: Inasmuch as many have undertaken to compile a narrative of the things which have been accomplished among us,

2: just as they were delivered to us by those who from the beginning were eyewitnesses and ministers of the word,

3: it seemed good to me also, having followed all things closely for some time past, to write an orderly account for you, most excellent The-oph'ilus,

4: that you may know the truth concerning the things of which you have been informed.

5: In the days of Herod, king of Judea, there was a priest named Zechari'ah, of the division of Abi'jah; and he had a wife of the daughters of Aaron, and her name was Elizabeth.

6: And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless.

7: But they had no child, because Elizabeth was barren, and both were advanced in years.

8: Now while he was serving as priest before God when his division was on duty,

9: according to the custom of the priesthood, it fell to him by lot to enter the temple of the Lord and burn incense.

10: And the whole multitude of the people were praying outside at the hour of incense.

11: And there appeared to him an angel of the Lord standing on the right side of the altar of incense.

12: And Zechari'ah was troubled when he saw him, and fear fell upon him.

13: But the angel said to him, "Do not be afraid, Zechari'ah, for your prayer is heard, and your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you shall call his name John.

14: And you will have joy and gladness,
and many will rejoice at his birth;

15: for he will be great before the Lord,
and he shall drink no wine nor strong drink,
and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit,
even from his mother's womb.

16: And he will turn many of the sons of Israel to the Lord their God,

17: and he will go before him in the spirit and power of Eli'jah,
to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children,
and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just,
to make ready for the Lord a people prepared."

18: And Zechari'ah said to the angel, "How shall I know this? For I am an old man, and my wife is advanced in years."

19: And the angel answered him, "I am Gabriel, who stand in the presence of God; and I was sent to speak to you, and to bring you this good news.

20: And behold, you will be silent and unable to speak until the day that these things come to pass, because you did not believe my words, which will be fulfilled in their time."

21: And the people were waiting for Zechari'ah, and they wondered at his delay in the temple.

22: And when he came out, he could not speak to them, and they perceived that he had seen a vision in the temple; and he made signs to them and remained dumb.

23: And when his time of service was ended, he went to his home.

24: After these days his wife Elizabeth conceived, and for five months she hid herself, saying,

25: "Thus the Lord has done to me in the days when he looked on me, to take away my reproach among men."

26: In the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth,

27: to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary.

28: And he came to her and said, "Hail, O favored one, the Lord is with you!"

29: But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and considered in her mind what sort of greeting this might be.

30: And the angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.

31: And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus.

32: He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Most High;
and the Lord God will give to him the throne of his father David,

33: and he will reign over the house of Jacob for ever;
and of his kingdom there will be no end."

34: And Mary said to the angel, "How shall this be, since I have no husband?"

35: And the angel said to her, "The Holy Spirit will come upon you,
and the power of the Most High will overshadow you;
therefore the child to be born will be called holy,
the Son of God.

36: And behold, your kinswoman Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son; and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren.

37: For with God nothing will be impossible."

38: And Mary said, "Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word." And the angel departed from her.

39: In those days Mary arose and went with haste into the hill country, to a city of Judah,

40: and she entered the house of Zechari'ah and greeted Elizabeth.

41: And when Elizabeth heard the greeting of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit

42: and she exclaimed with a loud cry, "Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb!

43: And why is this granted me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?

44: For behold, when the voice of your greeting came to my ears, the babe in my womb leaped for joy.

45: And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfilment of what was spoken to her from the Lord."

46: And Mary said, "My soul magnifies the Lord,

47: and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,

48: for he has regarded the low estate of his handmaiden.
For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed;

49: for he who is mighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his name.

50: And his mercy is on those who fear him
from generation to generation.

51: He has shown strength with his arm,
he has scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts,

52: he has put down the mighty from their thrones,
and exalted those of low degree;

53: he has filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he has sent empty away.

54: He has helped his servant Israel,
in remembrance of his mercy,

55: as he spoke to our fathers,
to Abraham and to his posterity for ever."

56: And Mary remained with her about three months, and returned to her home.

57: Now the time came for Elizabeth to be delivered, and she gave birth to a son.

58: And her neighbors and kinsfolk heard that the Lord had shown great mercy to her, and they rejoiced with her.

59: And on the eighth day they came to circumcise the child; and they would have named him Zechari'ah after his father,

60: but his mother said, "Not so; he shall be called John."

61: And they said to her, "None of your kindred is called by this name."

62: And they made signs to his father, inquiring what he would have him called.

63: And he asked for a writing tablet, and wrote, "His name is John." And they all marveled.

64: And immediately his mouth was opened and his tongue loosed, and he spoke, blessing God.

65: And fear came on all their neighbors. And all these things were talked about through all the hill country of Judea;

66: and all who heard them laid them up in their hearts, saying, "What then will this child be?" For the hand of the Lord was with him.

67: And his father Zechari'ah was filled with the Holy Spirit, and prophesied, saying,

68: "Blessed be the Lord God of Israel,
for he has visited and redeemed his people,

69: and has raised up a horn of salvation for us
in the house of his servant David,

70: as he spoke by the mouth of his holy prophets from of old,

71: that we should be saved from our enemies,
and from the hand of all who hate us;

72: to perform the mercy promised to our fathers,
and to remember his holy covenant,

73: the oath which he swore to our father Abraham,

74: to grant us that we, being delivered from the hand of our enemies,
might serve him without fear,

75: in holiness and righteousness before him all the days of our life.

76: And you, child, will be called the prophet of the Most High;
for you will go before the Lord to prepare his ways,

77: to give knowledge of salvation to his people
in the forgiveness of their sins,

78: through the tender mercy of our God,
when the day shall dawn upon us from on high

79: to give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of
death,
to guide our feet into the way of peace."

80: And the child grew and became strong in spirit, and he was in the wilderness till the day of his manifestation to Israel.  

Think of loving and giving not as a duty but as a privilege

In Jin Moon
October 24, 2010
Lovin' Life Ministries

On the morning of October 24, 2010, Rev. In Jin Moon gave a sermon about loving or giving for the sake of others, not as duty, but as a privilege. Rev. Moon first spoke of her recent hearing of a woman with a van full of children stating "Child, I'm tired" continuously, almost as "song of blues," near a shopping store. Although understanding her experience, being a mother herself, Rev. Moon recalled her own mother's words to her growing up: "Think of loving and giving not as duty but as a privilege." She then re-accounted the story of Pinocchio and his father, Geppetto, who through his relationship with his son shows examples of being patient, strong, and steadfast for the sake of his son.

Good morning, brothers and sisters. How is everyone? It's good to see you again this lovely Sunday morning. I don't know about other parents in the room, but we're getting close to the holiday season, right? We're coming close to Halloween and then also Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's, so the kids are getting quite excited.

Even though I had some things to take care of yesterday, I spent a good deal of my time yesterday preparing for the holidays with my two boys. They were on the lookout for a great costume, since they know we're having a holiday party gala out on the West Coast and the best costume is going to win a prize. They were not simply satisfied with just any costume; they were determined to find something truly unique, something that made a statement. Like all the other parents, I did my duty of taking them to different stores. It turned out to be an all-evening affair.

I thought about all this preparation for the holiday season. For the kids, when they think of the word holiday, they're thinking Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's. These are the days of the year that they cannot wait for. But I think for most parents holiday means it's a workday: It's a lot of preparation. For the children, when they're getting so excited about biting into that fresh, juicy bit of turkey, I'm thinking I have to make a grocery list of all the things I have to prepare and all the things that need to hit the oven at a particular time so the whole dinner is prepared on time. I think for a lot of parents, holiday means a lot of work, but we do it because we love our family and because we love our children.

I remember a couple of years ago I saw a scene of a mother in a parking lot. I guess she had spent a good deal of time looking for a Halloween costume. She is what I would call beautiful, with an Aunt Jemima face. When I was growing up and starting my day off with a lovely breakfast, maybe a bunch of pancakes or waffles, often we did not have our parents there. Many of us ate alone very quickly in different stages in the kitchen.


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When I was eating my pancakes, the image of this beautiful black lady on the bottle of Aunt Jemima's maple syrup was a source of great comfort to me. In her face I felt the love and comfort, and I knew I was going to bite into something yummy. This was a warm, beautiful face of a black woman, a wide smile out to both ears. In the parking lot, this was the image of the woman I saw: a beautiful, big black woman, and her face was so cherubic, with big eyes and white flashing teeth.

But I guess she'd really had a tough day. She had a van full of four kids, ranging from 3 to about 17 or 18 years old. The side door was open, and I could see this beautiful woman who'd had a tough day. She looked up to the heavens, looked at the kids and said, "Child, I'm tired. I'm tired. Why don't you just sit there and be quiet?" She had a long litany as to why she was tired. It almost sounded like a great blues song. If there had been a drummer in the back and a great bass player, it would catch on the riff, "I'm tired."

For me it was like a musical experience, but at the same time I totally understood her frustration and anger. Perhaps the children provoked her all day long on the drive to probably different stores because they wanted to find the perfect, unique costume.

When she spoke, she was expressing she was tired, but she had so much strength. Her whole body shook. It was like an earthquake. She said, "Child, I'm tired." It was like watching fireworks. It was beautiful, it was scary, but it was also exciting.

Here I am, supposed to be following my kids into the store, but I was really getting into the blues of her "I'm tired" song. Finally when my kids were saying, "Oma," I separated from this interesting scene and followed them into the store. But I thought about that beautiful Aunt Jemima gone wild, and about her song, "Child, I'm tired." I thought, "I feel like that sometimes. Sometimes I want to say that, too."

But my problem is I have the voice of my mother in the back of my head that says, "Child." It's amazing how calm she is all the time. The world could be falling apart and she is just an extremely elegant woman. Nothing fazes her. There can be waterfalls and she'll just glide right through, like a knife through butter. Any obstacle that comes in her way -- like animated mountains suddenly falling on the cartoon character, that's what it's like many times in the True Family -- but my mother just shakes it off and gets on her way with a lovely smile as if nothing happened.

My problem is, even though I wanted to sing the Aunt Jemima blues myself, I have this voice in the back of my mind and I hear my mother saying, "Child, In Jin." When she calls me by my name, it gets really personal. My heart's antenna starts vibrating and starts to listen. She says, "Think of loving and giving not as a duty but as a privilege." This is what she said to us over and over again. "Think of loving and giving not as a duty but as a privilege."

When I was much younger, these were just words that were strung together into a sentence, into something my mother seemingly mumbled to me over the years. But when I became a mother and had children of my own, I realized that what she was trying to convey to me was incredible wisdom.

What she was asking me to do is, whenever you find yourself wanting to sing the blues, "I'm tired," think of what you have to do, or how you need to approach your life, loving or giving for the sake of others, think of it not as duty, as something you grudgingly do out of a sense of responsibility, but something that you think of as a privilege. If you've been invited to the White House, privileged to be given an invitation to dine with the president, it's an honor. It's something that we as citizens of this country would be grateful for. It's something that we would be extremely happy about.

What my mother was asking her children to do, over and over again, through her wisdom, was to approach this philosophy of living for the sake of others by not doing it because we have to, but because we don't have to but we do it anyway, just because. And because we want to love. We don't do it because it's our duty, but it's a privilege to love. It's a privilege to give.

When I was ruminating on my memory of the Aunt Jemima blues gone wild, I was thinking that we have different stories that every culture loves to tell again and again. One of my favorite stories that I liked to watch with the kids when they were little was the Disney version of Pinocchio. That Disney version was made from a story that was told many years ago about someone called Master Cherry in Tuscany, Italy, a master wood-carver. [Click here to read the story.]

One day he decided to go out into the forest and find a piece of pinewood that he would carve into a lovely table leg. He brought a piece of pine back home, looking at the wood, trying to see what kind of a beautiful table leg he could carve out of that wood, bringing out its beauty to share with his family.

As he was thinking about this, he prepared his tools, but just when he was about to strike the wood, the wood cried out, "No. Don't chop me." The wood-carver was totally surprised, asking, "What kind of devil is in this wood? What kind of spirit is here?" He didn't know what to do with it, so he went to his neighbor, Geppetto, and said, "Here I have some pinewood saying nasty things to me. Here, you take it and see what you can do with it."

Geppetto didn't have children of his own, but he wanted to be a parent, so he thought, "Hmm, how wonderful if I could carve this wood into the shape of a boy. Even though he wouldn't be a real boy, maybe he could be like a son to me." So Geppetto took the wood and probably meditated on what the design should be. Then he started designing a puppet. He thought, "Not only will I have a little wooden son who can travel everywhere with me, but we can make money together and I can find a better way of living."

So he took great pains to carve this wood into the shape of a boy. But deep in his heart he really wished that this piece of wood would not just be a wooden boy but turn into a real boy, his real son. He dreamt of how wonderful it would be if this wooden boy could somehow be transformed into a little boy.

But as he started carving the face, a most peculiar thing happened to him when he created the eyes, the nose, and the mouth. By the time he got to the mouth, the nose just kept on growing. This piece of wood wasn't talking, but the nose kept on growing. In the animated version we know that Pinocchio's nose grows when he tells lies. To an Asian ear, when we hear that someone lies, many times we get confused because we're wondering, are they talking about lies as somebody not telling the truth, or are they talking about lying on the floor?

To an Eastern ear learning English, we hear that when the wooden boy starts to lie, then his nose grows. In Asian version thinking, when we are totally vertical, meaning totally united with our parents, it's almost like having a backbone. But when I was told the story of Pinocchio, that his nose started growing because he was lying, then it sounded like every time he started thinking horizontally, maybe connecting more to his peers, connecting more to some colleagues that might not be the best influence for him and forgetting to connect vertically to his parents, maybe that's why his nose was growing.

In the Orient we have a clear understanding that you have to create your backbone vertically by uniting absolutely with your parents and then you can grow in flesh to become the beautiful human being that we all are. When I thought about Pinocchio and his nose growing because he lied, it sounded like he was lying down horizontally, not being connected vertically. That kind of person ends up growing in flesh without a backbone, turning into a massive amoeba-like creature rather than being a great boy or girl. That's what it sounded like to me.

When Geppetto started crafting the foot of this wooden boy, the first thing the foot did was kick him in the nose. These fairy tales are told over and over again because they portray a similar experience that most people go through in the course of their lives. We're human beings and we have feelings and similar experiences throughout our lives, even though they may vary from one situation to the other, such as becoming a parent or dealing with the rebellious child. How do you deal with it with love and with a giving heart, thinking of it as a privilege and not as a duty? These are the things that we all deal with in life, regardless of whether we are white, black, yellow, or red. Regardless of where we were raised, we all go through similar things.

When a young boy, probably in a rebellious phase, connects more horizontally with his friends and colleagues, forgetting the importance of connecting vertically with his parents, then when you hear the story of Pinocchio kicking his father's nose, that's the total act of rebellion.

The story continues that the minute Geppetto finally put two legs on this wooden boy, the first thing the boy did was run out of the house and run out of town, so fast that the police officers monitoring the boundaries of the town spotted him and brought him back. Somehow in the course of the police officer accompanying Pinocchio back, the officer was convinced that this wooden boy ran away because his father or his maker mistreated him, so the police threw Geppetto man in jail. Pinocchio, the boy, ends up coming back home to an empty house.

Then he suddenly realizes he's hungry. Without his father, he doesn't know where to find food or how to prepare it. He goes to the neighbor, Master Cherry, and knocks on his door, but Master Cherry refuses to answer, so Pinocchio returns home freezing and wet. These two adjectives, freezing and wet, the total antithesis of what a child wants to experience in the embrace of a father and a mother, are so clearly descriptive in the story.

Because he's freezing and wet, this wooden boy decides he should dry his feet. He decides to dry them on a stove, but being tired, he falls asleep. The next morning he wakes up to the smell of smoke and realizes that in the evening while he slept his feet were burned off. This boy, who should have walked together with his father, ran away from his father, and was brought back out of his own hunger. In order to take care of himself, he thinks, "Let me get some warmth," not realizing that he is made of wood and that his feet would be burned off.

When the wooden boy realizes that his feet were burned off and he is stuck with the horror of not being able to walk out the door, not being able to run out of his home whenever he wanted, he starts to cry. It is when he started to cry that he feels for the first time an incredible sadness, realizing he would not have had feet to begin with had it not been for his father figure, Geppetto. It was Geppetto who lovingly and painstakingly crafted and carved those beautiful feet for him. But Pinocchio didn't care how much love went into it; he simply took it and ran, felt entitled to it -- "This is my body and my feet; I'm going to go wherever -- without thinking about what that might do to Geppetto.

As Pinocchio is feeling this incredible sadness for the first time, his tears come like a waterfall. During this washing away of all his foolishness and selfishness, the father returns from jail. What does the father bring back? He has in his hand three beautiful, perfectly shaped pears. Without saying a word, Geppetto looks at Pinocchio with loving eyes and is so happy that his wooden boy is back at home. Geppetto thought he had lost his wooden boy, but there he is.

The three pears symbolize what the boy and the father would share together in their lifetime. In the Divine Principle way of looking at it, the pears symbolize the formation, growth, and perfection stages that a child would go through under the care and nurture of a loving parent. Even though Pinocchio ridiculed him to the police officer and even put his father in jail, the father returns with these three gifts that he wants to share with his son.

So Pinocchio accepts these three pears, symbolically representing his desire to now vertically connect to his father and become that beautiful boy that Geppetto so longed for. When Pinocchio receives these three beautiful pears from his father, he sees that mysteriously his feet have come back. He realizes that he wants to love his father; he wants to do what would make his father happy. Pinocchio started his life with, "Don't chop me," shouting something negative at his father, but he ends with the words that symbolize, "This is what I want to do with my life, and in gratitude to you I'm going to do something that I might not enjoy the process of, but in the end I know it's good for me."

Pinocchio calls Geppetto "Father" for the first time, and says, "Father, I want to go to school." Instead of running around and not having any vision or purpose, Pinocchio decides on his purpose, his mission. He decides he wants to go to school just like all the other boys and girls. In response, the father is so moved that he is overcome with tears. Even though this is the middle of freezing winter, he sells his coat for a chunk of change and gives the money to Pinocchio to buy his books, symbolically giving him the gift of getting started.

That's how the story ends in the original version. When I thought about Pinocchio and Geppetto, and about the words my mother said to me many times throughout my life -- "Think of loving and giving not as a duty but as a privilege" -- in the shape, form, and character of Geppetto you have a parental figure who loves this boy. The single most beautiful characteristic that love shows is patience. When my mother was saying, "Think of loving and giving not as duty but as a privilege," she was reminding me to think of it as something to be grateful for. If something doesn't go your way, let it pass. Be patient, be strong, and be steadfast.

When you look at the characteristics of parental love, a couple of things come to mind. You realize that Geppetto shows the character of perseverance in that he is steadfast in his goal to be a loving father to Pinocchio, regardless of whether he understands it or not. Despite the fact that Pinocchio kicks his face, throws him in jail, and runs away, Geppetto's steadfast love, wanting to be the father of that character, is never changing. He exemplifies perseverance.

When we parents go through our children's teenage years, sometimes it gets really difficult. There can be a lot of misunderstanding on both sides; trying to get into a cohesive unit to complete the mission at hand can be an incredibly difficult thing. But when we think about being patient, we realize that there's an element of fortitude when we think about that word. Geppetto exemplified strength of character in the face of very difficult situations. He had a certain amount of courage to stand strong as the father.

In our modern day, when the going gets tough, parents often leave their position, thinking that if they can be their children's friend and not their parent that it will ease things, and that it will make things go much better. But when the parents leave their parental position and decide to become a friend, basically doing whatever the child wants, that's a major recipe for disaster.

When you look at Geppetto, he exercises his position of fortitude, knowing that he is the parent and he's going to do what's right for Pinocchio, whether Pinocchio understands it or not at that moment. He has the courage to do so, in spite the fact that he's misunderstood and thrown in prison. He has fortitude and strength.

I've often said that compassion is not a weak word. It's an extremely powerful word, the ability to empathize. Likewise, the word patient, having the fortitude or the ability to wait calmly through difficult things, to walk calmly through incredible odds, conveys deep strength. Unlike the modern perception of patience as passive, actually the word patience is an incredibly active word. When you understand it as a symbol of fortitude, patience becomes concentrated strength.

My mother, all throughout her life as a wonderful partner to my father, being a wonderful example to our community as True Mother, has gone through incredible suffering and difficulty that cannot even be described in words. But she is a symbol of patience, that symbol and personification of concentrated strength that we're talking about. When you look at Geppetto, you see another trait connected with patience, called forbearance, or restraint under provocation. Forbearance was something missing when I listened to the Aunt Jemima blues. She was being provoked all day long, so much so that she got angry, so much so that she articulated her frustration. But what forbearance or patience means is that, regardless of what provokes or stimulates you to anger, of what causes you to be frustrated, there is a certain control.

Most parents with new babies think of them as angelic and goo-gooing all the time. But quickly they enter the terrible twos, and it's fast-forward to teenage years. Before you know it, they're 13. Many times we feel that the world is running away with our children; our children are running our lives, provoking us to extreme irritation, and we don't know what to do. But in Geppetto, we see an example of forbearance. Pinocchio provoked him to no end by throwing him into prison, probably telling the police officer, "That man has been abusing me." But the only thing that Geppetto could feel when he came back and saw Pinocchio sitting on that chair without his feet, watching his son cry, was "How can I give more? How can I love more? It's the forbearance that nothing can provoke you because you truly love the child.

My mother, my father, and Geppetto are excellent examples of the word patience. We as a community should be so grateful that we have such a great example in our True Parents. In True Father's life, he has never, ever wavered from his singularity of purpose and dedication to the mission, willing to live his life and apply the principles of living for the sake of others. No man or woman can come close to our True Parents.

The Good Book, in Psalms 32:8–11, says, "Let us not be like a horse or a mule that needs to be tempered," meaning one that needs to be controlled by the use of a bit and bridle. The Bible is saying, Let us not be like these animals, without understanding, to require the use of a bit and bridle to control our temper.

We have our True Parents as an example, and as children going through life, yes, we can just follow, just do what our True Parents ask us to do, but what our Heavenly Parent is really waiting for us to do is not be like a mule or horse, without understanding. We understand we have a divine purpose. Instead of Pinocchio being threatened by Jiminy Cricket that he will turn into a donkey if he doesn't listen to his father -- instead of being threatened that we'll turn into a donkey or mule, something without understanding that needs to be controlled with a bit and bridle -- we as human beings, eternal sons and daughters, have the opportunity to decide to be united with our True Parents, our parents and our Heavenly Parent. With our own understanding of our worth and value and of what we must do in our lives, we must walk and talk like great, eternal sons and daughters. As it says in verse 11, we need to rejoice, sing, walk, and live upright in heart.

So unlike Pinocchio, whose nose keeps on growing because he's lying all the time -- not just fabrications, but also lying in the sense that he's concentrating too much on the horizontal and ignoring the vertical -- –if we can be upright in heart, meaning vertical in heart, meaning vertically united with our True Parents and Heavenly Parent, then the only thing we need to do is be grateful for our lives, to shout the joy, to rejoice, and to live in gratitude.

When Psalms reminds us that we should not live an animal-like existence, without understanding, the Bible is reminding us to know clearly the purpose and have a clear mission in our lives, to know what we want to do and become, with steadfast love, as it says in verse 10, and trust in the Lord. Trust, meaning, it's okay to be vulnerable to our parents. A lot of teenagers are afraid to be vulnerable in front of their parents, anxious that their parents will take advantage of them. But we don't need to be afraid because our parents love us, and they want the best for us.

There needs to be trust on both sides, and there needs to be a practice or application of steadfast love. It's time for us to sing as a movement, to sing the glory of our True Parents, the breaking news that they are here. We need to tell the people, "Brothers and sisters, get ready, the train is here." We see the train. The train is our True Parents, and many hundreds and millions of people have waited their whole lives and have gone on to the spirit world without ever getting on the train.

Brothers and sisters, we are the lucky ones who are not just singing; the train is coming. We can get on the train and decide to follow, to unite, and to live our personal destinies to be great eternal sons and daughters of God. In that way, we can enjoy every day as a holy day with our Heavenly Parent and with our True Parents. When we realize that every day is a holy day, then we understand how grateful we should be.

So let's run through our ritualistic miseries, the Aunt Jemima blues. Let's pass through life like a knife through butter because there's a glorious holiday waiting for us always, in the embrace of our Heavenly Parent and our True Parents. So God bless, and have a great Sunday.

Notes:

Psalms, chapter 32

0: A Psalm of David. A Maskil.

1: Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven,
whose sin is covered.

2: Blessed is the man to whom the LORD imputes no iniquity,
and in whose spirit there is no deceit.

3: When I declared not my sin, my body wasted away
through my groaning all day long.

4: For day and night thy hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. [Selah]

5: I acknowledged my sin to thee,
and I did not hide my iniquity;
I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD";
then thou didst forgive the guilt of my sin. [Selah]

6: Therefore let every one who is godly
offer prayer to thee;
at a time of distress, in the rush of great waters,
they shall not reach him.

7: Thou art a hiding place for me,
thou preservest me from trouble;
thou dost encompass me with deliverance. [Selah]

8: I will instruct you and teach you
the way you should go;
I will counsel you with my eye upon you.

9: Be not like a horse or a mule, without understanding,
which must be curbed with bit and bridle,
else it will not keep with you.

10: Many are the pangs of the wicked;
but steadfast love surrounds him who trusts in the LORD.

11: Be glad in the LORD, and rejoice, O righteous,
and shout for joy, all you upright in heart!
 

Honoring Our Tradition Banquet to Be Held Dec. 10th, 2010

In Jin Moon
October 20 2010

A banquet to honor the historic 777-Couple Blessing, as well church members who joined in 1970 or earlier, will be held at the Manhattan Center in New York on Dec. 10, 2010, according to Kevin Yoon, Chief of Staff for HSA-UWC.

The banquet will be free for the honorees. Announcements about the cost of tickets and other logistical issues are expected shortly. Testimonies of those to be honored should be sent to us by Oct. 24, 2010. The length of testimonies should be in the range of 600 to 1,000 words and pictures scanned and added as attachments are welcome.

Halloween at Belvedere

In Jin Moon
October 19 2010

All families invited!

Date: October 30, 4 pm to 9 pm.

5 dollar entrance per person ages 5+.

This covers all activities except stocks -- it's worth it to dunk'em!

Activities include costume contest, spooky hay ride, headless horseman pony rides, palm reading, haunted trail and more! Food and drinks will be for sale.

Be sure to wear your costume!!

Download Pdf Invitation Here! 

Tackle Marriage With A Plan Of Action

In Jin Moon
October 17, 2010
Lovin' Life Ministries

After returning from the Blessing Ceremony held on October 10, 2010, senior pastor Rev. In Jin Moon spoke of what creating an ideal family involves, including the attitude that each should have when entering the marriage relationship. "When you're thinking about the blessing and marriage, you're preparing yourself for a great deal of love and happiness but also for a great deal of hard work and effort, which sometimes I think gets side swept," she explained.

Rev. Moon shared that they key to creating this relationship is both having a common purpose, stressing the importance of teamwork and equal respect. "We are entering this relationship because we honor the dynamic teamwork of a man and a woman truly respecting, honoring, and loving each other, and thereby empowering, inspiring, and encouraging each other."

Good morning, brothers and sisters. How is everyone this morning? It's so good to be back in the States after a week-long trip to Korea, where we spent a wonderful time with our True Parents as they presided over the Holy Blessing ceremony there. It was an incredible event with tens of thousands of couples from all around the world joining in on this special day.

As I had shared with you earlier, this blessing is significant for the world and our community. This is the first blessing in which our True Father allowed individuals to choose their own spouses. We know that because of the Fall a lot of the First Generation -- who were indemnifying and wanted to find renewed life by grafting onto the original olive branch to substantiate the true lineage -- went through a great deal of difficulty. The Blessing was a time for them to show Heavenly Parent and our True Parents their willingness to think of God before themselves.

But Father declared that in this era when we can live under God's direct dominion, it's time for God's eternal sons and daughters to take that responsibility into their own hands and choose their own spouse. As you can well imagine, since our community has been well educated in coming to the blessing with a totally clean slate, being put on the spot by Father encouraging Second Generation to choose their own spouse raised some hesitation and a great deal of apprehension. But Father encouraged these Second Generation, and we had lovely couples at the blessing.

For those of us there who also went through the difficult process of the Blessing in which we had to think about God first and our public mission first before our own desires, it felt like a liberation of sorts. We as parents, when we gaze into the eyes of our children, of course want for them to know eternal love as an eternity of happiness and love, not an eternity of suffering.

To see these young couples really appreciating each other in a new and wonderful way, where they are allowed to have a choice in the matter because we're living under the direct dominion of God, is a beautiful thing. I wish all the couples the best of luck. As we all say here in our community and at Lovin' Life, we all prepare for our blessing, for that time when we can meet that special someone and live the rest of our lives together.

But we know that the Blessing is not an easy thing. Unlike the Cinderella story and many animated Disney stories in which the heroine finds the handsome prince and they live happily ever after, we know that marriage is not like that most of the time. I often joke that many of us joined the movement because we wanted to create an ideal family. An ideal family really is living a process of dealing with different obstacles and difficulties that arise in any relationship, learning to overcome them because we believe in something, we have a common purpose, and we want to get there together as a couple, or together as a family, or together as a community.

I've spent a good amount of time joking about ideal families, husbands, wives, children, grandparents, and in-laws. The timing was quite interesting because while I was being called to Korea to attend this Blessing ceremony, I was still getting my usual hundreds of e-mails from people around the world. One e-mail in particular was from a gentleman saying what he would like to see the senior pastor do. I read it with great interest. He said, "You talk about ideal families all the time. You talk about dealing with relationships all the time. Why can't you be more like your younger brother? Why can't you be more like your parents, holding hands, a little public display of affection?"

What he was asking was, "Why can't you and your husband be the perfect image of a blissful couple?" His image of a blissful couple was of two people literally hanging on each other for dear life, maybe not being able to keep their hands off each other. Maybe he wanted to see me hug and kiss. I know my younger brother, during his European tour, was encouraging all the couples to kiss. I think that's a wonderful thing.

But, you know, everybody has their understanding of what a blissful image is. Maybe my image might not be like the gentleman's. Maybe I don't want to display publicly something that is so private to me. I realize that here I am as the senior pastor and what this gentleman wants to see is almost like a fantasy image of a loving couple. I tend to be a romantic in that, yes, I want everything that's full of romance, passion and love, but at the same time I don't want to take away from the notion that marriage is a lot of work.

When you're thinking about the blessing and marriage, you're preparing yourself for a great deal of love and happiness but also for a great deal of hard work and effort, which sometimes I think gets side swept. A lot of young people come to marriage and the Blessing thinking that once a spouse has been found for them, it's just an easy walk in the park; automatically they will be seriously in love, they will be passionately in love, and things will fall into place. But marriage and the Blessing are not like that.

I think it's important of course that we have our own image of what a happy couple should be -- but let's keep in mind that one person's image is very different from another person's. Also, while we are in a communal setting, trying our best to create wonderful, ideal families, we have to be mindful of the fact that each one of is trying our best and we must give each other the space to deal with, work out, and work through the difficulties of life.

When I was gazing at those happily matched couples on October 10th, I realized that one of the things that seems to be a common denominator in a couple in love is that there's a great deal of laughter. There seems to be a great desire for them to be together, to be one, and to reside in a relationship ruled and enveloped by verity or truth. When people are in love, they want that feeling to last forever.

It's infectious when we look at the couples who are in love and their relationship is just blossoming. Watching my eldest son in the blossoming stages of his relationship with Krista gets me excited, inspired, and enthusiastic that there is something truly beautiful in the world to experience. As a mother, this is what I would like for all the Second Generation and the Third and the Fourth. When I think about what just took place on 10/10/10 -- a special day that will not happen for another thousand years -- and the fact that our True Father decided to exercise the providential will of allowing these young people to take on the responsibility themselves, I see it as being truly beautiful.

Looking out into the audience and seeing the faces of these couples, I wished two things for them: I was saying out loud to them, "I wonder how all of you will go about your lives, building an ideal family. It's not going to be easy." But I was also thinking about what I might share with them through my own experience as to how to go about building an ideal family, finding success in a relationship and prospering, not just surviving.

Michael Jordan once said that before he became a famous athlete, he had a purpose in his mind. At a young age he visualized himself being a great athlete. He knew what he wanted to be in his life. He set his goal to become a great basketball player, and visualized himself playing fantastic games in the future, achieving his goal, and being a success. He told himself and anybody who asked what he wanted to do with his life: "I am going to be one of the best star athletes, and I am going to live my life to make sure I get there." From a young age he had a vision of what he wanted, and he planned how he would achieve it.

Marriage is very much like that, in the sense that a lot of us enter marriage almost in a fog, blind-sided. People might fall madly love and think that being passionately in love is what will carry them through eternity, not realizing that in order to live with another person, to deal with another person, you have to have a common denominator, a common purpose. You have to have a vision and plan for what kind of marriage and relationship you want, what kind of a family you want to build, and what kind of parent you want to be.

Just as Michael Jordan visualized and knew what he wanted and had a plan for his life to become an all-star athlete, every successful man and woman has had some plan for life. When you look at True Father's life, he had a plan and a clear mission from the tender age of 16, when he was anointed and appointed by Jesus Christ, who asked him to find that beautiful woman together with whom he and she could for the first time in history form a couple standing in the position of True Parents. Those two together were to go on to create a beautiful family. This is what Jesus Christ asked Rev. Sun Myung Moon to accomplish.

From then on, he had a clear vision, purpose, and plan. He knew that he had to perfect himself as a man and he had to find the woman who could grow to stand in the position of perfected Eve. They had to unite in holy matrimony, the Marriage of the Lamb, which happened in 1960. Together they were to stand in the position of the True Parents and go about building an ideal family, and from that starting point as an individual ideal family move on to create the ideal society, nation, world, and cosmos. My father had a clear plan, just like Michael Jordan. He visualized the wonderful woman he would call his wife, his great partner in his active life of ministry. He knew that together with her, he would create a family and they would have a common understanding of what kind of family they would like to build.

When you look at a marriage, it is valuable to recognize that just like the successful recipes for my father's life, for Michael Jordan's life, for Albert Einstein's life, or for anybody else known as successful men and women of history, they've all had a plan, a mission statement, a purpose, and a goal. In my own life, I have realized that one of the most important things in a marriage is to have a common plan and goal, to share a common vision of what we want to be.

The great thing about the Blessing is that not only are we coming together because we love each other, but we're coming together because we believe that God is our Heavenly Parent. We believe that the vows of matrimony should be shared with our Heavenly Parent, with the rest of humanity, and between husband and wife.

Knowing when we commit ourselves in marriage that we both recognize our marriage as being bigger than either of us and being connected to something eternal and divine is extremely important as the starting point of a relationship. You can be reassured when you think, "Okay, here I am going to this blessing with someone who shares my vision and my goal in life to live as an eternal son or daughter joined in matrimony and loyal to this person for the rest of my life." Both of you can affirm, "I will be a man or woman of integrity, and together we want to build an ideal family that understands and recognizes God as our Heavenly Parent, that recognizes the philosophy of living for the sake of others, that recognizes a sincere desire to bring forth great children and to substantiate the Generation of Peace that we so desire." A successful marriage needs to have a common goal and vision.

The second integral point that makes a marriage successful is an understanding of teamwork, understanding each other not as the man being the master and the woman being the servant, but recognizing that men and women thankfully are different but they have equal divine value and worth.

When our True Father talks about an ideal subject and object relationship, he uses the diagram of a 90-degree angle, meaning there is God and there are children in the Four Position Foundation, but also man and woman. At the center of the Four Position Foundation, there's a 90-degree angle, meaning that the man is not slightly higher than a woman in terms of divine value, but that they have equal and the same divine value because they are both eternal divine beings.

In counseling Second Generation couples, I've learned that many times they come to the blessing thinking, "I don't have to do much. All I have to do is show up and I get a wife or husband." There is not much preparation that went into working on oneself before the blessing. Many times we take ourselves as we are and expect the other person to put up with it for the rest of eternity. The wonderful thing about this time when Father is allowing individual choice and responsibility is that it's taking out something that I felt was always detrimental to the concept of the eternal relationship. Many times the concept of eternity is wonderful in that there's a sense of security that you can overcome anything together. But in its negative manifestation, many times the concept of commitment for eternity has contributed to one spouse being abusive of the other, not being the best that person could be, not trying to put the best foot forward, or simply refusing to grow.

I don't know how many times I've heard phrases like "Where can he (or she) go? We're eternal mates. He (or she) will have to live with it." I felt always that when we take the concept of eternity and do not approach it with a sincere heart of gratitude but accept it as an entitlement to having a spouse, it can quickly degenerate into something not holy and not beautiful.

When Father and Mother encourage these couples to think about eternal relationships and living for the sake of others, implicit in the philosophy of living for the sake of others is the notion that you have to take care of the other person better than yourself. Implicit in the philosophy of living for the sake of others applied to marriage is the notion that the two spouses will grow together becoming better people because the more we serve, the deeper we grow; the more we serve, the wider become our heartistic capacities; the more we serve, the more inspired our lives will be as we realize the extreme beauty in loving another person.

When our True Father and Mother look upon these couples, wishing them an eternal blessing, what they are hoping is that these couples will take up the responsibility as husband and wife with great seriousness and understand that marriage is something that should be shared. Marriage is a place where we need to grow; marriage is a place where we need to honor each other.

Our True Parents are hoping that by growing together and serving each other in a marital relationship we can overcome the boundaries and barriers that are between different religions, races, and traditions. Father and Mother would like to see an Asian culture change for the better so that instead of a man arriving home and going straight to his easy chair, expecting the wife to have dinner made, his slippers put out, and his feet massaged, perhaps our True Parents are saying, "This is a time when we should be living for the sake of others." Regardless of how tiring the man's day has been, perhaps it's a great opportunity for him to come home and greet his wife and ask her, "How was your day?" before he expects to be served.

This may be a wonderful opportunity for a wife not only to expect her husband to make her life comfortable and secure financially and emotionally but also for the wife to raise her husband up to be what he can be instead of lashing out at him.

Then we're not going into this marriage relationship for our own gratification because we want a husband or wife, but we are entering this relationship because we honor the dynamic teamwork of a man and a woman truly respecting, honoring, and loving each other, and thereby empowering, inspiring, and encouraging each other. Instead of having a henpecked husband, you have a husband who is secure, knowing that in his wife's eyes he's awesome. And instead of having a wife who is abused because her husband never tends to her emotional needs, you have a husband who knows how to give a hug when he comes in the door, who knows how to ask the question, "How was your day?" before she has a chance to ask him, "How was yours?"

In that way, we can understand marriage, blessed life, as an opportunity for a man and a woman to come together as two hemispheres preparing ourselves to be the brain for our family. If the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere are fighting all the time in our brain, the family is not going to function too well. The brain must give a clear signal to the children and to the whole greater family. If the right hemisphere and the left hemisphere are busy fighting over who is more important, who should be higher or lower, then the body is not going to get very far.

In the marriage relationship, teamwork is very important. It's not what you take away from the blessing, but it's really all about what you bring to the table, what you bring as a part of that team. You need to realize and decide to be a team, and to be loyal to your team.

The Good Book, in James 1:8, cautions us not to be double-minded, not to be tossed around like the waves of the ocean. Thinking about this in the setting of teamwork or marriage reminds me of sitting in the audience at the Wongu Sports Festival in Korea, watching the teams battling it out to win soccer, volleyball, and so on. The importance of the team, especially having pride in belonging to and being loyal to your team is very evident, whether you're at the Wongu Sports Festival or at the Olympics.

Imagine a gymnastics team from Slovenia that comes for the Olympic Games, representing their country to the world with great pride, bearing the flag, and determined to play the game and win. Can you imagine if this team comes into the Olympic stadium, sees another team, and one team member says to herself, "The Canadian team looks better than mine. I think I'll go play with them." She's not going to be able to represent her country in a very good way. If members of other teams competing in the Olympics decide they like another team better and go play with them, there will be major chaos, right? There won't be a very satisfying team competition at the Olympics.

Likewise, when you decide that you belong to a certain team, there's got to be a sense of loyalty maintained with clarity and no double-mindedness that will confuse the game. You cannot enter the competition having dual purposes. You have to have one common vision and teammates who understand that common vision and want to play that game together with you.

In thinking about marriages and relationships, the idea of delayed gratification and the willingness to persevere are essential. I define perseverance as being steadfast to a purpose or a goal. I'm not advocating merely enduring or putting up with or tolerating. This not what we're striving for when we seek the Blessing. What we understand is that marriage is work, that marriage involves dealing with a lot of these things that will help transform us into the ideal family we long to be in the future. There has to be a commitment to delayed gratification and a willingness to persevere.

When a teenage boy first discovers women, one of the first things he wants to do is pump up his body to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, to be big and brawny and able to pick up a woman with his bare hands to show her what a man he is. When Arnold was young, he was quite scrawny looking, until one day he decided he wanted to be Mr. Universe. He worked at his body. He understood that in order to get there he had to delay gratification for a lot of things.

I happen to know a little bit about body-building because my brothers were so entrenched in it for a great many years: the need to keep a disciplined life, a couple of hours of exercise every day, eating only certain types of food. How does a young man used to inhaling pizza and calzone and spaghetti with meatballs change into a disciplined young man who would eat only lean meat cooked in olive oil instead of butter and whole grain instead of white bread or rice? The amount of discipline needed to achieve what you want to become is incredible.

When you see old pictures of Arnold as that skinny young man compared to what he is now, admired throughout the world, you realize that he had to have serious discipline to help him get from scrawny to brawny. Not only in body-building, but in every aspect of life where you want to be great -- like my children who are classical pianists -- to be first-prize winners in international competition, it takes many hours, much perseverance, and a willingness to delay gratification because you want to accomplish a goal.

We're not talking about just putting up with or tolerating, but being steadfast to a plan, something that's understood up here [in the head]. You know clearly why you are doing what you're doing. You're not just tolerating or being abused by putting up with something because you have nowhere else to go. This is a plan of action.

When my kids decided to win a competition, they had to give themselves one year to prepare, practice, hone their craft, and memorize the pieces -- and not just memorize but make each piece a part of who they are, so they're not just playing what they learned, but actually breathing the music. A true artist breathes the music in the sense that music becomes a part of the artist.

Just as our True Father has taught us that love and music are universal languages, if you want to be a truly great musician, you hone and discipline yourself so much that you can have a great technique. But a great artist is not satisfied with great technique. A great artist wants a great performance -- to be one with the music and one with the art, to be and breathe the art itself.

This is what my kids wanted to accomplish. For that year, a great deal of sacrifice had to be made. Perhaps they couldn't spend as much time with their friends as they would like. Perhaps they had to curb some of the things they would like to do -- fewer video games so they could practice instead. But when they did that, telling themselves that they would remain steadfast to their goal, they knew they had a great shot at the competition when they started to breathe what they needed to perform.

Marriage is very much like that in that there has to be a willingness to experience delayed gratification in different phases of the relationship. There has to be a willingness to work toward something, an agreement to try, for instance, being more honest with each other. Why don't we try working on being more committed to the different things we would like to see in each other? There has to be a sense of wanting to go through the difficult process of working these things out, knowing that in the end once the problems are worked through we can be gratified and accomplish the goal we set out to accomplish.

The goal of every couple, really, is to experience the parental heart of God. God created Adam and Eve because he and she wanted to experience what it felt like to have a child, what it felt like to be a parent, what it felt like to truly love something more than yourself. In this beautiful environment called the Blessing, we have a wonderful opportunity to experience exactly what God experienced.

For those of us who think we've seen and known it all -- I think a lot of young people think they know everything they need to know about life -- you don't really realize how much love there is in your heart until you have kids. You don't realize the powerful feeling of love until you have kids. The first time you have a child is the first time you realize, "This is what God must have felt when he created us, when he created you and me." Then you realize how lucky we are to be living in God's love.

When we realize this, we realize that we want to have children, too. We want to have children who become beautiful adults who have beautiful children of their own. We want to be grandparents. We want to see the cycle of love continue on and on forever and ever. The desire for someone else to be happy is never as profoundly felt as when you have a child. That's when you realize the true meaning of living for the sake of others. You're willing to die for this child. You're willing to give up everything about who you are for this child. This child becomes more important than you, and you realize first and foremost how much humans mean to God.

Life is a gift, and we come from so many different types of situations, family backgrounds, and cultural heritages -- we carry a lot of baggage whenever we come together in matrimony. One of my favorite writers, Oscar Wilde, said a long time ago that the interesting thing about men is that every man wants to be the first love of a woman, but women have superior instincts in that women would like to be the man's last romance. This means that we hang onto this notion of romance, and we want to be something that completes a man.

If we recognize that men and women may approach a relationship in different ways and have different images of a blissful family, shaped also by our different cultural backgrounds, and if we know that we are all headed toward becoming one family under God, then we realize that the three words -- conceive, believe, and achieve -- are like three bullet points paralleling our common goals: teamwork, delayed gratification, and perseverance. We have to have a clear concept of what we want, a clear vision of the different options out there, and then we have to truly "see" what we want.

In order to substantiate what we are visualizing, we have to believe. Implicit in the word believe is the word "live." Believe sounds like "live." We have to live our faith. As George Sand once said, we have to live our faith with great excitement and enthusiasm. For her, faith was a condition of intellectual magnificence that should be treated like a treasure and not squandered. It should be lived and nurtured; it should be supported day in and day out in our lives.

When you come to the word achieve, in my ear it's almost like "heave" is inside achieve. There's a whole lot of heaving that needs to take place in order to accomplish our goals. It's almost like moving mountains, insurmountable odds many times. But if we can persevere -- not endure but persevere -- and really hold steadfast to our goals and our purpose, then we can accomplish all that we desire. We can truly rejoice in God our savior, as it says in Luke 1:47.

In that way, if we tackle our marriage with a plan of action that we are going to carry out and focus on steadfastly, while knowing that our spouse will honor and respect us -- not abuse, malign, or enervate but be in a relationship that energizes both of us -- then we can create a foundation to have beautiful children. We can operate in such a way that the left and right hemispheres send a clear signal to the children about our having a plan or strategy of the kind of family we would like to build.

Again, the plan of action that takes the couple from starting out to becoming a successful couple can also be applied when the couple has children. When you have children, you need a mission statement, just like a corporation needs a mission statement. A family needs to know what it's going to do, what it's going to accomplish, what it's going to work through to become a successful family.

I hope we can keep these three things in mind as we give well wishes to the thousands and tens of thousands of couples blessed on October 10, and also as the First Generation blessed many years ago, and the other Second and Third Generation that are continually getting blessed continue developing their own blessed families. We need to be the kind of community that allows each couple room to grow. If more couples spent more time working on their relationship than trying to change or control others' relationships, our community would be far stronger and better.

Instead of gossiping about what the couple around the corner is doing, we should concentrate on what we need to do as a couple and a family. To the First Generation, as we gaze upon this new era of direct dominion in which our children will take more and more responsibility in choosing their own spouse, let us be happy for them, and let us take pride in our suffering, knowing that perhaps it has laid a great foundation for our children to have something so wonderful as the Blessing and to truly live in a relationship in which they can be loving life every day.

Congratulations to the thousands and thousands of couples that were blessed, and to the thousands of couples that continue on their work toward creating ideal families. I wish you health, happiness, and a great deal of loving life from this Lovin' Life Ministry. So God bless, and have a great Sunday.

Notes:

James, chapter 1

1: James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes in the Dispersion: Greeting.

2: Count it all joy, my brethren, when you meet various trials,

3: for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.

4: And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

5: If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all men generously and without reproaching, and it will be given him.

6: But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.

7,8: For that person must not suppose that a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways, will receive anything from the Lord.

9: Let the lowly brother boast in his exaltation,

10: and the rich in his humiliation, because like the flower of the grass he will pass away.

11: For the sun rises with its scorching heat and withers the grass; its flower falls, and its beauty perishes. So will the rich man fade away in the midst of his pursuits.

12: Blessed is the man who endures trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life which God has promised to those who love him.

13: Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted with evil and he himself tempts no one;

14: but each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.

15: Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full-grown brings forth death.

16: Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.

17: Every good endowment and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

18: Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth that we should be a kind of first fruits of his creatures.

19: Know this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger,

20: for the anger of man does not work the righteousness of God.

21: Therefore put away all filthiness and rank growth of wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

23: For if any one is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who observes his natural face in a mirror;

24: for he observes himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.

25: But he who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer that forgets but a doer that acts, he shall be blessed in his doing.

26: If any one thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this man's religion is vain.

27: Religion that is pure and undefiled before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.

Luke, chapter 1

1: Inasmuch as many have undertaken to compile a narrative of the things which have been accomplished among us,

2: just as they were delivered to us by those who from the beginning were eyewitnesses and ministers of the word,

3: it seemed good to me also, having followed all things closely for some time past, to write an orderly account for you, most excellent The-oph'ilus,

4: that you may know the truth concerning the things of which you have been informed.

5: In the days of Herod, king of Judea, there was a priest named Zechari'ah, of the division of Abi'jah; and he had a wife of the daughters of Aaron, and her name was Elizabeth.

6: And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless.

7: But they had no child, because Elizabeth was barren, and both were advanced in years.

8: Now while he was serving as priest before God when his division was on duty,

9: according to the custom of the priesthood, it fell to him by lot to enter the temple of the Lord and burn incense.

10: And the whole multitude of the people were praying outside at the hour of incense.

11: And there appeared to him an angel of the Lord standing on the right side of the altar of incense.

12: And Zechari'ah was troubled when he saw him, and fear fell upon him.

13: But the angel said to him, "Do not be afraid, Zechari'ah, for your prayer is heard, and your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you shall call his name John.

14: And you will have joy and gladness,
and many will rejoice at his birth;

15: for he will be great before the Lord,
and he shall drink no wine nor strong drink,
and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit,
even from his mother's womb.

16: And he will turn many of the sons of Israel to the Lord their God,

17: and he will go before him in the spirit and power of Eli'jah,
to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children,
and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just,
to make ready for the Lord a people prepared."

18: And Zechari'ah said to the angel, "How shall I know this? For I am an old man, and my wife is advanced in years."

19: And the angel answered him, "I am Gabriel, who stand in the presence of God; and I was sent to speak to you, and to bring you this good news.

20: And behold, you will be silent and unable to speak until the day that these things come to pass, because you did not believe my words, which will be fulfilled in their time."

21: And the people were waiting for Zechari'ah, and they wondered at his delay in the temple.

22: And when he came out, he could not speak to them, and they perceived that he had seen a vision in the temple; and he made signs to them and remained dumb.

23: And when his time of service was ended, he went to his home.

24: After these days his wife Elizabeth conceived, and for five months she hid herself, saying,

25: "Thus the Lord has done to me in the days when he looked on me, to take away my reproach among men."

26: In the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth,

27: to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary.

28: And he came to her and said, "Hail, O favored one, the Lord is with you!"

29: But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and considered in her mind what sort of greeting this might be.

30: And the angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.

31: And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus.

32: He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Most High;
and the Lord God will give to him the throne of his father David,

33: and he will reign over the house of Jacob for ever;
and of his kingdom there will be no end."

34: And Mary said to the angel, "How shall this be, since I have no husband?"

35: And the angel said to her, "The Holy Spirit will come upon you,
and the power of the Most High will overshadow you;
therefore the child to be born will be called holy,
the Son of God.

36: And behold, your kinswoman Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son; and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren.

37: For with God nothing will be impossible."

38: And Mary said, "Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word." And the angel departed from her.

39: In those days Mary arose and went with haste into the hill country, to a city of Judah,

40: and she entered the house of Zechari'ah and greeted Elizabeth.

41: And when Elizabeth heard the greeting of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit

42: and she exclaimed with a loud cry, "Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb!

43: And why is this granted me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?

44: For behold, when the voice of your greeting came to my ears, the babe in my womb leaped for joy.

45: And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfilment of what was spoken to her from the Lord."

46: And Mary said, "My soul magnifies the Lord,

47: and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,

48: for he has regarded the low estate of his handmaiden.
For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed;

49: for he who is mighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his name.

50: And his mercy is on those who fear him
from generation to generation.

51: He has shown strength with his arm,
he has scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts,

52: he has put down the mighty from their thrones,
and exalted those of low degree;

53: he has filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he has sent empty away.

54: He has helped his servant Israel,
in remembrance of his mercy,

55: as he spoke to our fathers,
to Abraham and to his posterity for ever."

56: And Mary remained with her about three months, and returned to her home.

57: Now the time came for Elizabeth to be delivered, and she gave birth to a son.

58: And her neighbors and kinsfolk heard that the Lord had shown great mercy to her, and they rejoiced with her.

59: And on the eighth day they came to circumcise the child; and they would have named him Zechari'ah after his father,

60: but his mother said, "Not so; he shall be called John."

61: And they said to her, "None of your kindred is called by this name."

62: And they made signs to his father, inquiring what he would have him called.

63: And he asked for a writing tablet, and wrote, "His name is John." And they all marveled.

64: And immediately his mouth was opened and his tongue loosed, and he spoke, blessing God.

65: And fear came on all their neighbors. And all these things were talked about through all the hill country of Judea;

66: and all who heard them laid them up in their hearts, saying, "What then will this child be?" For the hand of the Lord was with him.

67: And his father Zechari'ah was filled with the Holy Spirit, and prophesied, saying,

68: "Blessed be the Lord God of Israel,
for he has visited and redeemed his people,

69: and has raised up a horn of salvation for us
in the house of his servant David,

70: as he spoke by the mouth of his holy prophets from of old,

71: that we should be saved from our enemies,
and from the hand of all who hate us;

72: to perform the mercy promised to our fathers,
and to remember his holy covenant,

73: the oath which he swore to our father Abraham,

74: to grant us that we, being delivered from the hand of our enemies,
might serve him without fear,

75: in holiness and righteousness before him all the days of our life.

76: And you, child, will be called the prophet of the Most High;
for you will go before the Lord to prepare his ways,

77: to give knowledge of salvation to his people
in the forgiveness of their sins,

78: through the tender mercy of our God,
when the day shall dawn upon us from on high

79: to give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of
death,
to guide our feet into the way of peace."

80: And the child grew and became strong in spirit, and he was in the wilderness till the day of his manifestation to Israel. 

The Lovin' Life Cookbook

In Jin Moon
October 14 2010

A great way to reach the soul is through food!

Therefore our senior pastor, Rev. In Jin Moon, would like to put together a cookbook with recipes collected from our national and global community.

Please share your recipe, together with a short story about how this recipe has been an expression of love in your life. Perhaps it's a family recipe, or just one that always seems to have great memories surrounding it.

Whatever type of recipe it is, be sure to send your recipe and story Lovin' Life by November 15, 2010 in order for it to be published! 

Encouragement to Wongu Peace Cup Team U.S.A

In Jin Moon
October 13, 2010

On the day after the Wongu Peace Cup games were held in South Korea, Rev. In Jin Moon took Team USA to a Korean dinner. Before leaving, she spoke to them about how wonderful their spirit was throughout the competitions. She also emphasized the importance of not giving up, and that with every loss you are one step closer to winning the gold medal.

I will try to make this brief and heartfelt because, as the President and CEO of the Unification Church in America, I was truly inspired by all of you. Just watching you pass by, you looked so professional and so high-spirited, and your beautiful smiles lit up the whole stage. We saw a lot of players go by, but quite a few of them had never met True Parents and don't know True Parents because they're not members of the movement. Some of them are professional players; some of them are semiprofessionals. But because they didn't recognize who they were passing by, those of us in the True Family could sense what our True Parents were feeling -- that these people didn't realize how special this occasion was.

But when we saw the American team passing by -- you are not professionals and might not be semiprofessionals, although quite a few of you are really good -- the spirit that you brought as you walked by was something indelibly marked and experienced in the True Family, and I know True Parents felt it, too. So I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for making the effort to come all this way.

I realize that the Wongu Sports Festival has been going on for some time. It's been a festival to promote peace and harmony and at the same time a means for the teams to have a great time and experience on the field. But I was thinking, instead of having professional and semiprofessional people coming together for this sports festival, how wonderful it would be if I could bring a group of Second Generation and get them inspired about being passionate about a certain sport they might want to participate in during the year after. How wonderful it would be if our Second Generation could develop into semiprofessionals and professionals that can represent America in the best way!

My whole philosophy as the senior pastor is not just internal excellence but external excellence, too. I know that many of you were seriously slaughtered on the field, but I was so moved by your spirit because this is my philosophy, which applies to anything you do in life, whether you're fundraising, or witnessing, or you're going to get straight As or you're going for that particular career. Life is difficult and always gives you a set of obstacles to work through, but every time I get a no, I tell myself, "You're one step closer to a yes."

So every time you lose a game, you're one step closer to winning a game. If we can have the kind of philosophy that carries us through whatever we do in life and we can apply it in whatever area we happen to find ourselves in, sooner or later we are going to get that yes. Sooner or later you are going to get that gold medal, and sooner or later you are going to be representing your country at the sports festival, like the Wongu Sports Festival that you participated in, and come back home with a gold.

That's where I would like to see us headed in terms of playing next year or the year after. Hopefully this experience will motivate you to come back and want to participate next year. If it happens to be in the fall, let's maybe get together in the summer to train ourselves so we can be better prepared.

If we can develop not just the educational component in terms of academics and our theological understanding of who we are but also incorporate the sports aspect and the fine arts aspect into the whole program that we're developing, I feel that we can create what Harvard University calls a well-rounded person. Everybody who goes to Harvard at the bare minimum is a valedictorian or salutatorian and straight-A student. That's the bare minimum. But on top of that, what Harvard looks for are future leaders.

Harvard's administrators know there are certain components that make a person a leader. Leaders have to be able to work well in groups, and they have to be motivated: They have to know how to set goals and overcome short-term failures but still be motivated to accomplish their end goal. That's why, sure, Harvard wants straight-A students, but it also wants people who are sensitive as well as smart, people who are artistically inclined, like classical pianists, like my kids are, so that they are sensitive to feelings. At the same time, Harvard wants kids who are also athletically gifted.

As a mother, as a senior pastor, and as somebody who wants the Second Generation to shine, I want you to be great in all different aspects of life because you will be the future leaders -- not just for our movement but for our world. The Sports Festival is a chance for us to grow and have a great time but at the same time understand the importance of a good attitude toward the game. Even though you might not have won, just as Kester (team USA player) explained that he himself was so motivated by the spirit of his team, that's the important thing.

What's important is coming onto the field with a great attitude, with a respectful attitude -- toward your teammates, your opponents, and the game -- and coming off of the field with that same spirit that, regardless of whether you won or lost, you participated in something special with your team, representing your country. That's why, whether you win or lose, it is a great honor to experience playing the game, as any sports fanatic knows, I myself being one.

I want to thank you for being out there, for being courageous. Clara (women's volleyball team) was telling me she played volleyball against Russia and northeast Europe. Russian women, all being six feet and above, are very, very good players. But just in hearing her tell me about her experience I could tell that regardless of what happened on the court, the spirit was high. She takes it as a great experience -- just the fact that we can come as a family to this country of Korea and not only experience the thrill of playing the game and losing and winning, but also have a chance to revisit where we all come from. None of us would exist had it not been for our True Parents.

So the fact that you can visit where Father's ministry started here in Seoul and hear a little bit about what my younger brother has been engaged in is really a chance for you to connect to your roots and feel one with where you come from and who you are.

I expect only great things from all of you. Hopefully your stomachs were satisfied. If you did not have enough, please let me know. There is plenty more food. I need to be on my way and take my leave, but as your senior pastor I am so proud to have such a wonderful team, and the first blessed children's team of the sports festival. I am incredibly, incredibly proud of all of you. Thank you.