Part 4 - The Mission Of The International Blessed Families

Chapter 6 Part 4 
The Mission Of The International Blessed Families

1. Internationalism Centering Upon God

The Unification Church holds mass wedding ceremonies. Marriages are arranged between different nationalities or between different races with different skin colors, transcending ethnic backgrounds. In the United States, which is a land of severe racial discrimination, white people are prejudiced against getting married to black people. Interracial marriage is only possible centering upon God-centered internationalism -- Godism which transcends ethnic and national barriers.

I mentioned this in America. Unification Church members belong to the "love race." What kind of love race is it? They are the race unified and connected with God's love. If this race grows, what will they be? They will be a love nation. The population of Korea is 40 million now. If the population of Unification Church members surpasses 40 million, their power will exceed Korea. Their donation will exceed Korean taxes. For them the Unification Church has more value than their family, society and nation because the Unification Church is their true Fatherland of their faith and Motherland of their mind. Furthermore, they are the love race and love nation closely connected centering upon God. Only Godism -- namely, one internationalism or brotherhood centering upon one God as parents -- exists here.

Generally internationalism means to see the world as one nation and all humankind as compatriots, but the internationalism the Unification Church is talking about transcends all the walls from the family level. It is an "ism" to establish one world with one God as parents and all humankind as full brothers and sisters. Isn't it a fascination-ism?

Because the Unification Church has such an ideology, this movement is rapidly extending to the worldwide level.

Basically we have two kinds of love. One is humanistic love and the other is God's love. These two should be harmonized well to become one love.

A circle revolves centering upon one point. When this circular motion returns to the central point, it cannot help but move again out of the center. To naturally rotate in and out means that there are no obstacles blocking the way. The central point of this circular motion is the core of the movement. In order to take this central position, the Messiah is to come. Heavenly love initiated from the core -- the Messiah -- can move outward.

So far, the ideal world harmonizing human love and God's love has been considered a mere ideal existing only in a dream world. The Messiah is the one who will actualize the impossible into the substantial. And this is at hand. The Unification Church was born to accomplish this purpose. Reverend Moon's utmost contribution is to bring all humankind together under a common goal and to realize one harmonious ideal centering upon God's love.

The quickest shortcut to bring the unity of the races is international marriage. A man and a woman selected from two totally different cultural and environmental backgrounds are to become one with the love of God. This is complete harmony and unification.

We are to realize such an ideal. In order to accomplish a great work, we should find the gigantic power of love. Such a great power only comes from the utmost power of love. That is not the love played fast and loose with societal and environmental changes. Only the utmost love can transcend the boundaries of nationality, race, culture and knowledge.

In human history, myriads of races and nations have fought each other as enemies and been divided. Father wants to resolve this. Let us pioneer a new heartistic connection. The Unification Church is to break down the national barriers through the international mass wedding ceremonies and to raise rapidly the heartistic indemnity foundation.

Let us jump from hell on earth to he palace in heaven by making this kind of marriage a stepping stone.

You can meet freely, but you cannot separate as you wish. It is a miracle that a man and a woman meet among a large number of people; so to meet is not easy. Moreover, meeting in the Unification Church is related not only to earth but also to the eternal heaven. You are to enter not only the providence but also heaven. It is a dual miracle that you meet in the providential history. Generally, a white gets married to a white, but why Is a white woman married to a black man? A waterfall cannot flow upside down. Father thinks it is done correctly even though secular people think it is done backwards.

A white woman whose mind is broad enough to accept a black husband will give birth to great sons and daughters. You are to embrace each other

In the same manner as a hen embraces her chicks. When two people digest each other's complicated life contents, they make a beautiful harmony. As a result of digesting each other, you will grow bigger and bigger and you'll have great hope for the future

If a British woman becomes a queen through an international marriage with a Japanese man, Britain will be able to get aid from Japan when she is in difficulty. The way for a country to be prosperous can also be found in an international marriage. The world can become one from now on. It is possible. No one can swear that such a unity will not happen.

2. All Humankind Are One Brotherhood And One Family

When people resurrected through the Principle become one, transcending the nation and the world, they are one brotherhood. Then white, black or yellow races won't exist. The skin color may be a little different because of climate and environment, but the bone, skin, blood and mind will be the same.

For example, let's look at pine trees. As they move from the extreme arctic regions to the temperate regions, trees become different. They vary according to their environment and history. Let's also look at bears. The bears at the North Pole are white to protect themselves in an environment which is white.

The white race, like white bears at the North Pole, have to be white due to the environment, because the protective color is white.

The white race is like white bears at the North Pole while the black race is like the black bears in the temperate zone. That's the only difference. Can the bears discriminate against each other "because you are white" or "because you are black"?

If the white race has this idea, they will lose the game numerically to the black and yellow races, because whites are only one-third of the whole population. If they have such an idea in this specific era when the communists are at the height of violence, they will be a definite target of attack. Therefore, this idea must be cleaned out as quickly as possible.

Five different races -- Asian, Hispanic, white, black, etc. -- are here. What color or hue would appear if we mixed all the races? Any color is okay with us. The Unification Church transcends race.

So many kinds of flowers blossom in the spring. No painter can exceed a flower in expressing its beauty. We cannot compare the value of a real flower with that of a drawing of a flower. Regardless of color -- black or white-flowers are all beautiful. When we mix seven colors, they become one.

If give and take is performed evenly and fairly between different entities, unification will be brought forth. White symbolizes peace, which means reconciliation with or compromise. Originally, the white race symbolizes the race which can bring about peace, but they didn't fulfill their responsibility.

The white race have been meat-eaters. Their white skin color was protective. Originally, they lived in the Scandinavian peninsula and the North Pole. They survived by hunting on ice and snow. They didn't do farming, but instead ate meat. That's why they have the nature to attack other nations.

But blacks used to eat fruit or plants in the southern area. They have been invaded a lot but they invaded others less. Instead, their daily work was to eat and play. Because they had enough food for survival, they weren't greedy. The time will surely come for blacks to be blessed if they have absolute faith in God.

The whites didn't have any other way to eat except by hunting, so they hunted and invaded others. God called them because He needed the white people's role in the restorational process. Due to the Christian faith, the whites became international, but the blacks shouldn't be disappointed. Even though they are proud of themselves, the whites have a record of invading other nations. On the other hand, Easterners have a religious inclination. While eating fruit, they think.

With respect to races, inferiority or superiority doesn't exist. Color counts for nothing. What matters is how in a fundamental sense we can come closer to the historical tradition and God.

All should become one. The Unification Church holds international marriage ceremonies. Westerners are married to Orientals; marriage with no regard to race is the most beautiful scene in human history. The problem appears when we cannot transcend racial barriers. These marriages will be seen as truly great 10, 20 or 30 years from now. Humankind will perish without such international thinking. Human beings are brothers and sisters centering upon God. There's no excuse for all of us not to be one in front of God.

There are many people with different nationalities in this room. If someone says, "I'm not interested in a black or a yellow spouse," he or she is opposing God, because God wants to make all races one. Therefore, if someone says, "I'm not interested in other races," he or she won't go on a path parallel with God.

The mass wedding ceremony is one of the most remarkable international activities of the Unification Church. Through marriage, Father implants an idea that we are one people. God's nature and His blood are in blacks. Asians and Africans have one mind. Blood is continuously circulating throughout the whole body. Blood is circulating even between the smelly toes; likewise God's blood is circulating in all the vessels of humankind. The Unification Church holds international marriages to break down the walls of the world. When we can go into every country without restriction because of these international marriages, the walls which were high and strong will be destroyed. Love is the most powerful force. There was the 118 Couples' mass wedding ceremony in England, and most of them volunteered for an international marriage. As such a movement expands, the world will become one naturally.

A black marrying a white was considered a sin in the past, but the two extremes becoming one is in line with God's ideal. We are doing such work. When whites are ordered to look for ideal spouses, if they choose black people as their ideal spouses, their nation will prosper; and such a nation can be the Kingdom of Heaven. Nobody except Father and the Unification Church can initiate such a work. God wouldn't complain about the disappearance of the white race. God would be happier if He could find genuine human nature instead of a genuine white person. Our families should be able to follow the viewpoint of God's will.

Black members may be hesitant when they enter white society; but after knowing God's will, they should stick out their chest with pride and without any shyness.

This is a story about a German sister. At the Blessing, she asked to marry an African. Racial discrimination still exists in American society, but she married an African in order to understand the meaning of true love. She thought of God's concern, regardless of the prevailing social views. To have such a mental attitude is to feel keenly God's will and His love. The mind to look at everyone as part of one's family has great value.

We know how difficult building the Kingdom of Heaven is. The Kingdom of Heaven cannot be established by a general and ordinary method. Without having the conviction to sacrifice oneself for the sake of the whole by knowing God's heartistic situation, we cannot build the Kingdom of Heaven. When we act with such conviction, God has to help and bless us. Eternal happiness lies in the person with whom God always dwells. Therefore, the conclusion is that God's love and eternal happiness are with the person who wants to establish an eternal Kingdom of Heaven. Eternal happiness exists centering upon an eternal ideal.

3. The Meaning Of The International Mass Wedding Ceremony

The power of love is greater than that of atomic bombs. Love resurrects a man with new life, but an atomic bomb just kills a man. It brings not creation but judgment and destruction. The United States and the U.S.S.R. possess atomic bombs which can destroy the earth tens of thousands of times; but they cannot bring forth world unity because atomic bombs are weapons which kill, having nothing to do with love's power to endow people with new life. True love, not the force of arms, is absolutely necessary for the unity of the world. Temporary unification is possible by force but it would be like living on an active volcano -- we would never know when it was going to erupt.

Members of the Unification Church are trying to realize world unity through the weapon of love. One of the activities for this is the international mass wedding ceremony. When a husband and wife from different racial backgrounds try to understand each other's situation and environment and establish a successful love relationship, the world will be one.

When minorities can receive equal benefit from the system and from the civilization, and when advanced nations supply the less advanced nations with techniques, loving to help them be economically independent, instead of exploiting them, humankind will eliminate war and starvation. Because God's love can blossom and bear fruit to establish the Kingdom of Heaven on earth in such an environment, the Unification Church focuses on such activities. A person whose faith in God is absolute can win the victory. We should go over the racial level and finally overcome the whole world with this thought. This is why the Unification Church claims that the five races should be one in the future. Because God's love is one, interest and affection cannot differ wherever God created land. Interracial marriage is a symbol of God's love and will. Love is considered not to have any national boundary, even by the secular world. How much more is it true in God's dominion? It is fundamentally different from the tragic connection of love made by the history of force. God's love doesn't just seek individual well-being and benefit; it is a devotional way of love, for the world and all humankind.

Love is the invisible order, peace and core of happiness which promotes the public good at the worldwide level. It is also a public asset and a symbol of God's love and His will.

A new kind of race is being established in the Unification Church. Under the principle that all humankind is of equal value to God, a transcendent race is forming. Unificationists are composed of all races including American, Korean, Japanese, German, African, etc., but they work with the same purpose, which is to establish one world. If five races fight each other, not overcoming the racial walls, then even if we claim to work for God, God will not be with us. Because Father knows that God doesn't like to see such discrimination, he mixed all five races and let them work on the same team. Father knows God's providential desire for one world, so he organized such a combined team in order to break down the racial walls. If Unificationists don't overcome the racial walls, they will not be able to gather together all of humankind, which includes differing histories and cultural traditions.

How can Father bind all the Unificationists into one? To bind them with rope is not complete; neither is it complete to bind them with money, authority or ideology. The only way to bind them is through love.

To bind them in love is the Blessing. And it is not the blessing between a white and a white, rather it is the blessing between a white and a black or a yellow. Likewise a yellow is to be blessed with a black or a white. This is the rope of love. If black, white, and yellow are bound by a rope of love, the children will be different colors, but surely one race. If the ancestors are black and white, there will still be a possibility for a black child to be born out of a white and a white marrying in the future. In spite of parents being white, they will still have black genes in their blood from the mixed blood of their ancestors.

The whites are excited to get married to blacks and Asians. Who made this possible? Did Reverend Moon make it possible? True love did.

Let's imagine that a white woman who is married to a black or a yellow person gives birth to twins; if the twins are a black and a yellow, what will God's heart be when He sees her family? Will He say, "They look ugly so I'll not visit your house," or, "How beautiful they are! I'm so happy with your family"? A white mother giving birth to black and yellow babies would be the most beautiful scene on earth. It would be the utmost beauty that human history ever created. It is most beautiful to see a white butterfly, a red spotted butterfly, and a yellow butterfly together fluttering around a flower. This is the same principle.

One love star s where one mind gathers. Love can visit where minds becomes one. First of all, we should make an environment where love is cherished. Therefore, wherever the mind goes, love follows. The Kingdom of Love is possible when the father's mind and the mother's mind are one in a family.

The Kingdom of Heaven comes earlier to the family of a white and a black than to an all-white family because the united mind of whites can establish the family-level Kingdom of Heaven, but it is still far away from the worldwide Kingdom of Heaven. The way to the world level opens for the united family of a white and a black. Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven will be established first in an internationally married couple. Two-thirds of the divorce cases in the United States are caused by women. Woman fell first by Satan's temptation in the Garden of Eden. Without women nothing can be done, so they need true education. Such an education has not been given successfully by any prominent scholars or religious leaders. In such an age, international marriage is a topic of discussion not only in the United States but in the whole world. Unificationism is enabling people to engage in international marriages which transcend racial walls.

The Unification Church appeared in order to solve all the complicated world problems of the different cultural and environmental backgrounds. So you as a representative of the world should be able to solve all difficult matters through bearing a heartistic cross. In that sense, an internationally married family is greater than any other family. God's love will visit the successful international married Couples. Because those families bear a family level cross for the world and they represent the honor of the Unification Church, their way is to be solemn and grave. There will be a day when the people who are married to the same race will have to congratulate the internationally married Couples with gifts.

Our sisters! Wanting to get married only to whites is satanic thinking. Even though I'm Korean, my perspective is not limited to Korea. I'm the one who first thinks of the world. We have to set up such a tradition. If five races in the transcendent religion become one in love, the new morning of utmost glory, which God desires, will dawn.

Nowadays many members of the Unification Church participate in international marriage, transcending national boundaries. There are many Couples who cannot communicate with each other because of the language barrier; they are willing to invest all of their lives and youth. For whom do they invest their precious youth? The world is blocked up by the national barriers, so they want to break down those walls. By walking such a suffering course earlier than others, we are to establish God's foundation, on which all the races and nations can be united. If a person accepts such a course with gratitude, he or she will be considered a victorious one, historically and universally.

In order to overcome racial war and sexual corruption, we held an international mass wedding ceremony.

Father is in the position to represent myriads of nations. That's why Father sends Korean men and Korean women out to the world by means of an international Blessing. This is the best way to love the world.

Korea is groping for progress in the realm of international competition; likewise the Unification Church should embark on the international stage in order to establish a cultural realm centering upon the new Unificationism. We have a mission to establish subjective love for the new world. That's why our marriage ceremonies are held internationally.

From now on, all of your close relatives will try to serve Father. At that time, I will visit the internationally-married Couples, First because they are the ones who accomplished the heartistic revolution.

4. The Difference Between Eastern And Western Culture, And International Marriage

What is great? (Love!) Really? (Yes!) That's right. Then, where's such love? Is love vertical or horizontal? (It is vertical!) Then, is love the power of spiral motion or the power of linear motion? (It's the power of spiral motion!)

Therefore, there is also horizontal love as well as vertical love. Then, which is first? (Vertical love is first!) Why? Centering upon the nose two halves of a human body are identical.

Westerners write horizontally from left to right, but somebody started to write vertically from top to bottom in order to connect heaven and earth.

From where will the world become one? When Western thought starts moving around, centering upon Eastern thought, the world can be one. This cannot be actualized by Westerners moving to the East; it should be started by an Eastern man trying to make Westerners one.

You as Westerners are trying to follow and to be one with Father -- an Oriental. This is a phenomenon happening for the first time in human history.

Westerners thought "day" is always with them. Now they are scared because "night" is approaching them. But "night" surely must come, in order to make a full turn so that a higher-dimensional life style can be opened.

Light and darkness exist to make harmony. A person who is ignorant of such a fact doesn't know art. What is God's ideal art work? If there's fighting between white and black, masterpieces cannot come into being.

The white person who only prefers another white person is the same as a picture painted with only white paint. Can it be a masterpiece? From this perspective, all five races are necessary. When the background of a picture is multi-colored, the picture looks more beautiful than the picture with a mono-toned background. In order to make a picture look three-dimensional, various colors should be harmonized.

The Oriental's face and Occidental's face are created in a way complementary to each other. The Occidental's nose is high but the Oriental's is flat. When Occidentals try to kiss, they have to tilt toward the side in order not to bump each other's noses. But it is possible for an Easterner and a Westerner to kiss straight because one nose is high and the other is flat. That is why God also wanted Easterners and Westerners to create harmony in relationships with each other. Therefore, Father encourages international couples, that look more stylish and are closer to a round shape, which can make it easier to revolve around.

Why do I like that? It is because the principle of heaven and earth is so. We should make East and West completely one by solidifying the foundation of love which cannot be separated by any national power. That is the way for the Unification Church to be eternally remembered in history. The world will automatically become one if such a foundation is established.

Do you like flat lands or mountains? There is harmony and mystery in a mountain. We easily get tired of looking at flat land. Then is the white race closer to flat land or to a mountain? Western civilization is low, which means to be closer to the flat land. Why do Americans like words starting with "anti"? It shows the inclination to go higher by using new and opposite methods. If we examine American culture closely, we will find this to be commonplace.

But Eastern culture is deep, lofty and mysterious. Westerners have great difficulty understanding Eastern culture, even though they study so much about it. They don't know about Orientals. When Westerners conflict with each other, they try "grappling." They separate "high" from "low" by fighting, but Easterners do it by contemplation or thought. When something is going wrong, they just wait and see it through with patience.

Therefore, it was inevitable that the Occidental civilizations, which tend to favor war, absorbed Oriental civilizations by initiating wars. The white race initiated many of the world's wars. They were the hunting race, eating the bears near the North Pole. Such a race has been leading the history of wars in world cultural history.

When two objects in a relationship become one, strong power is produced. There's a saying that when women gather together, they totally stir up the village. But when a man and woman become one, unprecedented power will manifest. Likewise, when East and West, having completely opposite natures, can become one in love, they will be eternal. That's why nowadays we can see the tendency of Occidentals to imitate the Orient and of Orientals to have affection for the Occident. When cold water and hot water run into one, it explodes; likewise, when an Oriental lives in the West, and when a Westerner stays in the East, they feel very stimulated. Therefore, future marriages all should be international. In managing such events, Father became a standard-bearer for the world.

5. Opening The Age Of International Marriage

I blessed Japanese, Americans and Germans this time. Originally, I wanted to bless some Japanese in 1967, but I couldn't. So I blessed Kuboki as a representative of Japan in the 430 Couples' Blessing in 1969. At first I blessed Japanese, next American, and then I let the anchor of Blessing land with four nations centering upon Germany. Therefore, you should know that a victorious foundation, with representatives of the world's nations setting up indemnity conditions, has been established.

Because I had to establish a world-level foundation, there was an international marriage among 10 different nations after the 430 Couples' Blessing.

The 36 Couples' Blessing was to mark the victory over all the failures of Christian history. It had a mission to revive the central thought of Christianity.

The 72 Couples' Blessing is to bind Cain and Abel in a unified form. The 124 Couples are the representative forms of the world. The 430 Couples were blessed in the very year in which Korea became 4,300 years old. This Blessing established a condition for any Korean who believes in God to go to the Kingdom of Heaven. From that time on, the door of the general age instead of the specific age opened. This taught us that people from all parts of the world are one brotherhood. Father blessed 43 Couples from many nations in the world in 1969; this Blessing had a meaning similar to that of the 430 Couples' Blessing in Korea. The age of international marriage opened after the 430 Couples' Blessing. Through your international marriage, you are to be the families of the world instead of focusing on each other.

The age of the international wedding opened after the 777 Couples' Blessing. There was the 320 Couples' matching ceremony in England; only two percent of the candidates were matched to the same nation (English to English). Young men and women from 27 nations were matched internationally. The mass wedding will be known as the "integration wedding," which is to match people as independent heavenly entities, regardless of nationality, or financial or social background. When the age of opposition to the Unification Church passes, the age of the "integration wedding" will come.

Whoever suffers the most will receive God's blessing. You have the form of an individual but you are not a mere individual. You should live as a representative of God, transcending the individual dimension. A person who lives for the society and the nation is called a loyal subject; and a person who lives for the world and humankind is called a saint. Working for yourself counts for nothing. The result of self-centered action will be fallen and rotten, having no meaning, like the fallen leaves of autumn. A person who works for the whole purpose will be eternally remembered as a champion, a mature fruit in society.

This time everyone was blessed internationally. In order to restore the world, you should have a universal feeling, transcending any national feeling or thought. That's why everybody received an international blessing. Father felt joyful because the Couples were happy. So Father asked them what they can do for Korea. They answered that they can do anything.

No Asian man in human history has done such work in Europe. We can feel the awesome power of the Principle.

If Korea is the champion nation, which is the object nation? It is Japan. That's why many Japanese members want to get married to Koreans, who are the ones closest to Father. They are digging into Korea. International marriage automatically becomes a great success because it is the only way. Why? Because it is the shortcut to heaven.

We are to organize the victorious dominion of the individual, family, tribe, nation and world from the remnants of the satanic world. I plan to arrange many international marriages this time. If that happens, people will be able to change their concept toward the other nations, going over national barriers and limits. There was a matching among members from 27 different European nations; only two percent of the people were matched to the same nation. Others were matched to unexpected partners. Some had language barriers, and some were matched to an enemy nation; but everyone was joyful. Difference in customs might have made them a little awkward, but it was no problem. So the wedding became a topic of interest among the European nations. People started a rumor that Reverend Moon escaped from the United States to England; but actually he gathered European young men and women and arranged their marriage. The members were matched to persons of whom they had never even dreamed. But they were so happy, even though they were matched to total strangers, because Father led them. Outsiders may wonder about those young people!

6. The Mission Of The International Blessed Families

It is unprecedented that you crossed over national boundaries and gathered here. Father made it possible for you to go over the national boundaries; it is a great achievement. For example, England and Germany were enemies during World War Il. But by marrying a young man and a young woman from those countries to one another, a historical phenomenon of give and take with love took place between those enemy countries. Even though they cannot communicate completely with one another, when they look at the babies born out of their base of love, both will feel the same joy. From this point, the heartistic dominion of unification is binding people together from all over Europe; this is an amazing fact.

The language and life style of the people from five oceans and six continents cannot be understood easily, but the international marriage which went over the historical walls became a landing base for God and True Parents on earth. It is a great task. A doctrine of the Unification Church is to live for the sake of others; this is the idea of sacrificing oneself for the sake of others. In this world dying from selfishness, a crowd of proud individuals gathered in front of Heavenly Father -- the grand Subject of the Universe-and determined to live for the sake of the family, nation, world and cosmos. The battle cry of the crowd which is determined to break through all the layers of crucifixion is ringing throughout the world. This is a revolutionary and epoch-making song of which to be proud.

For what did you cross your national boundary? Why did you come to Korea, leaving your culture, land and parents?

God's providential goal has been to find an original husband and an original wife. Therefore, you came to meet your true husband or true wife, for whom your original mind has yearned, separating from the satanic national foundation. A true man and a true woman are to grow through their close relationship with the True Parents. In other words, you came here to serve the True Parents. You are not here pursuing money. You are not here to be proud of being American, British or German. Rather you are here to be proud of your spouse and of True Parents beyond everything else in the world. Because True Parents haven't left the sorrowful path, you came here to love them. Father knows the international blessed Couples are the ones with this heartistic determination.

You came here to look for love with an obedient and loving mind. Even though your husband is crippled or deformed, it is God's and True Parents' decision. You should have a strong desire that at the cost of your life you will leave one fruit, which is the sap of your love, on earth. With this quality of desire, you should be able to give birth to sons and daughters. Have such sons and daughters ever been born before?

Father wants to ask you, "With what kind of milk do you feed your baby?" When you nurse your baby, consider that your baby is born as the flower of your united love centering upon God and True Parents. Do you hold and nurse your baby with such an attitude? The most valuable asset for you is your child. If you had looked for money, knowledge or fame in the past, that was a false life. If your couple serves one another with sincerity and tries to pave the way to become True Parents, God will be responsible for your family. Such a family will not die of starvation; neither is it to disappear due to persecution, mockery or name-calling. The environment will surrender to such a family, as it has in Father's case.

Regardless of the opposition of the whole world, Father proceeded to look for true brothers and true tribes. After establishing true tribes, Father went on to look for the true race. After establishing the true race, Father went on to look for the true nation, true world and true spirit world. Reverend Moon has been the representative to look for the world of heaven filled with unity and love.

You don't know how precious the Blessing is. You should become a proud international couple which is qualified to receive God's love as well as His praise. You should pray for the birth of a standard-bearer who will be able to unify your two nations, and also determine to raise your child as the prince of the two nations. Have you prayed like that? If you didn't, you should repent right now.

You should change your fundamental attitude toward life. While shouldering the historical responsibility to confirm the domain of love, and while enduring in order to pass over the suffering course of the cross, you are to make an expedition into happiness in the distance. You will be punished if you forget that you flew here from all over the world to pioneer the way for true love, and your nation will be punished.

The international marriage didn't take place by accident. The traditional mission of the children of those Couples first is to annul the difference between East-West and North-South resulting from authority, knowledge and economic power, and next, on this foundation, is to build a lofty Mount Everest of love.

Are there any Japanese members who want to be martyred for God's will in Korea? The Japanese are told to marry anyone except a Korean; that is the Japanese disposition. l know it clearly. You don't know how contemptuously Father was treated in Japan. There would be no way to end my resentment even if I beat and break the bones of the Japanese. But because I realized God's love and the universal law, I can forgive and bless you; otherwise my eyes would flare with resentment. l can never forget the situation in which I was on the verge of death, bleeding from severe torture. Is it easy to gather such descendants, and make them God's children?

Since you came to Korea, you should fulfill your responsibility while learning Korean tradition. If I am buried in the "Garden of Unification," you will also be buried near me. If you get buried in the same garden as Father, your descendants will be so proud of you. The day is not so far away when your offspring in tears will cherish your memory. You should experience the awesomeness of leaving your traces in history.

To endeavor day and night is the traditional movement and action of the Unification Church.

Korean husbands and Japanese wives! You are not to live for Korea. You are chosen as the worldwide pioneers of love to unite Korea and Japan.

After Japanese members learn Korean in Korea, they should go to the wilderness of Manchuria or Siberia, or prepare to go to Red China. When the Japanese can love Red China more than the Chinese love her, the way to march forward to the world will be open. God's will is to plant the seed of true love even at the sacrifice of your life. Father expects that God's front liners, who will be able to pioneer the continental dominion, will be born centering upon the Japanese members and their descendants. You are gathered here for such a task.

You came to Korea by an historical summons, so you shouldn't live as Japanese or Europeans any more. Even if you suffer more than the Korean people, you must go out as the front-liners to establish the heavenly tradition. While Father is establishing the worldwide foundation, you came to this fatherland of faith, so you must try harder and sweat more than Father. Have you worked more than have the Japanese members in the United States? Japanese sisters should work more than they suffered in Japan; European members also bear the responsibility to work harder than they did in their countries. No matter how difficult it is, to walk this way is your duty and goal. When your heart becomes one with the homeland of your faith, and when you master the Korean language, I will send you to your country as Korean teachers. Every country will need you. As an advanced contingent, Father matched you as Couples. Do you have time to listen to radio programs? You must study Korean every day until late at night, according to a study schedule. You will be able to spread the Korean language all over the world. You should play the role of connecting your country to God's nation.

The time will come soon when you are proud of having a Korean husband. At the very time of opening the door to the Kingdom by creating the Unification dominion centering on God, you came to Korea. So you foreign wives shouldn't be driven out of this nation, and you Korean husbands should embrace your wives with love and protect them from being driven out. You should experience this elevated and deep heartistic bond while working as the main unit for home church activity. You will have to extend the Unification dominion into your country with an anchor of love holding fast, centering upon the Blessing.

Who will receive more blessing from God? The couple from the same country who risk their lives for the providence, or the couple from enemy nations who are determined to accomplish the Will of love in oneness at the risk of their lives? The internationally married couples will receive more blessing. Knowing that, you should fulfill your responsibility as the messengers of love, in order to provide a good example to Koreans.

Part 1 - True Husband And Wife

Chapter 7 
The True Husband And Wife And The Ideal Family

Part 1 
True Husband And Wife

1. The Original Relationship Of Husband And Wife

One man and one woman are the substantial object of the invisible God, His son and His daughter. Man represents God's masculine (+) nature and woman represents God's feminine (-) nature. God -- the harmonized body of the dual characteristics -- is divided into two entities formed separately, and these separate bodies are to be united again to resemble God. This is the principle of creation. The unity of one man and one woman represents the original unity of God's plus nature and minus nature. This is the harmonized body resembling God. Therefore, two human beings, husband and wife, symbolize the whole of God.

Man is True Father's incarnation and woman is True Mother's incarnation. They are also respectively representatives of God. Therefore, when they become one in love, they are embracing the universe. They become the central point of the entire cosmos.

A husband represents all men, so he is father and older brother as well as husband; a wife represents all women, so she is mother and older sister as well as wife. That's why husband and wife should naturally respect each other.

Man is God's positive external form (hyung sang) and woman is God's negative external form, so a couple is like a bag which has inside it the whole universe. Therefore, a husband and wife can feel the ideal of God's heart of love.

Man symbolizes heaven and woman symbolizes earth. They are to unite and form parallel lines.

The perfection of man and woman's love is the perfection of the universe. When this love is broken, the order of the universe and the vertical world are destroyed.

The union of man and woman is the union of heaven and earth.

The embrace of man and woman itself is the union of the whole universe. It is like the original appearance of creation centering upon God's ideal.

Adam desired to control the cosmos. He cherished the value of husband and wife and this desire represented the central value of the world, didn't it? True love should occupy this central position, but look at the status of today's evil society! People pursue physical gratification only. You shouldn't follow this corrupt trend.

You should know the holiness and value of the love of an original man and woman.

2. The Ideal Of The True Husband And Wife, Which Must Be Restored

A wife should think that her husband is God's representative. She should be in the position of a daughter to her husband. The husband should restore her as God's lost daughter. God lost three feminine objective positions due to the fall. One of them, the position of God's daughter, should be restored through the husband. Therefore the wife should trust her husband more than she does her father. They have to face each other centering on this standard, which is much more valuable than the sum of their past experiences. Unless they restore this heartistic standard, husband and wife cannot restore the standard of the ideal object, which was destroyed by Satan. A husband should treat his wife as his mother, and they must be so intimate that they cannot stay away from each other even one day. They are each to be an existence absolutely needed by the other. Unless husband and wife become one like that, the condition of restoration is not established.

A wife is the mother's incarnation, the encapsulation of the mother's body for her husband. She is also the physical encapsulation of an older sister and of a younger sister, and she is the representative of all women in the universe. To love one's wife in this full dimensionality is to love the mother, older sister and younger sister on the level of all humankind.

Likewise, a husband is the father's incarnation for his wife. He is also the physical encapsulation of her older brother and younger brother. We must accomplish this ideal of the family. A man is True Father's incarnation and a woman is True Mother's incarnation. Therefore, neglecting one's wife is like neglecting True Mother, and deceiving one's husband is the same as deceiving heaven.

A wife should consider her husband as her father and grandfather and then as her older brother and younger brother.

A husband is to raise up his wife as his younger sister, to love her as his bride and to serve her as his mother. He is to love his wife in the order of younger sister, older sister, bride, and mother. By going through this course, we can restore the love that God lost due to the fall.

Why do we marry? We marry to discipline ourselves to love the world and to qualify ourselves to love humankind.

We receive the Blessing for the sake of God and the world. Then what is the purpose of love? In order to love the world, we are to love the one closest to us, who represents the world. A woman is to love her husband in place of her father, older brother, and younger brother, and a man is to love his wife in place of his mother, older sister, and younger sister. The husband and wife are bound to love and respect each other representing those four generations in the closest position, giving stimulating love and respect to each other.

The husband and wife relationship is the basic unit to give and receive worldwide love. Because Jesus couldn't set up this basic condition, the Marriage of the Lamb, bringing together a bride and a bridegroom representing the world, should be held this time.

In order to think of your wife as your mother, you have to be the baby. Be a baby! It is not bad to be a baby. A woman likes a man playing on affections. Try it if she likes! Try crying over food like a baby. Don't worry. God won't scold you for your immature behavior. It is inevitable in the course of restoration. When you say to your wife, "Mommy, give me rice," she will be joyful, saying, "Aha, here's our big baby."

Unless you are determined to restore the lost love of woman, you cannot restore the original family standard.

God has not had the experience of parental love, conjugal love and children's love with one person; this results in His resentment, which must be restored. When those three kinds of love are induced through one person, the heartistic Kingdom of Heaven can be restored. Ultimately, the only problem is love.

The new history starts from a bride and a bridegroom. By believing in Jesus, you are to make the pure and burning bond of love. Staying in the state of engagement is not enough; you are to become a real husband and wife. The couple should stand in the position to judge the past history and solemnly to start the new history as new ancestors. Without achieving this position, you cannot be considered a human being.

When a bride and a bridegroom individually are restored through indemnity and become a husband and a wife representing heaven and earth, God will acknowledge them, saying, "You are the flesh of my flesh, the most dutiful son and the most loyal subject." Then they are qualified to represent all the nations of the world.

How is your blessed family life? Do you fight? It is not easy to be a husband or a wife. Do you know how difficult it is for God to find an ideal object on this earth? After losing His sons and daughters, God has been establishing religions at the cost of great sacrifice through the course of history. Owing to the foundation of such sacrifices, you are called here and blessed. Dare you fight with each other after receiving such valuable love? It is easier to be the president of one nation than to be a husband or a wife of one family. The husband is the substantial God on earth. Man is the substantial representative of heaven and woman is the substantial representative of earth. When they are harmonized, the ideal is accomplished, filled with joy and song. The power of love is limitless, so when you are intoxicated with God's love, you are in God's dominion.

I blessed you because I want you to establish a family which is objective to God and which is qualified to receive His love, so you shouldn't fight. It is not that the husband is not responsible for his wife's mistakes or that the husband can stand righteously while a wife does something evil. You should serve your spouse as God, more than you serve anybody else in the nation or world.

Women in the Unification Church should think of their husband as their God and men should think of their wife as their God. The one who serves one's spouse as God is considered to be the one with true love.

And then you are to serve your husband as your Lord. The Lord is the King of Kings. Aren't you happy to live with somebody representing God, Lord and King? You should be as joyful to see your husband as you would be to see God. Because love is unchanging, it can penetrate anything. The way of love is such that love goes through an individual, family, nation, world and even God; it can go through everything.

When a wife is as happy to see her husband as she is to see the Lord or King, she carries the value of God's object. If you are God's object, you have the same value as God. When you completely love the King, Lord and God, your love can penetrate anywhere. Therefore, these three kinds of love are like a crystalline lens. True love can unite all the creation.

When you go to the spirit world with such love, you will be one with God. There is no boundary in love. Your husband is sent by God, the Lord and the King. He carries God's bundle of love, so you cannot deny such a precious guest, whether he is handsome or not. Without this understanding, you are not qualified to get married. When you relate to the four directions with such love, the whole universe is embraced in the realm of your love. Then you love subjects as your King, humankind as the Lord, and the universe as God. This enables you to go to the Kingdom of Heaven. The Kingdom of Heaven is the place to which those who love humankind as they love their own spouses or their Lord can go. Ultimately, from the viewpoint of love, God, the Lord and the King are one.

When man and woman become one, the whole universe can be one. Man symbolizes heaven and woman symbolizes earth. Man is in the subject position and he doesn't want anyone to intervene with his affairs. But love and truth can control anybody. Woman wants to receive love and she is passive. In this sense, man is to be a giver and woman is to be a receiver. That is why the oneness of man and woman is the oneness of heaven and earth. Only love can dominate the universe; therefore, you have to consider your spouse as greater than the universe. Our desire is to have an object who can receive and cherish us.

You are to love people. Man is to love woman and woman is to love man. The representative of man for a woman is her husband, and the representative of woman for a man is his wife. The husband is sent as the representative of all the men of the nation, of the world, and of the spirit world. The wife is sent as the representative of all the women of the nation, of the world, and of the spirit world.

In order to build the Kingdom of Heaven, a man should be able to love all the women of the world as he loves his wife. Think that you picked your wife as the companion representing all the women of the world. A woman should think of her husband as the companion representing all the men of the world.

What do you have to love first in order to love your nation? In order to love the nation a man should be able to love one woman, considering her to be the chosen representative of all the women in the nation. The same is true for a woman. When the two representatives of all men and all women become one and establish a family, that family belongs to heaven.

Conjugal love is necessary to introduce and teach the feeling of the Kingdom of Heaven in the future.

The families of the Unification Church should establish the "Kingdom of Heaven of the Family." When the "Kingdom of Heaven of the Family" is established, the Kingdom of Heaven on earth surely will be accomplished. In order to stimulate the real feeling of the future Kingdom of Heaven in the present position, we need an object. When we are stimulated by our spouses in our family, we can feel in our present daily lives the ideal of the Kingdom of Heaven which is to come in the future. That's why husband and wife are needed. Husband and wife can live eternally through such stimulation. Development is impossible without stimulation.

Conjugal love is the stimulating force to build the ideal Kingdom of Heaven. Conjugal love pulls the joy of the future into the present time and supplies the present with driving force which empowers us to reach the future. This love includes love of nation, world and God, so it can penetrate everywhere.

The Kingdom of Heaven is the place for the loving husband and wife only. If a couple lives their physical life realizing this concept of love, they are already in the Kingdom of Heaven. Jesus said that the Kingdom of Heaven is in your mind, but the Unification Church says that the Kingdom of Heaven is in your family. If you cannot establish the Kingdom of Heaven in your family, the ideal of the Unification Church will not be accomplished. If you can build the Kingdom of Heaven in your family, the ideal will be accomplished. With this viewpoint, you must go the right way centering upon the Principle. A woman should love her husband as her father, grandfather and brothers; and on the foundation of this bond of love, she should love her actual father, grandfather and brothers. Otherwise, she is not qualified to have a husband. If she just loves her husband while hating her father, grandfather and brothers, she will drift away from God's Word.

You should have the concept of loving your husband as the fruitful representative of all men in the world. When your love transcends the national boundary and embraces the whole of humankind as your family, you will be acknowledged as God's son or God's daughter. This is Unificationism.

It would be a blessing of good advice to say to a person who is about to die for the sake of his family, "Abandon your family and die for your nation." Isn't it right? If it isn't wrong, you should behave like that. It is proper to give a painful word like "sacrifice your family" to a person who is struggling with his poor household. The nation is the window through which shines a dawning light opening the way of the Kingdom of Heaven for the family. When you concern yourself with your nation's household more than your own family's, the nation will protect you. When such a person starves, the nation will shed tears. A multitude who sacrifice for the sake of the nation and the world, beyond their own families, can dominate the world without a physical battle, because no one can oppose them. This is God's strategy.

Ask yourself in front of a mirror, "What dream have I carried on so far?" The dream shouldn't be a dream for yourself, but should be a dream for heaven, the world and humankind. An ideal man and an ideal woman want to have a spouse who loves the world, God and humankind more than himself or herself. It is evil when a wife bothers her husband's public mission for her individual love. That's why it is said that your own physical family is the enemy. The ones who can destroy your chances at the critical, final moment of entering the Kingdom of Heaven are your loving children, spouse and parents.

3. The Position Of The Blessed Couples

God is composed of Father God (masculinity) and Mother God (femininity); therefore, all things in the creation are also composed of the dual characteristics of positivity and negativity. Eve is the wife of Adam through a horizontal relationship. In front of God, through a vertical relationship, she is Mother God as well.

The vertical God and the horizontal God meet at the time of the Blessing. The family is the place for this meeting. When the family is established, God and human beings can be united. Whenever and wherever the family is established, the vertical God as well as the "horizontal" Mother and Father God will be happy. God, father and mother are to be easily and naturally combined like the branch and the leaves of a tree. This is the seed of love that God desires as His ideal.

In the blessed family, man should live with the dignity of God and woman should live with the dignity of God's wife. If man and woman become one centering upon God, they will live in love in the physical universe and in the spirit world. This is fundamentally different from the type of love that Americans give and receive.

Living with God's dignity in true love has to do with the whole relation ship between God and the universe, because the origin and the result are one and the same love. This is the principle of vertical and horizontal love. Blessed families appeared with special grace enabling them to surpass the standard set at the origin by evil parents, and to determine the standard of good parents and have the right of good ancestors. Therefore, the joy of husband and wife is the joy of Heaven and earth. You are to create such a family.

Satan tempted Jesus, saying, "If you are the son of God, throw yourself down." This means that Jesus had to govern the fallen realm and gain victory over Satan's trials. In other words, if Jesus came as the son of God, he was supposed to have been separated from all the suffering conditions in the course of God's restoration. The focus of the 6,000 year history of restoration is to discipline humankind to restore Adam. Then, what shall we do after restoring Adam? We are to create Eve. We shouldn't let Adam and Eve be alone this time. We have to take good care of them and comfort them. We always have to he right beside them, going eastward if they are headed east or going westward if they are headed west. The blessed couples are like the restored Adam and Eve.

Because an older brother and younger sister fell, a husband and wife as a brother and sister should be acknowledged by God. They must enter the domain of liberation by going over the crisis of indemnity in the fallen world. Unless a husband and wife meet again as brother and sister, they cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Since the married couples of all religions have not known this, they have entered the spirit world separately.

The Unification Church teaches us how to remain united on earth and in the spirit world. That's what Father does. That is the Blessing.

All fallen men are archangels, fallen archangels. Woman in the fallen world is in the position of Eve who tempted the archangel, and man in the fallen world is in the position of the archangel who tempted Eve. The problem now is how to take care of the transformed fallen Eve and archangel, who have become the restored Adam and Eve.

Don't think that there are thirty billion people in the world; they all are our enemies. Here you are establishing the God-centered four position foundation. You have to get rid of all the fallen factors in the physical world and in the spirit world. In order to overcome Satan's total attack, you must have power stronger than Satan.

When a man reaches the restored Adam's position, Eve's position can be restored. And then they as a liberated husband and wife should establish the heavenly law to serve God. As soon as they set up the heavenly law, a new tribe is born.

Examples of the law of love between parents and children have been shown in history, but no one has practiced the law of love between man and woman. We haven't seen the content of the law of love between Jesus and the Holy Spirit, a bridegroom and a bride. We have to show this new standard of conjugal love and live according to it.

God manifested the attitude of parental love through the 6,000-year history of looking after His lost sons and daughters, but He couldn't demonstrate the love of man and woman to humankind. It was God's frustration and resentment that He couldn't establish the value of the horizontal love between man and woman, even though He showed the vertical standard of loving us as His children.

So it is God's desire to establish the substance of Jesus and the Holy Spirit, to witness to the value of their love in front of the universe and humankind, and to let it shine throughout the entire spirit world. Knowing such resentment of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit, you should dissolve it in your lifetime. You are to set up the tradition of man woman love which can accomplish this. That's why a man looks for a woman and a woman looks for a man.

4. Ideal Husband And Wife

Why did God make it that man needs woman and woman needs man? It is because God did not want to let one person live independently, but desired that two people live together for the sake of the future world, centering upon God's desire and love. When a husband and wife live hand in hand, dreaming optimistically of the future and denying the fallen reality, they will be able to go through any difficult environment. The difficult reality will not damage their future but will stimulate in them a new vision for the future. The ordeal of the present reality then will not restrain them. When a man and a woman stand in the position to respect each other, fully aware of and accompanied by the value of the future, the site of happiness will be established right there.

God established Adam and Eve as each other's ideal spouse because they are absolutely needed for each other. Unless the subject and the object make a bond of affinity in the present reality they cannot relate to the future. God established Jesus and the Holy Spirit as subject and object in order to manifest this cosmic content. Nobody can deny this.

In order to extend the dominion, you get married.

A couple has to establish a family with the affection generated from each other, and it should match God's purpose. Otherwise, you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven where God dwells in eternity. This is the conclusion and God's purpose of creation.

God is composed of vertical dual characteristics and each human being is composed of horizontal dual characteristics, so the ideal of husband and wife is to create a perfect sphere by the unity of the vertical God and the horizontal human beings.

Husband and wife should love each other as God's representatives. If you love from a humanistic point of view, you will eventually get divorced after discovering each other's shortcomings.

If a man and a woman get divorced whenever one of them makes a mistake, the family system will be destroyed and the order of society will be thrown into confusion. According to the degree of the mistake, they are to be given the indemnity period to repent. They should be educated about their mistakes and should be led not to make the same mistakes, in order for them to continue as a harmonious family.

Who are the true husband and true wife? When people become mature, they learn to form a family. They should consider their spouse to be their eternal object of love and their love should grow, day by day adding more and more love to the first love. When husband and wife as the substantial bodies of eternal love can extend the family-level love to the love of a tribe, they can be considered a true husband and true wife. Then they also can participate in God's love.

The true husband thinks that he was born, lives, and will die for the sake of his spouse. The same is true for the true wife. The husband and wife of an ideal, happy and peaceful family carry the principle to live for the sake of their spouse.

All of you are men of influence and fame in your society. You may think that your success is achieved by your own talent and effort, but you have to know that your very being was caused by a woman, not by yourself. Without a woman, can a man be born? What about a woman? Was she born for the sake of herself? It is vanity to be proud of being a famous feminine movie star in colorful make-up without a man. A man's shoulders are wide and a woman's hips are big so that they can be matched well.

Therefore, an ideal couple comes into being when they are of one mind to live for the sake of the other. From this point of view, ideal, happy and good people are those who live for the sake of others. This is the very principle of creation, of which humankind is still ignorant.

The husband should be able to sacrifice his life for the sake of his wife and the wife should be able to sacrifice her life for the sake of her husband. Such a couple is related to and protected by God's direct dominion of love, so it is impossible for them to fall.

True parents live and die for the sake of their children because love is established between them. Likewise, a husband and wife of true love and of true happiness are one in love, and they each live for the sake of the other. This is an ideal couple.

In the secular family, when a husband earns money, power is produced. The money earned by the husband is the source to energize the wife and the husband gets energy by looking at his energized wife. That's why they are anxious and their relationship is apt to be broken when the husband doesn't earn money.

The true husband and wife should center upon God's love.

The bride and bridegroom should center upon the original love of God, not upon money, authority or fame.

You are to develop yourself gradually, centering upon love. While the husband loves the wife and the wife lives for the sake of the husband, they are to establish a family that loves God.

What is the ideal couple of which the Unification Church talks? They are the couple which can substantiate the utmost art. The love of a husband and wife is the masterpiece of all art works. It is the best literature and it should be the substance of literature.

The husband should look the best in the wife's eyes and the wife should look the best in the husband's eyes. The bond of first love is the best bond. It doesn't matter what others say. It is impossible to buy it with billions of dollars. How beautiful it is to possess such a world of love eternally!

The wife should follow and serve her husband well. This is not supposed to appear just in literature or movies. You should live it in reality. The ideal of history and the ideal of culture have been wrecked, so Father has been creating a new history in order to create the ideal culture.

Until when do you want to love your spouse? How would you feel if the answer came, "Until our youth is over" ? We want our spouse to love us until death and even eternally. Eternity represents the whole centering upon the future. To love until death is to love sacrificing everything. "Eternally" means "completely," and "until death" means "giving everything."

After marriage, sisters will ask their husbands if they like them and how much they like them. They want to hear their husbands say that they love them giving everything, wholeheartedly. The same is true for men. It is inevitable. It is the way of God's harmony.

A man should die if he cannot control a woman, but it doesn't mean that man is to neglect woman. It doesn't work to claim and to present your one-sided way of love. Man and woman should examine each other forever. If your life is not sanctified and your family is not restored, God cannot claim your couple as His.

The dutiful son's mind is unchanging and it goes straight to his parents; and the loyal subject's mind goes straight to his king. Likewise, the saint is the one whose mind is unchanging and goes straight to God. If your mind is unchanging even at the moment of death, you are a dutiful son, a loyal subject and a saint.

In this view, if a couple wants to be a true husband and wife, the wife's mind should be able to go straight to the husband and the husband's mind should be able to go straight to the wife. That's why the Unification Church disciplines the mind to go straight to God regardless of whether one is Occidental or Oriental. Therefore, the mind of western members and of eastern members in the Unification Church is exactly the same toward Father.

The husband is precious to his wife and the wife is precious to her husband. They meet in the presence of the heavenly law; their meeting is not caused by themselves. If we keep our integrity in relation to God, we can break through and advance upon our way.

An ideal husband and wife encourage each other to work for the Will, God, and the world.

You must be a luminous couple, like the sun and the full moon in the principled orbit, not like the sun or the moon covered with dark clouds in a dark cosmos.

Heaven is looking for a couple which can represent heaven and earth and whose heart is filled with passionate love.

Create a record of love until you meet Father again. You should rear your children in the atmosphere of such conjugal love.

You should be a couple of parental heart which can be God's fence.

Economic difficulties cannot crack the affinity of husband and wife. Educational background cannot blur conjugal love. Some wife may think that her husband should study a certain field more, but Father doesn't think so.

5. Conjugal Love

Conjugal love is the oneness of the love of man and the love of woman. Conjugal love is to become one with children's love centering upon parental love and then it can become one with God's love. God's love will dwell where the origin of perfect conjugal love is established.

When a man and a woman are about to explode in love on the foundation of loving God and humankind, God and the universe can claim and possess their family. Where does the root of love exist? It doesn't exist within you. God's love is the origin.

Doves love each other sounding "coo, coo." What about you couples? When people who are in deep love meet each other, the sound will be much bigger than that of thunder.

If we have strong love centered upon God, opposition and persecution from the world will be something interesting to play with. "First love" possesses enormous power, like dynamite. Did Adam and Eve live together without getting married, as is the practice of the young people in this age? True love is the first, the last and the eternal. The mind to pursue such strong idealistic love becomes the driving force to overcome all difficulties. We can win over anything -- not only Satan -- when we are in love.

To fall is to lose the center of vertical love and horizontal love. That's why conjugal love in the fallen world is so unstable. Conjugal love these days can be turned around 180 degrees by one word. That is the fallen reality. That shows that people don't know where conjugal love should aim. The reason that the world is heading toward destruction is that the order of conjugal love has broken apart.

True love means to love in complete oneness of body, heart and blood lineage. Who can love like that? Only the husband and wife can. In this ideal, is there any taste of life when one is apart from one's spouse?

One's spouse is the most lovely object in the world. The relationship between a couple is just like an echo. Your spouse will sound and behave according to how you sound and behave.

In love, a man doesn't reject a woman even while she is plunging into the depth of his heart. A man likes such a woman. All barriers are broken when one sacrifices and invests everything for the sake of love.

God wants a couple to love each other passionately. In order not to leak any love, which means to love 100%, virgin maidens and bachelors are warned not to touch each other's hands before marriage.

When you enter your married life after keeping your virginity, you will be able to love wholeheartedly. Even though a couple is physically far apart, they will find themselves moving toward each other automatically and unconsciously.

Our mind and body are in contradiction. To correct this, first of all, the body in the position of object should be one with the mind in the position of subject. Then we should make the reciprocal base for God to dwell in our mind, which is taking subject position united with the body as object. When a man and a woman who have accomplished this receive the Blessing and live giving and receiving perfect love in joy, they will look like flowers in full bloom.

All the harmonized outcomes generated from such loving couples will be like beautiful fragrance to God. God has always longed to live with such beautiful flowers and in such fragrance. God can dwell only in the love of a husband and wife; all things and the universe should be harmonized centering upon that love. The Unification Church is the place for teaching this content.

God's favorite melody is the joyous laughing of a couple in love. When a couple lives with the mind to embrace the whole universe, laughter is produced automatically. Isn't the loving life of a such a couple a beautiful flower in God's sight? This is not a mere ideal or something abstract. I am talking about the original world.

Looking at a mountain, a couple asks, "For whom does this mountain exist?" Their answer is, "It exists for me at the same time as for you." A couple is like this. The way for a couple to be one is for them to accomplish the purpose of the universe, regarding that purpose to be the most significant aspect of life.

A couple speaks centered upon mind, personality and love. They are in the same boat, aren't they? When a country-bred lady gets married to a Cabinet minister, people bow down to her as the wife of a Cabinet minister even if she didn't graduate from elementary school. Husband and wife are to go the same way. Within a couple, the wife's love is the husband's love and the husband's love is the wife's love.

The laughter of a husband and wife who are intoxicated in love is relative. The man opens his eyes wide and the woman gently closes her eyes when they laugh. When the husband's eyes get bigger and the wife's eyes get smaller, they become more intoxicated in love.

A couple shouldn't unilaterally desire their spouse's face to remain in a fixed shape. If they remain fixed, each will become really tired of looking at the other. When you look at your spouse with a joyful heart, he or she will look joyful; and when you look at your spouse with a beautiful heart, he or she will look beautiful. Feel your spouse's face anew with every new stimulation.

A husband and wife are happy when they give and receive love with each other. If a man strikes a woman with his fist using physical power, that couple cannot be happy at all. When a man energetically embraces and loves a woman, the woman will feel true happiness. This love cannot be accomplished by energy alone; neither can it be fulfilled by heart alone.

When a man confirms his loving heart with physical power, a woman feels complete happiness, and when the woman returns love both physically and spiritually to the man, they can become a truly happy couple.

Human beings always need stimulation. Happiness cannot be established without stimulation. Whenever we are hungry, rice tastes so good and fresh. We can eat the same meal every day with the same relish. Likewise, love always should be fresh and new. The husband and the wife should miss each other more and more, day by day. In order to feel that way we have to research ourselves and God.

What is our favorite thing to do? Is it eating? We feel good when we eat, but it is temporary. If we are full, we can't eat more, even though we are offered the most delicious dishes.

But we are never satiated with our lover. The more we see the lover, the more we miss him or her. In this way, lovers make a circle of love. Unification takes place right there.

Prior to marriage, a girl doesn't feel the necessity of a man. But once she gets caught by love in married life, she cannot bear to be without him. Owing to love, she realizes that her husband is much more precious than herself.

True joyfulness can be generated in a family only if they center their love upon God and they can see the joyous God. Originally, making love is not something of which to be ashamed. It is supposed to be the noblest, holiest and most beautiful thing. Because the human ancestors committed a sin of love, the history of love has flowed in a shameful direction.

Who could see Adam and Eve dancing naked in the Garden of Eden? Should we worry if a couple dances naked in their private room? Society rightly accuses them if they do so in front of others. But who cares if a husband and a wife dance naked or do whatever they want? Therefore, the blessed couple may dance naked in their room. Nobody can accuse whatever happens between a husband and a wife.

Even though there are so many men and women in the world, you should be able to think that there exist only you and your spouse. It is the principle that you totally invest yourself in your spouse alone.

The value of love lies in longing. Your spouse will be happy to pour out his or her love to you only if you ask for love opening your mouth and your eyes as much as you can -- in other words, only if you actively initiate love. Otherwise, your spouse will run away. How bad would you feel if your spouse were passive and not serious in love? Do you want to be closer to your lover or to be far away from your lover? We always want to be together with our lover because we feel good when we are together. We feel good when we are together because everything functions simultaneously.

When expressing love to a partner, it would be better to do it silently than to do it loudly shouting, "I love you." Deep love kept silently in the heart is very precious.

Occidental love is active whereas Oriental love is internal. The waves are high in the shallow water and gentle in the deep water. The waves of love also get quieter in depth. In this sense, invisible love is more precious than visible love. If there is one walking, visible God, what will happen? All the nations will fight with one another to possess this limited God within their boundaries. But fortunately, that which is precious is invisible and that which is invisible is precious. God is precious because He dwells in our invisible mind. Because He is inside our mind, nobody can steal God from us.

The invisible love is the greatest among all kinds of love. It would be no fun at all if love were visible. Since love is invisible, it can be the highest, widest and deepest. Some say love is like the Rocky Mountains or like the Niagara Falls. Those are correct similes. The invisible God is precious because invisible love is precious. It is true that we have to enter the state of the complete absence of ego in order to find God. God lives deeply and quietly in the invisible world rather than in the visible world where we live.

American love looks very hot but it is actually lukewarm. The American couples kiss each other every morning; it is like a fly touching on the skin a little and flying away. Look at Oriental couples. The husband and the wife stare at each other before kissing and they both drop their head slightly due to shyness. It is a really beautiful scene, comparable to one of the great masterpieces. It is also a sweet and mysterious scene when a wife carries her husband's suitcase with loving heart in order to see him off when he leaves for a business trip. But most American women don't even turn their heads or go out of the room to see their husbands off. Therefore, Orientals who are aware of the Western life style don't want to get married to an American woman.

The conversation of a loving couple is much more beautiful than any poem or any picture in the world. How beautiful words are, such as "between lovers," "between ourselves," or "you and me"!

When God blesses human beings, He creates the environment for the couple to be happy. The couples who enter the door of such blessing don't fight with each other right away. After entering the door of love, they are busy exchanging whispers such as, "I've been waiting to meet you for a long time. My life will bloom with the flowers of value through you. I was born to love you and waited to love you until now." There is nothing sweeter than the confidential talk of love.

The married couple's whispering of love is the most effective refrigerant to cool off all the fatigue and the hatred in the world. A couple shouldn't demand love forcibly from each other. Love is natural, so the confidential talk of love is soft and beautiful.

The wife after knowing love is stimulated to take a nap in the husband's bosom. That's because she gets addicted to this happiness and cannot control her heart. Prior to marriage, the man looks creepy and scary, but the woman's heart changes rapidly after marriage. She will do whatever it takes to be with her husband as much as she can be. For example, she pushes her husband to come home for lunch.

Likewise, a man after knowing love wants to sleep on his wife's lap whenever he finds leisure time, so he rushes right home at a coffee break or at lunch time. After marriage, he can do whatever the wife wants without a moment's hesitation -- even things that he formerly considered totally belonging to women. This is the typical change which takes place in a married couple.

When a man and a woman meet through God as their mediator, how do they express their love? Looking at the developmental process of love, love is expressed first by the mouth, second by the breasts and third by the sexual organ. Before making love, a woman hides her mouth due to shyness because love starts from kissing.

As love matures, sons and daughters are born as the fruit of love. For woman, her sexual organ is the holy place of love and only the husband has the key to the door of love. If the husband has two keys to open the holy place of love, he is Satan. The woman's holy place is to be opened only by her husband's key. If it can be opened by any other key, the woman is Satan.

When the husband opens the wife's holy place with his key of love, the most precious and valuable children are to be born. The children are the crystals of love. Through giving birth to a child, human beings can experience God's heart of having created Adam and Eve.

Because the baby is the incarnation of the parents, being composed of the blood, flesh and love of the parents, it looks lovely and cute all the time. It doesn't matter if the child has a runny nose or is urinating or defecating. Love is soaked with those actions. If the couple's relationship is created by an extremely strong force of love, no matter what the spouses do, every action looks joyful and lovely.

If a woman complains about her husband's body smell or if a man dislikes his wife's gestures, we can tell that there is no perfect love established between the couple. Such couples relate centering upon their own advantage.

6. The Destiny Of A Couple

What is marriage? It is to set one's sights upon a common destiny as a couple. It is to pursue the dual destiny, overcoming the individual destiny. Once a man and a woman are bound to one common destiny through marriage, they cannot freely change it by their will.

A man is bound to a man's destiny because he is born as a man; a woman is bound to a woman's destiny because she is born as a woman. No one can deviate from this; there is nothing that we can do about this destiny. Therefore, it is wise for us to follow the given orbit of destiny.

Once you are married, you cannot do whatever you like. You are to follow the destiny of your family at the risk of your life.

When we extend the trajectory of the heartistic road that a man and a woman are to go, it converges in oneness, focused upon God's principled road. That is the ideal point of the settlement of family love, generated by the oneness of man and woman. At first, a man and a woman individually are to find the focal point in which they can settle themselves down in God's heart; then they as a couple should find the settling point of family love by extending the individual focus.

Beginning with the very moment of love, you are one, not two any more. You cannot behave individually but should collectively take responsibility for everything.

A husband and a wife are a pair. Everybody's fortune is as different as everybody's face is different. The destiny of every life course is different. Even though a husband's fortune is bad, it can be changed to the good if the wife's fortune is good. The wife's bad fortune also can be made better by the good fortune of her husband. Therefore, the destiny of a couple is like leveling the land, raising up the valleys and bringing down the mountains. On that fertile ground, the couple can plant trees or plow fields with their common ideal. They can push ahead all varieties of plans on their land. Thinking in this manner, you should not unite centering upon your spouse's external looks. What is at stake in marriage is something very fearful.

When a marriage is not well arranged or accomplished, either the man dies or the woman dies, or both of them die at the same time. Many times we can see such phenomena. This principle functions even in the place of which you are not aware. The prosperity of your generation does not guarantee the prosperity of your future generations. A minimum of three to seven generations should be settled centered upon God. Your spouse may seem unfit for you to your human eyes, but you will realize the truth after making effort to live together for more than three years. Father is teaching about history from the aspect of tradition, so you couples should endeavor to become one.

You are in the same position as Jesus and the Holy Spirit. When you become one centered upon God and try saving others' lives in tears, multiplication will surely take place. Research whether or not this is true. If it does not work this way, my words are a lie. You should be completely one at the risk of your life for the sake of the glory of God's will and of your descendants, and you should establish the foundation upon which you can have give and take with God. When you completely engage in this give and take action, procreation takes place. This is the Principle. Practice this principled life in your substantial household. Because it has not been practiced in our daily lives, we have been stagnating.

Unless you accomplish relational love first, you cannot reach the absolute love of the subject. This destiny was given human beings in the original creation, so when you cannot accomplish the purpose of love, you are bound to bring about a rupture.

The husband's mind and body shouldn't change. Once he promises something, he must keep his promise forever. Otherwise he will be judged in the spirit world not by God, but by his wife. The same applies to the wife. The perfect person is the one who accomplishes oneness of mind and body, oneness with God, and oneness with their spouse.

There is only one love.

There is only one heartistic standard for a couple to establish.

The couple's mind and body should be one forever.

Love is eternal. It is not two but one. Once a man and a woman are bound in love, they are to live one hundred years on earth and eternally in the spirit world. When the two separate physical bodies become one centering upon God and establish the four position foundation of love, the ideal world will be formed. False love cannot invade there, and only true love will dwell there.

Some of the blessed couples may complain about their spouses. They are the ones who do not know God's sorrowful path, which has headed toward the establishment of the Kingdom of Heaven in the future. God knows the difference in standard between you and your spouse. When you keep your heart grateful to God, even though your spouse is not satisfied with you, He will bless you abundantly in the near future. The grateful heart is the absolute condition for receiving God's blessing. We must be the ones with such heart.

During the first three years of marriage, you have a hard time engrafting to your spouse because your family background, habits and etiquette are totally different from your spouse's. They do not fit each other, but you must make a deliberate effort to make them fit.

The wife should be obedient to and supportive of her husband. Of course, it is the husband's responsibility to increase his wife's willingness to do that. The husband should teach the wife how the Principle works. That's why Father thinks that the first three years of married life is the period to discipline the couple to be united with God's will. It takes at least three years for a couple to be one centering upon God.

Give birth to a child after being a parent without any trace of shame, according to God's will and the Principle. Such a family life is the principled form.

It is not easy to play the role of a parent; neither is it easy to play the role of a husband or a wife. You have to inherit the tradition of the Unification Church.

Everything that a woman has belongs to others. Therefore, a woman has the responsibility to keep others' belongings well. Think of the woman's breasts, hips and sexual organs! None of them are for a woman's sake.

A woman is in the position of a guest, an errand girl and a servant. She enters the other's house as a servant, goes through the course of an errand girl for her husband and parents-in-law, and finally becomes a queen -- the most precious guest. Originally, a woman's voice should sound softer than the voice of an average man. Her voice should be like the whispers of love.

In an Oriental family, the husband even hits his wife to correct her bad habits. An American woman divorces right away if she gets even one fist from her husband, doesn't she? What kind of love is that, which can be abandoned because of one blow? If she is slapped by her husband, a woman with true love weeps, holding her husband's hands. What can you do with love so shallow that it runs away because of one slap? True love makes you risk your life. A woman of true love doesn't abandon her husband even though he does this. I want to make you such a woman. But you know it is really not good for a husband to hit his wife.

What kind of woman do you want to be ? Do you want to be the kind of woman who divorces after being slapped by her husband? Don't you all want to be the women of true love, who can love sacrificing their lives in spite of your husband's misbehavior? Raise your hand if you want to be such a woman. All of the American men want to get married to you if you are such a woman.

What kind of bond do we have? We have the bond which will avenge God's lost love.

In order to make a bond of life, a man and a woman should march forward toward world peace. Peace cannot be achieved by only a man or only a woman. It is to be accomplished by the unified power of a man and woman. The way to achieve unity and peace is to rush right into the center. The driving force to rush into the center is the power of love. When your object appears, your mind automatically is to be stimulated to love.

When you are in suffocating agony, nobody can help you get out of that state. Even God cannot do anything for you. But how precious it is to have a horizontal partner who can understand your heart! The partner's shortcomings can be the condition for you to be grateful to God and to mitigate God's burden. When your partner comes up short in every held of life, it can be a good condition for you to show yourself in front of God.

Individual destruction is acceptable but the family shouldn't be destroyed. The wife is the most needed person in the world for her husband and the husband is the most needed person in the world for his wife. You should be each other's walking stick, advising each other.

Whether your partner is good or bad, he or she is your partner. When a husband faces the fate of death, so does his wife. The wife who curses her husband when he is on the verge of death will surely perish. The same applies to the husband.

The subject or object who lives for the sake of his or her partner never perishes. When there is a perfect subject who lives for the sake of others, a perfect object is bound to appear. When there is a perfect object who practices life for the sake of others, a perfect subject will definitely appear. Even though the partner doesn't appear right away, if you don't give up until the end, he or she definitely will come. You have to know this point very clearly. You shouldn't give things up so easily after trying just several days. Once you start something, your mind should determine to persist until death. If you cannot get the direct result in your lifetime, your mind should believe that it will surely come in the following generations. Waiting for generation after generation is not bad, if it is the result of God's plan to give you the worldwide blessing. God will think, "You are a very patient tribe, so wait for ten or twenty generations more. I'll pour the worldwide, historical blessing upon your descendants."

Due to the fall, human beings lost God's love. Without God's love, we have been making human relationships. That's why, even though the original mind is yearning for true love, there is no true love. The false love generated without God's intervention is temporary, covering only the physical life.

The couple happily married on earth may separate when they enter the spirit world. They will surely be separated if their love did not originate in God. The couples who started their love relationship and their family life centering upon God's love will never be separated.

7. Why Are We Sad When Our Loved One Dies?

Why do we feel sad when our loved one dies? When our loved one dies, we feel it instantaneously because of the way the power which fills the universe functions. The more love enters us, the more we feel this universal power centering upon our vertical relationship with God. But when our loved one dies, this power leaves us and we feel the absence of the power right away.

This is bitter. We are to be perfectly good entities found acceptable but we become incomplete due to the absence of our loved one. Our life pursues perfection. But when we carry imperfect factors, the power of the universe drives us out. That results in pain. You should know this clearly.

It is agonizing and painful to disappear from the earth. To feel somewhat better without a husband violates the Principle -- the universal law. That's why a wife wants to die when her husband dies. When we fit ourselves in harmony with all the relative positions, happiness comes.

When your husband or your wife dies, you feel sad. The principle of the universe is to form a four position foundation centering upon God, completing the three stages of parents, husband and wife, and children. When we are banished from the Principle, we feel sad. The formula is to create the vertical and the horizontal world centering upon the three stages of God, Adam, and Eve. The horizontal world is formed through the substantiation of Adam, Eve, and their children. The horizontal world is to appear and expand naturally through the extension of Adam and Eve's family. The horizontal standard of the body is children and the horizontal standard of the mind is the spirit world. The two should be one. God can dwell right there, in both the spirit world and the physical world. This leads to the establishment of the Kingdom of Heaven on earth.

Why does the husband shed tears when his wife dies? Because the way to give birth to children, fulfilling the third purpose, is broken. Therefore, he feels sad. Without accomplishing the third purpose, he cannot survive. There are positive (+) electricity and negative (-) electricity. If one of them disappears, the remaining one cannot function at all. The same applies to human life.

Can we really be happy living alone? When one half of a couple dies, the partner cries bitterly. Can a man alone prepare the way of life? Why do we become miserable without a partner? It is because we cannot fulfill the law of the universe. The motives and components which make for happiness are determined by the law of the universe -- the pair system. Feeling sad means we are deviating from the law. The law of the universe does not correspond with sadness. What does feeling happy or joyful mean? It means that the universe welcomes you. Feeling sad is the result of being banished from the world. Joy and sadness are distinguished in this manner.

When the husband of a newly married couple living in a complete oneness suddenly dies, can the wife alone find the lost love? Can she alone recover her husband's love? The only way to restore the lost love is through the resurrection of the husband.

When a woman lives alone without a husband, anyone is apt to tempt her, even if she lives in a good neighborhood. That's why a woman needs her husband, even though he doesn't earn enough money to make a living.

The son of filial piety feels unspeakable sadness when his parent dies; so do the parents who lose their children. The same applies in the case of losing our spouses. Our descendants feel the same amount of sadness when we die. This principle is unchanging.

Why does a woman cry when she loses her husband? It is not just due to the general reason that she misses him. Love needs four directions, and it should relate to "front and rear" and "left and right" to form a sphere. The husband is to accomplish the four directions of love in a "left and right" relationship with the wife. When this horizontal pair disappears, the universe cannot protect her and this state of being at risk leads to pain.

Why do we feel pain when we are sick? The blockage of the way of give and take is manifested as pain. That's how we get sick.

8. The Cooperation Of True Husband And Wife

A wife shouldn't think that she fulfills her responsibility by just preparing a meal when her husband comes home from work. The most important thing is to share a time of confidential talk of love at the dinner table. If she comforts her husband's hard work of the day with the whispering sound that she had in their first meeting, his fatigue will fade away and their conjugal love will become deeper.

When Father, verging on seventy years old, wants to go out to the ocean, Mother prepares all his equipment with her whole heart. She even prepares the supplies needed in case he stays out overnight and prays for the accomplishment of Father's will. What a beautiful helper and supporter she is!

Father many times feels sorry for Mother in her mission. As a woman in her prime of life, she must desire to do many things. When Mother sleeps in fatigue, I offer a big bow to her in tears. Such heart is necessary. The room which is filled with flowers in full bloom and fragrance is a happy room. God dwells in such fragrance of flowers. When her husband goes to bed right after work, snoring loudly without eating dinner and without saying anything, a wife should be able to hear, above the noise of his snoring, the sound of tears from her tingling heart. Father's wish is to see that kind of family. If I cannot see such a family, my suffering will be in vain. All of you should know this.

People must live together. For what? For a certain purpose. In order to feel love in living, we should live together. Every existence, regardless of being man or woman, has the same purpose. Man and woman should not move according to different purposes. They are to become one. When a husband works outside, his wife should work inside. Even though their bodies are different, their minds should be the same.

When the husband goes out to look around his assigned area, the wife shouldn't act like, "See you later. I've got to sleep now. I'm so tired." Until her husband comes back from his tour, her heart should make the same effort he is making. Children also should wait until their father comes back from the mission area and they have to pray for their parents' well-being. Something absolutely inseparable should exist between them. That is the fortune of heaven and earth, the fundamental form centering upon universal love. If it breaks, there will be nothing but despair.

Women in the Unification Church should clearly know that man is subject and woman is object. On the foundation of their oneness, they as a union can serve their new subject. In other words, their union becomes the object in order to make a love relationship with God. Love does not come unless there is a subject-object relationship. Is man plus or minus? (Plus.) What about woman? Is woman plus or minus? (Plus.) You answered both sides are plus; that's why you just want to receive love instead of giving. When man wants to give to woman and woman wants to give to man in a perfect plus and minus relationship, their love will circulate smoothly. The sickness of American women is due to the selfish desire just to receive love from the husband. The master of the American family is woman. Men are overpowered by women in the family. The man dresses the woman instead of the woman dressing the man. It is a total inversion. When the husband comes home from work, the wife who has spent idle time at home commands the man to do things. If the wife greets her husband with a joyful, welcoming heart and invites him to eat right away, happiness dwells with the family.

The wife should make her husband successful; that is to say that she should be his great supporter. Be the perfect man in substance, heart and living. The place where God's love blossoms is the family.

In order for a man to be successful, his wife should be excellent. Now is the time for women to be open to God's fortune. It is the time for the miserable women to be happy. Because Father clarifies things with Principle, women are happy. As long as you are born as a woman in this precious time, you should be the wife of the bold soldier representing history.

Women should go the way of woman in response to the heavenly law. You should be able to die if your husband asks you to die together with him. You will live together in the spirit world even though you die here. There will be a way for liberation as long as you are absolutely obedient to your husband's order. Within the fallen world, the way of liberation will always remain for those who observe the law of absolute obedience to the principled morality.

Even though you are so extremely beautiful and capable that you can lead a comfortable life on your own, you should follow your husband regardless of any suffering as long as he is centered upon God. No matter how much you are persecuted, if you can bear a child who can love God and the universe and can control the world, you should be able to endure until the end of the world. Even though you've got the ugliest man in the world, if God dwells in your family and you and your husband are devoted totally to Him, a saint will appear through your blood lineage. If you offer the sacrifice of three generations with the utmost sincerity to God, a saint will surely appear in your family. You should think that your husband represents all the husbands of the world. When you give birth to a child in accordance with this principle, he or she will be a great figure.

When you treat your husband as a saint and recognize him as the representative of the Lord, you will be able to sacrifice your life for his sake. On that foundation, a great figure who can restore the nation and the world will be born.

God must love woman more than man. Man is like God's body and woman is in the position of his object. Woman, who was created at the last moment as the utmost masterpiece, is in the position to receive more love from God and eventually she is to be a mother. Children in general also prefer their mothers.

Father thinks of something in the far distance and Mother thinks of things close at hand. Woman is the realist. Raising up children is a big job. When a woman is pregnant, she loses her taste for food, and suffers. Because she suffers, God acknowledges her. Why does God make a pregnant woman lose her appetite? If his wife doesn't lose her taste for food, the man will be indifferent even though she is pregnant. A woman also grabs God's attention more when she is pregnant.

Because women have to go through so many difficulties, such as the period of pregnancy and delivery, God gives deeper love to them. Why did God make it so difficult? If the process of bearing a child were easy, she wouldn't understand love. When she gives birth in suffering, she will cherish her baby and will be able to feel God's heart. In this respect, woman is created as God's object of love. In bearing a child, a woman gets to know parental love, husband's love and child's love. Woman is so precious because she, more than man, is connected to love.

Father cannot compete with Mother in loving a child. Because the mother pours out power more than anyone else and suffers more than anyone else in bearing a child, she more than anyone else loves the child.

In this respect, woman occupies the eminent and precious position in the realm of emotion. No matter how much the father loves his baby, he doesn't know love as much as the mother does. Therefore, women will go to the Kingdom of Heaven of heart. Understanding this, it is not too bad to be born as a woman. God is fair.

Woman should make the fragrance of love spread out to the far distance like the morning-glory flower.

Even though a husband tells his wife not to intervene in his business, should she not intervene at all? A wife can stand as equal in position to her husband. If the husband is absent, his wife should be able to replace him.

A wife shouldn't be indebted to her husband.

In settling a family, the woman's role is vital. She should do an excellent job.

A wife should have the attitude to accept her husband's opinion 100%. She should create so strong an internal bond to her husband that she accepts his actions 100% as well. She should go east when husband orders her to go. If a woman doesn't follow where her husband goes, she is not a wife at all.

You should think carefully what to say to your bridegroom at the first moment you offer your life to him. A sister who is determined to be completely obedient to her husband with such a serious heart will surely receive his love. Have you thought about that? The wife should be the person who can be responsive for the sake of her husband. Such a quality is necessary.

Your ears should be able to go over the rugged mountains. How will you do if you are matched to a man who curses you every day? You should be able to say to the husband who is cursing you right after breakfast, "Please wait and curse me after eating lunch," and at lunch time, "Curse me only after finishing dinner." If he continues after dinner, you should be able to say "Please sleep first and curse me later." Then Satan will go away in forty days because there's no fun in what he is doing.

You are not supposed to expect only good things. Can you bathe in the sun 24 hours? No. You need the night, don't you? It is Principle that the high is followed by the low.

A wife shouldn't be sad because she cannot wear nice clothes or because her household is poor. Your husband already knows your heart. Deep love and priceless treasures are hidden in his heart of feeling sorry for you.

I want to advise wives to awaken their husbands from sleeping, accusing them, "Why do you always sleep?"

Wives want their husband's happiness more than their own because it determines their mutual relationship. Woman is born to welcome man and man is born to welcome woman.

You should feel the family standard keenly. Man is subject and he should stand in the center. The subject should stand in the position of subject, not that of object. The center should be protected and it shouldn't be at an odd angle. He is in the position representing God.

Motive and cause start from the subject. Happiness and joy originate from the subject. The man is responsible if there is family discord. The responsibility for the fall is assigned to God first, to Jesus second, and to the Holy Spirit third.

When the ideal world is established, man and woman must become equal. Then who is to be the subject? Equality is possible when we eternally take absolute responsibility. The subject doesn't press the object hard to take responsibility. After fulfilling his responsibility as a subject, he can call the object to account. God doesn't call human beings to account until they become perfect. In other words, He is tolerant until the perfection of human beings.

In that respect, if man is subject, he should be responsible for everything. The representative who can inherit all the responsibilities and who can fulfill the public commitment becomes the subject. **

Man has an active and conquering nature.

Man has to work. What kind of work? He has to pioneer something. Human beings are called the Lords of creation. The world "Lord" sounds as if it refers to a man, doesn't it? How would you feel if a little beardless woman with little fist and slender face stood up shouting, "I am the Lord of all creation?" Think about it. No matter how many times she shouted, her voice would sound feminine. What if a man with a somewhat thick voice shouted, "I am the Lord of all creation." How would you feel? Even all the women would agree with his claim after hearing his voice. **

When men are fighting, if a woman tries to intervene, saying, "Go away," how do you feel? But when a man with his fist clenched firmly says, "Hey! Beat it; get outta here," at least it sounds authentic.

In this view, it is better for man to take the first position as the "Lord." The Lord is supposed to be different from others; he is supposed to carry at least one more item than the other creature. Man carries one more item than woman: his mustache. The mustache makes man qualified as the "Lord." Heavenly Father is truly mathematical.

Part 2 - Ideal Family

Chapter 7 Part 2
Ideal Family

1. The Ideal Family

The ideal family is the place of the eternal love of parents, the eternal love of husband and wife, and the eternal love of children centering upon God.

Even though a person with lots of property and fortune sings songs of happiness, these external belongings cannot be the cause of his or her happiness. Even though they may come along with happiness, they cannot be happiness itself. Then what decides happiness? There should be loving parents, a couple, and children. Nobody can deny this. In proportion to any part missing among those, there will be a proportionate sadness and dissatisfaction in one's heart.

There must be parents, husband, wife and children in a family -- such a family can be the site of happiness. God's purpose to look for humankind must also be to grope for happiness, because without human beings God Himself cannot establish a site for happiness. Unless God has the proper relationship with human beings, He cannot accomplish His ideal of happiness. When the world of emotion is filled by a family, we feel happiness; likewise God feels happy in such an atmosphere.

Where does unhappiness start? When the nest of love disappears, unhappiness starts. A happy family is the family serving the parents as the wall protecting the house. The family vertically serves the parents representing heaven, and the family is represented by a husband and wife in love, who were strangers before, but who are creating the moral law and are carrying on the lineage.

From where does happiness come? It comes from a family. If there's an emotional problem, happiness cannot be established; neither can it be established where heart and love are lacking.

A formula is not something special. If there's a subjective content which can be applied everywhere in order to maintain one specific type of relationship, it becomes a formula. When we can come to a conclusion by using one specific term representing the same phenomena everywhere, it becomes a formula. That's the Principle. The formula means the center. The center is a vertical standard; therefore, the vertical standard is not two, but one.

Who is the center of a family? The oldest one is the center. If a great grandfather is alive, he is the center. In the time near his death, if the family members neglect the great-grandfather, it will be the same as neglecting the vertical world. Even though he is in his dotage, the center of the family is the great-grandfather. At mealtime, we should serve him first. Even if the father is the president of the nation, the family members should serve the grandfather first because the son is in the horizontal position.

Whom do you like best in your family? Your parents, right? Why do you like them most? Because they are the nearest position with which you can sustain a love relationship throughout your entire life.

The one you love next best is your husband or wife. The unconditional love between a husband and wife is the favorite to bring happiness and harmony, even though this love is not the most intimately close to God's absolute and unchanging love.

Finally, there is the children's love for parents. If the children can sacrifice for and love their parents in a positive manner, while longing for an ideal environment in which the hope of the future can bloom, their love will be a pure and sincere contribution to the happiness of the family.

The family with parents' true love, a couple's true love, and children's true love must be the most ideal family in the world.

The favorite in a family is not decided by you. Then who is the one of the most value? The parents are. Take yourself as an example. Authority, knowledge, fame and money are precious to you, but none of them are more valuable than your parents. Next in value would be your spouse and finally your children.

Is there in fact anything more valuable than your parents, spouse or children? No, there is no such thing.

Then why do we like parents, spouse and children? It is because of love. Parental love is absolutely necessary for children. Conjugal love is absolutely necessary for husband and wife. The sibling love between brothers and sisters, and filial piety toward parents, are also absolutely necessary.

If a parent is sick, what will a child do? The child will do whatever is necessary to cure the sickness, to the extent of selling all of the family's property. Why? Because of the bond of love.

The willing effort to do whatever is necessary to save the parents is rooted in the force of love. It is the same between husband and wife. If one of a couple contracts a serious disease, conjugal love compels us to cure the disease by any means necessary. It is the same between parents and children. This is the universal truth that no one can deny.

What is true love? It is parental love, conjugal love and children's love. Without a tradition of sacrifice for one another, love is broken easily. Isn't it true? Because parents sacrifice for children, the bond of parental love never breaks. And if children grow up in true parental love, they can never disobey their parents. When the degree of sacrifice and sincere effort for one another is extended beyond themselves, blessing comes to a couple; such a family is the blessed land that God visits.

Ideal love is accomplished in a family, but God hasn't had true sons and daughters, true brothers and sisters, and true husbands and wives, and He couldn't become the true parent. Accomplishing all of that is God's will. Love dwells in such a place. People will come to such a place, abandoning everything which belongs to the world.

Even though a father has bushy hair and looks ugly to others, if he has a full bundle of love in his mind, his children will love him. Even though others cannot stand looking at his ugly face, the more the children look at their father's face, the happier they will become.

By having love, God can possess authority and can be a parent.

A woman can play the role of bride by having love. Without love, a man cannot function as a bridegroom. A woman who wants to play a role of bride without love is not a woman; and a man who wants to play a role of bridegroom without love is not a man. With love a man can function as a bridegroom and a woman can function as a bride.

Can a son play a perfect son's role without love? Can a daughter play a perfect daughter's role without love? They cannot.

How should children love each other? What should be their standard of love? They should love each other the same as their father loves their mother. People learn love from their parents. Children should be able to say, "Our parents are the best parents in the world; they exist in place of God." When children, after looking at the unchanging mind and love of their parents, say things such as, "Let's become one as our parents are one," an ideal family can come into being.

When children reach adolescence, they are to look for the object who can be one in heart with them. This can be accomplished through marriage. A man and a woman are to respect each other sincerely and are to endeavor to establish a heartistic standard, so that finally a family where parents and children are one with God in heart and love can be established.

An elder brother is to sacrifice himself by representing his parents in loving his younger brothers. This is the order and tradition of love. An elder brother has responsibility to suffer more than the other brothers.

Parents are in the same situation: they are to suffer instead of their children. If parents do not abandon their children even at the crossroads of tears and hardship, their children in turn will follow their parents in tears wherever they go.

When we become one centered upon God, we are to revolve around Him in all varieties of forms and figures. The older brother is to love the younger brothers by following the example of parental love. When parents and children become one in such love relationships, the love of the family will bloom; and this becomes the love of society, nation and world. But such a love is difficult to find nowadays.

Why do you receive parental love? Because you provide the motivation for your father and your mother to lean on and love each other. Do you understand? Therefore, the love of brothers and sisters rooted in this parental motivation will never change. When we consider our neighbors as our body and act appropriately centering upon this motivation, a desirable social environment will be established. The family is the formation stage, society is the growth stage and the nation is the perfection stage. We should surely go through such a process.

We should harmonize all families in oneness; love arises in such an environment. Then they are to become one on the national level. Here the society is to divide into various social classes. The president exists as a representative in a company. How many representatives do we have now in a nation? We have one, don't we: the national president. There should be one responsible person. In such a way, the shape or structure is unified as the form gets bigger. The principle of the four position foundation makes the divided entities one.

All things exist for human beings. The whole of history concludes in all things, children and parents; in other words, it concludes in a family. This is the fundamental fact of the universe. Without parents, children cannot come into being. Children, born out of parents, are to dominate all things centering upon the parents. Adam and Eve are to dominate all things. All of these apply simultaneously.

What kind of bundle is a bundle of love? When we open the bundle of love in our original home, an ideal husband and an ideal wife will spring out. And it is also a bundle of blessing from which an ideal family will spring. Anything coming out of this bundle of love is to be restored into the first rank, so an individual, a family, a tribe, a nation and the world are all in the first rank. When everything is in the first rank, there's no classification of high and low. That's why brothers and sisters and the family are also to be restored. In order to make such a unified foundation, a bundle of love -- a treasure jar -- is necessary.

After knowing the taste of this love, nothing matters. The complaining husband or wife, opposing relatives and persecuting teachers do not matter at all. A problem at school is nothing. Automatically a fireball springs out of our mind. When we can make such a heartistic volcano spurt out a living life, what will come of it? People don't know that when God is burning with this love, He provokes an explosive impulse.

The family is the unchanging origin and the pivotal point. Fathers, brothers, and any national system cannot change it; it cannot be changed internationally; heaven and earth and even God cannot change it. Therefore, the noun "revolution" is not needed in the context of family because it is a place of love.

Man loving woman and woman loving man is the same regardless of historical era. There's no difference between the conjugal love of the grandfather and grandmother and that of the modern young man and woman. The feeling that all people everywhere and at all times have in adolescence is the same. But the pivotal point of the family nowadays is changing in various ways. The loving mind is the same, but the family structure is changing. This change is finally to cease.

If a family is established on the firm pivotal point in relation to which any revolutionary change is impossible, the family will not be absorbed by any kind of ideology or "ism." It will rather surpass any ideology or "ism" and control them. If a family is established on such a foundation, it will never change and will sustain the form of a nation.

Without love a father and a mother cannot become one. Why do we like "love"? It is because we are created not to survive without it. The stronger the power of parental love over the power of individual love, the more ideal your situation will be. It is the rope of love with which you can bind your father and mother completely in oneness. The rope made out of metal rusts as times passes, but the rope made out of love is eternal. And money or food cannot bind parents and children; only love can bind them.

When a mother loves her child, and a child loves its mother, the father won't say, "Don't love the son whom I love." When his wife loves the child more than she loves her husband, the husband is happy. When a child loves its mother more than its father, the father won't say, "Love me more than you do your mother." Such an educational method doesn't exist.

Where can we have such a situation in which people love to see their spouse loving others more than themselves? It is in the family. We can never create such a situation except in the family.

The true family is the place where a husband loves his wife as his mother, and where a wife sacrifices for her husband and loves him as her older brother. And the Kingdom of Heaven is the world where a husband loves his wife as God and a wife loves and respects her husband as God. Such a tradition should be established on this earth.

The husband in a happy family consults his wife concerning everything that happened outside, and tries to find the primary factor to make progress. The family in which a couple study together for a better life is a happy family. When parents are like that, children willingly cooperate to create a harmonious family.

The heavenly family is not established by force, but is automatically established by joy. Ideal love is accomplished through proper give and take action, so don't try just to receive.

When mother and father unite into one, the family will begin to develop; when children and parents become one, the family will continue to develop into a higher-dimensional entity. Then what will happen when relatives and a family become one? A national spirit of righteousness will break forth. When the national spirit of righteousness goes forward to a much higher dimension, they will endure as the tribe of loyal subjects.

When there are no children standing with the parents, happiness is impossible for the parents; likewise, without parents children cannot be happy. There is no joy for a man without a woman as his partner, and the same applies to a woman.

The desire of a couple is to sustain their love on a higher dimension centering upon the subject and object relationship; and for this purpose children should exist standing with the couple. A family is composed of parents on the upper side, children on the lower side, and the couple.

A family should become one horizontally and vertically. Then centering upon whom should a family be one? It is impossible to make complete oneness with only human beings. Because human beings by themselves cannot pursue higher-dimensional value, they need an absolute subject of love. The parents are to become one centering upon this subject. The very place in which parents and children become one in love centering upon the subject is the place of happiness and hope.

We should congeal everything into one and generalize and expand into a more valuable and stimulating dimension, but we cannot accomplish this with human love only; it will be possible only through relationship with an absolute entity.

We should stand on an absolute standard in order to establish a sound family. Due to the fall, two entities cannot naturally become one. Unless a man and a woman stand on an absolute standard, they cannot unite together. If Adam and Eve had not fallen, they would have become one and established a family. But they could not have the proper horizontal relationship, namely the "left-right relationship," because of Eve's fall.

The world and "heaven and earth" cannot destroy a family which is completely one with God. The new history will begin with such a family.

At first, we are to be perfect individuals by complete oneness of mind and body, and then we are to establish perfect families by the complete oneness of husband and wife.

2. In The Family Three Time Periods Are Connected

The family is the entity which can embrace history, the present epoch and the future. What is the culminating point for which God has been searching throughout 6,000 years of history? It is the family -- the family in which everything is connected and bound together in love. Every existing entity will be under the control of this family. Creating such a family was the original mission of Adam and Eve.

God didn't want to finish the work of creation with just an individual man Adam and an individual woman Eve. He dreamed of a new union of the two as a family. This was the first motivation for creating man and woman. Therefore, unless your family life is filled with God's love on earth, you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. We are able to overcome the world by creating such a sound family. A movement which emphasizes the family appears in the new historical age. The Unification Church came into being to present such a movement. You should be completely one with God by attending Him in your family. And in the position of subject, you are to be one with your horizontal surroundings. The blessed families are to do this.

In order to form a family domain of love, you should be absolute. Parents can represent history, a husband and wife can represent the present epoch, and children can represent the future. Parents, husband and wife, and children, in unity, representing the cosmos, should be able to say to their descendants, "Follow our example of love." If you can establish an original home of mind through which heavenly love can flow, that place will be remembered by heaven and earth. When a perfect subject is determined, a perfect object naturally comes into being.

Becoming one with parents is the meeting of history and present reality. You are able to love the past by loving your parents, to love the present by loving your object, and to love the future by loving your children. Therefore, you can experience the love of three time periods. The concentrated body of these three kinds of love is the family.

To love your parents is to connect the past history into the present and to pave the road on which God can arrive. That's why you must love your parents. In order to connect the historical figures with you and in order to make oneness of the past and the present, you have to love your parents. To love children is to connect the present with the future. Unificationism is the thought which makes people praise such love eternally. This is the way of the Unification Church, and nobody can block us.

What is the minimum standard by which the past, present and future can be connected? It is the family. The family is the abridged form one of the world. There, the past, the present and the future are connected. In other words, grandfather, father and son exist together in one family. When your father is lifted up to the grandfather's position, you are to take the father's position and have children. Grandfather, father and yourself -- the three generations should be one. That is to say that the past, the present and the future should be one. Such a family will be able to maintain a site of happiness even in the middle of the world's greatest earthquake. When the father is joyful, the whole family is joyful. When the wife is joyful, the whole family is joyful. When a child is joyful, the whole family is joyful. A family is the place where the whole universe can be happy simultaneously.

An age will come in which you will have to raise the beacon of revolu- tion, so we have to prepare the foundation which can exceed the present age. How shall we prepare it? We have to prepare centering upon the ideal love of the family. We take it as the absolute. The family cannot be revolutionized by any social system in any historical age.

The ideal family which we claim, centering upon God, will be the family which can represent history, the present epoch and the future.

3. The Family Is The School Of Discipline For True Love

In a family, parents should completely inherit the vertical axis and align themselves to it. Next, parents are to relate horizontally at an angle 90 degrees to the axis. The axis of love exists in only one place. That's why centering upon this axis, the family extends to the tribe, nation and world. In order to make world unity, Father is correcting the axis right now. Therefore, Father should conquer the position of the "prince of thought" in order to establish and signal the direction. He will conquer this position not by exercising force but by digesting with love.

The family is created to be the textbook for life in the Kingdom of Heaven. If you love every person who is your grandfather's age as your own grandfather, you will surely go to the Kingdom of Heaven; if you love a person who is your parents' age as your own parents, there will be no boundaries for you in the spirit world. If you can consider all the young people in the world as your own sons and daughters, you will be able to visit any place in the Kingdom of Heaven. Even though there are twelve pearl gates and the direction is already set up in the spirit world, you will be able to pass through at any place. The family is the teaching material -- that is, a textbook through which you can relate to the whole Kingdom of Heaven. If you apply the axis to the nation, you will become a patriot, and if you apply it to the world, you will become a saint. That is the value of human beings.

Where is the discipline hall of true love? That is "God and Our Family," which is the topic of today's sermon. Jehovah is the vertical God and Adam is the horizontal God.

The family is the workshop-through-exemplification for education in the love of humanity. It is the representative environment for establishing the center of heart. If you trust each other and lead a happy marital life in your family, you will stand as the center of the whole universe and be blessed with happiness. That is the beginning point of the ideal dominion. Beings without love have no meaning to their existence.

Where is the center of the universe? It is the family. Where is the base for true love to settle down? It is the family in which you live right now. Therefore, the family of the original ideal is to grasp the love of the universe and to experience the protection of the universe. Also, such a family is to extend to the national level in order to walk the way of patriotism and, finally, it is to reach the world level. The person who loves a family is called a son or daughter of filial piety, the person who loves a nation is called a patriot, and the person who loves the world is called a saint.

Brothers and sisters! Why do you have affection for your family? Because it is the base for free action centering upon parental love. God also should act freely there. When society is composed of the internal individuals with a nucleus of love, regardless of their poor appearance, God becomes free.

Don't you think so? When a guest visits your house, you feel uncomfortable, don't you? Why is it? Because there's no bond of love with the guest. You feel awkward because the bond of love is not set up in all four directions. Therefore, our way is to become men and women of character.

Why do you have affection for your family? Because in the family there is a foundation on which you can freely give and take love, which you can enjoy. That's why people long for the hometown where parents and brothers and sisters live together.

A true family is the place where a husband loves his wife as his mother and a wife loves her husband as her brother. Next, the world where a husband loves his wife as God and a wife loves and respects her husband as God is the Kingdom of Heaven of the ideal family.

Such a tradition should be established on earth. You cannot abandon your mother or your brothers. You cannot abandon anybody in your family. Therefore, the word "divorce" cannot exist. A husband represents the father and an older brother, so a wife cannot abandon her husband any more than she can abandon her father and older brother. You have to love the world with such love. When you see a person who is the same age as your father, you should love him as your father, and when you see a person the same age as your mother, you should love her as your mother.

Wherever you go, you shouldn't think people are just strangers. Instead, you should consider them as your own family members. When you see old people, you should consider them as your parents and should be able to cry together with them if they are in a sad situation. You should always have such a heart.

The family composed of parents, a couple, and children is the abridged form of the world. The way for humankind to live is to expand love for the family into love for the world. You should consider and love old people as your grandparents, middle-aged people as your parents, people who look older than you as your older brothers and sisters, and people who look younger than you as your younger brothers and sisters.

So the true person is the one who considers everybody as his or her family and whose heart can love the whole of humankind by transcending the walls and barriers of nations. Then you are truly qualified to love your father and mother.

"I'm born as a white, but I will serve and attend a black grandfather and a black aunt," or "I will attend whoever suffers in difficult surroundings as my parents." These are the conditions for an ideal environment.

Life together with grandparents, parents and children is sound family life. If one generation is missing from a family, the family is crippled. When one ideal family is established, that family should serve as the bricks to build the Kingdom of Heaven.

We have the mission to establish ideal families on earth. When people who experience their grandparents' deep love in their family come out to the society -- for example, the streets of New York -- they will feel very intimate toward the old people, and the old people will treat them as their grandchildren. Using any method, they will communicate with each other, feeling close to each other. Young people who have served their grandparents will try to help old people right away whenever they are in need of aid.

When children who have received love from their parents go outside and meet people their parents' age, they will feel very close and will try to talk with them and help them. When people who have a beautiful relationship with their brothers and sisters in their family go outside into the society, they will easily get along with people and have close relationships with their neighbors, and they feel natural even in relationship with the opposite sex. They come to feel the opposite sex as their brothers and sisters without any sexual desires or unsound ideas. The Kingdom of Heaven is the family where you are able to experience such love relationships centering upon God.

Raise your hand if you like old grandfathers and grandmothers. What about those who don't like them? If you are given 500-year-old grandparents, what will you do? Will you still like them? To like older people is to like God, because God is the oldest being in the world. If you love God, you should love everybody regardless of age. That is to say, you are to love God's family, which is composed of people of many ages. People with all nationalities -- Japanese, Korean, American, etc. -- belong to God's family. The person with racial prejudice is not the one who loves God's family. The ideal world can be established when there's no prejudice. Isn't that true?

What is the ideal world? Being colorful is more ideal than being one color, so in that sense, which is more ideal, five races in unity living together or five races living separately? To live together is more ideal. Therefore, we have to repair the world, which is not built in an ideal way. Do you think God likes Reverend Moon repairing this crippled world? God wants to support such a person. From this year on, you should focus on how to magnify the heartistic bond of the heavenly family which inherits heavenly tradition and loves humankind.

We should become parents, husbands and wives, and brothers and sisters centering on the family God desires.

In the United States, where do people go when they reach the age of sixty? They don't go to their children's houses Or neighbors, but to the asylum for the aged. It is ideal for old people to visit their grandsons and granddaughters. Which does a grandmother prefer: going to the grandson's house or going to a home for the aged?

Blessed families in the Unification Church should be able to attend and serve the grandparents and parents of every race. Do you want to marry into the house where grandparents-in-law and parents-in-law live together? Do you want a household with many younger brothers and sisters? Or do you want a house where only your couple can live? It is the universal law that you get married and live together with your grandparents-in-law and parents-in-law.

Grandparents live by themselves in America. Old people live by them- selves. When they are asked, "Are you happy?" they answer, "I want to go to my son's house." That means they cannot go to their son's house. And when we ask if they miss their grandchildren, nobody says, "No." They are unhappy people.

What has the absolute authority to judge the world? It is the true family, not an individual. Satan strikes the family. Disunity of a family leads to the rupture of the father-son relationship, the husband-wife relationship, and the whole family. The wound of the people who experienced the break-up of their family will never be cured. It is no use to try to console such people.

In order to be God's son, you should resemble God's heart. God's heart is planted in the world. Therefore, you should love the world. If you cannot love the world due to the great distance between yourself and the world, you are to love your nation, tribe, family and parents, because parents represent God, a couple represents Adam and Eve, and the children represent the whole of humankind.

We should put value not in the ideal world, but rather in the ideal person. That's why you should love people in order to love the world.

The method of love is the same as that of man loving woman or woman loving man.

What is the center and where do you start if you want to love the nation and the world? You start by loving one individual. How do we do that? The love between man and man, or between woman and woman, is centered upon some particular purpose; it is not emotional love. But the love between man and woman is centered upon the entities themselves, not upon a specific external purpose. Therefore, it is the motivating love.

In this perspective, we should sincerely love our spouse in order to love the world. That is to say man should truly love woman and likewise woman should truly love man. With such a loving mind toward your husband or wife, you are to love all men and women of the world. Further, you should realize that you are the being of value who is able to receive love from your subject or object.

When man loves the world, he should love the world as the representative of his wife and should value the world for being as precious as his wife. The formation of a family is to be the standard for the formation of a nation. No matter how great a world you may establish, it will be in vain if the formation of the family is illegitimate.

That's why the Unification Church is shouting out for "Cosmos-ism," that is, "Heavenly Family-ism." This "Family-ism" is the fruition of true love.

A family is the ethical foundation of the society and is the exemplary, fundamental and primary organization. In such a family, love becomes the standard (criterion) of value.

4. The Family Is The Ultimate Standard

God created man in His image and man is trying to develop the world into his image. Why do people want to be successful in life? It is because the world resembles a person. It is an iron rule of Principle that man in the subject position deals with the world in the object position. That is why everybody wants to be successful in society, and has motivation which concludes with the nation and the world.

Everything is divided from one mass and it is to be combined again into one huge mass. This is the law of development. One is divided into parts and the parts are to be united and then the union is to be split again into parts and they are to form a bigger mass. Everything is to enter a world bigger than itself.

Centering upon the family, we should accomplish "Cosmos-ism." The cosmos is the totality of heaven and earth. Heaven and earth are like mind and body in a man. Mind and body should become one. One object is needed for one subject; likewise, one woman is needed for one man. The union of a man and woman is a family.

There is earth when there is heaven; when there are heaven and earth, there should be something symbolizing them, namely man and woman. The heartistic standard for those to be spherically one is the family. The family is the absolute standard for the world of purpose and it can pass through any process. There, the foundation for the new history, new world and new cosmos is to be established.

"Cosmos-ism" is an ideology to make mind-body unity, to establish the family as the essence of love, and to connect this idea to the spirit world and physical world. The Chinese character for ju in chun-ju (Korean cosmos) means house. That's why Father is using the term Chun- ju jui which means "Cosmos-ism" in Korean. Cosmos is the combination of the invisible world and the visible world. How does this relate to us? We need a family. If you cannot become one on the family level, "Cosmos-ism" will have nothing to do with you. The family is the ultimate standard to complete the ideal of which Cosmos-ism teaches. If you cannot be happy in a family, you will be unhappy in the spirit world as well as in the physical world.

The family is the horizontal foundation of the abridged form of the world. The nation and the world start from a family. What is the family? The family is the horizontally abridged form of the world and it is the relative center in front of the absolute center. Then what am "I"? "I" am the stepping stone for the absolute center.

The world has always resembled a family, no matter what kind of world it has been. The ideal world is to be established centering upon the four position foundation of a family.

Then what is the purpose of creation? It is to accomplish the God- centered four position foundation. Above all, human beings are to establish the four position foundation; that's why everybody has a family.

Man is to resemble God; the society centering upon man resembles man centering upon God. By establishing the Unification Church in the world, Father has been creating such an environment. The people of the world know this principle, but they don't actualize it. Actualizing such a principle surely will change the world into the ideal. When the whole world completely resembles one human being, it becomes the ideal world. There, we transcend nationality.

What are the most important moments in human life? The time of birth, the time of marriage and the time of death are the most important moments of one's life. How are we supposed to be born? We are supposed to be born centering upon heartistic affinity. Next we get married, in order to establish the four position foundation. When we establish this as a universal pattern on earth, God's will and human desire will be accomplished. A family is to be established in order to equip the world with the content and form that the universal law directs.

A family is a small nation, world and cosmos in the soil of society. Therefore, if we leave home we cannot do anything. The Unification Church is great because it believes in and teaches of such a family.

Where does the Kingdom of Heaven begin? It begins from the family. Then which doctrine do we support? We support "Family-ism." The "Cosmos-ism" that we advocate means "Heavenly House-ism." Now the meaning of the cosmos becomes clear.

The sixty-six books of the Bible are just talking about the desire for the ideal family. What do all men desire? They desire to receive ideal wives. Men who don't agree with this are not men. And the common wish of all women is to meet ideal husbands.

A woman with a bachelor's degree or doctorate also needs an ideal husband. The root of happiness for a woman is to meet an ideal husband to love, and then to give birth to children. Unificationism is implanted in the family, so nobody can root it out.

The family is the ideal of the Unification Church. It starts with a family and it also concludes with a family. Because happiness lies in the family, Unificationism has systemized it and is displaying its limitless cosmic value. That's why Unificationism is acknowledged. When everybody bows down and loves this ideology, the world will become one automatically.

In order to show the moral law of the universe and to leave the core content for establishing tradition through your families, you should begin with a grand inauguration.

You should love each other and should be prepared to be a fortunate couple in the position of each other's brother and sister, so that God can restore the principle of love of the three generations -- love as brothers, as a couple, and as children. When the three generations become completely one in your family, you will be able to give and take God's love. "Cosmos-ism," about which the Unification Church is talking, is an effort to realize God's ideal of creation centering upon families.

To establish one family where God's love can blossom centering upon three generations of human love is the long-cherished wish of the world, humankind and the future. This is the precious and beautiful conjugal love which appears as a new flower spreading its fragrance across history in line with the universal law.

This world is composed of a man and a woman. The thing that can bind the two is love. A husband and wife didn't come into being naturally. They are connected by tradition to their parents. The family can make human beings inherit the traditional standard for the unity of man and woman. Everything is to be caught up by father and mother in a family. This world is to gather together in the relative domain of man and woman. A family is the place where the whole of humankind rallies. Therefore, to become one with our parents is to be in relationship with the original subject. The person who wants to completely love and obey his or her parents is connected to God.

Then what are parents? They are the beings existing the closest to you; they are the resultant beings of the Absolute, who is related to the dominion of love and the absolute ideal, and they are the beings who can make a definite relationship with you. Then what am "I"? "I" am the substantial resultant being who can rally all humankind in front of "my" parents. **

The family is the starting point to realize God's ideal and to actualize human happiness. It is the place in which you are done with human work and in which God sees the completion of creation.

The dominant cause of happiness or resentment is expanded to the nation and the world centering upon your house.

God's desire starts from the family and ends with the family, but we haven't established a family that is pleasing to God. The more we try to be closer to the purpose, the more our present family situation rather leads us to unhappiness and destruction.

5. Why Do We Have To Give Birth To Children?

The love of your father and mother precedes your existence. There should be a relative relationship prior to your birth. Life is to be connected to the environment of love. This happens in the place of greatest yearning, not in a place of hatred. The position of true husband and wife is established when they become one through love. So the love, the life, and the ideal of the husband are the wife's, and the love, the life, and the ideal of the wife are the husband's. A child is to be conceived in such a unified place.

Sons and daughters are the realized body, the body in which the parental love is invested. They are the extended body of the life of their parents and the actualized body of the ideal of their parents.

Parents consider children to be the substance of their love, the extended body of their life, the realized body of their ideal and their second selves. The more parents look at their children, the more lovable they become, and vibrant with life, and the more they appear to be ideal objects.

The achievement of a couple's creativity through conjugal love is the child.

What is the purpose of the love between man and woman? Where does their desiring love bear fruit? love surely wants a certain result which can be connected to the whole; that is the child. A couple doesn't want to finish their love within themselves. The accomplishment of the purpose of love is the child. So unless the purpose of love is accomplished, their ultimate desire is not fulfilled no matter how much they love each other. A child is the universal representative of parents.

A baby is the love of a husband and wife itself. The human being called "I" is a participant of parents' love and the substance -- the fruit -- which is the maturation of the parents' love.

A child, as the substantial body to certify the parents' invisible love, is an inter link to accelerate and mature the conjugal love of parents. Parents are to strengthen their limitless conjugal love through children. This dynamic love relationship is extended to the love for the nation, world and universe as well as the love for an individual, family and tribe, and it is finally to be connected to God.

When a couple becomes closer and closer to each other through their horizontal love, power comes to move vertically. Therefore, when a husband and a wife are in completely pure love, God definitely comes down there. In other words, when a husband and wife are horizontally in love, God's vertical love meets them at the ninety degree contact point. And on the opposite side of God's love, the children as another kind of love appear.

Therefore the being called "I" is the participant in his parents' love. "I" am the participant in my parents' pure love. Why did I participate? In order to participate in God's vertical love -- the essence of love. Life is born right there.

The most glorious new morning for God is the moment when He can put on the flesh; and the next is the moment when He can have the people (a husband and a wife) to love; and the next is the moment when He can love grandsons and granddaughters more than His sons and daughters.

How did God teach Adam the joyous feeling that He had when He created him? God had to teach Adam this joy by letting Adam and Eve give birth to their sons and daughters. Do you understand? Our Hyo Jin still doesn't know parental love; but when he has a baby, he will understand the love of parents. He will come to understand how much his parents loved him when they were rearing him. That's why the day in which your sons and daughters marry is the glorious day, and then the day in which your children give birth to their children is the glorious day.

In the process of creation, where does completion take place? The creation reaches completion in Adam's sons and daughters, not in Adam. The completion of the purpose of creation originates when Adam accomplishes his four position foundation.

It is the ideal of the principle of creation that God's sons and daughters are to go through formation, growth and completion standards of dominion. The age of completion finally opens when God's married children give birth to their children.

Why do we need children? In order to know God's love we need children. You have to know parental love and how to attend and serve your parents. You have to know your spouse's love and how to attend and serve your spouse. You should also know children's love and how to serve your children. You shouldn't just give orders to your children, but you should be able to serve and understand them. Then you can understand God's love. Without children, you are incomplete and you cannot understand God's love. Without children, you don't know how much God loves human beings, who are His children.

Also without being a husband, you don't know what a wife is; and without being a wife, you don't know what a husband is. Children don't know parental love until they become parents. Therefore, without having children, you cannot be true parents.

Are you all right without children? Without a child, you are destined to perish. Nothing will remain. A child is an incarnation and successor of its parents. Therefore, people want children after marriage.

Parents want to have children because they want to hand over all of their love to their children. The parents' substance remains in their descendants. That's why we need descendants.

Love is eternal. Because love is the utmost desire of human beings, we want to inherit it no matter what. By leaving your love on earth, you are able to stand in front of God with dignity in the spirit world. The family is the place provided for completing such love. To go to the Kingdom of Heaven through the family means to establish the domain of oneness in love.

Human beings should follow the principle of the universe. In spring you should sow seeds -- in summer they flourish, in autumn they bear fruit, and in winter you should arrange everything and implant anew the origin of life into your heart. When the spring returns, the implanted internal seed will be sown again. This means that you should give birth to children. Do you understand? You should rear your children to be the way you are.

Why do you feel sad when you don't have children? It is because you cannot form a circle. We get to know the utmost love by watching a bird feeding its babies; likewise, when you give birth to children and have the experience of rearing them, you are able to confirm love. In the Orient, people like children more than they like adults. They politely respect adults and pour out their utmost love to children. By rearing sons and daughters, you come to realize how much your parents loved you.

Human beings should have the experience of bringing up children. Then they can possess parental love and children's love. Western people don't seem to do that; they are avoiding bearing and bringing up children. Because they think children could be troublesome in the time of divorce, they are hesitating to have children.

But when a human being doesn't establish the four position foundation, he or she cannot understand God's heart and therefore cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven. Many Americans think they don't need children. But if they would deepen their conjugal love by rearing children, there would be less divorce. They live in false love instead of true love by leaving out children, and repeatedly divorce. The ethics of American society are declining due to this bad trend.

Jesus is the bridegroom and we are the bride. Then what do the bridegroom and bride want to do? Of course, they want to get married to each other. Then what are they going to do in marriage? They want to establish a family and bear children. If they don't have children, they cannot be considered a family. Without giving birth to children, they start to split. After bearing children, a family is to certainly be established. Even though a groom hates his bride so much that he wants to divorce, if she gives birth to a child, the groom cannot do anything. With no way out, he has to live with the bride. Therefore, children are absolutely necessary to establish a family.

I talked about birth control in Barrytown. What do you think about birth control? If the people of Jacob's era had practiced birth control, Joseph wouldn't have come into being. If God prepared a man who had the scientific ability to enable people to see God through television, but due to birth control he were not born, that generation would have no excuse in front of the spirit world and humanity. Heavenly sons and daughters should live more happily than anyone else, and should bear more children than people in the satanic realm. Ma be twelve children will be average for you. Continuously give birth to children. Unification Church members cannot practice birth control. You should bear more than ten children. I will feed them all.

Do you want to give birth to a son first or a daughter first? First son or first daughter? (First son is better.) How did you learn that? Without being taught by anyone, we know that. When a wife gives birth to a son first, the husband is so happy that he drools. It is no problem to demand that the couple who just had a first son treat us to a great meal. Korean custom is very good in this area. Beyond the basic desire to give birth to a child at all, man and woman alike prefer that the first be a son.

Man and woman should establish the four position foundation with love. In order to establish the four position foundation, you should be a good husband and a good wife. Then you will be able to give birth to a baby whom God and the universe like. Good sons and daughters pour out power upon the center of love, and the universe likes that.

Unification Church men and women should give birth to such children. That is what God expects and what Father craves. He expects us to give birth to sons and daughters who love God, nature and humanity. Such children should be able to go anywhere, centering upon love.

Problems shouldn't be vague and obscure. How much have you loved your husband? You should think that your husband represents the world. If you give birth to a child within this principle, your child also will be great. So by examining the children, we can estimate the parents' faith. The Unification Church manifests each person's fortune according to the truth.

The quality of children is determined by how much you work for God's will. It is best for a child to be conceived at the point of the parents' heartistic oneness and biological oneness.

Is a baby whose parent is very knowledgeable born filled with knowledge? Or is it born resembling its parents' bone structure? What do babies resemble? If parents have good ancestors, even though they are very ignorant, they will give birth to good sons and daughters. But evil children will be born of evil-hearted parents in spite of their intelligence.

Whose children will be born great among the blessed families? When parents in oneness with the Principle tradition cross over the national boundaries to seek for noble love and determine to leave the bond of sacrificial true love, there will be born a child with heavenly wisdom and the capacity to inherit the authority of the great Will. Even though the parents wrap this baby in swaddling clothes due to the poverty of the household, the child will be the one who can control the economy or become the president who unites the world with righteous authority.

You will be able to give birth to great children if you have the conviction, "If I cannot do enough, I will bear a child who can work more than I for Father. As a person who is commemorating God's Day, I must give birth to such a child."

6. The Value Of Blessed Children

Blessed children surpass their parents.

By Cain killing Abel, history went the wrong way, so all humankind became Satan's children -- the children of a servant. Human beings were supposed to be princes and princesses, but they became the children of the servant. How much was God stifled? Jesus, the Messiah, in place of the original Adam, came as a luminary, one with God and God's love in spirit and body. Therefore, all men and women in the satanic realm can be attracted to the Lord, treasuring the day of His coming. That's why history is the history of indemnity. No other explanation is necessary.

Without going through the indemnity course, you cannot go in front of God, but the blessed children can go forward without any condition. Their quality is totally different from yours. You were born centered on the root of the fallen world and were engrafted to be the harvested fruit. Your root still remains in the fallen world. But your children are the new fruit centered upon God. To bear children rooted in God and True Parents is more exalted than Mary's bearing the Messiah. The blessed children born of you are better than Jesus, for whom God prepared 4,000 years. Did Jesus' mother and father receive the Blessing and bear him? Your children are born of the Blessing from the True Parents.

Blessed children are born under heavenly fortune, so they will surpass you in quality. Because they have the heavenly fortune, you shouldn't speak impolitely to them, even though they are younger than you.

The children of the Unification Church are to be born with the fortune of heaven and earth.

Blessed children are the precious beings who can shine more than you, so don't beat them. Even if you and your spouse are fighting, smile in front of your children.

7. The Kingdom Of Heaven Of The Family

The starting point of Kingdom of Heaven is not an individual or nation, but a family. So Jesus came to seek the relationship of a bride and a groom on earth. Is the starting point of the Kingdom of Heaven an individual? No, it is a family.

The family is the basic unit for the Kingdom of Heaven. Once you visit the Kingdom of Heaven, you will never want to return back, because "the one" with whom you will never tire of being dwells there. If all humankind in common wanted to visit there, and wanted to meet and live with "the one," the world would be unified right away. The Unification Church is the group which is heading for that place. But that doesn't happen at once. First of all, an individual foundation should be established, and then it is to be extended to the family, national and worldwide levels.

Your family is in the position to represent the sovereignty of Heaven. The parents represent the sovereignty, the children represent the nation and your goods represent the land, so to be dutiful toward parents means to be loyal to the nation and to practice the principle of the saints. The fallen family became the origin of disgraceful behavior, but God expects the family to be the sacred site. Therefore, our mission is to guide all the corrupted families in the fallen world. Even though the families on earth are being ruptured, we do not have the right to turn away from them.

Human beings must have a family. There are parents, children and material in a family. These three are the substantial representatives for the horizontal development of the vertical history -- the Old Testament Age, New Testament Age and Completed Testament Age. These three, parents, children and belongings are necessary components defining the boundary of a family.

What should a husband do? He is to relate to the church, and his wife should relate to material. That is the environmental aspect. Then what should a family member do? Father, mother and children should be completely one. The family level Kingdom of Heaven starts at that unified point. Therefore, in order to establish the Kingdom of Heaven centering upon people, they should set up the four position foundation.

The Kingdom of Heaven of husband and wife is established only if a couple becomes one centering upon God's love. Nobody can dissolve that union and it will never split in two.

What kind of love did you find? If you found God's love, your mind and body should be completely one so that God's love can dwell in you. When a father and a mother are completely one in love and the children have their objects to love, the Kingdom of Heaven of a family is to be realized. When parents become plus and children become minus, the Kingdom of Heaven of a family comes into being.

As Father did when he started the Unification Church, you must take sincere care of your friends when they visit your house. You have to make them say, "Your house is better than mine. This meal is more delicious than at my house. Can I stay here one more night?" When you make your house a place where every guest or friend wants to come and live, even abandoning their own families, you have the Kingdom of Heaven of a family.

There is a reason that I don't build churches now. It is because we don't need so many people in the church. The Kingdom of Heaven starts not from the church but from a family -- namely, from a bridegroom and a bride. A woman was born to see a man, and a man was born to see a woman. The first sound that a baby makes right after waking up in the morning is "mommy." A husband should call his wife more than a baby calls "mommy."

Those men who haven't called their wives in the same way babies call their mothers are pitiful. A wife also should call her husband in such a manner more than the husband calls her. A couple has to treat each other this way. If they live with such an attitude, even when they become very old they will not envy young people. When blessed couples turn eighty years old, Father will let them have a round-the-world trip.

In the future, the Unification Church worship service will have to be in the form of giving reports, not sermons. The content of the report should be something of which each family is proud. Therefore, the whole family should participate in the worship service. While doing so, we should learn from the exemplary family and try to guide the family which is in a bad situation. In such a way, let us establish the Kingdom of Heaven of the family. We should clearly know that the Kingdom of Heaven on earth cannot be established without the Kingdom of Heaven of the family.

The Kingdom of Heaven is to be established centering upon a family. You shouldn't forget the dignity that you must have as a family member.

Where does the life of the Kingdom of Heaven start? It starts from a family. It doesn't start anywhere else. The Kingdom of Heaven is the spherically extended form of a family; it is not something outside of the domain of a family. Therefore, you have to think you are embracing your spouse so that the men and the women of the world may become one. The family is the place where you can set the condition to love the whole of humankind.

"The day of meeting" comes after passing through the age of "words" and the age of "substance"; and after passing through the day of meeting, you can lead a life in the Kingdom of Heaven. You have to reach the status where you can feel God's mind, heart, appearance and suffering as your mind, heart, appearance and suffering. With this status, the family of the Kingdom of Heaven is to be established. It should be completed on earth.

Now Heavenly Father feels that I should teach the norm for life in the Kingdom of Heaven. People in the restoration course should learn from those who are expert in the Principle. Father cannot be responsible directly for those problems. That age already has passed. The organization of the Unification Church is the organization of a family. The Unification Church is centered upon a family, not upon an individual, which has been the center so far.

Where is the Kingdom of Heaven? It doesn't just drop from the sky. It is the place where we establish a living stage of give and take among father, mother and children, and where we feel 100% joy in utilizing all things for life and for the ideal condition.

What is the world of God's ideal of creation? It is the place where the Kingdom of Heaven on earth and the Kingdom of Heaven in Heaven are established centering upon the sovereignty of the True Parents. The Kingdom of Heaven is established only through the foundation of love. Nobody has received the love of true parents in the fallen world; there is no trace of it. The same is true with the spirit world, because there has been no one who received the love of true parents on earth and went to the spirit world.

Man's love, woman's love, son's love, daughter's love, parents' love and God's love are included in the original family-level foundation. Whoever loves parents, spouse and children in such a harmonized place leads a life of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Our family and the Kingdom of Heaven are the same in form. There are parents, husband and wife, children, and brothers and sisters in a family. We can create a unified house of love. Unification can be established, life can be connected, and the ideal can be realized in a family. Therefore, you become qualified to go to the Kingdom of Heaven when you can respect conjugal love and parental love. Grandparents handed down love to parents, the parents handed down love to a husband and a wife, and the couple handed down love to children. If you deny any one of those, the Kingdom of Heaven cannot be established. You should love your parents more than your husband or wife, and you should love your grandparents more than your parents. This motto is the core and the ideal of the Kingdom of Heaven.

The world is afraid of the Unification Church owing to the blessed families more than to the Principle. The blessed family is a linkage of three-generational love. The Messiah and the blessed families become one in love centering upon God's love. The Messiah, the blessed couples, and the blessed children: these three generations are connected to be one in love on earth. Next, the blessed couples, blessed children and blessed grandchildren are to be connected as one in love. The Unification Church is the place where three generations can be linked.

The four position foundation that Unification Principle talks about is the domain of three-generational love. When three generations live together in happiness, the ideal of creation is realized. Of course, husband and wife should love each other. In addition, they should pray for their children with love and take sincere care of them in order to create a happy and harmonious family. When this is accomplished vertically and connected horizontally, perfect love is established. Even cousin and second cousin should become one in love to form the perfect shape of love.

The Unification Church regards the Kingdom of Heaven as starting from within the domain of the tribe. When parents, brothers, cousins and second cousins become one centering upon the grandfather, a perfect three generations are established. When this tribal domain of love becomes one with God on earth, the whole world will be the world of love -- the Kingdom of Heaven. When a woman marries into a family, she has to serve her grand parents-in-law and parents-in-law in place of God and her husband. She also has to be harmonized with the sisters-in law and the brothers-in-law. If such love relationships are extended to the society, nation and world, this world will be full of peace and love, instead of crime and war; that is the Kingdom of Heaven, the ideal world of God.

The Kingdom of Heaven of a family is established when a man and a woman are completely one; the individual Kingdom of Heaven is established when the mind and body are completely one. Husband, wife and children should be one centering upon God's Will in the Kingdom of Heaven of the family. The purpose of the Will is for the sake of humankind, and the center of the Will is God. Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven of the family is to be linked to the place where a family exists for humankind, centering upon God.

We have to work for humankind -- not only for God. God wants to find a family with this standard. Unless such a family is established, God cannot save all humankind, all nations and all families. In order to create such a family, Father raised up blessed families.

The center of the family is God, and this world should be God's nation. The blessed families should strive to lead a life which is connected to God's nation. The tribe, the nation and the world are to be established from the point that we exist and work for others, so a family should be responsible for organizing the world centered upon God.

How much you have influenced your tribe, nation and world becomes the standard for receiving the Blessing. The content of the Blessing differs in internal value and internal results.

The Unification Church centered upon Father is like a tribe and a nation. The purpose of the Unification Church is to form a nation composed of five races in unity which can work for the sake of the world. This is Father's purpose and it is the purpose which God wants to accomplish through Father.

8. The Key To Enter The Kingdom Of Heaven

The key to enter the Kingdom of Heaven is not the place to which you can go alone, but the place to which you must go with your parents, brothers and sisters.

What is the key to go to the Kingdom of Heaven? It is not a place for you to go individually; you have to go there leading your tribe as well as your family. Having a big clan standing in front of God on earth is blessing. A family with many children and a lot of fortune is considered blessed, isn't it? You should enter the Kingdom of Heaven with your family, not alone.

You can never go to Heaven individually. Father discovered that the Kingdom of Heaven is not a place of wild fancies as Christians believe. Originally, we are to enter the Kingdom of Heaven as a family unit. The ideal world is the place where parents and children can live together centering upon God. By the way, if your father goes to hell, your mother goes to the Kingdom of Heaven, your older sister goes to hell, and your younger brother goes to the Kingdom of Heaven, will you feel good even though you go to Heaven? The Kingdom of Heaven is the place to go as a family unit.

Human beings are to be married in the bosom of God's love and have children whom God loves and grandchildren whom God feels joy to be with. The Kingdom of Heaven is a place where your family goes all together. Is going somewhere alone, where your son cannot go with you, really going to the Kingdom of Heaven? Paradise is the place to which people go separately, discarding the intimacy of "husband and wife" or "parent and child." Paradise doesn't have anything to do with the family. Is such a place the Kingdom of Heaven? The world where all family members can give and take centered upon God is the Kingdom of Heaven. While a son is floundering in hell, can his parents be happy in Heaven? Is such a place the Kingdom of Heaven?

The Kingdom of Heaven that the Unification Church is talking about is the place where all the family members are going together, not the place to which we go alone. In view of God's ideal of creation, is the Kingdom of Heaven a place to which man and woman go separately? No, it is the place for two people to go together; father and mother are meant to go together. In this respect, our Unification Church is the history making religion.

Originally, God didn't create a world in which a husband could go to the Kingdom of Heaven and his wife to hell. The main characters of God's ideal of creation, namely, father, mother, son and daughter, are supposed to form a tribe and a nation. Doesn't this make sense? Due to the fall, hell came into existence.

What kind of place is the Kingdom of Heaven? It is the place for a family -- man and woman in union -- to enter. Because Jesus couldn't find a bride and bear sons and daughters on earth, he has been letting the Holy Spirit work on earth while he himself has been praying in Paradise for 2,000 years.

Because a woman fell first, a female spirit -- the Holy Spirit -- as the substantial body of a mother should cleanse sin and make the world clean.

Then Jesus as a bridegroom with the new seed should return. God's purpose is to create a new world centering upon God, with the kin of True Parents in a new heaven and new earth. When such a world is accomplished, we can say that God's plan is fulfilled according to His will. We don't need to believe in a God who has been working for 6,000 years without a clear purpose.

The four position foundation is the cornerstone of the Kingdom of Heaven on earth and Kingdom of Heaven in Heaven. The Kingdom of Heaven cannot be established by one individual alone; Jesus alone cannot build it. That's why the Holy Spirit should come down.

Because Jesus couldn't establish a family, he is in Paradise now, not in the Kingdom of Heaven. Paradise is the waiting room for entering the Kingdom of Heaven. Hell was created because of the human fall. God did not create hell originally.

We never go to the Kingdom of Heaven alone. Two people, Adam and Eve, opened the door of Hell due to their fallen action, so we cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven alone. That's why Jesus is in Paradise, not in the Kingdom of Heaven. He is to go to the Kingdom of Heaven with his bride. Nowadays, Christians want to follow Jesus without having any idea of this fact. Unless we establish the standard of restoring a family, we cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven. That's why the Unification Church gives the Blessing.

According to the principle of creation, the Kingdom of Heaven is the place to enter centering upon the family. Happiness is to be felt when parents, children and all the relatives can enter the Kingdom of Heaven together. If children go to the Kingdom of Heaven while their parents go to hell, is it the real Kingdom of Heaven?

Therefore, the Unification Church should lay the family-level foundation in paving the way to the Kingdom of Heaven. Without doing that, you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Centering upon a family, you have to be free of the historical and dispensational standard which Satan can accuse.

You cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven alone. The Blessing helps us swiftly go through the door of the Kingdom of Heaven. It is the place to go on the family level, holding the bond of three generations. Jacob's seventy family members were the union of three generations; they entered Egypt as such a group.

Father's desire is to see exemplary families called by Heaven out of the enemy world, so we should know that we cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven without going through the family.

Who restores the Kingdom of Heaven? The door of the Kingdom of Heaven opens by means of an absolute couple with absolute faith, absolute practice and absolute heart, who are willing to bear the cross with gratitude.

How do you conceptualize the Kingdom of Heaven? In a word, the Kingdom of Heaven is the living environment for a perfect person. If it is for a perfect person with true love, then what is the nature of a person with true love? Humankind is composed of man and woman. Without a man and a woman, the completion of God's ideal of love cannot be established on earth. God's love cannot be perfected without a man and a woman who together possess the subjectivity of perfect love.

A single person can never enter the Kingdom of Heaven. For a single person, the Kingdom of Heaven is the land of despair. A land of solitude still presents hope, but the land of despair has the status of being without hope. When blessed families of the Unification Church accomplish vertical love on the foundation of horizontal love between husband and wife, they enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Here is recent spiritual proof for that. (Colonel Pak explains it:) The former president of the Unification Church of Korea, Rev. Hyo Won Eu, who is in the spirit world now, once spoke to a female psychic medium. "As Father's first disciple, I worked for a long time in the president's position, and I wrote Wol-li Kang-ron (Discourse on the Principle) which became the worldwide scripture, so I thought I would be in the top position in the spirit world. But when Father organized the spirit world trinity with the order of Ki Suk Lee, Hyo Won Eu and Chung Goo Park, I was so disappointed and I complained. Father said, "The spirit world is the world of love, where the competition of love exists, not the competition of intellect. Ki Suk Lee has more love, that's why he became the first brother in the trinity." I could understand after listening to Father's explanation. I didn't enter the Kingdom of Heaven yet; I'm on the way there. Thus far, my work has inclined toward the intellect, but I will work hard heartistically with my wife on earth." Heung Jin Nim is in the Kingdom of Heaven. He couldn't enter the Kingdom of Heaven until he got blessed. After establishing the four position foundation, he entered the Kingdom of Heaven. The spirit world is the world of love.

What kind of person can go to the Kingdom of Heaven? The kind of person who loves his son, wife or self more than he loves God cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven.

When you can respect parental love and conjugal love, you are qualified to go to the Kingdom of Heaven. You have to love your parents more than you love your spouse, and you have to love your grandparents more than you love your parents. This is the core of the Kingdom of Heaven and the motto encapsulating the ideal.

Your mind and your life should overflow with God's love and should let the love drops fall continuously. When love flows out, there is hope, but when love dries up, you and your family will perish. Dry-hearted people will be stricken out of the world of love. Such people are destined to be excluded from the world of the tradition of love.

If you cannot experience heavenly love on earth, you cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven. Have you sincerely loved a Cain-type person? In order to go to the Kingdom of Heaven, your love should surpass the parental love and conjugal love of the satanic world. Parents have even died for the sake of their child in the fallen world; still, our love must surpass the parental love of the fallen world.

You cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven alone. One man and one the couple should surely become one with Cain. A proper environment is needed. Before receiving parents or spouse, you are to set up a standard of unity between brothers and sisters. This is Unification thinking.

What is the human fall? What are fallen children? Fallen children cannot feel God thoroughly as their Father. Their mind doesn't have a concept of God. You should have the following experience and realization. First, you should substantially feel, "I'm born again and have received new life, and I'm God's son or daughter who leads a new life through the love of True Parents." Second, "I'm a qualified citizen of God's land." Third, when you look at the nation and world, you should feel God's mercy and think, "God handed down this world to me, so l as God's child have a right to possess this world."

The awakening of this actual feeling is the most important task for us in 1977. You should realize, first, that you are God's direct child; second, that you are a citizen of the Kingdom of Heaven; third, that this world is your legacy from God. God blessed His children with three gifts. An individual who actualizes this feeling is moving toward perfection and is endowed with the qualification and right to be the center or a member of the Kingdom of Heaven of the family.

When God settles down on earth with joy, then all things can take Sabbath. The sabbatical site for all things cannot be set up unless God set you cannot establish a happy family centering upon your parents. Likewise,new order cannot be established in this world unless your mind and body can naturally and spontaneously sing a song of happiness centering upon God, the subject of the cosmos, and unless you are given independent authority in a free environment.

Even though you've established the individual Kingdom of Heaven, if you cannot apply that to the family, you will not have a safe place for yourself as an individual to take Sabbath. Without establishing the victorious tribal-level foundation, you cannot lay a safe foundation for the Kingdom of Heaven of the family. In order for a tribe to settle safely, the national foundation should be determined; in order for a nation to set up the foundation to take Sabbath, a worldwide foundation should be organized. You are in this process of development.

When we say Heavenly Father, we are saying that God is a parent. If Adam and Eve had not fallen, they would have become the King and the Queen of the nation, as well as parents. They would have been the King and the Queen of the Kingdom of Heaven and the King and the Queen of the universe. That's why there is a saying that a loving loyal subject and a son of filial piety can go to the Kingdom of Heaven. When a woman serves her husband as God, Lord or King and leads a life of true love, she can go to the Kingdom of Heaven. The logic that you cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven unless you love your parents, nation and world makes sense here.

A family belongs to a nation, a nation belongs to the world and the world belongs to the universe, so if you love God, you will attain the condition-that you loved everything in the universe, even though you abandoned your family and nation. That's why you are told to live for the sake of the world and God. If you can love the world and humankind as much as you love me, you can go to the Kingdom of Heaven.

A person who is bound by his or her family and who is fettered by conventional forms and past habits cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Such a person needs a heavenly gift to revolutionize his or her mind to an explosive degree. Where is the place to dispense this heavenly gift and stimulate us to carry out such a revolution? It is the Unification Church. The motivation and the wellspring of the revolution originates from the Unification Church. It applies to everybody.

Father says to the Unification Church members that we are to establish the Kingdom of Heaven on earth, but it is not accomplished by ourselves. You are told that in order to establish the Kingdom of Heaven, you should become the oldest grandson of the main family. In order to be the oldest grandson of the main family, you should marry into the head family and fulfill the moral obligations there.

You should be a good example in public life. In other words, you should be thorough in church life and our official activities. These two areas are critical.

You belong to a certain region. The degree to which you strive to absorb your whole region in God's Will vitally influences the education of your children. The change in your life after you began to live centering upon God's will, in other words, how much you lead an exemplary life in the village and how much you make an exemplary relationship with others, will be the object of potential criticism by your children. Therefore, your public life should be solid.

Next, your private (personal) life is the problem. Is there any qualitative difference in your life before the Blessing and after the Blessing, when you are trying to lead a life of faith as a family? If, when a husband becomes arrogant, his wife keeps complaining and nags at him more than before, they are not a good example to their children. After the Blessing, they should change totally. It is very important to create a situation in which their children respect them, so they should be good examples to their children in their personal life.

Public desire can be accepted anywhere; never have self-centered desire. You should have the attitude that you will do such and such in order to save the nation, instead of acting with the motivation to become popular in the nation. Does a nation move according to your mind? If that's the case, you may think that God would move following your mind. Those thoughts are all self-centered. You always have to lead a public life. In all your actions, earning money or participating in certain activities, you should be motivated to save the nation and the world. You should not think that you will do something good later by earning money now.

Part 3 - The Life Of The Blessed Family

Chapter 7 Part 3 
The Life Of The Blessed Family

1. The Blessed Family Should Be A Good Example

Blessed families should feel the mission to determine the future of the whole. A couple and children are in a family. The family should not become a slave of habit. The family is the starting point of the four position foundation. Oneness of husband and wife is absolutely needed here. You should unite with the original standard which God desires.

In establishing a family-level foundation, when a wife fits into the husband, when a husband fits into the wife, and when the children become one, the family will be blessed. Now is the age of family salvation. We should restore the family; there's no better witnessing than that. A couple should pray in tears holding the children's hands at the break of day, so that the children sing songs of yearning for their parents when they are away from home.

From now on, we should anathematize things worthy of cutting with a dagger. You are not supposed to do it on your own. The Unification Church is to establish the Kingdom of Heaven; that's why we are to look for the family, not an individual. Do you understand? The family department will be the most important post in our church. A person who cannot be a good example in family life will receive worldwide and cosmic blame.

The Blessing is precious after fulfilling the condition of responsibility. Men shouldn't create fist fights and women should be careful with their mouths. They should not use the abusive language of the secular world. They should be different in some way. The family is the micro-church; it should be the agency of heaven. It should be the family that God wants to visit. At least three families should run one household. First, a family should be the place where many people can come and go; the harmony among men is most important. Second, heavenly families should be united into one. At least a trinity of families should be completely one.

We center on the family, not on the individual. This doesn't mean that everything is to be cut off centering upon a family; rather, the whole should be linked up centering upon a family. The effort to cultivate a solitary moral life is not enough. You should determine to make several times more effort than before.

We are apt to be tired and retreat from the life of challenging evil. After having a family, you should make several times more effort than you did when you were single.

The family is the axis for fixing the focus. We cannot escape this reality. The relationship of "front and rear," "right and left," and "up and down" should be established in a family.

The form of faith that you had in the past is not enough, nor is your former one-sided attitude of faith enough.

Individual prayer worked when you were single; but if there's even one opposing person in a family, the family has to penetrate the problem together, shouldering the cross of disunity until the original standard is met. An individual is like a railroad car and a family is like a locomotive. It is simple to restore an individual mistake but the mistake of a family leads directly to rupture.

The family is important. If one partner fails, no relationship can be made. When a virgin and a bachelor are in love, they usually forget all their ideals. The starting point of everything for us is the family. When you fight insisting on your own opinions, the nation and Heaven and earth will perish. The family is the hole through which we can breathe.

Individual faith can grow well when one meets a good leader; but in a family, everybody should be the leader to one another. For whom and for what a family exists is the problem. **

The nest of Sabbath for children is the love and pride that they have toward their parents.

We need a foundation of complete unity between parents and children in a family. But what will it be worth if there's no nation, even though you have many children? Nothing will be useful if there's no nation.

When the loyal subjects a long time ago received something good, they offered it to the king of the nation first. That was the regulation of the life of loyalty in Korea.

In that perspective, Korean courtesy has heavenly contents which are not found in any other nation. The Confucianists follow Confucianism and there are quite a lot of manners prescribed in Confucian teachings which are similar to heavenly law.

You should make your descendants perform a sacrificial rite for you. So far, the regulations of life and the procedure for holding a funeral have not been established centering upon the Principle; but from the time the standard is set up, you shouldn't behave on your own. You should develop and keep the vitality of life to survive and grow no matter what kind of storm comes, overcoming your environment and taking root deeply centering upon the mind that God is always with us in every situation. If you become like that, heavenly law will not be a big problem; but if you don't become like that, problems will arise.

Don't treat your ancestors as real ancestors. There were good forefathers among the ancestors born after Adam, but anyway they were unfaithful to God -- that's why you shouldn't treat them as your ancestors. Then who is our ancestor? Our fallen ancestors cannot be considered as such. But among them, there were outstanding chosen ancestors. We have focused upon Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses and Jesus in the Bible in order to honor their hard work for God. So centering upon such faithful ancestors, we are to unite. Let's serve and attend the Father whom they were calling, whom they were attending and whom they were living for, as our Father.

2. The Family Life Of Blessed Families

Pledge of the Families:

We families, the center of the cosmos, brothers and sisters vertically connected and flesh and blood of the True Parents before the new heaven, pledge and swear before the True Parents to become worthy of possessing the glory of victors by maintaining our positions in responsible activities and by observing the family laws and traditions decreed by heaven. This I pledge.

Because original human beings are born through the bond represented by the content of the "Pledge of the Families," they are to live and die within this Pledge. We should be able to read this Pledge without any guilt.

We have been living and speaking carelessly, but now we should establish regulations in our families. Parents shouldn't beat their children due to anger or speak secular words of condemnation to them. Now, everybody should be one. Words, attitudes and way of life should be one, centering upon God.

The Blessing doesn't have any meaning in one generation itself. It is no more than one man and one woman living together. Then, what is the providential content of an individual's Blessing? It is not enough for the blessed families to live according to their original minds, but they should establish a four position foundation centering upon God. Because human history started from the fall centering upon Satan, it should be restored centering upon God. It is inevitable for fallen man.

In order for the head family to thrive, the family members are to accept and conscientiously practice the family rules and etiquette. But people with an attitude such as, "Those rules have nothing to do with me," cannot be the offspring of the head family. Such a one cannot be the heir of the head family even if he is born as its eldest son.

How to maintain the pure blood lineage coming from God is the challenge. It is significant to keep the pure blood lineage in an unchangeable condition, not as blood which has the possibility to fall. We must care sincerely about this. It is very difficult to become pure in this fallen world; the first human beings fell even though they were in the unstained Garden of Eden. Various problems are involved here. The blessed parents born in the fallen world, in spite of their suffering, should make an unstained environment for their blessed children. It is Father's thought to prepare such an environment as quickly as possible for the second generation, no matter what sacrifices are entailed. We have to hurry.

In order for you Americans to be liberated from the sinful world, you shouldn't have the concept that you are American citizens. Instead of thinking that you are American or Korean, you should have the concept that "I'm God's person, the object of Heaven." You should dedicate your life as if you are sharpening a dagger to cut cruelly the sinful nature which permeates the customs and habits of the fallen world, including the language, clothes, shoes and women's cosmetics. This dedicated life can liberate the sinful world. There's no way to subjugate the sinful world unless we get victory over the secular history, habits and bad customs which pervade the environment.

You will have to be liberated from such bad environmental conditions if you want to become a true person, restore a true nation and to go to the Kingdom of Heaven.

Your family shouldn't become secularized and slaves of habit. You shouldn't think, "Things will be better in the future even though it's terrible now." You are to be perfect now; the present is the problem. When the past and the present are perfect, the future will be perfect. Not having a perfect day in the Garden of Eden is the evidence which corroborates the fall. The place where the past, the present and the future can be united into one is the ideal.

You should be able to offer "the Present." God's desire is to set up the eternal stepping stone on earth. This is the historical synthetic point.

If you lead one year with the standard of sincerity which you felt on God's Day, your daily life will be influenced. And if you lead the family tradition with such a sincere heart, your offspring will never diminish.

The reason for the destruction of the Israelites after they entered Canaan is that they become routinized and their mental focus settled on the life of eating and luxury. The Israelites who became wealthy even married the Gentiles. They were after power and fond of knowledge. They perished because they assimilated the ready-made Canaanite culture and sold the spirit of the chosen ones to the Gentiles.

Don't become a slave to bad habits. Habits are the worst illness. If you lead a habitual life after marriage while rearing your children, habits become part of your body. You will no longer find time for prayer or special heartistic offerings in such an environment. There is no time for prayer when the children make noise right beside you.

3. The Life Of Husband And Wife In A Blessed Family

Blessed families should renounce the conventional concept of living. The ideal couple that God originally desired was to return glory to God, but instead the fallen couple returned sadness to God. There is the disloyalty of the archangel as well as the irresponsibility of Adam and Eve. The archangel first was supposed to set up the condition of loyalty and filial piety to God, but he failed to do so. Therefore, the restoration providence is to set up the conditions of loyalty, filial piety and virtuous love.

Even though we as fallen people try setting up such conditions of love, we cannot reach the original standard because the enemy interferes with our loyalty, filial piety and virtue. It's easy for us to speak and think of being loyal to the nation, dutiful to our parents and faithful to our spouses, but the original loyalty, filial piety and virtuous love are different from what we imagine. That's why we need the central point.

Because God has been setting up the heartistic center of loyalty, filial piety and virtue in love, all religion and morality must follow this standard. All religious people and Jesus have been trying to establish the family for the purpose of setting up the condition of loyalty, filial piety and virtue in love. God established the nation of Israel in order to look for such a family. Jesus could have made Satan surrender if he first had set up the morality of loyalty, filial piety, and virtue in love, and then had become the priest to expand such conditions.

When children mature, they are to replace God's doctrine with His substance.

Blessed families shouldn't fall behind anyone in establishing loyalty, filial piety and virtue in love. Loyalty, filial piety and virtue in love start from the family. To be blessed is to inherit Father's wishes. In history there have been families of loyalty and filial piety in front of God, but there has been no family of virtue in love. We cannot set up the condition of virtue in love until God's Day comes and Satan's accusation is overcome.

Men gathering here should love their wives more than any other husbands do in the world. Women also should love their husbands more than any other wives do in the world. That is the morality of love that the parents of the blessed families should keep.

Blessed couples are to enter the Kingdom of Heaven when they accomplish horizontal love centering upon the foundation of vertical love.

When a husband or a wife can love his or her object as the representative of Heaven, earth and all humankind, that family can represent all blessed families.

The main thought of the Unification Church is, "Our family doesn't exist for the sake of our family." It is conventional wisdom that women are to follow their husbands, but that doesn't work in the Unification Church. The way of the virtuous women is to live for the nation, abandoning husband and family members if they are centered on the family alone.

Set up the family tradition. Follow the way centering upon the one who stands straight in front of God.

What kind of family is the exemplary family? When a family doesn't fulfill its mission, the whole family will be caught up and the ancestors in the spirit world will not be able to cooperate.

When a family sets up the tradition as the substance of Jesus and the Holy Spirit, the national and worldwide tradition can be established.

We shouldn't be sad when one of a couple who worked for the providence dies early.

The blessed couples shouldn't lament, even if their husband or wife dies early. They shouldn't remarry; otherwise, they will be caught up by heavenly law in the spirit world. They must report in front of God and follow what God directs them to do. But nowadays there are many who are not doing so. What will be the result? It doesn't appear on earth, but you'll know when you go to the spirit world. Such a person will stand in a position worse than Satan.

Father knows all of your past experiences. If you ask me, I can tell you right away what happened in your past. Would the bride and the bride. groom ask each other's past? Or would you forget your past? Because Father decides to forget your past, you also should forget your past.

Blessed men should be completely one with Father. Then there is no connection with sin. You as Father's incarnation should start your life in the subjective position; and the object, your wife, should be one with the subject and absolutely obedient.

When you blessed couples start a family, the husband should lead a public life (life of service) and the wife should be in charge of the family life (the domestic life). Will you be a representative and exemplary family? "Moonies" are reflective, "Sunnies" are luminary, and "Kingies" are comprehensive. Therefore, you should be Kingies, the comprehensive family. The ideal should be actualized through God and human beings.

A person who is in debt cannot flourish. A family member who likes to be indebted to others in the family will be isolated. It is the principle of human life that if the family members are indebted to someone else in the family more than to the parents, the parents will give all the authority and power to that someone else. Wives should not be indebted to their husbands; neither husbands to wives. The eternal peaceful world comes from the family in which no one wants to be indebted to another.

When you work in an agricultural community, you are not to work alone. A husband and a wife together are to report the day's schedule to God before going out to work and they are to report to God after work and then eat dinner. You should know how strict is the God-centered standard of life.

There are regulations of family life for women and men respectively. Blessed families are to systemize their lives with such great heavenly regulations; otherwise, they will be in trouble.

Give for the sake of family, nation and world; this is the principle of three objects. In walking, men are to step right foot first and women are to step left foot first. Men are supposed to sit in the East and women in the West. There is always a certain order to do anything -- the order of setting the table or the order of hanging clothes.

Man is to look down upon woman from above, and woman is to look up to man from below. Woman shouldn't look upstream at flowing water, but should look downstream. A woman looking upstream is the type who will be good at playing with love.

Woman is to prepare the place for man to sit. When using a wardrobe, man is to use the right or upper side and woman the left or lower side. Woman shouldn't put her skirt or underwear on the man's upper clothes. The woman's clothes shouldn't be on the man's clothes.

The wife of a leader shouldn't nag her husband when he is about to leave for work in the morning. The disturbing ripple effect from his heart created by his wife's nagging will disturb the world and make it unclean. Woman should nag at night and then all the problems should be solved overnight. A man should launch his battle plan every morning; the wife of such a husband should wake up early and serve him well.

Women always should be beautiful even if it requires using make-up and perfume. A wife should not be indebted to her husband in emotional life, and she should always concern herself with her husband's body and clothes. When a husband looks tired after working, she should prepare water to wash his face, and toothpaste and toothbrush to brush his teeth, and she should be able to wash his feet and comb his hair.

A woman's smile is the flower of the family. In order to establish a harmonious family, the woman should be a first class actress in both comedy and tragedy. She should completely melt her husband all the time, whether he is joyful or sad.

Woman should change her clothes and wash her hair at least once every three days. And always smile. A smile is a mental flower. Always keep your flowers in bloom and give off a sweet smell!

Woman should test the object's response to her hairstyle and make-up. Think of it as a hobby to alter your external appearance if you cannot make the object joyful and attract him to you. Mobilize all the artistic senses like a symphony. You may research woman's physiology by looking at magazines or explain to him about literature after reading several books. Make your husband live inside the width of your skirt like a baby.

Once a man and a woman meet at all, they should be together holding each other's hands regardless of going the way of death or life. As long as you have to go together, be smart and stylish.

After getting married, you cannot act in whatever way you want. Where must you go after marriage? You are to take charge of God's love.

Human beings are born separately as man and woman because of love. Love is to be fruitful by means of a husband and a wife becoming one.

You are the divided substantial bodies coming from God's dual characteristics. In order for divided beings to become a harmonized union, they should look for God's love.

In order to encounter God's love, man and woman should be one in love. Unless man and woman become one, there is no way to meet God's love. Meeting God's love compels us to stay in the same position as God. Staying in the same position as God means standing in front of God.

When you become one centering upon God's love, on the foundation of complete oneness in conjugal love, you are not only to reach God's position but are to possess all of God's belongings. The power of love is such an amazing force. You are to inherit the right of possessing all of God's property, and at the same time He allows you to participate in His authority.

If you focused on loving each other neglecting God's will, you should feel shameful in front of God. This is the life of blessed families. If you lead your family looking after your own happiness, your family will never develop. So, if something good happens in your family, it should be related to the nation, world and Heaven. The joy of the family should become the pride of the nation, world and Heaven.

When they embrace and love their children, blessed parents should know clearly the purpose for which their children were born. They were born because of God; they were born through the affinity of God. Even though you may have a secret talk with your precious husband or your precious wife, you did not meet your spouse by your own decision. You met in the presence of heavenly law. God intervened to create your meeting. So you should understand that the more you become miserable, the more God becomes miserable.

4. The Providential Life Of Blessed Families

The couple should know that they are the elements necessary to accomplish the will of the whole and God's will. If the blessed families live for the benefit and well-being of themselves, not for God's will, their children will be miserable.

Trying to follow the will of God with the motive of fulfilling your own desire doesn't make you go forward but rather makes you go backward. There are so many examples of this. You cannot mix your individual desires into God's will. If a husband and wife live for their own benefit and desire even after the Blessing, they are merely a reappearance of the fallen Adam and Eve. The fall starts from greed. If the Blessing is established in order that it surrender to your subjectivity, the Blessing is not fair.

For what did you come to this mountain peak? If you came here to be successful by listening to the words, you will perish. But if you are here to become a plus to your village, nation, world and heaven by listening to the words, you came to the right place. Even though Father appreciates you if you are here just to enjoy seeing him, this will flow away pretty soon. So you should set up a clear standard to do any sort of work if it benefits God.

If a husband and wife set up the foundation of thorough heartistic oneness, inheriting God's ideology, future descendants will praise you eternally. The standard of such praise shouldn't remain in one nation, but it should be the heartistic pivotal point which can be pursued by the whole world. In order to set up such a standard, your family should start with the determination to overcome any difficult environment.

What road have you walked? If you have been busy taking care of your sons and daughters, you won't be able to meet God in the spirit world. God lost all the created world by losing human beings. Therefore, even though you live with your sons and daughters, your mind should always live to love God and to accomplish God's will. If their parents died through persecution while trying to accomplish God's will, the sons and daughters will be proud of their parents' life.

You should know that the more miserable the place you enter, the closer God is with you. Sometimes when I opened my eyes, a light was radiating in the sky. When God is with us, such phenomena take place. What a beautiful panorama! There are so many handsome men and beautiful women in the world, but they are nothing compared to such a scene. Such beauty can be seen only in the world of dreams. The place where beauty can be expressed completely is the ideal world -- the Kingdom of Heaven we all desire. If a person like Mr. Park here saw such a phenomenon, he would forget to breathe out after once breathing in, keeping his mouth ajar in deep wonderment.

When we silently sacrifice everything for the sake of God, He will protect us. God surely will be at our side.

Your family should be the family of love, and you are to become the public husband and wife or parents centering upon God's love. Don't be the personal husband and wife or parents centering upon yourselves. Usually there is no public husband and wife, no public parents and no public sons and daughters in America. They are not walking the way of public love; instead they are walking the way of private love, in which the love of husband and wife, parents and children is centered upon themselves. Such love destroys the nation and the world.

When you become the center of the world after loving and sacrificing for the sake of the world, you automatically will be able to launch your individual love. Then God will love you.

A great person doesn't only manage the household for his or her own family or nation; he is the one who manages the household for the world. And who could be a person greater than that? The greatest is the one who is willing to manage God's household.

In this respect, saints do not dream centering on the human household; they are the dreamers whose center is God's household. The founders of the religions, Jesus, Confucius, Buddha and Mohammed, realized God as the essence of the household of a dimension higher and more ideal than the human one. That's why they longed for the ideal.

You were called to the providence and received the Blessing. That's due to God's enormous love; that was not founded upon your will. You've gained life for free, due to God's unconditional love. Therefore, all of you are heartistically indebted to God. Even though God doesn't ask you to pay the heartistic debt, you have to participate in His situation and follow His will if you wish to regard yourselves as His children. Interests or consequences cannot intervene in the parent/child relationship. Only love exists between them. Children don't work to pay their debt to their parents; rather they participate in their parents' work because the parents' matters are the children's matters.

We have to reflect upon how much we blessed families have participated in Heavenly Father's concerns. If blessed families think Father's concerns have nothing to do with them, who will inherit Father's work?

If you found Heavenly Father by joining the Unification Church and by meeting Father, you have to be grateful. It was not easy at all to establish the Blessing in the course of the providence. It is not practiced like certain memorial celebrations or annual ceremonies. If you know the value of the Blessing, you should be able to inherit Father's concerns and heart.

A son born of a great father is responsible to succeed with everything of his father's.

Everyone stands upon the same central point, but the horizontal expansion differs, from the family level to the tribal, national or worldwide levels. Father and you stand upon the same central point. The center cannot be two. While Father has the worldwide mission, you have the individual, family, tribal or national mission. By making effort you can extend your level to the broader dimension.

What is your situation after receiving the Blessing? The world to which you have to go is the world to which Father has to go. The nation to which Father has to go is the nation to which his son has to go, isn't it? Likewise, the glory that Father will enjoy is the glory that his child will enjoy.

Then how much have you researched what Father is doing? Have you read Unification News and Today's World all night to find out what is happening to Father and his family? How many pages do you read when you receive those? You have read many worthless books linking to Satan, and carried on worthless research on satanic matters, but how much have you researched about Father? You do not have confidence.

You should know clearly whether or not you have lived for God's will. There are people watching how the blessed families will become compared with non-blessed families. When a baby calls, "Father," God doesn't hear it as one baby's voice, but He hears it as the voice of all babies.

God gives us grace after the trial. When Father looks at my white hair, I feel sad at realizing that I haven't done enough by the time of reaching this age. If Father shed tears ten times, you have to shed tears at least once. The blood, sweat and tears shed at the place where we meet Father are different from the blood, sweat and tears shed by any other people in history. Let us shed tears by meeting and embracing Father in the nation for which Father has been searching.

You shouldn't be the husband and the wife that you were when you didn't know the Principle. If there's a way to receive grace and to inherit God, you should go forward, interested in the greater value of the ideal even if you lose all of your assets. You'll be punished right away if you hide some of your assets in a comer. That is like theft. Thieves who steal another's materials are to be punished. It is a most frightening thing. It is a crime.

Your family shouldn't just exist for your own family but for three million people; and your body is not yours but is the one to go upward by representing three million people. In order to go this way, first of all you should leave everything to do with material things up to God. That is what Father did.

The things that I possess are not mine but belong to God and the universe. All things of the universe are to be resurrected, and you have to raise your children not as your own but with the view that they belong to God and the universe. A husband and wife are not limited to being each other's private possessions; they represent heaven and earth.

Don't just make effort for your own family, but undertake great endeavors for the nation. Because I treat you as people of character, you think I am the teacher of the Unification Church only; but I'm not teaching one church alone. Wait ten years; you'll see what I mean.

Blessed families are precious. You should start in the same position as Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. You should start without even clothes, like Adam and Eve, but you have clothes. Did Adam and Eve wear clothes in the Garden of Eden? They hid themselves with nothing but leaves. They didn't have a house. In this respect, blessed families nowadays cannot say that they are suffering. Our blessed families all have houses and clothes.

It is a greater blessing to leave descendants who are determined and proud to gain providential victories by the trillions than to sing joyful songs of blessing. If you came to the Unification Church for your well-being, pack up right away and leave. Such self-centered motivation destroys you. If you are worried about your children and your wife, God's dispensation will not be accomplished. It will perish.

Did you join the Unification Church to eat three meals a day? You are not suffering for your entire life in this church just for the sake of eating three meals a day. If your initial determination to save the nation and live for righteousness was not a lie, you shouldn't hesitate to do anything. Don't forget that you will turn into a pillar of salt if you hesitate due to attachment to the past.

Do you think Father created the Unification Church and endured all the persecution and accusations just so that he could have enough to eat? When I look back upon my life, there was not a single day when I ate enough and slept comfortably. In order not to forget the hunger that others were experiencing, I intentionally starved myself and suffered. I couldn't allow my stomach to be filled and myself to indulge in a comfortable life.

The people who died while trying to fill their own stomach cannot go to Kingdom of Heaven. If I eat enough and sleep well, I will be indebted to all Unification Church members in the world. Such a life is sin.

What's going to happen if you live for yourself? You will lose the world, nation and tribe. Can the people who live for themselves have a family? No, they cannot have a public family. They will completely perish because they won't have the nation and tribe. Where is the place for that multitude to go? It is hell. There are many Unification Church members who will go to hell. That's why you shouldn't live for yourself. You should pray about this matter. It is not time for you to live for your individual self, but to live for the whole.

When you lead a thrifty life even though you have a lot to eat, and work hard for the world even though you can survive comfortably without working, God will feel sympathy and love for you.

For example, let's say a wife suffers greatly for her husband. When they finally achieve the purpose of the suffering and the husband occupies a glorious position, he will want to give credit to his wife for the achievement.

When a desirable purpose is accomplished by a family through the cooperation of all the family members, the father will want to praise his children and give them the credit, and he will want to stay in that position eternally. Likewise, when there are sons and daughters centering upon God's will, God wants to praise them, give them the credit and stay with them eternally.

Some of you may desire to ask me to help pay your children's school tuition, but Father is thinking of the third-world countries where people are dying of starvation. That's why I prefer not to wear neckties, or long underwear in winter. The people who are determined to liberate their brothers and sisters, and are willing to be the next to die in order to do so, cannot die even if they want to.

In the Old Testament age, materials were offered, and in the New Testament age, the son was sacrificed. In the Completed Testament age, parents go the way of sacrifice.

Your responsibility is so heavy. You were chosen earlier than others and received Father's love and education. If you cannot fulfill your responsibility, you'll be accused throughout history. In order not to be accused by your descendants, you'd better fulfill your given responsibility. Don't reject suffering; go forward to establish the tradition by fulfilling your responsibility. You should be the ancestors whom your descendants will praise throughout history, with their heads down in view of your heavenly results.

When the parents make serious effort not to be separated from the heavenly way, the children will never be disobedient.

5. Life Of Faith Of Blessed Families

How many blessed families come earlier than service time and help prepare on Sundays? When the sermon is about to start, after singing all the holy songs, they enter church. How can we call such people followers of God's will? No matter how well they make excuses, they are living a private life, not a public life. We expect no content from such people. You have to make a new resolution for "thorough public life" and "exemplary private life" through this meeting.

Therefore, all the blessed families should come to service earlier than the starting time and make a grace-filled atmosphere for the many types of people who will attend the service. That makes the heartistic foundation for the Regional Leader or minister who will give the sermon, and the speaker will be stimulated by the attitude of the members yearning to listen. The number of such active members determines the development of the church.

And it is so precious to keep the public anniversaries or Holy Days of the church. If you don't consider them as your very life, you will flunk the Blessing.

You shouldn't expect your children to grow well when you don't even keep morning Pledge Service and Sunday Service. Therefore, you should establish the four position foundation centering upon Father. In order to set up descendants, parents should do well.

Let's stand in the straight line with God even at Pledge Service. That moment is truly serious. You should repent if you are late even one second. Prepare holy candies and give them to the children.

Sunday is the day to give the members what you planned and what you saved during the week. It is the day to give something joyful to the members. And on Sundays, you are to share specially prepared food with other families and praise your spouse.

Blessed families should educate their children how to offer the Sabbath day to God by showing them an exemplary life: for example, preparing for Sunday Service from the break of day. But in reality they do whatever they want to do. They don't pray, don't make special offerings, don't study Principle and don't witness in the name of a life of living faith. If the Sunday Service starts at 10:30, they should leave for the church at 9:30 or 10:00. Instead of doing so, they leave home late and attend service from the middle. Such a family will be accused. No matter how much they educate their children, it won't influence them at all.

Parents should be a good example. They should show their children the practical life of faith -- prayer life and family service -- on a more serious level than conventional church members. And they should make children realize the importance of Pledge time. Holding Pledge Service is not enough; they should educate their children centering upon God's will.

At 5 a.m. on the first day of the month, each blessed family is supposed to bow and pledge toward the Headquarters with a joyful atmosphere.

You are to bow and pledge at 5 a.m. on Sundays; at that time you are to report all the contents of your life during the week. Sundays should be the joyful day that you long to have come quickly.

The quickest way to set up the family tradition is to do it when Father is alive. Originally you are supposed to shower every morning, bow and pledge to Father. Without setting up such a tradition, your descendants will perish.

One old blessed man died and his son seemed to feel sorry. The son realized that he never bought even a bowl of noodles for his father when he was alive. The son realized this immediately upon the father's death. It is fallen man's habit to have great regret after someone's death.

Father felt so much emotion after attending the funeral. How will you do when Father goes to spirit world ?

When looking in the mirror, you should ask, "How much do these eyes shed tears of longing to see Parents? How much does this mouth shout for Parents' liberation and the accomplishment of the Will? How much do these hands shed blood working hard for Parents' nation? Have I worked on the foundation which Parents desire until my body collapsed?" When you can repent, realizing that it creates resentment not to have done so, and then determine to look for such a way, you are happy. Happiness lies in trying to go this way and in making the heartistic bond with God. Nobody can subjugate such a person. Only the parents can move, inspire and make such a person happy. And there is nobody except the son who can make the parents happy. The hope of the parents doesn't lie in themselves, but in their son.

In farming, it is the morality of heaven and earth to think, "I'll offer the product to my parents." In love, everything becomes joyful and harmonized; and without love everything becomes unhappy and a dreary wilderness. Isn't that true? The problem lies here. You need to have a heart burning to know anything concerning True Parents and the church, such that you come earliest whenever the church leaders give reports.

You'll get a perfect score if you can show all of your heart to Heavenly Father and the True Parents even when you eat, drink, sit, stand or do any such mundane things. Knowledge or scholarly achievements don't guarantee you a perfect score. Maybe degrees such as a Ph.D. or Master's are needed for the fight, but you don't live by them. Can you justify your life saying to God, "I have a doctorate"? It is not needed. How can we pull God's love? The only way to move God is to devote yourself with absolute seriousness. You must think of True Parents first, whatever you encounter.

When something good happens, a person of filial piety thinks of his parents first. To think of husband or wife first is a fallen custom. Without buying something precious for parents, you cannot buy anything for your wife. Many of the 36 Couples should feel guilty. Before buying new clothes for your wife, you should buy clothes for your parents. A wife cannot ask her husband to buy certain clothes that she likes without buying for the parents first. Before buying himself clothes, a husband should buy for his parents first and then for his wife. The same rule applies to eating. You are to prepare a meal first to eat together with your parents.

The Kingdom of Heaven is not a difficult place; it is a place where we serve God and True Parents and where we receive and give love. Parents want children to love each other. If you have the title of a son of filial piety, but fight with your brothers at the same time, the title is worthless. That's why parents prefer you to love your brothers. People who love brothers and sisters more than they love their parents can eternally live inside the boundary of the Kingdom of Heaven. People who cannot love their brothers more than they do their parents are out of the dominion. By knowing this fact, members should be one.

People who are always prepared to welcome brothers and sisters, waiting for them from morning to night, will be blessed. Since they know that their parents cannot visit all houses, they wait for the heavenly brothers and sisters every day with a heart yearning to serve parents. Long ago there was a similar custom in Korea. Families of the classical scholar rank kept a special room for visitors. Such a custom can be seen only in Korea. Thus a heavenly regulation was shown symbolically in the historical background of the satanic world.

But you may worry whether or not somebody is going to visit you. Do you want guests to visit your house or not? (Yes.) How would you feel if Father visited your house everyday for three months? You would be tired of me. I have so many things to mention. What do you think? Is Father stifled or not knowing exactly how you feel? You don't know your status at all. That's why Father should educate you about such a matter.

6. Life Centering Upon The Trinity

The trinity is made with three men or three women in our church. We create a trinity to make the representative form of Adam's three sons and three daughters-in-law to serve the Lord.

When these three people cannot become one, there is the possibility for more destruction. Especially the three men should be united, spiritually and physically.

The foundation of the trinity shouldn't be limited to the present but should transcend time and make one subjective form. Otherwise you'll be ashamed of standing in front of the Lord of the Second Coming. If the three people in oneness make a principled stepping stone, in other words if the trinity is absolutely determined not to change, God will accomplish His will. In order to prepare this foundation, Father organized trinities.

The fall means the disunity of three brothers. That's why the Kingdom of Heaven cannot be established unless three brothers in unity manage one household according to the principle of restoration.

If the members of a trinity cannot make mental unity, they cannot go to the Kingdom of Heaven. The ideology of the Unification Church starts from here. The three who cannot be united mentally cannot register in the Kingdom of Heaven and cannot even look around it. And centering upon the oneness of the three, the minds of twelve people should be united into one.

You cannot go the way of faith alone. You need a like-minded friend in faith. More than three people should be one. That's why a trinity is needed. The subject of human character, God, also wants the triple standard. God cannot teach human beings directly when they make mistakes. He cannot teach us vertically. But if three people become one, when one makes a mistake and the other two don't, He can instruct the mistaken one about what he did wrong. That's the reason God sent Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

Grace comes quickly when more than three people pray in the mountains. After prayer the three should discuss with one another. If they discuss with others outside the trinity, Satan will invade.

When there's a beautiful unity of the three in a true sense and people surrounding them become envious of them, God's will automatically multiplies. The new bud will blossom when there's unity among the three, even without God's help.

Three people together can do anything, even in the outside world. Eight members should move together in our church. When a leader, leader's wife, three men and three women are one in a church, nothing can destroy it. This is an iron rule. Because everyone has the mission to prepare this restored form, Father organized trinities.

In order to set up a four position foundation, a form centering upon the horizontal foundation should be ready: people, church, material and a family should be one in the social environment. That's why the trinity is organized. The mission of the trinity is to be a good example in the family and in the church, and to be responsible for the economy. The trinity should be completely one. When there's a crack in the trinity, the ideology of the Kingdom of Heaven is destroyed.

Then what should the trinity do from now on? One representative family should be selected in each trinity. The selected family is an absolute heavenly family of which God dreams. It represents Father's family to the extent that other families should be absolutely obedient to this family; such a tradition should be established. And the families in a trinity should sincerely devote themselves in leading the church more than church leaders. The family also should be more frugal than others in dealing with material. Thus, our ideology aims toward the systematic formation of a social system and economic structure.

The time will come to select a representative family. When selecting one family in a region, a four position foundation should be established centering upon this family. We are to go forward centering upon the four position foundation which can enable us to live together eternally.

Right there, the Kingdom of Heaven on earth is to take place. That's the principled world. History developed in order to establish such a Kingdom of Heaven on earth. It is understandable that communists considered their party the absolute center, because everything develops through one center. Communists live or die according to party orders.

You are to fulfill your mission and responsibility centering upon the same principle in your given area. After receiving the Blessing, you have to prepare to become a central family in front of your descendants and heaven and earth.

You are to go forward with the conviction to establish a solid foundation to take responsibility as normal practice, in front of God, through your family. If you can do that, you will not deviate from the living regulation centering upon the Principle.

Father organized trinities. It was not centered upon the families themselves, but centered upon Father. In fact, it is good to form a trinity with your spiritual children. Centering upon Father, internally you form a father son relationship. This is what Father thought of when making trinities.

Blessed families should live by the organization of their trinity. When a son is born in one family, a four position foundation is established. If one of your trinity families doesn't have a son, you should be able to send your son to this family. But when the family finally gives birth to a son, you can bring your son back.

If one family in a trinity cannot give birth to a child, the other families should give a child to the family.

When one husband dies, the trinity should be responsible for the household of his family. From now on, we are to manage three households together; we are not to live alone. When the time comes, three households should be run together.

Consider Father's words as life itself. Be absolutely obedient. Originally the trinity should live together more than three years. The trinity should feel the same even if they exchange their babies. If you feel troubled about this, you will fail. Don't worry if a husband of one family in the trinity dies. In that case, the remaining two families should be responsible.

When Satan recognizes the condition that I loved Cain as much as I loved Abel, then he will go away. When rearing the babies of your trinity partners, you should be two or three times more devoted than with your own babies. If the trinity cannot make oneness, how can we create world unity? Three nations should be one. You have to love the world more than you love the Lord. Father received persecution from three nations, three ages and three sovereignties. The trinity is one brother. Therefore, when the three families become one, they can hold ceremonies instead of Father. If you neglect the trinity and just focus on your family's well-being, you will perish. You shouldn't represent Father just in His name; rather you should represent Father in His responsibility and heart.

Originally one family of a trinity is to be responsible for three households, and the remaining two families are to witness.

The Unification Church uses the noun "family member" (Korean: shik ku). We are all brothers centering upon the trinity. You should repent that you haven't fulfilled this.

Trinities should live together with deep feeling. The families in a trinity in turn should take responsibility for the trinity household one year out of every three. Without establishing the Kingdom of Heaven of the family, we cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. You are in the position of the Messiah who can save the whole family.

Even though three couples gave birth to children, they should be able to rear them as one couple. When you can do so, heartistic unification is possible. Father's heart, Adam's heart and Jesus' heart should be one. If the trinity cannot become like that, you will not be able to stand in the Kingdom of Heaven.

Three families shouldn't fight one another, each centering upon their own children. If that occurs, all should repent. You should be able to move twelve directions while living in one place.

Blessed families in a trinity should get in touch with one another at least once every three to four weeks. You should live centering upon the four position foundation.

One family in a trinity should be in charge during one season; each family in turn should be the responsible center to lead three families' living. In case of building a house, the house should be able to accommodate three families. The trinity is absolutely necessary.

You should be a good example in church and on the economic stage, centering upon the trinity. You should never be dominated by money. The nation which is dominated by money perishes. And when a family deceives the nation in order to fulfill an individual's greed, the family also will perish.

Women are capricious, aren't they? It is the right time for them to be really fickle now. Women want to live only with their spouses, right? Unless we destroy this standard, world unity is impossible. You have to understand this point.

The reason that a clan cannot live together is because of the women. The daughter-in-law who doesn't like her parents-in-law will be a miserable mother-in-law. This creates mutual sadness. To solve this, everything should be reversed.

The three wives of a trinity should be one, so Father disciplines you right now to become one. From now on, twelve families should live together in one house; and then 120 families or 1,200 families should live in one house. You shouldn't fight at all even though you live in the same village. When fighting takes place, a tribal conference should be held to punish the ones who fight. Such a time will come.

Father has disciplined you on a family level. From now on an apartment will come into being to train you on the family level. I'm talking about the modern dwelling, the apartment building. We will make a house which can accommodate more than seven families, so that people can experience collective life and modern life for several months. Such disciplining, residential apartments will come about. Do you understand?

All of you should graduate from such a training school. Three generations are to live together in the apartment. They are to eat and study together. The eight members of the family are to enter the Kingdom of Heaven centering upon the parents. Can a family having less than eight members enter the Kingdom of Heaven?

How many people are there when you add parents and the trinity? (Eight people.) Without setting up the foundation for these eight family members to become one, you cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. This is Principle, isn't it? If that's the Principle, we should live according to it.

7. The Collective Life Of The Blessed Families

The Unification Church teaches "parents" in the place of God and the historically unfortunate saints. If you have such parents, God is not needed and saints are not needed. We don't lack anything when we have parents. By becoming one with your brothers and sisters after completely restoring parents, new family members and a new family can start. Therefore, you should create the trinity.

All of you have spiritual parents. The spiritual parents have three spiritual children. You cannot stand in the face of God's will if you cannot be one with them. Do you know the trinity of your spiritual parents? Did you become one with them? If not, you are a fake.

Because you didn't create such a bond, you should create it centering upon Father's family. Become one with the people representing the three brothers in Father's family and make a brotherly bond with Father's children in the Cain and Abel relationship. Is there anyone who cannot do that?

You wear warm clothes whenever you feel cold, and you eat whenever you feel hungry, but have you wondered if Father's children are hungry? There's a formula course for Father to pass through before he can live with his children. Just serve for three years, absolutely serve!

You live centering upon yourselves like satanic babies. That's a serious problem. There are a group of people who think, "We have nothing to do with God or Father or Regional Leaders; we are now just suffering." Is there anyone here who thinks like that?

You should apply the Principle to everything. You are to start by relating things to the principled foundation. To create a loving relationship with brothers, you need such a foundation. "Family members" mean "brothers." Jesus hasn't received parental love, a brother's love or the love of relatives.

Because you have family members, you should make an atmosphere for brothers to give and receive love and live for one another. You should become such exemplary members. You should become a man or woman whom all Unification Church members can worship. Have you become such a person? All different kinds of people gather in this church, so there will be ones who sell the name "members." If such people receive the Blessing, they will sell the name "family." There are a group who are arrogant due to the Blessing that they received. Father didn't suffer until now to create families of such low dimension.

The family is the basic unit representing the whole. The mistake of a family links to the mistake of the whole; so while an individual mistake can be tolerated, the mistake of a family cannot be tolerated. The heart to turn individual joy into joy for the whole should prevail.

When you establish concern, subjectivity and hope for the whole instead of for the individual, you will harmonize with the bigger dimension. The family exists to save the whole; therefore, a family is like a power-transmission line. You should be able to harmonize with the whole through the family. So the trinity should live in one house. It is the time to reorganize the family structure.

Even though you received persecution and were driven out of society because of the Unification Church, you received better friends and brothers. In other words, you are given brothers who don't have the same physical blood lineage through the Blessing.

The relatives in the Unification Church are the blessed families.

Twelve families should create a united form or structure. They should miss one another and want to communicate.

From now on Father wants to hold family workshops. In entering modem life, Father wants to buy a plot of land which can accommodate 100 houses and build an apartment house for workshops to train people to live together. You have to think seriously how your actual life can unite the internal and external standards which God wants your family to establish.

It is Principle that when a blessed family is united like an iron-clad bastion, it will stand as the central nation which only God can subjugate, and will begin to move the world anew with its fortune.

The blessed families are to create one vertical ground with a strong bond of blood and flesh. They should be able to say to each other, "I cannot exist without you and you cannot exist without me." So the families with Unificationism try to make God's glorious ground in complete unity. Each family willingly wants to be the fertilizer for that field. Such a fertile ground of life is an object of pride.

8. The Way For The Descendants To Receive Blessing

What is the Kingdom of Heaven? Our family should be the place where passing beggars want to sleep, dogs want to enter, birds want to make their nest, and people even want to have a bowel movement. Such a place is the Kingdom of Heaven. How are our blessed families? If you cannot be a good example, at least you shouldn't be the bothersome ones of your village.

When you make such a family Kingdom, you will flourish and God will be with you. Why? Because the place where God's love dwells attracts all living things, and it is the peaceful sabbath nest for all existing beings.

When a miserable person visits your house, how do you ladies respond? You should feel dutiful to show hospitality by giving him or her outer clothes and even underclothes if he or she doesn't have clothes. Then your descendants will wear proper clothes. Your descendants will flourish because you treated strangers well.

There is a family precept inherited for a long time in Father's family. It is not to let guests pass my house with hunger. On a cold winter morning when our grandfather heard a beggar supplicating, "I've come to beg breakfast," he would give all that was on his breakfast table to the beggar. And he would start scolding our grandmother, saying, "Imagine that you are a beggar. How difficult it is to beg rice in front of a stranger's house on a cold winter day! Even though rice doesn't cost so much, it must be really hard to beg for it." Father heard those words several times.

It is hard to maintain life, but it is given by God. We should understand the beggar's heart to preserve his life. He does not want to die because he doesn't want to be undutiful to God. If human beings cannot understand a fellow human being's suffering, who will understand it?

When grandfather scolded grandmother for not serving the beggar quickly enough, she would protested by asking, "Who is more precious, your wife or a strange beggar?" When thinking of the offspring, a beggar is more precious.

Our grandfather did so and our father also did so. That was the law of the Moon family. We had to give rice to a beggar before he spoke more than three phrases. If mother didn't give rice to the beggar, father himself would serve the beggar with his own food. Then my mother, whose character was like a man, would fight with my father.

If a wife doesn't serve guests well, the head of a family, the husband, is responsible. When a husband doesn't serve well, he'll be punished, but when a wife doesn't do so, her husband is to correct her. You shouldn't say to a beggar, "What are you doing with your young body?" You should say, giving even a little change, "This is very little, but please receive thousands of blessings from this." If there's a very miserable man who doesn't eat properly in a village, you should do whatever work is possible, even all night, to buy him rice. If you do that, your descendants will stand in the most blessed place to be praised through thousands of generations. When a poor person gives birth to a baby and is starving, you should even sell your cow to help the family. In God's sight, everybody is a brother and a sister.

The President of the Korean Unification Church should give warm hospitality to foreign members when they visit Korea. If you pretend not to know them and sleep with your legs strait, your legs will rot.

Even though you lead a starving life, you should want to share with villagers when you get even one bowl of rice. Then the villagers will pray for your blessing. When you starve because of serving others, somebody will secretly bring a bag of rice to your kitchen. If you develop such a personality, you'll never perish.

You should live for the sake of heaven because heaven lives for the sake of your betterment, and you are to serve members as Father serves you. With respect to this standard, there are many who are like thieves. If you become the scary person who eats what is heaven's and robs church members, your descendants will perish for seven generations.

Have you become a person who is indebted to others, or a person to whom others are indebted? If you've become a person who can make others indebted to you, you will surely develop yourself, because God will cooperate with you.

You should establish the four position foundation even at the time of death.

The problem is: onto whom will you hold when you die? What is the ideal of creation? What is the purpose of creation? Speaking in the human centered view, it is to complete the four position foundation. Is there any rule or principle of death? What are the rules number one, two and three of death? Who will protect you at the most intimate distance during the time of your death? Who has the closest bond with you? Who will cry for you at the time of death? (Your children, spouse and parents.) Then whose tears will be the greatest in degree? (Your parent's tears.) Tears are relative. There are vertical and horizontal tears. Parents' tears flow from the utmost peak.

Upon what will you center when you die? Would you like to die forgetting love or embracing it? Whose love do you want to embrace at the moment of death? You should first of all embrace parental love, and then conjugal love and children's love. The principle of the four position foundation also applies to death.

Whom do people call first when they die? They call God. To call God at the most difficult place is the utmost truth for individuals. For people who truly call God at death, the door of forgiveness will open. Why is that so? Because the principle of death is like that.

When you die holding on to the principle of death, there will be a way for you to sacrifice. That's why everybody calls God at their death. This is the most truthful lesson. It is common that people speak the truth when they die. I don't know who taught that, but anyway it is a really good teaching. It is the truth of truths.

According to heavenly law, at death you are to call parents first and then your husband or wife. After calling your spouse, you are to call your children. You shouldn't let only your children come, preventing your spouse from coming at death. In the satanic world children have had priority over one's spouse. That's because Eve was the key figure of the fall. But in the restored world parents should come first, then the spouse and finally the children. That's the ideal.

Therefore, the four position foundation should be ready at death. People who died without establishing the four position foundation cannot properly go the way of death. That's why certain spirits come and go even after death.

After knowing all of this principle, to whom are you going to hold at death? (God.) Next? (True Parents.) You were born of God and you are to die through Him so that you can live eternally with Him in the spirit world. You were born through Him and you are to be concluded through Him. To live under this principle is the way of loyalty and filial piety. You are to be evaluated in conclusion as a responsible human being when you die, who fulfilled the way of loyalty and filial piety. Life is to be lived this way.

What you have to consider now is what kind of will you are going to leave to your child at your death. What will you express as your dying wishes? Can parents ask children to do what they haven't done? Such parents are the ones who want to take advantage of their children. Therefore, when you leave a will to your children, you should be able to say, "I've lived a life with nothing of which to be ashamed, so please live as I have." Then God will eternally protect your will. Do you have confidence to leave such a will? This is a serious problem.

The legacy of your family shouldn't be your material assets or the education you provided your children. It should be something done in family unity for the sake of the nation and the world.

Be careful that your tomb not be stepped on by your children. If there were Adam and Eve's tomb, I would be the first one to dig it up.

What will you leave your growing child? The greatest legacy is to be able to say, I'll have nothing to leave you except a life lived for the sake of the nation and the world." Things such as wealth or a doctorate are not important at all. You should leave a will saying something like, "Live for the world. Even though you were born in Korea, you are universal. So live for heaven and earth as well as for the world." This is "cosmos-ism." You have such a wonderful ideology and you've heard it and realized the significance of it, so you shouldn't be worthless, small-minded people.

The legacy of your family should be museum pieces for the world. Even though David S. C. Kim has been the president of the Seminary for a long time, he shouldn't leave relics for the school but should leave them for the world.

The world in which you live centering upon yourself is not your treasure. Your treasure is only what you received in the public dimension.

Part 4 - True Parents And Children

Chapter 7 Part 4 
True Parents And Children

1. True Parents And True Children

Parents exist for children. If parents existed for themselves, the word "parent" wouldn't exist. From now on all moral principles will be formed centering upon the Unification Principle. How should parents exist? Parents who gave birth to children should exist for the children. That's the moral principle number one. No explanation is needed for that. To exist for the son is not something unhappy, but is something happy.

Parents sacrifice themselves for the children because they want to return to God through the children. In loving children, people experience parental love and, furthermore, they feel God's love. This is the work of the original mind. People without children cannot experience God's love as well because of the absence of parental love. That's why such people's love is imperfect.

Parents want to give children their favorite thing first. Sometimes they cannot give it even though they want to, because the children don't know how to manage it. If it is given, the receiver will be hurt. If a very sharp knife is given to a person who is not ready to use it, it will destroy the person, his family and the public. That's why parents should not give things at random. Parents always want to give the best things to the children. You should understand this position of parents and willingly go out witnessing before being told to.

No parents teach children something wrong. It is possible for a teacher to teach something wrong. If a teacher is the students' enemy, he will teach wrong things. There are two kinds of teachers and two kinds of brothers. But there is only one kind of parents. Even evil people teach their children right.

Which is the good parent among the following three? The first says, "Study in order to give good fortune to your poor parents." The second says, "Study for your brothers and your family." The third says, "Study to fight for your nation." The third one who tells the child to be loyal to the nation is surely the best parent.

What about a parent saying, "Follow the way of the saints who tried to save the world in spite of losing their lives"? Of course the fourth one who asks the child to sacrifice for the world is the better parent than the third one. The Unification Church has this clear standard.

To whom do you belong? You belong to your parents and your child. To whom do the parents belong? They belong to the child and to God.

Therefore, first you belong to God and then you belong to your child. After everything entailed in that, finally you belong to you. When you become like that, you'll be perfect. That's why the moral principle to respect parents still remains on earth and in human life. From this concept, derive respect for your parents and love for your child.

A person without parents is an orphan. When a person has the experience of receiving parental love and of loving children, he or she is able to distinguish the "four directions" and "up and down."

You were born of your parents, so your parents were the first ones to whom you could speak. Your first sound was "daddy and mommy." "Dad and mom" which I am mentioning now are the names that human beings called from the original position a long time ago. It is interesting. Call daddy and mommy thousands of times. Examine the taste of "daddy and mommy." The taste is infinite. When you call daddy and mommy, they answer right away because subject and object are structured like that.

Whom do you like better, your spouse or your children? You like your children better than your spouse. A couple can separate from each other but they cannot separate from their children. Even though you take your son out of your inheritance, you cannot truly separate from him because of the blood lineage. After a bride and a bridegroom divorce, they can forget each other, but they miss their children more and more as time goes by. Anyone who has children can understand this feeling. Parents living in the satanic dominion must admit at least this fact. That's why God loves His sons and daughters.

The reason for the marriage of Unification Church members is not to meet their bride or bridegroom but to establish the four position foundation centering upon Father. The parent and child relationship is more important than the husband and wife relationship. Even after the marriage ceremony, a bride and groom can be separated but they can never separate from their children.

Which side is more lucky, children meeting their father or the father meeting his children? Children who meet their father are more lucky. How miserable a father is if his children are big fools.

Heavenly Father looked for His lost children for 6,000 years, and finally He found them enduring suffering upon suffering. How would He feel to look at the children who are impure and worthless? Do you have confidence not to disappoint Heavenly Father, who has been looking for you with His cross of suffering for 6,000 years? Do you have confidence not to make Him say, "It would be much better if I hadn't found you"?

Blessed families should set up the family tradition before having children. Make sincere and serious effort to do that before giving birth to a child. Your children will be able to say, "My parents are the best among all parents." If you are lacking externally, you should create your authority in some unique field.

Your children should be able to say, "Our parents are the best in the whole cosmos."

The name true parents is for the ones who love children. They should be able to receive praise from the spirit world for their suffering and for their loving children. True parents eventually let their children suffer to love humankind. Then they become the historical owner. Your children should be God's children and the children of the universe, and they should be able to grasp the inheritance of love. Then finally God is to be liberated from His agony.

How should a father be? He should be the best friend among friends. When a father appears, his son should jump to his father, even abandoning his friends. A father also should be the teacher of teachers. And then he is to be the center of heart.

A father is to be considered the one next to God and the one surpassing the president. Children should think of their father as their best friend and the best teacher, whom they would never exchange with any other friends or teachers. And they should be able to say, "I would rather abandon my loving wife than abandon my father."

Our Ye Jin grew up like her mother. Even though I go home late sometimes, I never forget to kiss her. Children feel something when their father touches. Children need such a feeling. You should create such a tradition in your lifetime.

Father always caresses the sleeping babies' faces when he comes home. It is hard to be good parents. By doing so, a thought is automatically implanted in the children's mind, "I will also love my sons and daughters as our father loves me," and they will come to realize that their father is the best in the whole world.

Children should be able to sing songs of yearning for parents when they are away from home.

When coming back from outside, if its mother is not at home, even though older brothers and sisters greet joyfully, the little child asks, "Is nobody at home?" Because mother is absent, the kindness and joy of brothers and sisters is not enough. In other words, mother is the subject. Because the center of love, the central axis, is mother, babies are satisfied only when mother is with them.

Did you want your spouse to be better than you, or not? Everybody answers the same. People want their spouse to be better than themselves. No parents want their children to be worse than they are.

Even though a handsome man and a beautiful woman give birth to a very ugly firstborn, when people exclaim that their baby is more beautiful than its parents, the couple will be extremely happy.

People want to have a great son. Then how can we educate someone to be great? Some people may say that we can educate children from kindergarten to the best university. But education is to continue through the entire lifetime. When parents train their children their focus should be on how to make mental unity and how to bequeath the heartistic bond to them. This is a common practice.

When a child is better than its parents, they feel happiness. That's why a woman who gave birth to a child worse than herself is ashamed to enter the spirit world. You should be able to love your sons and daughters more than your parents loved you. When children think according to this pattern, the world of love -- the Kingdom of Heaven -- will be established automatically.

In order for parental love to last eternally, one who can inherit the tradition is necessary. Surely the children are the heirs. We have to educate our children to be the heirs of the tradition. And we need a method to develop the value of the tradition.

Each generation should realize the importance of the existing tradition and develop it for the sake of the future. Such a practice can be initiated in a true family where parents yearn for their children to be better than they. Parents with such a desire continuously will be interested in their children and encourage them. Such parents will try sincerely to create the environment best suited to enable their children to be greater than they. Such parents will sacrifice everything for the happiness of their children and they will even force their children into the direction which leads their children to excel.

What should the response of the children be ? Should they say to their parents, "You are a dictator, so I don't like you. Please leave me alone. I don't want you to intervene in my life." Is that the right attitude for the children? Or should they respond, "Father and mother! I realize what your will is. I value your tradition infinitely and try not only to inherit it but to develop it."

When parents present their children as their representatives in order to hand on the family responsibility, they don't want their representatives to be worse than they. Why? Because all parents want their children to be better than they. Likewise the leaders of the nation should want their successors to be better than they. People should want their successors to be better than them in a family or in a nation. This is the prerequisite for eternity to transcend the fluctuation of history.

The wish for children to be better than parents is the condition required of a family. The same concept applies to the nation. The sovereigns of the world have not yet practiced this. They have cut the necks of all the capable men who emerged to succeed them. Such a miserable history has been handed down.

For a nation to flourish, its people should inherit its history. Those who are attracted to older people can inherit history. It is better to bequeath it when they are young. That's why children like the old tales. Because children are the new buds, they naturally receive the historical sap. Loving the old days has to do with this concept.

When babies are crying with their noses running, if we say, "I'll tell you one old tale if you stop crying," they will stop crying. The best time for a baby, next to the time of drinking milk, is the time of listening to the folk tales. It is because they are to inherit history. The principle of the universe is structured like that.

2. The Obligation Of True Children

You must return parental love. When raising up children, parents feed children even though they continuously starve, squeezing the hungry stomach, biting the tongue to overcome the hunger. They love their child at such a cost in order to teach their children to do the same thing for their parents. When parents go the suffering course first, the children can follow the same suffering course to comfort the parents; the parents' suffering becomes an investment. When you restore such heart to comfort your parents, your children will also follow your steps. And when you have such children, you will remain as good kin. People who center upon themselves and neglect parents cannot be considered dutiful sons and daughters.

Then who is the son of filial piety? When a son can do the same to his children as his parents did to him, he becomes the son of filial piety. That is also connected to heaven. Even though parents tried to raise their children up with a wholehearted effort, if the children don't appreciate them, the family will perish. When a reciprocal base is established between the parents and the children, God can dwell in that family and build the Kingdom of Heaven.

Then what child can remain in the Kingdom of Heaven? The one who repays the debt of parental love. When your parents are getting senile, you should serve them with the same care they had when they took care of your stools and urine in your childhood. That's the way to be a dutiful son.

What should you do for your parents? You should be a dutiful son and a loyal subject of your nation because your parents led the nation and the world. You are to be a praiseworthy family member among the true brothers before being a dutiful son, and you are to be a dutiful son before being a loyal subject of a nation. The title "family member" signifies the right to praise one's brothers and sisters. Isn't that true?

What is a dutiful son? Before getting married, you cannot be a true child of filial piety. When you serve your parents with your love plus your spouse's love, you can become a true and dutiful son or daughter.

The individual cannot be a loyal subject in the Unification Church. When you are a couple with a family, you can become a loyal subject.

That is why in order for you to set up an altar as a loyal subject, you have to give birth to a dutiful son.

There must appear the child who can willingly do the work parents desire and who is determined to be responsible to do even more than the parents desire. Then the solid foundation to inherit God's providential secret can be established on earth.

Satan ignores his own mistakes and only knows others' mistakes, but God cannot open His mouth when He makes mistakes. So you should always say, "I'm sorry. That was my fault." You are not to protest or provoke your parents. You should control yourself. As much as you endure, God will be with you.

When the children try very hard not to be indebted to their parents, the parents feel joy.

You should not be indebted to your father and mother.

Even though you hear words of praise from your parents, it is really stupid to behave centering upon those words. Parents use words of praise in order to make you come closer to the loving heart that parents desire.

Parents gave life to children. Children also should sacrifice their lives for their parents. Life comes from love, so it is a logical conclusion that you should go forward sacrificing your life for the sake of the essential love. This is not a contradiction.

If children grow up in the tradition of love, they cannot be indifferent when their parents want to divorce. They can never be indifferent. Good children will claim, "I'm your child, the union of both of you. You should make any kind of compromise for me. Please be the great parents. I need you." We should remind young people of the parental responsibility not to divorce; because of the children, parents don't have the right to divorce.

Because of love toward children, parents don't have any right even to think of divorce. Young people in this country should develop an anti divorce movement.

Unification Church members should restore divorced parents centering upon God's love.

3. Let's Be Parents Who Bequeath Good Tradition

Be the Parents who live in the tradition. If a certain tradition is set in England, the people live and relate to one another within the tradition. Within the tradition, they love and feel joy. In general, the place for the establishment of tradition is the intersection of life and death. In other words, tradition is established in the place of suffering and agony. Speaking in detail, the tradition of a nation is established when it survives through a life and death crisis.

A tradition is to be set up in a difficult place, one that is difficult for the whole, not for the individual. In order for children to inherit their parents' mental and material assets, they should understand their parents' suffering and they should be able to overcome a situation more difficult than that faced by their parents. The true heirs do not waste the legacy of the parents; they utilize the legacy for the betterment of the whole. This is a reasonable conclusion.

True parents will endeavor hard to bequeath the tradition of love. This rings true to both Orientals and Occidentals. All parents, regardless of race, want to set up a universal tradition of love. All people want to enjoy a happy and peaceful life within the perfect and harmonized unity of a family.

The fact that everybody wants such a life shows that this tradition is fundamental. Because only tradition can be connected to the future, it is a natural morality of parents that once they realize the significance of the tradition, they want to bequeath it to their children no matter what the sacrifice.

The problem is how to implant the parents' thought into the growing children as a tradition. Heavenly Father's serious problem has been how to take your children out of the satanic world, and now the education of your children in the satanic world is your problem. You have to undertake such a double cross.

Father worries not about leaving behind the name of the Unification Church, but rather about how to leave the people who inherited Father's tradition. That's why I have been educating continually about the importance of the tradition.

What do you mean by living well? My well-being does not matter. We have to educate the descendants. We have to leave a good example to them. So far we all have walked a miserable path, the course of the wilderness. As refugees we didn't have a place to stay, but from now on we have to settle down and in order to settle down, we must win a victory. Unless we win as did the Israelites when they were driving out the seven tribes of Canaan, we cannot settle down. We are to get a victory through fighting centering upon the nation.

Always consider how you will respond to your children when they ask you, "Mother, what did you do at that time? Did you witness or were you running away?" Will you answer with pride or with a shameful heart? It is a good education to let your children visit your old mission area where you witnessed. Educate your children with a scrapbook, and especially let them know the main point: Father.

In the near future your children will ask you, "What did you do at that time, mom and dad?" Then you will be able to take them to your old witnessing area and explain, "At that time, I sat here holding you and father sat there. We were spreading God's Will, begging rice from that house. That's why we are blessed this much now. The positive house at that time lives like this, and the negative house lives like that."

Your children should acknowledge you as parents who can overcome whatever seems difficult and who live beyond the constraints of time, environment and poverty. You should also set up the family tradition that your children can be mobilized under any circumstances by your order, with your children able to say, "Because this is the way my parents have gone, I can do it." You should make your children follow your example of a husband and wife serving their parents, and you should establish clearly the standard for the education of your descendants.

The hurt that you got while working for the providence is a great lesson for you and your descendants.

The little money that you saved with your whole heart is something that you will never exchange even for the universe; love dwells there. A wife cannot think of something else when she uses the money. You are to be the beings worthy of your descendants' praise. They will not help but be stimulated by the recognition that their parents have lived for the sake of the Will with God's heart.

You should be able to order your children to be like you. It is not shameful at all that you didn't eat enough and you wore terrible clothes while witnessing. That becomes a priceless educational resource for your descendants.

When getting out of Hung Nam prison, I didn't want to bring out any thing except the labor clothes, which got dirty and smelly with the compulsory labor and the chemicals. They were patched again and again. Finally they were patches and I had to be careful not to break them apart.

Those clothes are an invaluable souvenir. I couldn't throw them away, so I put them inside a quilt. The only asset that I brought out when escaping North Korea was one ragged bundle. I went from Hung Nam to Pyongyang with it. I asked a certain member to keep those rags, but he lost them during the course of refugee life.

If I had those clothes, I wouldn't have to explain my life at that time. I feel stifled thinking of having lost such a precious treasure. It cannot be exchanged for the whole world. We may never inspire some people even if we speak for trillions of years, but such a treasure can inspire all people immediately. You should collect many materials relating to your public, providential experiences.

Suffering is wonderful; therefore, you should set up the tradition of which all your offspring will be proud.

You are to set up a bone-marrow-like tradition which will serve as educational resources in your descendants' society. Such a tradition will educate without words. Realizing this, you should understand the precious value of the present moment and make a sincere effort.

The big problem is how your three generations can live with Father. If three generations together earn merit, they will be the meritorious subjects of the spirit world.

So from now on, you should devote yourself sincerely to educate your children with such thought.

Father is nearly sixty years old now. The tradition is to remain even if I die. Father's idea is to make you live more passionately than him and to make you soldiers moving forward. It is parental love and responsibility to transfer the tradition to the children even through letting them suffer. That's why Father forces you to go the sacrificial way.

What is the way of God's will? It is the way to save the tribe by sacrificing individuals, and to save the nation by sacrificing tribes. The way of the will is to save the whole world by sacrificing Korea on the altar of God, and to save our ancestors' spirit bodies in the spirit world by sacrificing the world. We know that the purpose underlying the sad fallen history is to liberate God by sacrificing the spirit world and physical world. We are given a mission in this context, so we should march forward at the risk of our lives.

We shouldn't just go; we should go forward creating the tradition. What kind of tradition should remain? We should leave the tradition of suffering to love humankind, scattering blood and tears.

Next what should we leave? We should leave the content of education for descendants. Finally we should leave good offspring and go to the spirit world. That's why you should know that your children are not for you but for the future world.

When you leave tradition and righteous descendants who are stronger and bolder than you, your nation will never perish even though her fortune arrives at the time to perish. New benefactors will appear at the time of crisis and a new victorious flag will be unfurled when collapse was imminent.

This tradition should make not only Koreans but all humankind joyful. If we cannot do it, there will be no offering to Heavenly Father.

Even though a husband and a wife die, they should leave the heavenly law. For what does a family exist? Even though it exists for the children, first of all it should serve God and the nation. That is the way for the betterment of your children. In that order, your children can live in the realm of the fortune of God, the world and the nation.

Therefore, your blessed children should be objective to the fortune of God, the world and the nation, and not put their own fortune in the subject position.

You should be the family living for the world and eternity, not for the sake of just one generation. Your family is supposed to invoke God's help, gathering the heart of all humankind, and is supposed to live in partnership with heaven and earth and humankind. If you become such a family, God will protect you from trouble and misfortune. God will leave your family as the mainstream family seed.

4. Parental Love Toward Children

Where is the place to receive God's love? love is one; therefore, the place of love is also one. Are you willing to go forward if there's a place and a way to receive love? That is the position of a child in front of parents.

What is the original motivation for parental love? Love centering upon a man and a woman changes, but love centering upon children born of a couple never changes. Unchanging love is not the result of the horizontal bond of a couple, but it has to do with the origin of the vertical flow. Then who is the vertical subject? It is God.

That love cannot be controlled by a husband and a wife. In its presence, you don't have free choice to act according to your own will. You cannot abandon it whenever you don't feel like carrying it. It is impossible to cut it off. There's no way to touch it through the horizontal bond. That's why parental love is absolutely unchanging.

In democratic society, where individualism is dominating, children murmur about the difference in dimension between the old age and the new age. Even though children change, the heart of parents never changes. It is even true for animals. In loving their babies, parents risk their lives.

Why is parental love precious? Parental love is vertical, but it doesn't conclude as just vertical. Vertical love embraces horizontal love and helps it settle down. Parents play the role of beacon to dissuade children from wrong habits in life.

Vertical love exists surely to create the horizontal love. In this principle, parental love is established by the intensive integration of vertical and horizontal love centering upon God's love. Because parental love is responsible for both the vertical and horizontal elements, parents naturally want to give their precious things to their children. By letting the children receive these gifts in their purity, parents want them to expand horizontally. This is the essence of love.

Parental love is the greatest love in the world. Even people in the top rank of the world are nothing in front of their children. Parental love is unconditional and unlimited in the presence of children. Parental love is the origin of love. That's why orphans who never received parental love long for it most of all. Even if orphans have something to eat and a house in which to sleep, their hearts always hunger and are full of longing because they lack parental love. Even if they lead a joyful life in an orphanage, their time is not truly happy. The little orphans always long for parents even while they sing and dance, are awake or asleep. That's because every human being is supposed to grow up in the bosom of love.

Parental love of a thousand years ago and that of the present time is identical. In the fluctuating course of history, parental love never changes.

Parental love is the primary love. A sound man who grew up with parental love understands what love is. Because children love their parents, they come to learn love from their experience of loving parents. That is the highest joy for children. Without having parents, we never experience love.

One son can receive both man's love and woman's love through the parents. The father represents all the men in the world and the mother represents all the women in the world. In the historical view, the parents are an historical man and woman.

When children want to praise a woman, they compare her with their mother, and when there is a handsome man, children compare him with their father.

Is there a limit to parental love? Parents want to love their children not only for their childhood but for their entire lifetime and for eternity. If a father and son-relationship is established centering on absolute love, through it will come infinite power, infinite stimulation and something infinitely new. If a father- and son- relationship lacks such a bond, their relationship will surely stop at certain time.

You were born as the children of loving parents. You grew up receiving parental love. Parents always love children whether they are old or young. Parents look at a 70-year-old son with the same standard that they had when he was young. As the age gets older, the heart becomes closer and closer; when the responsibility toward a son gets bigger, the attitude toward him broadens and broadens.

Orphans -- "lonesome children" in Chinese characters -- are miserable because there is no way for them to receive love and no way for them to love in a true sense. Orphans are different in that they haven't received the parental love required in the growing period and they haven't had the heartistic bond to love and sympathize with parents. Therefore, the initial way to have give and take centering upon love is through parents.

Parents' love doesn't just come from the bond created by horizontal experiences, but it springs up from the bone marrow. Parents have the loving mind which can never be cut off or forgotten; therefore, parents love children as long as their life endures. When parents feel the bond of life to the children, parental love naturally springs up. Parents cannot help but loving children, not because of a forced consciousness to love them intentionally, but because of the lineal force of life connecting them. We feel this fact in our daily family life.

If there are four children, do you think parents love them unequally? Do parents give a certain amount of love to the first son and a different amount to the younger ones?

When feeding milk to the babies, no parents treat them unequally. Feeding milk is supplying blood and flesh to the babies, so parents are to supply it equally. A mother feels good to see her baby sucking her breast. She also feels joyful when the baby tries to grab her neck while sucking. Mothers give milk for free to the babies, but they are happy. No mother demands money for giving milk.

Even a very ugly mother who doesn't look feminine at all gets very serious in loving her children. She becomes more serious than anyone else in feeding milk to her baby. In loving her babies, she is second to none.

Even if a mother is facing an agonizing situation, when her baby asks for milk, she right away opens her bodice to feed the baby. When a baby is sucking its mother's breast, making the mother tired, it is almost like stealing the milk, but the mother is happy just to see the baby sucking because there's love. Everything is good in true love.

Being in the realm of true love is like being controlled by the typhoon in the arms of the typhoon.

Parents suffer for the children so much that it melts their bone marrow, but they don't feel pain because they love the children. Do they record the price in an account book after giving away their blood and flesh? They rather feel frustrated not to have given everything.

When babies don't suck the mother's breast, mothers get frustrated. It is like drawing out mother's blood and flesh through the umbilical cord. In a way, a baby is the king of thieves. Then why do mothers like to be robbed? Because it is the law of love.

When looking at her baby jumping into her bosom, a mother feels love. By embracing her baby, a mother feels new buds blossoming out of the cosmic atmosphere of peace. So even though the baby gets violent, the mother can have a generous mind and let it go ahead. In a way, the baby is the enemy stealing its mother's blood and flesh through the umbilical cord, but no mother thinks like that. That's because the mother receives the stimulation of new hope and also new stimulation toward her husband through the baby. Something penetrates between them. Nobody can control such a state of heart. When we pledge to work for God and the whole, centering upon absolute love, the strongest standard will be established. Without standing on that foundation, we shouldn't make the promise. East, west, south and north are different, and spring and autumn are different. When a seed planted in the spring can maintain its bond of life until the autumn, it can have the standard to embrace all four seasons. If it doesn't remain as the seed of life, everything will be dispersed.

We can see that parents who have raised up many children have bigger and broader hearts of love. Such parents come to feel that they cannot harm even an enemy. This shows that they stand upon a broader ground with a broader law.

Then what about God? Does He just want a love relationship with a certain individual, eliminating other individuals and the family, tribe, nation and world? If God is a parent, He would want to share love fairly with everybody.

Parents work for their children. No parents work just for their own survival. Imagine parents working as laborers in an agricultural community, picking weeds out of a held, carrying burdens on their backs, or hoeing weeds. They do all that for the children's eternal happiness. The drops of sweat running from the parents' foreheads are not for themselves. When the fruit of sweat and parental love get tangled with each other, new creative history will take place. A new history dwells in the footsteps of laboring parents.

Parents never say, "I want you to know how much I suffered," or "You should shed tears for me because I shed tears for you." They transcend all of these feelings. Only parental love and the love of children can solve such feelings. We can never deny the power of love. Human beings tried solving problems with human power or money, but it didn't work out.

A man's love shouldn't conclude in loving his wife, but it is to extend to loving children. The man loves his children on a much higher dimension than he loves his wife. Man would want to love his children in a new perspective, adding more to the stimulating love toward his spouse. He would desire a love deeper, more serious and more valuable in his parental love toward his children.

When a child who was begotten when its parents were in their sixties dies young, it is an event of extreme despair. If the child is the only begotten son of seven generations, how would the ancestors feel, who wanted the child to succeed to the dominion of seven generations?

The ancestors want to receive supreme fortune through their direct lineal descendants. That's why parents want to die when children die young. By the way, Adam was the begotten son of eternity, not of seven generations.

Heavenly Father wanted to accomplish His great plan centering upon Adam's family. How did He feel when Adam died ? The parental pain at that moment was far more severe than the pain from the unaccomplished marriage. How do the parents who live with the sole descendant of seven generations feel when the child is on the verge of death? Imagine that your child is dying, gasping for breath in front of you. What would you do? The parents do anything they have to, using all the possible methods, abandoning their dignity. Do you understand such a feeling? When there's a way to resurrect the child, parents don't think of their dignity.

When a husband is resurrected from death, the wife will serve him a thousand times more than before. And parents will risk their lives to gain the possibility to resurrect their dead child. The joy of meeting their child again is much stronger than the pain of sacrifice. Such power is produced only at the place of love. You may have felt such a feeling in your daily life.

Parents, knowing our ideology, are to enjoy and praise the conjugal love of their son and his wife. How can parents be jealous of their daughter-in-law? They should dance with joyful heart when their son joyfully loves his spouse. Love for the daughter-in-law is included in the parental love for the son. When God watches how Adam and Eve love each other, would He scold them, saying, "Get out of my way. You are blocking the traffic"? Even in the middle of an expressway, God would never care about the traffic. He would rather open their way.

Where is the ultimate land of True Parents' settlement? In other words, where is the standard point of God's true love?

New "parental love" is the ultimate settling land of love for humankind. By "True Parents' love," humankind can find the eternal and absolute standard point of true love. From here, humanistic love will be expanded into higher-dimensional love and will be connected to Heavenly true love.

5. Children Should Receive Parental Love

As soon as they are born, children should receive parental love 100%; otherwise, dissatisfaction starts dominating them. We can't measure parental love by a numerical figure, but, for example, if parents possess 1,000 units love, they are to give the whole 1,000 units to children. If they give 900 to them, holding back 100, the children will feel as if they didn't receive any love at all. They will be satisfied when they receive the whole 1,000.

When your spouse asks you how much you love her or him, you shouldn't answer, "I love you 99%." You should say that you love your spouse 100%. That's because only love can establish the "whole" and only in love can the whole be given and taken. When we give and receive the whole, unification comes about. The only way to create perfect unification is to give and take the whole.

Babies in America, after getting out of the hospital, are placed in their own room at home. They seldom sleep with their parents. That's why they cannot feel the warmth of the parents. The mother seldom feeds her milk to the baby. If the babies don't sleep with their parents, they will be no different than pets. You shouldn't treat children like that.

Several babies sleeping with their parents is a beautiful scene. It is good to sleep with babies. If there's not enough space, you can make space by sleeping upside down. Use your brain to make the arrangement. It is a little uncomfortable for a small baby to sleep between huge parents, but it feels good for everyone. Babies should feel the body warmth of parents.

Juvenile problems bring on public criticism. What is the cause of their problems? It almost all has to do with emotional issues. That results from not having sound parents and brothers and sisters, and from the unsound man-woman relationship. Looking at such a fact, where do we look for the clue to correct those destructive problems? It is in the family.

All juvenile problems originate in the family. They have parents, but the parental heart is not implanted in the depth of the children's heart. In other words, parental love is not deeply solidified in the bone marrow of the children. From that point, the gap between parent and children expands.

If you grow up with the feeling of hate instead of the feeling of love, you are apt to create accidents in adulthood. A virgin of mild heart can create a pleasant environment even in married life, but a virgin of ill temper is apt to be unhappy in married life. There are many people cursing God for their miserable, unfair environment. But when they realize that their environment is created by themselves, they will be convinced that God is creating a fair world.

6. The Tough Discipline Of Love

Revelation in the Bible says that we should be hot or cold, not lukewarm.

The lukewarm attitude counts for nothing in the world of love. It is permissible to hold a whip if you have a loving heart. If the children neglect the love given by the parents, the parents may have to be cold to them. If children don't get scolded even when they misbehave, they lose any sense of distinction between good and evil. Father looks kind but in a way he is very tough. Father is very cruel toward evil, but very hot like a blast furnace of several thousand degrees toward goodness.

When Father heard that teachers have been sent to jail for spanking students, he knew that America is perishing. For the sake of gaining a good direction, students should willingly ask their teachers to punish them if necessary. Do you complain when you are hit by Father? Would you complain of being hit by Father, saying, "Being a Unification Church member already makes me feel pent up"?

A Korean proverb says, "Give one extra bowl of rice to the difficult person and hold a whip to the beloved one." Such is inevitable if one wishes to inherit the right tradition. You should be able to shed tears of gratitude for parental love, forgetting the pain.

Even a whip is precious for love. Anything accomplished in love is precious, even punishment or suffering. Love doesn't include only pleasant feelings.

Parents who let their children stop studying whenever they are tired are not true parents of true love. They should even spank the children to continue studying because they are concerned about their future well-being. Parents set their hopes on the future of their children.

It is goodness and love to hit children or close friends when they want to go in the wrong direction. By knowing this principle, everything should be included within the standard of goodness.

You are to give birth to children and rear them with true love. Then the family becomes one and if you love the nation centering upon the family, you will be called a patriot. Parents from time to time enforce discipline in order to educate their children to go the right way, so children shouldn't be dissatisfied or rebellious against their parents when they are spanked. They should reflect on their wrong behavior and endeavor to correct it. Such a person will grow righteously and will move closer to the center where God dwells.

I once scolded a certain person, who shed tears during the scolding. He still remains in my memory. I should check if he cries during a second and third scolding. And if he cries the fourth time, I will realize that I cannot scold him any more. The way of indemnity is like that. It is not the feeling of hate that makes parents scold children; deep love makes them spank children.

Can children curse the parents who weep loudly after spanking them? True love has the value of moving harmoniously in two directions. True love wants to die again and again. Even though you shout at your wife, she responds obediently. Who else will do that? If you scold a neighbor lady, she will definitely be angry. If you are deeply interested in and love a certain person, you can scold that person without feeling guilt.

The closer you are to a person, the more you scold that person. If a neighbor boy makes mistakes, you may pretend not to notice it; but if your son makes the same mistakes, you will chastise and spank him harshly. To hit a person out of deep concern is to love, but to hit a person without any concern is to commit sin. If you hit a person more than the degree of your concern about him or her, you will become that person's enemy -- the worst of all enemies.

If you pour out continuous love toward your son, even though he is a rascal and even though he rejects it, he will ultimately return and repent. But if you scold a son three times and then boast how well you reared him, he will pack and leave right away. Then when you treat him with a greater love, shedding tears, he will come back. A greater love has the motive power to digest a smaller love and to make unity.

In the Korean War, I saw the following scene. A mother was carrying her five-year-old boy on her back, and the little child was singing, not knowing that they were taking refuge because of the war On the way the mother got exhausted and powerless, and she let him walk. But the child was protesting, saying, "If you don't carry me on your back, I won't move." What should a loving parent do in this situation? The correct emotion and desire is to carry the child on her back. But in this case if she had tried to carry him, both of them would have died. Then she correctly let the child walk, even slapping his cheek and using threats, in order to reach safe refuge.

If you were the parent, what would you do? Would you abandon the son, kill the son, or bring the son by force? You should take the child with you to safety, even if you have to tear off his ear or pierce his nose.

That is true love. After safely arriving at the refuge, the child will appreciate his mother. If he complains of his ear having been torn off, worrying how he will get married with such an ear, he deserves to die by being hit by lightning. The torn ear should symbolize the greatness and dreadfulness of her parental love.

You may think that Father allows you to eat, but otherwise just wants you to suffer. In assigning your work, I don't have sympathy, but once we live together, you will be filled with springtime love for Father.

Father should lead you to work even by piercing your nose. I should drive you out by kicking or hitting you. This is the righteous method. We have to even hit the grandfathers and grandmothers to force them to go forward. That's our mission.

We have to do that in order to enter the realm in which we receive God's utmost love. We are to go over the standard of past religions and completely devote ourselves to the establishment of God's nation, more than the people of any other organization, in order to occupy all of God's unaccomplished love. That's why this is a legitimate method and strategy. If you fail while trying this way, you can take revenge on me. I haven't perished by living such a way.

7. Let's Sincerely Contribute To Our Descendants

Even though parents are so ugly, the children will be born of heavenly fortune. How to create descendants born of heavenly fortune depends upon how much the parents are devoted to the providence. The destiny of the descendants is determined by how much the parents have been loyal to the nation, world and heaven.

The descendants coming from the family that God and the church desire must be born of good fortune. Even though the parents have gone through an enormous suffering course, the children will be born of heavenly fortune and Father's fortune.

The best blessing of all is not money nor power, but it is children born of good fortune. It is to have children who can receive God's love.

Parents should devote themselves seriously to their descendants. They should be determined to go to spirit world after blessing their children for their well being. Such a family will never perish. Such an organization will never perish. The leader who is responsible for such an organization should make a new bond with God for the bigger providential task in the future. If he works by himself, not renewing the bond with God, and fails, he won't be able to pray to God. He will be too shameful to communicate with God.

If you are the son of filial piety, you should let your parents embrace their grandchild. What kind of grandchildren should you offer? You should offer the children who will consider grandparents more important than you. You should let your children receive more blessing than you and be much closer to Heaven than you. In that way, the providence of restoration develops. If your children are worse than you, your family will perish. You should be careful about this point.

The best way to invite God's heart is to devote three generations together to God, making sincere, heartistic conditions. If you do that, God will dwell in your lineage and it will never perish.

Some of the church members may complain that Father doesn't recognize them, even though they work so hard. That's a serious matter to con- sider. If you work hard, Father blesses your descendants. If you want to receive the limitless blessing, you will have to be infinitely patient and leave the lesson of patience to your descendants.

Fallen men should build the church first, prior to their own house. Father obtained the church property first before building his house, and bought the site for a university for our descendants. It is not for me or for you; it is for our descendants.

Because Father loves the descendants of the Unification Church, I man age and invest in the academic, political and economic worlds and the world of the media and thought.

The Mayflower arrived in New England in early winter. It was very cold and people didn't have the food to sustain their lives, so they were dying of starvation. Their great testimony is that they planted the seeds for the next year's crops even though they were dying.

Because they had hope that God would establish a blessed nation, the kingdom of freedom, through their descendants, they planted seeds for the next generation. They could willingly go the path of death with this hope. It was possible for them to pray that their descendants be blessed while themselves going through a suffering course because of their faith in God and their heart of love toward God.

We are the pioneers of goodness. The first step of a pioneer is sacred, so the process and the result should also be sacred. You should be a tree on fertile soil (not a tree among hard rocks) when you sprout and blossom from the rotted seed. If you cannot reap what you sowed in your generation, you should have the hope to reap it through your descendants. The person with such heart, who fights for the future happiness, is fearsome; and the multitude which is willing to sacrifice for the future victory with such heart is fearsome. Such a nation will dominate the world in the 21st century, the 30th century and the 50th century.

Part 5 - The Education Of Children

Chapter 7 Part 5
The Education Of Children

1. Family Education

What is the content of truth? Even though the content of truth is so nice, we would not trade our parents, our spouse or our children for it. What is the utmost truth of all truth? It is a parent, a husband and a wife, and children. Nothing exceeds those. Then what is the core of truth? It is love. In such a principle, what is the utmost center of truth? What do you mean by saying that God is the essence of truth, goodness, love and life? If something is truth, within it must be included love and life.

The world cannot be formed without a family. If there's something wrong with the family, the nation will perish. Therefore, family education determines the future destiny of the entire nation. When there are many families living by the public law, the nation will flourish; when there are many families living with a private standard, the nation will perish.

Children should be one, centering upon parents. The miserable accident of Cain and Abel shouldn't be repeated. Brothers and sisters should be one by being dutiful children to their parents. You should be the good example and educate your children with this standard. Until now, parents have depended upon schools for their children's education, but from now on, parents should be the first to show the good example so that children will form new families following the tradition of their parents.

You should lead an exemplary public life, to show your children the tradition and to educate them to inherit it. Human beings are originally to be educated by their parents. They are not to receive education just from the school. Especially the inheritance of the tradition cannot be taught in school. Children should offer all the education that they receive in school to their parents.

What is the growth period? It is the period in which we discipline ourselves to be the ones who can receive perfect love. Then what should we do during this period? For the sake of God's pleasure, we should go when God goes and we should come when God comes. Originally, the only human beings were Adam and Eve, so their children learned from them automatically. Formal education was not supposed to be necessary. Children are to follow and to know what their parents do and know. They are to do what their parents like. If they dream of things and behave in ways outside of what their parents do, they will be subjugated under the fallen dominion. That is why God had to say, "Don't eat the fruit."

Children find the value of all existence through their parents. Whom do the children resemble when they grow up in a family? They resemble their parents. They are to follow their parents.

Parental love shouldn't be selfish. If parents prevent their son from going the rough way, he will become an incapable man without willpower or independent spirit in the future. To make an incompetent son is not the goal of parental love. Parents should deeply understand their son and support and encourage him in his chosen path.

It is definitely easy for parents to let their children sleep whenever they want and eat whatever they want. But true parents would want to show the better way of living for their children.

Children don't complain when their parents push them to study because they know it is for their sake. The heart of true parents is to pray for their children all night, shedding tears.

Parents should make their children regard them as their most intimate friends by reading fairy tales, telling them interesting stories of their life of faith, and discussing the future of the family in a constructive way. Parents are to direct their children's faith.

Parents should be able to respect their children; they are not to scold their children in a humiliating manner.

It is difficult to correct the bad habits of human beings. As a Korean proverb says, the habit formed when one is three continues until one is 80. Therefore, we are to form sound habits, especially during adolescence. In order to let children develop the right habits, a thorough education is absolutely necessary in the early period of life. The problem is how to correct the bad habits of the older generation. By using saws, knives and axes, we can recreate all shapes and varieties of wood into the standard sizes used for construction. Likewise, by the standard of the order of love, the twisted human habits can be corrected. A brick by itself is just a brick, but it can create a house or a building. Likewise, when we correct our bad habits and unite our habits with the way of God's original love, power is produced and we can enter the orbit of God's eternal love. Therefore, we are to correct our bad habits in our lifetime and go the right way in the life of faith.

In order to set firmly your children's faith, you should connect them strongly to the church before they reach twenty. If you don't let them set up their faith between middle school and the second year of high school, they will slide into the fallen society. This is based upon statistics from our church. It is a very serious problem.

Blessed children are to follow their parents absolutely until they are twenty. Therefore, if parents make mistakes, their children will do the same.

When a husband makes mistakes, his wife should hit him, and when a wife makes mistakes, her husband should hit her. They are to follow the example of God. By being hit, we gain a good resource to educate descendants. When our life improves due to being hit with a stick, the stick will be the textbook. The people who leave such a textbook to educate their descendants are outstanding beings.

The mistakes of parents are bequeathed to the children.

We are to prepare the family law: the standard of babies' education and the regulation of the family. Parents will have nothing to say when they are accused under the law.

Because mothers in the Unification Church know the heavenly law, they should give solid family education to their daughters.

Don't leave your children in the care of others. Perhaps a mother feels so weak that she has to give another person charge of her child, and that person may love her child as if it were her first son. Then this mother will have to support that person. You should know that rearing babies is for the sake of the nation and the world.

Father's babies should be raised by the members who have set up enough heartistic conditions.

2. True Education Of Children

In order to educate children, parents first of all should be loyal to the providence. They should stay in the position to be respected by their children so that their children will be completely obedient to them. Otherwise, the children will not want to follow them.

If parents neglect directions from headquarters and yet order their children to live according to Principle, their children will laugh at them.

Everything parents do should encourage their children to go the right way of the Unification Church. Unless the parents are an example of living the principled life, they cannot educate their children to follow Principle.

I speak to you only what I first have practiced and established as a victorious foundation. If you cannot believe it, pray to God. You will see clearly if I am lying.

You should pray to God, "Please let my children follow what I do." First you establish the standard of behavior, then your children can stand in the same position. If you stand on that foundation, God will automatically lead your children in the same direction. Spirit world will accuse you of irresponsibility if you do not set the right direction for your children.

You should be able to educate your children to become like you.

I told Hyo Jin and In Jin, "Because your father and mother work for the nation and God's will, we cannot meet you often. So you should do the same as Father and Mother do." It is really sad for parents not to meet their children very often. Children always want to be with their parents.

Children should be filled with the thought that their parents work for God's providence in spite of all the suffering. Parents should be a good example so that the children are clear that their parents live for the sake of the whole, not for the sake of their own well-being. Children learn their parents' heart.

What should the parents do? They should teach children to love each other as their parents love each other and to love the nation as their parents love the nation. If you can teach that, no other education is needed.

You should be able to counsel your children, saying, "You should be happy to see your parents living for God's will. Your parents are different from other parents. Other parents easily separate and divorce when they encounter a little difficulty, but your parents endure and love each other in the midst of difficulty. You should be grateful to God and always have hope, following the way of your parents. God's blessing will come down where you become one with your parents and where you are loyal to God's providence." Then your children will follow your example and inherit your tradition. Your offspring will flourish eternally if you practice this truth.

When teaching your children what to do, you should give them specifics, with the details of their course, instead of vaguely telling them to be great people.

The father is to be responsible as a father, the older brother is to be responsible as an older brother, and the older sister is to be responsible as an older sister. That is, you should distinguish the way for a true man and a true woman to go following the heavenly law, so that you may qualify as heavenly subjects.

The word "father" is a dreadful word. Without "truth" you cannot feed your children. You should feed your children with your achievement of blood and something good. When they eat something wrong, their parents should guide them into the right way, praying for their blessing in tears. Parents are not to be indebted to their children.

Heaven and earth should know the money that I use.

Even though parents cannot give children material benefit due to difficult living conditions, they should serve children with loving heart from their bone marrow. Then the children come to be indebted to their parents. That's why most sons of filial piety come from poor families. When the children endeavor hard not to be indebted to their parents, the parents will feel joy.

You are to follow heavenly law, embracing your children. You should never show tears to your children, even though your living condition becomes terribly difficult.

Father educated Mother not to show tears to the children. When rearing children, parents encounter many periods of suffering. Even though the tears of agony are about to burst, parents become joyful when their children try to comfort them in tears. If you cannot do that, you are unqualified to educate your children.

Your children should consider you greater than any king or queen in the world, and you should show your children how intimate you are with each other. Blessed families should set up such a tradition. You should implant into your children's bone marrow the tradition that they revere you more than anyone else in the world.

Worldly parents continuously fight in front of their children even though the children ask them to stop. You are supposed to be a good example of harmony to your children so that when they see careless secular-world parents, they feel that they have the world's greatest parents. You are to set up the heavenly family law by means of action, so that your children respect you from the bottom of their hearts. If you do this, your children will determine to follow in your footsteps.

How can we set up such a tradition? We can set up the tradition through Unification Thought. After knowing this, we should set up the family morality of being absolutely obedient to the standard of Unification Thought. When children experience this, they are naturally obedient.

3. True Education Of Patriotism

You should teach your children to be loyal subjects in front of God's will, for the sake of the heavenly nation. If your children cry for Korea, you should teach them that we don't have our nation yet and Korea is not our true nation. You should teach this while holding their hands, in tears, telling them that there's another nation that we must attend. You should be able to feel God's concern as closely as the breath of your babies in your bosom. In this tearful position, you are to educate your children. Then the width of your education will broaden.

When educating children, parents shouldn't just teach them to love their parents. Parents should explain to their children, "I'm the loyal subject who loves this nation, a patriot. I'm not the mother of a family first, but a patriotic mother, and a loyal father." In order to teach filial piety, parents should behave as children of filial piety themselves, in front of their children. Otherwise they will fall down like the leaves in the autumn.

A father should teach his son to be as dutiful as he is and to be as loyal as he is in spite of being driven into the comer by the struggles of human history. My goal in life is to bequeath this tradition to you.

I tell you: love thirty million people with the parental love that you've received. Then the foundation of hope to subjugate the nation will be extended. Isn't that a principled way of instructing people? You are not to be a mere compatriot of thirty million people; you are to be the parent of thirty million people. Be the sons and daughters who can be the parents of thirty million people.

When parents educate their children to love and sacrifice for the nation to the degree that they sacrifice for their children, the children will endeavor to become the patriots that their parents desire them to be. Whenever such children reflect on their parents, they will think of the thirty million people of the nation. They will study to serve their nation and, when their nation suffers misery, they will feel the same agony. But standing in such a position doesn't make them patriots. They should have a foundation substantially established in such a position. That foundation becomes the point which the people will adore eternally. Otherwise, life just passes by. It is a serious matter to consider.

A teacher who is seriously devoted to bequeath the right thought to his or her disciples in a school will advise them while holding their hands and shedding tears, with the deep care for the nation's destiny, so that they will be obedient to the nation, not to the teacher. The disciples who receive such teaching will accomplish the unfulfilled will of their teacher. When teachers are totally devoted to their disciples, to the point of offering their lives, and when parents are sincerely devoted to their children, regarding the nation and the world as more precious than themselves, the disciples and the children will be the pillars of the nation.

Have you professors lived for the sake of others? Teachers should have heart springing out of their bone marrow and should shed blood and tears for their disciples. They cannot help but shed tears when standing in front of the multitude who lost d e sense of looking for the original world. Myriad cells are trembling. Have you given a lecture shedding tears from a guilty conscience for the sake of the students and their descendants? Reverend Moon has walked the path of blood and tears for humankind. People thought of me as a notorious ringleader and they expected me to perish, but now those same people are asking me to be their leader anytime and open the doors of the east, west, south and north. They say that they don't need anything except Father. In such a place, the Kingdom of Heaven is to be restored. Such a philosophy hasn't existed until now.

What can we do to love the nation? Nobody educates regarding this matter. People think they love the nation by paying taxes. With this attitude, how can we learn to love the nation? Love for the nation should start from the family. Parents should teach their children to love the nation as they love their parents and their brothers and sisters. Then no other education is necessary. The children come to realize that, because they and their parents live in such a way, all American families and the president are to live in such a manner if they have a patriotic heart. Such a tradition should remain eternally, even though the U.S. State Department and Pentagon disappear.

By their unity centering upon the president through this tradition, the people can do everything. That is why we should educate our children to be loyal, risking their lives when the nation faces difficulties.

Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and the Israelites tried to restore what Adam failed to establish, but they failed. How can we restore their mistakes? Mothers shouldn't live for their own households. The reason to eat and to rear children is for the future of the nation.

Who is the patriot of a nation? It is not the person who eats well and commands. The people who keep the honor of the nation are the patriots. Such people would want to hide their miserable living condition, never eating their poor meal in front of foreigners, in order to maintain the nation's honor. We shouldn't behave lightly, jealous of one another, forgetting the honor of the nation. People who endeavor to present their nation in a more beautiful and valuable manner are patriots. The descendants of such people will also be patriots.

The feeling of joy at giving birth to a son is not the end. Parents should be concerned about how to rear him as a man of value. Parents who love their son with such a concern are the ones who know the heavenly law. If parents are just happy to give birth to a son without such concern, the starting point for the son's life is wrong. Parents should concern themselves with rearing him to be a person who is useful to the nation. If parents begin his upbringing based upon this concern, they will set the condition to begin the son's life for the sake of nation. This is very important matter.

Teach your children, "Become the people who can pray for the nation and the world instead of praying for your own children." The reason that God blessed you by giving you children is not only for your will but for God's will. When people give birth to a child through making special conditions for heaven, God will send the child as the savior of the nation.Therefore, if such parents don'- educate their child to serve the nation, God will take the child away.

People cannot become patriots in one night. They receive education from their ancestors. They should experience the piercing bond of education to the bone marrow from their parents, and they should determine the purpose of their lives centering upon this education. Patriots themselves cannot be the cause or motive of their being patriotic. They definitely received an education from their ancestors, or certain stimulating inspiration from the depth of their conscience, which became the motivation of their being patriotic. When their whole life is motivated to fulfill the purpose of the initial inspiration, they finally appear as patriots.

4. Education To Live For The World

Religion is the summit teaching. God's summit teaching is to educate and to love humankind. There's nothing other than that. Therefore, true parents are to teach their children something with which the whole world and God are happy.

It is not a problem to sacrifice the family for the sake of the world and God. Father went to North Korea abandoning his son. First of all, love the world and God! God's will is to save the world. The family centering upon God's will shouldn't exist for itself. The family is to live for the sake of the world. This is our way of tradition. The fact that we have to be taught to love God is sad. It is because of the fall. It is mortifying that we have to educate our children to believe in God and to protect the church. Originally, we do not have to be taught such facts. God would always dwell in our hearts and directly lead us. Your own parents don't have to be introduced to you; likewise originally there was no need to introduce God.

Morality teaches us parental love, conjugal love and children's love. Have you thought about for whom you have to love your parents? For whom do you have to love your spouse and your children?

Human beings lost the main character who is responsible for love. God talks about infinite love. He says that the thing which will remain until the final moment is love. That love is the love of God. You should know the purpose of love. Because of whom do you love? We love because of God. We must love for the sake of God. If you love for yourself, it is no secret where you will be assigned to go after death.

When feeding your baby milk, you feel the baby is very cute. Because of whom do you feel this cuteness? You should cherish your baby as the substitute for heaven and earth. You are to love your child for the sake of the world and God. The fortune of heavenly law is moving to embrace the cosmos, transcending the world, according to God's love. If you love your children, who are born of such great fortune, just for the sake of your own well- being, you will not be accepted at all. When suckling babies, mothers should have the piercing heart to embrace them as representing heaven and earth.

Do you want to receive the Blessing? Do you want eternal life? In order to receive the Blessing and eternal life, you should be a public person. Don't love your children as yours when you educate them. You should love them as sacrificial children for the whole of humankind. When feeding babies milk, mothers are to feel as if they are the representative mothers of all humankind and they are to consider their babies as representing humankind. Parents shouldn't just cherish their own children, but they are to treat others' children as theirs. The babies fed and raised by such public-hearted mothers will be great figures. Among the descendants of such mothers will be born the great figure who has the ability to liberate the world. This is the formula.

When educating children, parents have to think how to rear their children. Who can successfully accomplish the mission for God's providence? They should think the same way when they nurse their babies.

All parents teach their children to become great figures for the nation. But now is the time when we are approaching the world level. Now is the time to teach children to be worldwide figures. Do you educate accordingly? You are supposed to. Live together with the world! Because Father knows how you feel, I have to tell you this conclusion.

Father didn't perish even in the time of disruption, so I will educate you to live together with the world. This is important. What has history been seeking? It has sought the time the world could live together. You are also to go, fight, endeavor, teach and die centering upon that time. Even if you finally die in that effort, you will be resurrected anew.

For what does goodness move? It doesn't move for myself. We are to eat for the sake of the cosmos, not just for ourselves. To get married is also for the will. Our goal should be the world. All our experiences also should be centered on the world. Such people don't look interesting, but they are very interesting people. When overcoming the 70 or 80 years of life on earth, we are to see eternity; but most human beings are not aware of that. If we know how to enter the eternal world, we will possess eternity.

Many people are running after money. For what do they earn money? They answer that they make money for their children. Then what will their children do? They are to live for the nation and the world, not just for their own survival. Otherwise their tribe will perish or will be subsumed by other tribes.

All of us are surrounded by an evil environment. We don't need an education in order to go the evil way. Anybody can go that way without receiving any education in that field. History started with an evil action, so we automatically go the evil way. That's why the purpose of education is to make people discern the good from evil by means of conscience centering upon morality.

Upon what is an education centered? Even though people have been educated centering upon the good -- the conscience -- how many people have led a life which matched the standard of their education? Anybody can get a high grade in doing evil without education.

The conscience always tells us to be good in an evil environment. The mind always stimulates and advises us to be good. But have you listened to what your mind tells you? When we think of such matter, we lament all the time -- today, tomorrow, during the heyday of youth, the time of middle age, the time of old age. Our life ends with lament over not having become what our conscience desired. In other words, it finishes in evil. That is the inevitable conclusion. Because human beings were born from evil, they struggle in evil and pass away in evil. That has been the typical life course of human beings.

What is the relationship between you and the providence? You were born for the purpose of the whole. You were born in the middle of the providential history; that is, you were born as a public being. You should be grateful to your parents that you were born in the midst of the providence. Therefore, you are to live for your descendants, the world and the universe. Without knowing, your parents gave birth to and reared the children who represent the whole universe. Likewise you are to give birth to and rear your children according to the public way of thinking.

Great mothers teach their babies to endure any kind of difficulties in order to be righteous figures who can move the world. That's because they realize that righteousness never perishes.

Father's mother was not public. She didn't want her son to suffer. She didn't care about her son's will and ideals; she rather worried about her son's physical torture. When Father was caught by the North Korean communists and was imprisoned in their jail, she came to see Father several times; her only concern was the physical pain that Father was going through.

Father's mother wanted him to abandon the public way of life and to live with his physical parents comfortably. That's why Father had to abandon his physical parents. When I arrived in Pyongyand (from Hung Nam prison) and spent 40 days, I didn't visit my home even though it was quite close to Pyongyang. If I had visited my home on my way as a refugee, my physical family could have been liberated. But because they would have obstructed Father's accomplishment of God's will, I didn't meet them at that time.

My parents and the brothers and sisters who remained in the hometown must have been killed by the communists. The communists never tolerate the family members of a so-called reactionary, but immediately massacre them. During the "1.4 Retreat," Father took refuge with the church members from Pyongyang and a disciple from Hung Nam prison, leaving his physical family in their hometown.

Father can abandon his physical family when they are against Father's public mission; but even though the Korean government opposed Father and sent me to the prison, Father cannot abandon the nation. This nation and the people persecute and oppose Father because they don't know Father's will and ideal. Therefore, even though they persecute me, I have to love them and teach them.

God's will is not centered upon the physical blood lineage, and it is not for us to love our own family. If we live for ourselves, we cannot save the world. In order to save the present world, we have to offer our loving children as the sacrifice. This is God's providence.

The people who can offer their children to God for the future world can draw the victorious foundation of the future into the present time. Abraham offered his son for the future world. He loved his son more than anything in the present or in the future, but because his love for humankind was greater than his love for his son, he could offer his son to God.

God dwells in such a heart. By this, entrance into the Kingdom of Heaven is determined. What sort of person can go to the Kingdom of Heaven? Selfish people cannot go there. Only people who sacrifice them selves, abandoning all their personal belongings, can go to the Kingdom of Heaven.

Then who can completely occupy God's love? They are the subjective individuals who can sacrifice their children as well as their bodies to save and love humankind.

In the providence of restoration, God never hit His enemies. He has been leading the providence by hitting the most beloved figures, who were the closest to Him. God has developed the providence in this way. This development finally aims for the Kingdom of Heaven.

The Unification Church talks about "cosmos-ism." Then what is "cosmos- ism"? It is to live together with heaven and earth. You may respond, "It sounds good but it cannot be actualized." It sounds like a dream, doesn't it?

The Unification Church pursues a world one step higher than the conventional churches. The conventional churches are linear whereas the Unification Church is spherical. Then which is greater? The Unification concept is greater. "Cosmos-ism" is greater. The Unification Church claims to live together with the cosmos. Therefore, the Unification Church has to complete the mission of three ages. We are to liberate the spirits in the spirit world, the living people in this sinful world and the descendants to come. The Unification Church came, holding the authority to liberate the three ages.

For what are you responsible? You are responsible for the spirit world, the present world, and the descendants. This is the way of restoration and of destiny that Unificationists must shoulder.

5. Faith And Study

To lead a religious life is to drink the milk of life as a baby sucks the mother's milk. When a baby is hungry, it cries for milk; likewise, when your heart is thirsty, you should visit the church and listen to the words of life.

The mother who truly loves her baby doesn't only nurse the baby, but she disciplines the baby and teaches it to do what it doesn't like to do. Parental heart is to train the child to be strong enough not to fall. Likewise human beings need to be disciplined to restore what they lost in the beginning of history God and the universe. If religion had taught human beings to go over the fence of evil, resurrection would have happened.

If God truly loves human beings and leads all the religions, and if He really wants human beings to be resurrected through the religions, persecution and opposition are inevitable; they are the discipline. Therefore, unless you gain victory in the midst of the severe persecution from the individual, family, nation and world, you cannot be resurrected.

The education of faith is more important than secular education. Father's thought is centered upon the will but your thought is individualistic. Originality develops when you believe and act.

The schools of the society don't teach "marriage" even though it is a very significant matter. A man doesn't know of a woman and a woman doesn't know of a man; but today's education doesn't give much weight to the problem. We lack education concerning problems which arise after getting married. How to create a happy married life and how to educate children are not being taken care of. The problem of science and mathematics gets more attention and density of focus. This is one of the malformed phenomena.

In order for your present being to develop into a future being, you shouldn't be habitualized. All the blessed families from the 36 Couples to the 6,000 Couples became secularized. Because they became habitualized into the secular customs, problems occur. All the parents think, "We should let our children go to the good universities. Studying leads to success. In order to send them to school, we should make money and they will finally be successful." Father doesn't think so. To know Principle thoroughly is more important than to study. In order to be successful, you should know Principle clearly. The standard of success depends on how much you love your nation and God.

God didn't create human beings so that they could collect all knowledge. To understand the ideal of creation is not to gain knowledge. In other words, understanding the ideal of creation is not determined by the amount of knowledge that you have collected in your brain.

The ideal of creation is not established by knowledge, power or money. It is established only by love. Parents who teach that the only measure of success is knowledge or studying are making a serious mistake.

Some of you may be boastful because you went to a first-rank university and make a lot of money. That is stupid. The knowledge that you learn in school is important, but more important is love. You can gain knowledge in several days or years, but you cannot have love overnight. Love is absolute and eternal, so you cannot master it even in your whole lifetime. You cannot get the graduation certificate of love, even though you study 30 or 40 years. You can become professor or receive a doctorate after studying a field of secular knowledge for a certain period, but you cannot be a professor or gain a doctorate in love even if you study for 1,000 years, because the field of love is limitless and eternal.

Love never produces the feeling of repugnance or disgust. It produces the feeling of the utmost joy and gratitude.

Our mind can grow infinitely by heart but it cannot grow infinitely by knowledge. The heart of love embraces the universe and still there's more space remaining, so once you cultivate the great original site of love, even God wants to take a nap there. We cannot comprehend God by knowledge, so we should realize the greatness of the heart of the Unification Church.

When you study for yourself, you will quickly feel sleepy; but when you think the survival of thirty million people depends on the one page or one sentence that you are dealing with, you will never get tired. Study with seriousness so intense that you feel that the retention of one vocabulary word will save the thirty million people and the loss of one word will doom the same number of people. Don't say that your memory is lacking! You never forget what happened in an extremely serious moment, do you? Study at the risk of your life. You can feel the pulse of your heart when you are serious. In such serious moments, you even forget things that you were determined to do.

Because your mind is scattered, you cannot remember. If you hit on a brilliant way to survive when on the verge of death, will you remember it or not? When you study, invest your life in page after page. Once I started seriously questioning a certain passage in the Bible, I would endeavor even for three years to solve the mystery of it. Until I shouted, "Eureka!" I would push myself to penetrate the root of the problem.

In order to be a great person, you should make all the excellent teachings of the prominent teachers your possession. Otherwise, you cannot be a great personage. Being a Ph.D. holder is not enough; you are to absorb all the systems of knowledge of the world's prominent scholars and digest them as a factor of your life by comprehending the overall value of them. Then finally you are to appear as the new figure of knowledge by adding your originality to the existing system. That is the way to be the world-class scholar and the world-class philosopher. The same method applies if you want to pioneer "goodness."

In order to develop and accomplish a certain purpose, you need stimulation. In order to accomplish the complete purpose, complete determination is needed, and you must pass through a time period. In order to complete the time period, a power of propulsion is needed. The driving force is produced by periodic stimulation. Stimulation is necessary for development.

The blessed families, especially the elder blessed families centering upon the 36 Couples, seem to ask Father for help with their children's schooling. I doubt there's anything wrong with them, and of course there are many reasons for what they ask. But when parents get deeply involved with their children's schooling, they will encounter obstacles in going the way of God's will. Parents are supposed to give a general direction to the children and then let them solve the detailed problems by themselves. Father was a self supporting student. Tigers let their cubs experience severe trials and harsh discipline in order to rear them to be the kings of the mountain by developing their wild nature. Iron gets stronger by heating. This is an important lesson in educating children.

To live is to compete. We cannot develop without competition. The lack of competition makes us miserable. In order to win in a competition, we need capability. To be competent, we need a preparatory period to establish a foundation. Jesus came after the preparation period of the Old Testament era. The returning Lord comes after the preparation period of the New Testament era.

To prepare is to study as a student. Especially adolescents should prepare, while carrying big dreams. You are the ones who will be responsible for the Unification Church, so you need to be prepared most of all. By preparing ideologically, you can conquer the mental world. Then you are to act utilizing your prepared capabilities. In other words, you should win the victory in the competition. It is the Principle that the weak ones are absorbed by the strong ones. Day and night you should never cease your endeavors to actualize your ideal with confidence. The purpose of this workshop is for preparation.

Between 1974 and 1976, while Father faced the most severe opposition in the United States, I established the theological seminary and prepared for the unity of American churches by rallying theologians. That's why the religious coalition is possible now. Father prepared extensively in the fields of economy, culture and media as well. Among these, economic independence is the most important preparation. A leader should have the power of persuasion as well. Father has gone the way of preparation throughout his whole lifetime. From age 27, my life was one of struggle for the providence, and from age 40, I have been actualizing the ideal of the providence.

Thus far Father hasn't allowed the second generation to enter graduate school because they had to love God, the nation and their tribes and families first.

Love is the criterion by which our international activities are measured with respect to God's will. Corinthians Chapter 13 also says that among faith, hope and love, love is the greatest.

Where do you think you can utilize the knowledge that you've gained? How much can you utilize for the providence the knowledge that you've gained through the study of law and economics at a university? They are not really useful for going through God's will. When Japan lost their national strength and economic power through the Second World War, what happened? Their knowledge of economics was not useful at all when the nation was devastated.

There's something that we need in order to proceed in the providence. Those who study theology, squeezing heir heads there is a problem in your way of thinking. Your way of thinking is extremely wrong. Do you think Father will follow the economic theories that you've learned in the school? Or do you think I will refer to the politics that you've studied? Father doesn't . even want to smell such things.

Entering graduate school is presently forbidden. You are not to go to graduate school unless Father's children do so. It is not because Father's children cannot go there, but it is a heavenly law.

When a bud sprouts, the branches and the leaves are to come out. When a bud stretches high, the tree can grow normally. If a tree has more side branches than buds, it becomes a useless shrub. That is natural law.

You should be the sons and daughters who can inherit the tradition first. After Father's children enter the university or graduate school, you may follow them. You have to encourage Hyo Jin Nim to study quickly. Now Hyo Jin cannot straighten out his trembling mind because the Unification Church and its members didn't fulfill their responsibility.

Your parents have been tied down to your education, praying for only your well-being. What about Father? Have I been bound to the education of my own children? Father has been investing all of his power in you, in humankind and in God. So there has been no time for me to be concerned with their education. But your parents after Blessing concentrated on your family and your education; they have committed a terrible sin in front of Father and God. That's why you are collectively responsible for it.

You must have a special concern for other true brothers and true sisters as well, and you must be cooperative with them. That is the way of principle.

All religions, especially Buddhism and Catholicism, until now have exalted the commandment not to marry. It is not that they don't desire marriage. The providential revelation not to get married was sent. Likewise, it is not that Father doesn't want to send you to school; the providence of this age is not yet for you to go to school.

When Father mentions father and son, as in "father-son relationship" he means the original father and the original son (daughter). Without the original father and the original son, the nation cannot be established. Humankind seeks a peaceful world. Such a world cannot be established through the culture for which the present advanced nations are striving. It is to be established through the True Parents. Even though the True Parents clothe themselves in dirty rags or emerge completely exhausted from a bottomless hollow, human beings are to learn God's heart centering upon them.

The second generation of the blessed families should inherit the proper education and the heartistic tradition to qualify as heavenly subjects. Therefore, Father is preparing the educational system for the second generation. You should establish schools and curricula for all ages from kindergarten to university. The second generation of foreign countries also should come to Korea to receive the same education.

Centering upon the second generation, a new chapter of Unification culture will open. It is to be structured according to the heartistic tradition of the True Parents in form and content, and it also includes education for acquiring knowledge and technique. Without your realizing, the way of worldwide restoration through indemnity has opened, and all the necessary standards are established.

You should discover the root of true love. The family which can make the bud of that root sprout on earth is the family which will control the world. When love blossoms from that family, the culture of the human ancestors will emerge. The language that family uses will be the international language. The other languages used now will be useless.

As long as you are to be a child, you might as well be born of one parent in a loving society and learn your parent's language. Then you are to go through the nation to the new world. From there the culture centering upon love will develop. It will be the universal culture, and the other cultures will go through that culture. That culture will represent the world.

6. Love Is Not Learned By Education

Do parents have to go to school in order to learn how to love their children? People know love without learning it. Man and woman didn't learn how to make a baby. People don't study how the meeting of two strangers turns into the creation of a husband and a wife, much less how to create a family out of such a bond. Love is not taught nor is to be learned through school. It is not a subject for the experimental method in order to prove how it works. There have been no schools to teach love and there will be no schools to teach it in the future.

If you cannot give birth to children, you will never understand parental love. Even though you study parental love for thousands of years, you cannot understand it. But right after the birth of a child, you will know it instantly.

The human baby looks for its mother's milk and the animal baby also looks for its mother's milk. It is a natural behavior, because the power of love works there. It doesn't have to do with education or discipline.

True love is not to be inculcated by education, but is to be established naturally, because it is the heavenly law. It is a tragic result of the fall that we cannot see sincere love in human society nowadays, and we are relegated to learn true love through education and discipline.

Parental love doesn't measure how pretty or ugly the child is, and a child's respect and love toward its parents doesn't depend upon the parents' external appearance. Is there any son who denies his mother because she looks ugly? There are no parents who reject their children because they look ugly. If there are such parents and children, they are beasts born human by mistake, not human beings.

What kind of person was Jesus? From where did his reasoning come? He didn't say, "Behave well and you'll to go to the Kingdom of Heaven." Rather, he said, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." Jesus didn't tell us to learn but to follow. Christians come to resemble Jesus by following him.

Did you have to learn that you must have love in your family? Does a father teach children the way of love? Does a mother push children to desire love? From whom did the parents learn to love children? From whom do a bride and a bridegroom learn how to love? It is mysterious that we do certain things well without learning.

You all know the existence of air, don't you? Every day you breathe air in and out, but you seldom think about it. Everybody receives the sunlight, but have you greeted the sun with the grateful heart? Have you learned how to do that?

What about drinking water? Were you taught to drink water? Nobody learned it. We didn't "learn" the most precious things.

Let's think about the precious sunlight. If the sun doesn't show up for two days, what will happen on earth? If the air goes on strike for fifteen minutes, what will happen on earth? Then we will accomplish world unity so easily. We wouldn't need the title of the Unification Church. It would be very simple to accomplish world unity in ten minutes.

Did you learn to breathe air or drink water? We are to know the way automatically. All the precious things in the world are like that. If God exists, He will be much more precious than those. How can human beings know Him? Originally, we get to know Him without learning.

7. The Path Of Life Centering Upon Love

Which is first, life or love? Love precedes life. Without the flow of love, existence has no value.

Who am l? What is the origin of "I"? "I" originated from parents. Why am I precious? Because I participated in my parents' love. And there I participated in the universe.

We should know why we were born. We were not born out of knowledge or authority. Because of love we were born and we were born of love.

Then why is love so great? Because it is the origin of life. You were born in the midst of parents' love. You were not born out of counting money or out of singing songs of knowledge. Our life was initiated by love, so we have to conclude it with love. That's why we need children. When a husband and a wife in oneness have the object called "children," they are perfect.

Human beings cannot exist without love. The existence called "I" lives on the foundation of love.

The origin of all things also is God's love. Because the existence of all things started on the foundation of love, it is undeniable that the existence of the center of the created world -- the human being -- started from love.

Since human beings start their life from love and become mature by love, they cannot survive without love.

When we think about the origin of life, we soon encounter the ques- tion, "Is life first or love first?" So far we haven't distinguished the answer clearly. Love precedes life. Because the next-born should adjust to the firstborn, it is natural to sacrifice life for love. This concept should be settled definitively. Then the answer to the question of how to lead a true life follows automatically. Since life originates from love, we can conclude that life should live and die for love. First, we are to look for the love that the macro-cosmos welcomes. Second, we are to be born out of "the love of the macro- cosmos" which can be acknowledged by God, the angelic world, all things and our parents. Third, we are to live and die in the midst of "the love of the macro-cosmos." That is the purpose of life.

Human beings are not born out of their own will or hope. Then, are we born of the hope of our parents? No, we aren't. We are born of God's hope. In other words, we were born of parental love, which is the substitute for God. "I" was born as a new life form out of parental love representing God. It is "I" who was born as the central existence of the whole universe receiving all the universal love.

The utmost purpose of life is to be born of love, to be raised up by love, to live by love, and to leave love to the next generations. The most valuable job is to fulfill the order (command of love -- the center of the universe.

In maintaining life, human beings who live for themselves cannot protect the "domain of the objects." God created the creature for the sake of His objects. The happiest way of life is to give love which endows equal value and equal ownership to the objects (or subjects). The path of life is to find the way to inherit the universe, which God desires to bequeath.

Every existence definitely moves. This is a fundamental law of existence. This law of movement applies not only to living things but also to non-living things. The nature of the movement is orderly and principled. This is because the order and the principle cannot exist without a certain predetermined purpose. Therefore, every existence moves by order and principle centering on a very certain purpose.

To live and to act is not something meaningless. It has a clear purpose. The purpose is to realize the world of love. Human beings exist to actualize love with the purpose to accomplish love. Since the purpose of human life is the actualization of true love, human value is also determined by true love. Isn't it wonderful?

What is the origin of human existence? It is love. Then what is the purpose of it? It is to complete the ideal of love. Because human existence originates from love, the purpose of it is to establish the foundation of love and to extend it, and finally to complete it. In order to do that, a man and a woman in relative positions should be one centering upon love and should be able to relate their oneness to "front and rear," "left and right," and "up and down."

Even though we conform to the absolute existence and establish the absolute purpose, everything is useless if there is no joy. Living should be joyful. We make a living for a purpose. When we accomplish the purpose, there must be something new beyond the existence itself.

What is it? What is the most precious thing for a man and a woman? It is love. When you accomplish a purpose, there comes happiness and new development. Love is the only component of that happiness which can be related to the new development. No matter how well you accomplish the purpose, if the process is not under the dominion of love, you will be dissatisfied and seek after some other purpose. The limitations imposed by purpose cannot overrule love.

For what do you live? To eat, to work, or for nothing? Human beings live to love. How beautiful an answer it is! Originally, human life is to be born as the fruit of love, to live in love, and to return to the eternal love of God.

A life lived for love is a productive, fruitful life, and a life lacking love, or not knowing love, is a consumptive, destructive life. The original attitude of life for God, man and the universe is to live for love.

Life comes from love. Human life is to be born of love, to receive love from parents, to meet a spouse in love, and to die in love. Therefore, sadness or suffering originally were not supposed to be a part of life.

Human beings shouldn't forget that when they were embryos in the mother's womb, they not only received physical nutrients but also love. Likewise, human beings in this physical world are not only supplied with materialistic nutrients, but also with the essential factor of life -- the love of God.

The fundamental place in the universe is the place where parental love, conjugal love and children's love are united. This is the place where the whole universe concentrates and toward which all the cells of the universe are directed. All the gods of the spirit world also concentrate on this place and they are to protect this place so that it not be invaded by anybody. Therefore, to be protected, you need the form called "the four position foundation."

All plants absorb sunlight as a positive element; likewise, love is the positive element for human beings. Our hope is to establish the Kingdom of Heaven on earth and the Kingdom of Heaven in the spirit world, where human beings can live together with love eternally.

Human beings are born of love and grow by receiving love in the growth period. When they grow to a certain level, parental love is not enough to sustain continued growth. So they start extending horizontal love centering upon fraternal love and tribal love. That is to say, human beings are to grow receiving all the different types of love in the universe. Especially in adolescence they pursue the love of the other sex, and by loving the other the center of love.

A man and a woman exist for love. My way is the way of love. We live to gain love, to keep love and to establish the loving environment. Women apply makeup and massage their faces because of love. Wanting something or working is for love. We endure suffering in order to gain precious love.

From the time of birth, we receive parental love, and as long as we survive we continuously love regardless of whether we are in childhood, youth or adulthood. After growing up, horizontal, conjugal love takes place for everybody.

What is marriage? It is entering a school where men learn what they don't know about women and women learn what they don't know about men. When the grade is "A+", a husband and wife are happy. In order to learn to love the world, we give birth to children. Without children, we cannot be connected to the future. Children are given as the educational resource for us to be related to the future. To be dutiful to one's ancestors is to receive an education from the spirit world.

All of these are connected centering upon love. Grandparents, a husband and wife, and children are all related centering upon one love. Like the blood vessels of the human body, we can go up to the ancestors through thousands of generations and go down to our distant descendants through love. Everything is conquered by this. The utmost happiness is to become the slave of love and the servant of love.

Who has the greatest authority in this world? The conclusion is drawn that the person who has gone through the way of servant more than anybody else is the one with the greatest authority. This is God's philosophy, Reverend Moon's philosophy and our members' philosophy.

I have much experience of spirit world; it is the place covered with the ingredients of love. The earth is covered with air but love is the atmosphere of the spirit world. We breathe in air and breathe out carbon dioxide on earth, but we are to live by breathing love in the spirit world. We are not to give and take centering upon secular human love in the spirit world. We only give and take true love there.

Why do you get married? In order to experience parental love, conjugal love and children's love. Then why do we need those? The spirit world is surrounded by the air of such love. We have to form a family in order to gain the discipline to keep the beat with the spirit world.

If you go to spirit world lacking the feeling of true love, you will not be able to keep the beat. You will be like someone who doesn't have a nose to smell the air of love.

How can we express God's love? It is like a warm spring when the white clouds are floating up in the sky, the air is shimmering, bugs and ants crawl from place to place, a willow bud beside the brook starts sprouting, frogs sing a song of spring, and everywhere bees and butterflies are flying. We can eternally feel joy by being intoxicated in such an environment. The feeling that we perceive from our ideal spouse is like a flower garden where butterflies and bees are flying all about. Don't you feel good just imagining it?

When meeting a welcomed person, we shake hands. When you shake hands with your friend, saying, "Nice to see you again," don't you feel good? When you are really welcoming a friend, you squeeze the friend's hands strongly, right? If you shake hands in deep love, you never want to release them.

Sisters! Do you feel good or bad when your husband loves you? When you are loved, there is nothing for you to feel jealous about. Sisters feel good when their husband squeezes their hands, even if his hand is as ugly as the front foot of a cow. While watching a movie, they want to pick up such a hand.

Love is eternal. Love is one, not two. In love, a man and a woman completely stick to each other. That is God's love. Can we be one with such love? Think about it. We all are to become one.

God's dwelling place is filled with love. Once we start giving, we want to give more and more, and once we receive, we want to return thousands of times more. Is such a place the Kingdom of Heaven or hell? (The Kingdom of Heaven.) Due to the everlasting cycle of giving and receiving, we come to feel an explosive stimulation. We feel so stimulated that it seems like all our cells are about to burst. God's love is like that.

Once you experience such love, you never want anything else. Opium is nothing in comparison with such love. Liquor cannot compete with love. People get intoxicated by drinking, but originally we are supposed to live intoxicated by love.

If you know that point clearly, you will not feel it difficult to carry any cross of love. It is a pride and glory to make conditions again and again for your beloved one.

All kinds of accidents happen when a man and woman are in love. But if you taste God's true love . . . nothing can be compared with it. If people taste God's love, nothing can conquer them. There should be such an absolute dominion of liberation. The only problem is how to find this out.

The people who had a deep experience of love with their parents, brothers and sisters, spouse and children can enjoy complete freedom in the spirit world. They can go wherever they want to go without any limitation. On the contrary, narrow minded people who don't have any loving experience will be isolated, with no freedom at all in the spirit world.

Love between parent and child is vertical. Love between husband and wife is horizontal. Love of brothers and sisters turns around an orbit. Therefore, when we experience these three kinds of love on earth, we will be able to move vertically, horizontally and spherically in the spirit world.

For example, people who didn't taste parental love because of their parents' early deaths will be very miserable in the spirit world, since they lack an important part of life. The same applies to those who are lacking in conjugal love, children's love or the fraternal love between brothers and sisters.

What sort of place is the hometown? It is the place where my heart is lifted up completely, spherically, in the four directions. What is heart? It is something by which to tie things up with love. The original home is the place where we are bound to parents, bound left and right in the bond of husband and wife, and bound downward to children and relatives. It is the place where every existence is tied to every other in spherical love. Because human beings consider happiness centering upon love the cardinal point and the most precious thing, they inevitably miss their hometown.

Why does a human being have an eternal life? Why does everyone seek for eternal life? Because God is an absolute and eternal subject, we have to be absolute and eternal in order to be His objects. When we stand in such a position, "up" is "down" and God is us. When we become one with God in love, He can even enter our pocket.

Human beings stay in the maternal womb for a certain period of time, then they live on earth, and finally they come to face death. Therefore, when getting older, we develop the fear of death. That's because we don't have faith in life after death.

Human beings stay in the mother's womb for ten months. Little fetuses have a life of limitation. All they can do in the mother's womb is stretch the fingers in and out, open and close the mouth, or kick a little bit while receiving nutrients through the umbilical cord. They probably think that they are in the free world. After nine months, they move into this physical world -- the human society. From here we imagine we had such a restrained life in the womb, even though we don't remember it clearly.

Human beings on earth live within the womb of the universe for around 100 years. As the fetuses don't know the world outside the mother's womb, people living in the physical world are ignorant of the world after death. They just have a vague impression about it. But the existence of the world after death is definitely evident. It exists just beyond our five physical senses. So, we have to overcome ignorance and doubt through our faith in religion.

The mind of people regardless of time period (past, present or future) longs for same thing: the human mind always seeks for the happy world of the mind. It seeks after the ideal spouse of the mind, the ideal family of the mind and the ideal world of the mind.

You were born from your parents. The more fundamental fact is that you were born from God. He just borrowed your mother's womb. You are to look for true parents through the "universal parents" and the physical parents. Your physical parents are temporary parents. Therefore, the moment of death is a joyful time to meet your true parents. The true love of the true parents dwells in the spirit world. That's called the Kingdom of Heaven in the spirit world.

That place is composed of love and is filled with parental love. Love has the principle of service and sacrifice. In order to pass there, you have to love the universe and humankind. Physical life is the place to discipline yourself to practice such love. Now you know the essence of the universe, so you must draw the conclusion that you will surely return to God when you go to the spirit world after passing the test of love on earth.

Even all things will bless the people who lead a life of love. Flowers want to blossom in their yards and birds want to sing songs in their garden. That's because such people know the value of all things and truly love them as well.

In the spirit world, you are to be paid back according to what you did on earth. The door to the Kingdom of Heaven will be open to you because of the Blessing that you received from Father. But to proceed, the spirit world must pull you through the orbit of heart. So you cannot proceed unless your heart is in harmony with the spirit world. At the time of entering the spirit world, you will have to traverse hills of judgment.

Why do we live? Do you live in order to be a president of a certain company, or to eat and sleep? If you live in order to survive, where will you go after it is all over? Where do you go after eating? Do you go to school or to your company? Where do you go? We are to go looking in response to the antennae of love. What is American-style love? According to a recent California survey, 90% of people there have an experience with divorce. What kind of love is that?

Why is jewelry valuable? Gold or diamonds are valuable because they are unchanging. What is the most precious thing in the world? It is true love, not jewelry.

True love is unchanging. Is there any objection? American young people need parents in order to find unchanging love.

Even after breaking up with a spouse, parental love never changes. The mother's true love is to sacrifice for the children even after her husband's death. By doing so, her true love toward her husband remains. When the mother abandons her children after her husbands' death and lives for her self, her love toward both husband and children disappears. Even though her husband dies, a mother who lives for the sake of her children can find the love of the whole. Such a mother keeps true parental love, the true wifely love, and the true love of children. Through the couple's children, the husband's love can be inherited. The son of such a mother will want to live for his mother several times more than before, in order to fill the gap created by his father's absence. There exists the deep vertical love much more precious than conjugal love. The same applies in the case of a wife's death.

This fundamental order, which is eternally harmonious, exists in the midst of unchanging love.

A husband and wife in true love don't boast about themselves to each other; instead, they praise each other's good points. Such a couple truly leads a life of love. All kinds of sounds will be heard in the place of such love, even the sound of electricity in an electrical cord. How noisy will be the thunder of love? People who have been sleeping for 1,000 years will wake up right away. They will not be surprised by the sound; instead they will dance in joy as soon as they wake up. They will dance automatically with. out anybody's request or command.

Concluding in one word, everything exists for true love. This is the most logical, universal and ideal conclusion. Myriads of men and women exist for true love. Sisters should think the following: "Women like me in past history have never received true love, so my mission is to restore it. I look like this in order to meet one man who can restore through indemnity the past history. If I become successful in fulfilling my mission, I'll be the greatest woman in the history of restoration and the most precious woman for a man."